Join us for a shortMegillah

reading followedby our giddy andgleeful (there’s a

hint there!)Purimshpiel

Sunday, March 20at 9:00 A.M.

Have a greatfamily time at the

PurimExtravaganza

beginning at10:00 A.M.

Sunday,March 20

Bring a box ofpasta to shake,

shake, shakelike a grogger.Then donate it

to our foodcollection.

Be an Esther, aking, a prince orHaman . . . wear a

costume for Purim!

ClergyRabbi Daniel M. Cohen, D.Min.Rabbi Ellie Lynn Miller, M.A.R.E.Rabbi Harvey S. Goldman, EmeritusRabbi Herbert Weiner, EmeritusCantor Theodore AronsonCantor Joan Finn

Lay LeadershipHope Pomerantz, PresidentGail Barry, VPMax Weisenfeld, VPJay Rice, VPWendy Ferber, VPRobert Ozer, VPDavid Leit, VPNancy Fogel, VPJesse Bayer, TreasurerLynne Crawford, Secretary

Executive DirectorLeslie Y. SpornSchool DirectorsCarol Paster, PreschoolPia Kutten, Religious SchoolProgram DirectorTracy Horwitz, LSWJFS Social Worker at TSTIBeth Sandweiss, MA, MSWBulletinSunny Seglin

Phone: 973-763-4116

MEMBER CONGREGATIONUNION FOR REFORM JUDAISM

Schedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of Services

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Contact us at info@tstinj.orgVisit our website at www.tsti.orgPh: 973-763-4116 Fax: 973-763-3941

Help run the game booths and face painting at the Purim Extravaganza., Sunday,March 20, 9:30am to 12:00pm Letters can be given for outside Temple communityservice.PLEASE EMAIL THORWITZ@TSTI.ORG BY FRIDAY, MARCH 11. Include name,email, phone, grade and indicate when you can volunteer.*I will volunteer the entire program from 9:30 AM – 12noon*I will volunteer but I am only available during the following hours: __________*I will require a community service letterWhen you arrive, please check in at the teen volunteer table outside the ballroom.

RESCHEDULED! NEW DATE!

March 29 from 7pm-9pmPartnering with your Teenthrough High Schooland BeyondFor parents of 10th and 11th graders

Learn how to partner with your teen toencourage key life skills that will servethem well in high school, college andadulthood.These life skills include: assertiveness/self-advocacy, coping with stress/anxiety/depression, ability to make healthy choices/decisions and self-awareness/beingrealistic about who you are. Gain anunderstanding of what is normal adolescentdevelopment, and when it is important toreach out for professional help.

Facilitated by Maureen P. Tillman, L.C.S.W.Adult and Adolescent Psychotherapy

Pizza, salad and dessert will be served. Forquestions or to RSVP, contact Tracy Horwitzat thorwitz@tstinj.org.

College PrepCollege PrepCollege PrepCollege PrepCollege PrepProgramsProgramsProgramsProgramsPrograms

TSTI’s 11th Grade CollegeProgramTUESDAY, MARCH 8th 7PM-8:30PM(STUDENTS ONLY)Looking at basic family roles anddynamics: What role do I play in myfamily? Facilitated by Daniel H.Gallagher, Ph.D. and Tracy Horwitz L.S.W.

TSTI’s 12th Grade CollegeProgram Schedule Change(FOR PARENTS AND STUDENTS)The February and March 12th gradecollege program sessions will becombined and are scheduled for Tuesday,March 15 from 7-9pm. Participants willexplore family values, traditions andexpectations as our teens prepare to leavefor college. RSVP to thorwitz@tstinj.org.

A Shout-Out to AllA Shout-Out to AllA Shout-Out to AllA Shout-Out to AllA Shout-Out to All8th-12th Grade8th-12th Grade8th-12th Grade8th-12th Grade8th-12th Gradersrsrsrsrs

TeeTeeTeeTeeTeen Volunteen Volunteen Volunteen Volunteen VolunteersrsrsrsrsAre Needed!Are Needed!Are Needed!Are Needed!Are Needed!

Friday, March 4PekudeShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, March 5Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBar Mitzvah of Ryan Davis, 10:15 A.M.

