Bullying Prevention and Conflict Resolution

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Outcomes: 1. Secure an understanding of where participants are with understanding bullying 2. Share research and data related to bullying 3. Share information related to implementing mediation with students who bully or are bullied 4. Share six steps to handle conflict resolution 5. Share the voice of a former bullied student

Bullying Prevention and Conflict Resolution

Presenters: *Alice Cryer-Sumler, Ph. D., LPC St. Charles Parish Public Schools Curriculum & Instruction Specialist – Dropout Prevention *Mrs. Mary Lou Sumrall M.Ed. St. Charles Parish Public Schools Director of Special Programs

What are you doing about Bullying in your school as the school counselor?

What is your school as a whole doing about Bullying?

How Much Do YOU Know About Bullying?

Relevant Data from Luxenberg, Limber, & Olweus (2014)

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1. True or False

• Studies suggest that fewer than 10% of children are involved in bullying problems in elementary, middle, or high school.

False

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Percentage of Students Bullied 2-3 times/month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

3%

13%

2%

82% Students in Grades 3-12

Bullied others Were bullied Bullied others and were bullied Not involved

• 18% of students were directly involved in bullying: – 15% had been bullied – 5% had bullied others

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• Students are more likely to be bullied in high school than in elementary or middle school.

False

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2. True or False

Girls’ and Boys’ Experiences with Being Bullied

24% 23%

19% 18%

16% 16%

11% 11% 10% 9%

21% 19%

17% 17% 15%

13% 11%

10% 9% 8%

0%

5%

10%

15%

20%

25%

30%

3rd 4th 5th 6th 7th 8th 9th 10th 11th 12th

Girls Boys

Grade level

2-3 times/month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

5% 5% 4%

5% 5% 6%

5% 4% 4% 4%

7% 6% 6% 6% 6%

7% 7% 8% 8%

11%

0%

5%

10%

15%

20%

3rd 4th 5th 6th 7th 8th 9th 10th 11th 12th

Girls Boys

Grade level

2-3 times/month or more Girls’ and Boys’ Experiences with Bullying Others

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

• Most bullying is physical in nature.

False

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3. True or False

How Are Students Bullied?

16%

15%

13%

8%

7%

5%

5%

6%

4%

8%

16%

11%

11%

7%

8%

8%

6%

4%

5%

7%

0% 10% 20%

Verbal

Rumors

Exclusion

Sexual

Racial

Physical

Threat

Cyber

Damage

Another way

Girls Boys

2–3 times/ month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

• Girls are more likely than boys to bully others.

False

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4. True or False

Girls’ and Boys’ Involvement in Bullying 2-3 times/month or more

Bullied others Bullied by others Bullied others and was bullied Not involved

3% 14%

2%

81%

Girls

4% 11%

3%

82%

Boys

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

How Are Students Bullied?

16%

15%

13%

8%

7%

5%

5%

6%

4%

8%

16%

11%

11%

7%

8%

8%

6%

4%

5%

7%

0% 10% 20%

Verbal

Rumors

Exclusion

Sexual

Racial

Physical

Threat

Cyber

Damage

Another way

Girls Boys

2–3 times/ month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

By Whom Are Girls and Boys Bullied?

• Boys are most often bullied by boys – 50% bullied by boys only – 40% by boys and girls – 10% by girls only

• Girls are bullied by girls and boys – 48% by boys and girls – 32% by girls only – 20% by boys only

32%

20%

48%

10%

50%

40%

0%

20%

40%

60%

By girls only By boys only By both boys and girls

Girls Boys

2-3 times/ month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

• In recent years, cyberbullying has become one of the most common forms of bullying among students.

False

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5. True or False

How Are Students Bullied?

16%

15%

13%

8%

7%

5%

5%

6%

4%

8%

16%

11%

11%

7%

8%

8%

6%

4%

5%

7%

0% 10% 20%

Verbal

Rumors

Exclusion

Sexual

Racial

Physical

Threat

Cyber

Damage

Another way

Girls Boys

2–3 times/ month or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

• The vast majority of students who are bullied tell a teacher or other member of the school staff.

False

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6. True or False

Reporting of Victimization

• Many children do not report bullying to school staff.

