1. Memahami Psikologi Remaja Masa Kini

2. Takruf Nama Dari Mana? Study apa dan di mana? Keja apa dan di mana? Satu sebab nak jadi fascilitator MHI? 3. Interactive I 2 tugas utaman facilitator MHI? 2 objektif utama MHI? 2 cabaran utama sebagai facilitator MHI? 4. Interactive II What is adolescence? Apa itu REMAJA? Siapa itu REMAJA? 5. DEFINISI REMAJA 6. Western DefinitionBayi Kanak-Kanak Remaja Dewasa 0 1 year 2 10/11 years Puberty, 10/11 early 20s 7. Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984, s. 84(1)(2) The right of hadinah(custody) to the custody of the child terminates upon the child attaining the age of seven, in the case of a male, and the age of nine years in the case of female, but the Court may upon the application of hadinah, allows her to retain the custody of the child until the attainment of the age of nine years, in the case of a male, and the age of eleven years in the case of a female. After termination of the right of hadinah, the custody devolves upon the father, and if the child has reached the age of discernment (mumayyiz), he or she shall have a choice of living with either of the parents, unless the Court otherwise orders. 8. Definisi Islam Within the Islamic education system, there are principally three fundamental stages in the manner in which education should be imparted to children. Between birth until six a child must be showered with utmost care and affection so much so that by the time he reaches the age of seven, he is convinced and secured of his parents love and affection. Between the ages of seven till ten, discipline must be introduced for this is the period when he reaches the age of discretion/discerning (mumaiyyiz) during which he should be encouraged to perform the basic rites of Islam namely performance of prayers and fasting during the Ramadhan. When he reaches ten disciplinary measures ought to be imposed upon non-compliance. 9. Definisi Islam Diangkatkan pembebanan hukum dari tiga (jenis orang): orang tidur sampai dia bangun, anak kecil sampai dia baligh, dan orang gila sampai ia sembuh. (Bukhari, Abu Daud, al- Tirmidzi, al-Nasai, Ibnu Majah dan al-Daruquthni dari Aisyah dan Ali bin Abi Thalib). 10. Definisi Islam Lahir 6 tahun Menatang minyak yang penuh Curahkan segala kasih sayang 6 tahun Mumayyiz Mula ajar asas-asas agama dan ibadah wajib Mereka sebagai murid 10 tahun ke atas akil baligh Mula perkasakan disiplin Mereka sebagai kawan dengan batas yang sesuai 11. Interactive III Based on your observations, what describes remaja? What are the keywords that describe/symbolize/explain remaja? 12. Psikologi Remaja 13. 1: Ingin tahu, ingin rasa, ingin cuba (Curiosity) 14. Generasi Y 15. Anti- tradition? Question everything Rebellious Think and act outside the box New things are always good! 16. Teknik Interaksi Layani dan santuni semua pertanyaan Jangan terlalu skema atau judgemental Gunakan experiential learning Role-play, doing things, critical thinking, rhetorical questions Jom kita alami di minda, sebelum rasa- rasa dan buat-buat Selitkan pandangan Quran dan Sunnah 17:32; 23:3; 3:90-91 17. 2: Kecelaruan Identiti 18. Identity Search 19. Identity Search Traditional agents of identity development: Family Religion/Nilai Community Friends School Modern agents: Technology (all kinds of gadgets) Schools Friends Now & Then Then emphasis on being the same Now emphasis on being unique, different, one of a kind 20. Penceraian di Malaysia 2000 2010 peningkatan 105% 2012 20% 1 penceraian bagi setiap 5 perkahwinan Lebih 80% kes penceraian melibatkan pasangan Muslim 1 penceraian dalam 15 minit 21. Teknik Interaksi Kitalah ibu, kitalah ayah Terimalah mereka seadanya, dengarkan cerita mereka, peluk dan ciumlah perasaan mereka Kitalah kawan Fahamilah ranjau hidup mereka, selamilah lubuk hati mereka Perkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif Perkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif dari Quran dan Sunnah Perkenalkan identiti kerjaya 22. 