Friday, March 11VayikraShabbat Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, March 12Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Bar Mitzvah of Michael Garawitz,10:30 A.M.Gross Bet Midrash

Friday, March 18TzavNoisy Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary BuildingKabbalat Shabbat, 6:00 P.M.Gellis-Green ChapelShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, March 19Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBat Mitzvah of Eliza Stone, 10:30 A.M.

Sunday, March 20Megillah reading and Purimshpiel,9:00 A.M.

Friday, March 25SheminiShabbat Service and Scholar, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, March 26Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBar Mitzvah of Joshua Bergman,10:30 A.M.

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The President’sPoint of View

From theRabbi’s Study

One of the great privileges of therabbinate is having the opportunity tomeet and be inspired by some of theamazing people who are or have beenpart of our community. I want to sharemy space in this month’s bulletin to tell you a little piece of thestory of one of these amazing people and his incredible family.

On January 1st, David Gurland, a son of TSTI, died suddenly.David was a remarkably talented musician who touched atremendous number of lives, was devoted to family, quietlyvolunteered at the Ali Forney Center for GLBT homeless youth.The list of his accomplishments goes on and on. As a tribute pageto David explained:

“In his life, David Gurland, who hailed from New York City, hadwon a place as one of the most formidable openly gay singers inNew York’s music scene. Channeling cabaret experience andinstincts into his pop/rock shows, Gurland merged talent,presence and humor, into an unforgettable entertainmentexperience. Gurland’s accolades include 7 MAC Awardnominations, the MAC/Hanson Award, a Gay and LesbianAmerican Music Award Nomination, and four Bistro Awards, oneof which recognized his first CD, released in 1999 to ravereviews. David has been seen at The Laurie Beechman Theatre,The Cutting Room, The Bitter End, Town Hall, CB’s Gallery, TheLiving Room, Don’t Tell Mama, The Duplex, and TheMetropolitan Room, as well as out of town venues like Odettes inNew Hope, The Gardenia in LA, the Manor in NJ and Twiggs inSan Diego. David was also singing with the band UPTOWNEXPRESS, and had recently recorded a CD with them entitled‘Take You There’.”

Upon David’s death his partner Rob, his parents Evelyn and Gerry,his brother and sister-in-law, James and Leslie, were asked ifDavid’s organs might be donated and given to those who couldbenefit from a transplant. It is a hard question to be asked and, formost, an even harder answer to give, especially at such a difficulttime. For the Gurlands and the Maitners it was not. As theyshared with others:

“The world today sounds a little less sweet now that David hasgone on to the next part of his journey, but his essence will live onforever in the recordings he left behind and the music he has leftin our hearts. David lived grandly, loved fiercely, sang beautifullyand danced terribly. And that is exactly how we hope the worldremembers him. What many do not know is that David was alsoan organ recipient, having had a double corneal transplant in the1990’s. It is with great joy that we may help David close aprofoundly beautiful circle and donate his organs so that othersmay have the gift of life.”

We are living in uncertain times – forIsrael, for the US, for Judaism. Israel’sstability hangs in a tenuous balancewith Egypt’s turmoil; America’s supportseems tempered by the administration’s

desire for diplomacy in the region; and in communities acrossthe United States, the demographics and needs of AmericanJews continue to change. There is no Magic 8 Ball with just theright move – no specific panacea in sight– and the decisions tobe made on all levels are difficult.

Now is a time for thoughtful, creative, considered action – inthe Middle East, in our nation and in our congregation. Whilewe hear that the economy is turning around, the effects of itsswift decline in 2008 are still being felt in many quarters –including our own community. Budgets everywhere are tight –including here.

We are a fortunate congregation on so many levels. Our clergy,schools, programming, and our diverse and generousmembership all combine to create a truly unique community.That said, we must be prudent and take considered action,assessing our priorities and ensuring our fiscal integrity.

Here is a glimpse of some of what has been happening thesepast few months to ensure our continued organizational healthand well being.

