Putting Together Your Puzzle
Creating Work/Life Balance
ObjectivesON THE JOBIN MY PERSONAL LIFEWhat gives you job satisfaction?How do I feelPhysically?Emotionally?What makes me happy?How do I feelPhysically?Emotionally?
What is your dream list?
Goal SettingSpecific PERSONAL AND WORKMeasurableAchievableRealisticTime lineShort: 0 -1 yearMedium: 1-3 yearsLong: 3 years +
Will PowerWill power is active only in 1/6th of your brain.5/6th of your brain power is at the subconscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.So, learn to control the subconscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!
Avoid ProcrastinationA 50% average in making good decisions is a good record.Many people are not good problem solvers, but they are good decision makers.Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!
Happiness at work and at homeIntentAccountabilityGrass is greenerDo what you like and do it more
TragediesMoving on and upwardExample: lottery winners one year later--many say they are less happy
HappinessNever give upDont dwell on the pastEmbrace changeEmbrace fearWhat are you afraid of?What would help you cope better?
OptionsCreativity think outside the boxAppreciationMindful livingGivingEthics/honestyCharacter who you are when no one is looking
HealthSleep8.3 hours7 nights a weekREM sleep
Eating5 fruits & veggies20 minutes after eatingWeigh yourself at least once a weekDRINK WATER
FinancesGoal settingNickel and dime spendingRetirement planningStart nowMeat vs. gravy
Debt managementFamily valuesInheriting spending habits
Prioritizing Your Life & WorkWrite your eulogy / RETIREMENT SPEECHRe-evaluate your choicesExamine other peoples prioritiesRole-model your prioritiesWear them openlyShout them from a rooftop
Stress Management20 minutes every dayFight or flight responsesRelax your body 6 -3 -6 exerciseBaths/walkPet/plant therapyDEEP BREATHSLaughter therapyCryTouchCrossword puzzlesLearn a new language/musical instrument
Relieving Stress at work and homeStay ahead of your work.Do the hard tasks first.Do the difficult tasks in phases.Getting enough sleep is a must.
Have planned recreation and hobbies.Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations.Face up to the fact you really cant do all the things you scheduled.
CommunicationStart with I3 minute ruleFamily meetingsNeeds vs. wantsMen are from Venus ..Self-talkAt workBe flexibleDevelop a networkBe GenuineBecome a good listener
AssertivenessAsk for what you want9 times!Practice makes perfectPassive vs. aggressivePersonal vs. business
QuotesTake your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.
Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.
Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.
Erica JongHelen KellerRalph Waldo Emerson
QuotesMotivation is when your dreams put on work clothes.
One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.
Ben FranklinMalcolm S. Forbes
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To Create Work / Life Balance
Manage audience expectations by telling them that the information provided can and should be applied to our work and personal lives.
My commentary about the changes I propose:I am approaching this program from this perspective :we need to ensure that ,not only should our work lives and personal lives be in balance individually but, they should also not be in conflict with one another. I toyed with the words peace and harmony in the title but thought that might be too touchy feely for some. But that is my starting point for making this relevant to work/life balance.
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Frame in the context of work and lifeStrategies presented are effective for work and life - have participants discuss if any of theses conflict with each other.
*Credit steven covey with smart goals this is his work and he has written so many books on this topic. Also, written goals are more achievable than just thought about goals. Do your work and personal goals mesh? Are you devoting equal time to toward your career and your family plan.
Is it possible to successfully reach goals in both areas without conflict?
EXAMPLETaking on new clients at work (requires extra hours)Conflicts withWanting to coach your daughters soccer team (requires arriving for practices twice a week by 4pm)*You can think of will power a the sail and rudder on a boat. One option is to drift through life just letting the tide and wind take you where it will.If you exert some control over the direction and goals in your life both at work and at home, you will be more likely to achieve your goals and dreams.*This can be a whole other seminar have the group discuss how procrastination impacts your work and personal life. What happens when you live or work with a procrastinator?*Does what makes you happy at work conflict with what makes you happy at home?How can you achieve a win-win situation. When does happiness at work impact happiness at home and vice versa.
When one door closes, another one opens (well know clich)But we sometimes look toward the closed door for so long that we miss the one that is open!
Tragedies can be opportunities for growth
**If you dont take care of your body where are you going to live?
**The crux of work/life balance really exists in your ability to take the 168 hours a week you have and make priorities between work and life.If you priorities are one-sided, the one part of your life will suffer.*Discuss how deep breaths change the fight or flight signals to were safe signals.Have the group suggest other stress management skills that work for them ******