3: Teknologi & Internet 23. Techno Savvy 24. Techno Savvy Internet, computer, Windows to other worlds Technology Shortens emotions Truncates thinking Everything is at a click of a mouse fast, fast, fast! Technology is the source of Information good and bad Making human connections FB, etc. Entertainment music, games, etc. Visual/physical stimulation Addiction 25. Data from CIA World Factbook, as of 12 Jan. 2012 China United States Japan Brazil Germany India Malaysia (26) Singapore (65) Samoa (198) Tonga (199) East Timor (207) 26. Star, 17 Nov 2012 (done by Nielsen & Social Bakers) Internet users in Malaysia view social network sites 14 billion time every month Malaysian internet users spend almost 20 hours per week online 80% Malaysian have downloaded videos, followed by 51% actively in YouTube activity 87.9% of Malaysians on the internet access Facebook 67% of YouTube videos viewed in Malaysia Singapore lead the Asian region in online usage, spending 25 hours online each week, followed by Pilipino 21.5% and 19.8% Malaysians Total 13 million of Facebook users in Malaysia 27. Penggunaan Internet di Kalangan Remaja Malaysia Chatting/Social Networking - FB Hiburan (muzik, drama, games, etc.) Maklumat Pornography - sex Kerja sekolah 28. Internet Addiction Count the number of hours online 21 hours, excluding academic-related Find the reason gaming: Lonely, looking for friends Parents not getting along stress buster Power or dominance issue Financial reward Gradually reduce the number of hours online Replace the free hours with other healthy activities, but giving similar emotional satisfaction Monitor the progress 29. Pornography Addiction 15-minute Rule Technique It begins with a thought to see online Give it 15 minutes before switching it on During the 15 minutes Sleep, talk to mom, watch tv, etc. If the thought is still there, give it another 15 minutes It teaches self control 30. Impulsivity, Invincibility , Immediate Gratification (3Is) 31. Impulsivity, Invincibility , Immediate Gratification (3Is)Deadly combo: Impulsive I do as I feel; kalau rasa seronok, buat je.. Invincible Unlimited energy Aku muda lagi, baru 15 tahun! Immediate gratification Now! Buat apa fikir2 pasal masa depan, lama lagi tu. Substance use and abuse Risk-taking behavior speeding, sex, etc. Technology oh technology! 32. Teknik Interaksi Experiential learning Bincangkan isu-isu sensitif dengan terbuka Sex, HIV/AIDS, Dadah, etc. Negative role models Kaitkan gaya hidup sekarang dengan masa depan 33. 5. Conflict & Contradictions 34. Conflict & Contradictions 35. Conflict & Contradictions On definition sandwich generation Child or adult? Physical vs. social? Confusion Technology A sense of being adult can do better than many adults can! 36. Teknik Interaksi Wahai faci, cakap mesti serupa bikin! Jangan selalu PMS! Expect ups and downs keep explaining. Regular follow-ups! Jadilah role models sebaik yang mungkin dan seorang kawan 37. Interactive IV Apa yang boleh kita belajar dari kisah Badwi yang kencing dalam Masjid Nabi (saw)? 38. Pengajaran Tegur selepas emosi dah pulih/stabil. Bila nak betulkan remaja, jangan sampai jadi perkara yang lebih besar. Islam itu agama yang mudah. Jadi, permudahkanlah urusan manusia. Islam itu agama berkasih sayang; maka kasihkanlah sesama manusia. 39. MUTABAAH Pemantauan, audit, follow-up, berterusan , mustamirrah An-Naml, 27:20-23 Abasa, 80:1-10 Akhlak Rasulullah saw selepas solat bersama sahabat Kerja rutin malaikat pagi dan petang Imam Hasan Al-Banna 1928 1949 ziarah lebih dari 3,0000 kampung 40. Tugas Mutabaah Takruf Muayasyah 41. Takruf Nama nama panggilan Pekerjaan Alamat Status perkahwinan Kecenderungan, potensi, minat Orientasi pemikiran Wawasan dan impian Keruhanian Kadar keseriusan ibadah Kesihatan 42. Takruf Kesihatan Pendidikan Keluarga Jadual hidup Empat emosi utama: Suka Sedih Marah Putus asa 43. Muayashah - Bergaul MHI: 14 Dec. 2013 4 Jan. 2014 Follow up, pemantauan 44. Bila Nak Muayashah? Sebelum dan selepas program Qiamullai Riadhah Masak Mandi Mathurat Makan Dll Selepas MHI 45. Apa Yang Nak di Mutabaahkan? Perasaan Progress Ibadah Akhlak Tidur Ceramah, facilitator, tempat tidur, makanan, ahli kumpulan, faisliti, dewan ceramah, concern, etc. 46. Kenapa Mutabaah? Ia adalah rukun ketiga kerananya hendaklah sebahagian kamu memikul beban sebahagian yang lain. Demikian itulah intipati konkrit iman dan intisari ukhuwwah. Hendaklah kamu sentiasa bertanya sebahagian yang lain mengenai kehidupannya dan bersegeralah memberikan bantuan apabila diperlukan. (Majmuatur Rasail) 47. Mutabaah Takruf ada catatan harian Muayashah ada catatan harian