• We convened an organizational effectivenesscommittee to look at what we do, how we do it, whodoes it and how best to continue to meet our temple’svision and mission with an eye toward a smallerbudget. Along the way, we also looked at our processesand needs. Joining me on the committee are: ArnieBudin (Chair), David Freedman, Paula Lieber, JoelScharf, Helene Sorin, Leslie Sporn and Susan Wishnow.Together, they represent multiple aspects of Temple,possess a wide variety of skills and experiences, andadvocate from and for diverse perspectives andconstituencies. They are hard working, diligent andsensitive to the challenges we face. Moreover, they arededicated to finding a careful and practical set ofrecommendations to maintain the essence of ourcongregation’s character without sacrificing itsfinancial integrity.

The work has been done in layers – using outside comparisons,in consultation with senior staff and with input from manyquarters. The goal was to analyze, modify, combine, add ordelete functions and programs in different combinations, so thatchange will be as seamless and beneficial to the congregation

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Linda and Rudy SluckerReligious School

The Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris Family

Carol PasterPreschool Director

Pia KuttenReligious School Director

Margie HarwoodMargie HarwoodMargie HarwoodMargie HarwoodMargie Harwood, in coordination with Catherine’s Closet, willbe collecting recently used and nearly new prom dresses for youngwomen who would appreciate a gift of a beautiful dress for theirprom.One-time only drop-off: Tuesday evening, March 29,One-time only drop-off: Tuesday evening, March 29,One-time only drop-off: Tuesday evening, March 29,One-time only drop-off: Tuesday evening, March 29,One-time only drop-off: Tuesday evening, March 29,6:30-8:00 at the main entrance to temple.6:30-8:00 at the main entrance to temple.6:30-8:00 at the main entrance to temple.6:30-8:00 at the main entrance to temple.6:30-8:00 at the main entrance to temple.

Give that Prom DressA Second Life

During the past five years that I havebeen a part of the TSTI community Ihave learned many lessons; some bigand some small. Sometimes the lesson

came from the most unexpected encounter. As the head of theschool, my interactions with our younger students are generallylimited to greetings at the front door before school, briefexchanges in the hall, or during office visits when students areoften not there on their own volition. This is in stark contrast tothe years I spent in the classroom working closely with youngpeople.

Last year I ran into a little girl in the hallway and the briefexchange was a lesson I will never forget. She was on her wayup the stairs as I was hurrying by to complete an errand. When Isaw her face it was apparent there was a problem. I asked if Icould help her and she immediately broke into sobs.Instinctively I tried to stop the tears. She explained that shecould not find her class and she did not know what to do. Webegan walking together back up to my office when she saidsomething to me that made me literally stop in my tracks.“Sometimes I just need to cry.”

While it might sound strange in a way, it never occurred to meto let anyone cry. Like all things, I suppose aversion to tears wasprogrammed into me at an early age. My natural inclination hasalways been to find a way to halt the tears, as if by doing so, Ihave resolved the issue. “Sometimes I just need to cry.” Ithonestly never occurred to me that this was an option. Withouteven stopping to consider what I was saying, I turned to her andsaid “I know what you mean.”

I was reminded of the situation the other day when my son Aviwas crying because I had taken his Play-Doh away from himafter he had thrown some up in the air and it had landed in thepot of pasta I was cooking for dinner. Eli, his twin, walked up toAvi and tilted his head curiously at Avi as he wailed. Then to myutter amazement, he threw his arms around Avi and proceededto hug him while Avi continued to bawl in his arms. At two yearsold, my son Eli understood something it took me years todiscover. Sometimes we just need to cry and it is ok. I am trulygrateful for the lessons I have learned at TSTI.

After 30 years, it’s time to downsize, so we are selling our house.Do you have any idea how much I’ve accumulated in that time?There are collections of teddy bears, robots and M&M candydispensers. There are antique childrens’ books, fine art booksand books about aliens. There are 7 sets of dishes from mymother and my mother in law. There’s great grandma’s stemwaretoo fragile to use. There are silver serving trays and tea sets thatI’ll never polish and use. There are three sets of right-handedgolf clubs from my father. I’m left-handed. There are filingcabinets filled with articles and ideas for using every possibleart medium. There are prototypes of projects and examples ofsuccesses and failures. There’s also every art project and story mynow adult children had ever created. There are sweaters I knitfor my children and hand-made costumes from assorted playsand recitals. There are contracts and flyers from a business Ionce owned. There are invitations from b’nai mitzvot andweddings as well as thank you notes and birthday cards fromnow deceased relatives. There are love letters from high schoolsweethearts and lab books from college physics class. There’seven a dress from my high school prom.