• Older students and boys are less likely than younger students and girls to report their victimization.

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Do Students Report Being Bullied? To Whom? 2–3 times/ month or more

60%

58%

43%

17%

47%

53%

39%

22%

0% 25% 50% 75%

Sibling or friend

Parent or guardian

Teacher or other adult at school

Have not told anyone

3-5th Grade 6-8th Grade 9-12th Grade

0% 25% 50% 75%

59%

44%

48% 39%

31%

32%

23%

29%

0% 25% 50% 75%

Girls Boys

53%

34%

41%

24%

29% 23%

27%

43%

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

• Bullying is just as likely on the way to and from school as during school hours.

False

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7. True or False

Where Are Students Bullied?

30%

31%

31%

27%

26%

17%

15%

10%

12%

6%

27%

32%

30%

27%

25%

26%

18%

18%

13%

12%

7%

26%

0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50%

On playground/athletic field (during recess or breaks)

In the lunchroom

In hallways/stairwells

In class - teacher in room

In class - teacher not in room

On the school bus

In gym class or locker room/shower

In the bathroom

On the way to and from school

At the school bus stop

Somewhere else at school

Girls Boys

1–2 times or more*

*Students could select more than one location.

Bully

ing

Loca

tion

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

In How Many Locations Are Students Bullied?

• Almost 2/3 have been bullied in more than one place.

• Nearly 1/2 have been bullied in three or more places.

1–2 times or more

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

35%

20%

45%

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

1 2 3+

• Most students who observe bullying don’t think they should get involved.

False

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8. True or False

Empathy For Bullied Students

• Vast majority feel sorry for the bullied students

• More girls than boys feel sorry for the bullied students

• More younger than older students feel sorry for the bullied students

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

4%

9%

13%

7%

14%

22%

0%

10%

20%

30%

3rd - 5th 6th - 8th 9th - 12th

Girls Boys

3%

7% 7% 5%

13%

15%

0%

10%

20%

30%

3rd - 5th 6th - 8th 9th - 12th Grade level

Watching…and Joining In Bullying

Onlookers: “just watch” Followers: Could join in

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Grade level

(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

Taking Action To Stop Bullying

• Decreases in helping with age – Biggest changes between

elementary and middle school

• Girls are somewhat more likely to say they will help

Students who try to help a bullied student

74%

53% 47%

69%

49%

40%

0%

20%

40%

60%

80%

100%

3rd - 5th 6th - 8th 9th - 12th

Girls

Boys

Grade level

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(Luxenberg et al., 2014)

Use of this presentation is restricted to persons trained by the authors in the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program and groups they work with

for the express purpose of training schools, parents and community groups about the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program model.

Appropriate credit to the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program, U.S., must appear on all presentation materials. No other use or changes are

permitted without prior written permission from the authors.

For further information, please contact: Marlene Snyder, PhD at nobully@clemson.edu

or call 864-710-4562

© 2014 Susan Limber, PhD; Jane Riese, LSW; Marlene Snyder, PhD; Vicki Flerx, PhD; and Nancy Mullin, MEd

This presentation is based on the work of Dan Olweus, PhD.

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Stop BULLYING Now: Take a Stand. Lend a hand.

Misdirection in Bullying Prevention and Intervention (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services)

Zero Tolerance Policies Conflict Resolution and Peer Mediation Group Treatment for Children who Bully Simple Short-Term Solutions

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Six Steps for Resolving Conflicts Naomi Drew, M.A. author of Hope and Healing

1. Cool Off 2. Tell what’s bothering you using “I

messages”. 3. Each person restates what they heard

the other person say. 4. Take responsibility. 5. Brainstorm solutions and come up with

one that satisfies both people. 6. Affirm, forgive, or thank.

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What Bullying Victims Don’t Need from Teachers: Silence

Painful Memories Silence Hurts Hurt People Hurt

People

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Where do we go from here?

1. To support students who are bullied

2. To support students who are bullying

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Any Questions?

How to contact us: Mrs. Mary Lou Sumrall: msumrall@stcharles.k12.la.us or 985-785-3144 Dr. Alice Cryer-Sumler: acryersumler@stcharles.k12.la.us or 985-785-7214

Thank you for joining us today. We appreciate your input and support!