Grammar Magic

One great way to get somebody to accept your ideas is to put them in imagination land.

Now, this doesn't mean slipping them some peyote and taking them out to the desert for one of those vision quests.

Just get them thinking in terms of "what if..."

One of the biggest fears of making any suggestion is getting rejected.

Since most of us are absolutely terrified of rejection on a very deep level, we're a bit on the shy side when asking for things.

Even if it's something simple like asking for somebody to pass the salt, most normal people need to muster up a tiny bit of courage when eating with important

strangers (your girlfriend or boyfriend's parents, your boss's family, etc.)

That's why it's automatic in certain situations to put even suggestions like this into "imagination land."

We don't say, "pass the salt, please," because that just sounds rude.

We say much more "polite" things like, "Would you pass the salt?"

Without going too far down the grammar rabbit hole, the use of the word "would" indicates what's called the "second conditional."

The first conditional (if-then statements) are used when something is likely to happen.

If it rains, I'll get wet.

If I eat pizza, I'll get sleepy.

But second conditionals use the word "would" or "could," and are only used when something is ONLY in imagination land.

If I saw a UFO, I WOULD take a picture. (but it's not going to happen, just pretending...)

If I grew to 3 meters tall, I COULD play for the NBA (but it's not going to happen, just pretending...)

The reason we use "would" in polite sentences is so we don't put anybody on the spot (nobody likes taking orders) AND there's no fear of rejection,

since we're only talking hypothetically (imagine-land speak).

Luckily, when we shift our listeners and readers into imagine-land, the normal objections vanish.

They get to imagine what it would be like to get something, without all the fears that go along with it.

For example, savvy salespeople know that the best way to get a customer salivating over any product is to simply imagine they already have it, in

the future, and that they are enjoying it.

Then the salesperson gets the client to describe that "perfect" scenario.

This, of course, increases their "buying temperature" significantly.

Guys who are good at picking up girls also do this (and girls can use this as well).

Just get your "target" to imagine (and describe) the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend, or the perfect relationship.

Then they'll start to see YOU through that "imaginary" lens that is between you.

There are plenty of ways to do this, and plenty of opportunities.

What would you do if you could learn all these patterns, and get all those things that you wanted?

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