My son and I look at all of these as wonderful memories. Mydaughter and my husband look at these items as unneededclutter. My son and I take hours to pour through one portfoliofrom a year of his preschool. My husband and daughter open atrash bag and clean out a full closet in less than ten minutes. Is itthat they don’t care? No, not at all. They just don’t see the need tokeep everything forever.

For many of us it’s hard letting go, and I can only imagine howhard it is for those who are unlike us to watch the process ofsorting a lifetime into boxes marked ‘keep, toss or sell’. (Youshould see how big the ‘keep’ pile is.) I will admit that even Iknew that I had to let go of something and eventually I realizedthat I could take digital photos of items I wasn’t emotionallyready to part with but that were just not worth paying a mover tohaul to a new home. I’ve uploaded the photos to a computer fileallowing me to toss away a dumpster full of items.

If you are the young parent who is tempted to hold onto everyarticle of baby clothing or locks from the first haircut, pleasekeep in mind that it took me 10 months to get my house ready tosell. I don’t want to admit that my daughter and husband may beonto something, but if you are like me, you may want to invest ina good digital camera. It’s ever so much cheaper than paying fora storage pod, 2 dumpsters and an extra large moving van.

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Our B’nai MitzvahRYAN ANDREW DAVISMarch 5, 2011Ryan is the son of Val and Glenn Davis,brother of Brooke and grandson of HarrietNeumaier and Renee Davis.Mitzvah Project: Ryan is raising money tosupport clean, potable water for people indeveloping countries.

MICHAEL JEFFREY GARAWITZMarch 12, 2011Michael is the son of Susan and StuartGarawitz, brother of Matthew, and grandsonof Sondra Levy.Mitzvah Project: Michael dressed up asMickey Mouse and visited children at NYPresbyterian Hospital on Cancer Survivor’sDay.

ELIZA FRANCES STONEMarch 19, 2011Eliza is the daughter of Jillian and AndyStone, sister of Adam, and granddaughter ofBrenda Magalaner and Marion Stone.Mitzvah Project: Eliza volunteers at HorizonSchool and helps children with disabilities.

JOSHUA DAVID BERGMANMarch 26, 2011Josh is the son of Andrea and Jeffrey Bergman,brother of Jeremy and Rebecca, grandson ofFani and Alan Weissman and Phyllis and IraBergman, and great grandson of Carrie Lax.Mitzvah Project: Josh volunteers at Horizonschool where he helps children withdisabilities. He is collecting box tops whichhe will donate to the school.

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Mark Your Calendar!!Mark Your Calendar!!Mark Your Calendar!!Mark Your Calendar!!Mark Your Calendar!!5th Annual Golf, Tennis and Dinner5th Annual Golf, Tennis and Dinner5th Annual Golf, Tennis and Dinner5th Annual Golf, Tennis and Dinner5th Annual Golf, Tennis and Dinner

Dance FundraiserDance FundraiserDance FundraiserDance FundraiserDance FundraiserThursday May 19, 2011Thursday May 19, 2011Thursday May 19, 2011Thursday May 19, 2011Thursday May 19, 2011

Mountain Ridge Country ClubMountain Ridge Country ClubMountain Ridge Country ClubMountain Ridge Country ClubMountain Ridge Country Club

Golf, tennis and cards in the afternoonCocktails, live and silent auctions, dinner and dancing

to a live band in the evening

Come bid to win auction items such as vacation getaways,sports tickets, special wine and food experiences.

This year, play golf at the renownedMountain Ridge Country Club,

one of the best golf courses in the state of New Jersey.

This is our temple’s major fundraiser for the year. Plan to join us for a fun day which helps TSTI continue to

provide our unique and varied programming.

SEE YOU THERE!! Rob Ozer, golf co-chair

Taste of Junior Youth Grouping for 8th GradersTuesday, March 1 7-9pm

Eighth graders . . . Come try the creative programs, designedand implemented by our 12th grade Hebrew High students.Eighth graders will enjoy a fun, active, educational programfollowed by a great dessert. Thisprogram takes place during ourReligious School 8th grade program; youdo not have to be enrolled to attend theprogram. If you do not currently attendour 8th grade program, please RSVP toTracy Horwitz at thorwitz@tstinj.org.

Shabbat, Scholar, and SupperFriday, March 25, 2011Join the congregation at the 6:00pm Worship Service.Continue learning at the Shabbat Dinner following the service.All are welcome to attend services. Registration and feerequired for dinner.

Ruth Messinger,President of American Jewish World ServiceSpeaking of her own experiences in the developing world, Ruthwill propose how American Jews can do their part to alleviatepoverty, hunger, violence, disease and oppression. Sharing thewords of dedicated Jews from communities across the UnitedStates – college and rabbinical students, community leaders andskilled professionals – she will tell of the enormoustransformative impact volunteering and advocacy can make inthe modern era. By embracing our obligation to assist all peoplein need, regardless of race, religion or nationality, we have thecapacity to ensure social justice for coming generations.

Dinner Reservations are Required by March 18$25 per member$36 per non-memberTo register for the March 25th Shabbat dinner,Make check payable to TSTI, list name(s), number, email andmail to: TSTI Adult Education at Temple

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The GrThe GrThe GrThe GrThe Green Teen Teen Teen Teen TeameameameameamWe Are Not Just About Energy

Being environmentally friendly is not just about energy and carbonfootprint (although we have done a lot of work there!). We alsohave to look at other ways we impact the environment. One area tolook at in your house is pesticides. According to documents wereceived from GreenFaith: “Pesticides are designed to be harmful,and have been linked to many severe illnesses in both humans andwildlife. Children are especially susceptible to these chemicalssince they are frequently touching surfaces, and they breathe moreair per pound of body weight than adults”. So, what can you do?One thing is to become familiar with the term Integrated PestManagement.

From the web site www.beyondpesticides.com: “Integrated PestManagement (IPM) is a program of prevention, monitoring, andcontrol which offers the opportunity to eliminate or drasticallyreduce the use of pesticides, and to minimize the toxicity of andexposure to any products which are used. IPM does this byutilizing a variety of methods and techniques, includingcultural, biological and structural strategies to control amultitude of pest problems.” IPM relies on “the mosteconomical and least hazardous combination of cultural,physical, biological, and/or chemical controls to preventunacceptable levels of pest activity and damage.”

Again, from www.beyondpesticides.com:, the 6 components ofIPM are: Monitoring. This includes regular site inspections andtrapping to determine the types and infestation levels of pests ateach site. Record-Keeping. A record-keeping system is essentialto establish trends and patterns in pest outbreaks. Informationrecorded at every inspection or treatment should include pestidentification, population size, distribution, recommendationsfor future prevention, and complete information on the treatmentaction. Action Levels. Pests are virtually never eradicated. An

action level is the population size which requires remedialaction for human health, economic, or aesthetic reasons.Prevention. Preventive measures must be incorporated into theexisting structures and designs for new structures. Prevention isand should be the primary means of pest control in an IPMprogram. Tactics Criteria. Under IPM, chemicals should be usedonly as a last resort, but when used, the least-toxic materialsshould be chosen, and applied to minimize exposure to humansand all non-target organisms. Evaluation. A regular evaluationprogram is essential to determine the success of the pestmanagement strategies.

From www.epa.gov: “What are the potential health effects ofpesticides? The health effects of pesticides depend on the type ofpesticide. Some, such as the organophosphates and carbamates,affect the nervous system. Others may irritate the skin or eyes.Some pesticides may be carcinogens. Others may affect thehormone or endocrine system in the body. EPA’s human healthrisk assessments for many pesticides are available on the web.

Where can I get information on health risks of pesticides I havein my home? EPA has a cooperative agreement with Oregon StateUniversity , which operates The National Pesticide InformationCenter (NPIC). This center provides objective, science-basedinformation about a variety of pesticide-related subjects,including pesticide products, recognition and management ofpesticide poisonings, toxicology, and environmental chemistry.NPIC also lists state pesticide regulatory agencies, and provideslinks to their Web sites. NPIC can be contacted at 1-800 858-7378 or by email at npic@ace.orst.edu.

Wednesday, March 167:30 P.M.

NCAA March Madnessbegins at TSTI

»» Pick the draw »» Pick any 10 »»2 Tickets to the Regionals have been

donated and could be yours »» Bet againstDuke and Rabbi Cohen and win some $$$ »»

Food »» Spirits »»Auction »» Fun

Raise $$ – Win $$–Enjoy a Great Evening

Whether you are young or old, a newmember or old-timer, knowledgeable orclueless regarding college hoops, pleasecome out and participate. Meet some new

people, hang with your friends and enjoy abeer and snacks while participating in a

variety of events that may include an Auction,Pick 10, Pick the Draw, Knock-out versus the spread, Trivia(maybe even some on Jewish athletes), Mini Hoop shootingContest and an opportunity to bet against Duke and RabbiCohen to win some $$.

Admission is $50 -- BUT 50% will be a contribution to TSTI —AND you will have so many ways of winning hundreds ofdollars as the tournament unfolds.

Interested in helping to organize or sign-up for this greatevening of fun? Please e-mail Andy at anadel@pride-products.com

Phil Hoch

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The Women’sConnection

Cost: $25 for members of the Women’s Connection and eachof their guests, $40 for non-members, and $12 for girls 12 andunder.

Please remember that to be a current member of the Women’sConnection (2010-2011), you must have already paid yourdues. If you haven’t yet joined for this year and would liketo, please include a separate check for $36. Send check(s)for seder (and dues if applicable) payable to “TSTI Women’sConnection” and completed form by April 1 to SunnySeglin, TSTI, 432 Scotland Road, South Orange, NJ07079.

Want to volunteer/questions? Contact Lori Barnett (908-277-0229, lori.barnett@comcast.net) or Anne Sussman(973-985-9850, cantcook2@aol.com).

In conjunction with the seder, the Women’s Connection isalso organizing a food drive to benefit the Interfaith FoodPantry of the Oranges. WE NEED YOUR HELP! Pleasebring a bag of unopened, unexpired, non-perishable food inindividual/family sized packages. Collection boxes arelocated in the religious school lobby or you can bring yourcontribution to the seder. Questions or volunteeropportunities for the Food Pantry? Contact Janet Schwamm(jschwamm@gmail.com).

Renaissance Group Marcia Weinstein and Ruth Tenner will chair a very specialevent open only to the first 50 people that send in theirreservations. A trip to the recently opened National Museum ofAmerican Jewish History in Philadelphia has been arranged forWednesday, March 23. For $48 per Renaissance member ($58 forothers) you will receive transportation via deluxe charter coachwith coffee and muffins (snacks on the return trip), admission tothe museum, and a one and a half hour docent-led tour. Lunch ison your own at the museum café or a nearby restaurant. The tourleaves from temple lot at 8:00 A.M. and returns about 6:00 P.M.

To ALL Temple Members:Renaissance Trip to National Museum of American

Jewish History in Philadelphia is Open to All!

This is the first time a much sought after Renaissance day tripwill be open to all temple members. Because these trips are sopopular, please be sure to make your reservation quickly byemailing Marcia at marciaw16@aol.com. Please see descriptionof the trip above.

Join your friends, mothers, daughters and sisters to celebrate Passoverat our annual Women’s Connection Intergenerational Seder!

Thursday, April 14, 2011 6-9 P.M. in the Ballroom

Count me in fCount me in fCount me in fCount me in fCount me in for the TSTI Wor the TSTI Wor the TSTI Wor the TSTI Wor the TSTI Women’omen’omen’omen’omen’s Seder!s Seder!s Seder!s Seder!s Seder!

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SAVE THE DATE!Friday May 13th Springtime Hike with theSouth Mountain Conservancy (in conjunctionwith the Green Team)...More details tofollow.

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As a result of their decision, six of David’s organs went tovarious recipients and a seventh went to medical research. InDavid’s death, he and his family gave the gift of life.

Many of you may be under the impression that organ donation isnot acceptable in Judaism. That is not the case. Our traditionteaches “If you save one life, it is as though you save the world.”—Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5 From this statement (among others)emerged the concept of pikuach nefesh- the value that thesaving of a life stands as one of our highest values. Thus ourmovement has taken the position that “Reform Judaism has longbeen an advocate of organ donation. A 1968 Reform Responsacommented that the use of such body parts in order to heal orsave life is in keeping with Jewish tradition and a positive act ofholiness.”

The Gurland and Maitner families decision didn’t lessen thepain of their loss or reduce their grief but the knowledge that,in death, David continued to do good in the world is somethingthey can now carry with them always.

If you have not taken the time to fill out an organ donation card Iencourage you to talk with your family and consider doingso. You can find more information at http://urj.org//life/health/bioethics

Hope Pomerantz, President

as possible. While the impetus for this work was to continue toassure the strength of our short and long term economicposition, the opportunity for improvement and enhancement alsopresented itself.

• The commencement of contract negotiations waspushed back a bit to allow alignment with the Board’sdecisions on the organizational effectivenesscommittee’s recommendations (March); and our seniorstaff has been most gracious about this brief delay.Finance and executive committee members have beenhard at work implementing new ideas and proceduresto improve our dues collection efforts, increase revenue,streamline finances for congregants and volunteers,and bring our numbers closer to their targets as early aspossible. One of several improvements coming our wayis that beginning in March, we will be able to register,pay our dues/fees, and make contributions/sendtributes all on line – via credit card.

• This year’s nominating committee, under Jack Fersko’sleadership, is in the midst of finding us a new slate ofTrustees and Officers. For the first time in ourcongregation’s history (under our new bylaws), there isno automatic ascendency to any particular position.There are important positions to fill. Luckily, there arelots of talented people from whom to choose.

• And as always, at this time of year, our schools, clergyand numerous committees are already planning,projecting, drafting preliminary budgets and looking atnew ideas for all of us for next year. Many of thesetasks are integrally linked to one another, for timingand substance.

As the mounds of snow melt away and the first hints of springarrive, we are in the ever-continuing cycle of reviewing,revitalizing and re-energizing our congregation. There is muchto be done, and there are many good hearts and minds doing it(for which we are very grateful). We are in good shape overall,but we have some hard decisions to make to ensure that Templeremains strong and true to its mission. Stay tuned.

B’Shalom,

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Adult Education with Rabbi CohenBible: Fact or FictionMonday, March 14 7:00pm

Often the stories, laws and teachings we think are in the Torahand the Bible are actually not there, but instead are often part ofMidrash and family traditions. Learn how Midrash evolved andhas become believed stories that teach us valuable lessons andtruths for us today. Sign up by emailing rnelson@tstinj.org.

Adult Education Film SeriesSunday, March 6 at 7:00pmThe Band’s Visit (Israel, 2007)The Alexandria Police Band arrives from Egypt, but instead ofgoing to the Arab cultural center near Tel Aviv where they are toperform, they find themselves in a development town in themiddle of the Negev. The eight Egyptians are forced to interactwith the working class villagers and find that they have a greatdeal in common.Enjoy snacks and a movie, followed by an interactive discussionmoderated by Dr. Eric GoldmanFree for members, $5 per film for non members

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TRIBUTES

In Memoriam

Contributions in memory of loved ones and in honor of the simchas in our livesare acts of loving kindness. We are grateful for your generous support of

Temple through various Temple Funds.

All in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyMazel tov to:

May their memoriesbe for a blessing

TEMPLE TRIBUTES

IN MEMORY OFMorris Dolinko, father of Judy Epstein

Nancy EpsteinLisa & Andrew Block

David GurlandJeff & Doris SpectorSunny & Mark Seglin

Mildred Heettner, grandmother of AnneSussman

Lisa & Andrew Block

IN HONOR OFEngagement of Larry Schiffman, sonof Carol & Bill Schiffman

Jack & Helene FerskoBat Mitzvah of Madeleine Ritholz

Ellen & Jay RiceBirth of Lee & Cheryl Weinberg’sgrandson, Cole

Ellen & Jay RiceDoris & Jeff Spector

SPEEDY RECOVERYPeter Messeri

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RABBI COHEN’SDISCRETIONARY FUND

IN MEMORY OFMorris Dolinko, father of Judy Epstein

Joyce & Glenn GardnerLois Medinets, mother of SusanHolzman

John & Barbara RobintonJosh Esformes, son of Susan & Steve

Helen & Jeff DuBowy

RABBI MILLER’SDISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATIONJen & Scott KlepeschLori Fischler

CANTOR ARONSON’SDISCRETIONARY FUND

IN MEMORY OFSeymour Katz

Matty & Dan Goldberg

IN APPRECIATIONVernon & Bobbe Futterman

ROSE & MELVILLE BERLOWMUSIC FUND

IN MEMORY OFRosalind Bellini, sister of Lenny Weiss

Mimi & Joe PapermanMother of Sheldon Greenspan

Judy KantorSeymour Katz, husband of FleuretteKatz

Pauline Pollack

David Lenusky, son of Ruth RossChickie & Paul Rosenberg

IN HONOR OFThe birth of Hy Goldberg’s greatgranddaughter

Bettye & Ramon GreenBROTHERHOOD FUND

IN HONOR OFDevan James, grandson of Steve &Shelly Saul

Linda & Joel Scharf

GELLIS FUND FORSENIOR PROGRAMMING

IN MEMORY OFLois Medinets, mother of SusanHolzman

Chickie & Paul RosenbergMother of Sheldon Greenspan

Judy Kantor

PEARL & SAM GREENPRESCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OFJoshua Esformes

Marge & Bob Solomon

IN HONOR OFBirth of Elaine & Jeffrey Garrod’sgrandson

Marge & Bob Solomon

ADAM KATZ MEMORIAL FUND

IN MEMORY OFPeter Glassman

Carole Anzalone-Newman& Douglas Newman

IN HONOR OFJared Kofsky’s Bar Mitzvah

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JOSH LITTMANAUDIO-VIDEO FUND

IN MEMORY OFDavid Gurland, son of Evelyn & GerryGurland

Harold & Annette LittmanSeymour Katz, husband of FleuretteKatz

Harold & Annette Littman

IN HONOR OFBirth of Mimi & Joe Paperman’sgrandchildren

Harold & Annette LittmanBirth of Lee & Cheryl Weinberg’sgrandson, Cole

Harold & Annette Littman

NORMA BENISCH MANSIONRESTORATION FUND

IN MEMORY OFMilani Lee, mother of Robb Kushner

Reg Baldini

HELEN A. BRODERMUSEUM FUND

IN MEMORY OFMorris Dolinko, father of Judy Epstein

Marge & Bob Solomon

PRAYER BOOK FUND

IN MEMORY OFMorris Dolinko, father of Judy Epstein

Susan & Jules NissimDavid Gurland, son of Evelyn andGerry Gurland

Bettye & Ramon GreenSeymour M. Sperling

Jerome Lieb

IN HONOR OFMiriam Eisenstein Ebsworth’s mother’s100th birthday

Gert & Arnold Zoref

LINDA & RUDY SLUCKERRELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OFMatthew LaConti, son of Meryl Faivus

Carole Anzalone-Newman andDouglas NewmanMilani Lee, mother of Robb Kushner

Marge & Bob Solomon

POMERANTZ FUND FOR ADULTJEWISH ENRICHMENT

IN HONOR OFThe birth of Sheri & Roy Greenman’sgranddaughter

Hope Pomerantz

SPEEDY RECOVERYAndrea Baum

Hope PomerantzMarilou Spero

Hope Pomerantz

SUSAN ACKERMAN SOMMERFUND FOR SOCIAL JUSTICE

IN MEMORY OFMorris Dolinko, father of Judy Epstein

Robin Kahn & Scott MillerMilani Lee, mother of Robb Kushner

Sunny & Mark SeglinLee Nissim, mother of Jules Nissim

Robin Katz & Scott MillerMorton Shapiro

Robin Kahn & Scott Miller

Carol and Bill Schiffmanon the engagement of theirson, Larry, to StephanieSalome.

Arianna and Bruce Pleaton the birth of a daughter,Sofia Rosa.

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