Milby Mentor Program 2011
Habit 1 : Be proactiveHabit 2 : Begin with the end in mindHabit 3 : Put first things firstHabit 4 : Think win-winHabit 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be understoodHabit 6 : SynergizeHabit 7 : Sharpen the saw
The 7 habits can help you: 1. Get control of your life 2. Improve your relationships 3. Increase your self confidence 4. Be happy!
Habit #1Be ProactiveA proactive person takes responsibility for his/her life.Reactive people make choices based on feelings, moods and emotions
WillpowerI can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions.I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong.I can envision new possibilities.I have the power to choose.
Know what they stand for and have a strong set of values.Listen to their better selves.Realize they have choices and take responsibility for those choices.Bounce back when something bad happens in their lives.Always look at all the options.Focus on things they can do something about, dont worry about the other things.
Habit #2 Begin with the end in mindDefine your mission and goals in life.Effective people shape their own future with their personal mission statement as their guide.
What qualities do I want to develop in myself?What contributions do I want to make to others and my community?What kind of things will I need to have for the kind of future I want?
You must know where you want to go, who you want to be, and what you want to achieve in life.
You need a mission statement.
A mission statement is a personal credo or motto that states what your life is about.
Habit #3 Put First Things FirstUnderstand the difference between urgency and importanceLearn to put first things first in your life
UrgentA specific thing you are trying to accomplish
An activity you find valuable and that contributes to your mission, values and high-priority goals
A person who consciously looks ahead and plans with specific goals in mind
The position you occupy in relation to another
An activity you or others feel requires immediate attention
Do one thing that would make a significant difference in the roles you listed. Share with your group what you have identified in the previous activity, write one goal next to each role.Last week, you were asked to
By the end of this session, you will.Understand Win-Win
Understand how courage and determination create win-win relationships
Understand how to create win-win agreements
Habit # 4
Important Terms What kind of person are you?
Win-WinPeople with this paradigm approach differences with fear.
People with a lose-win mindset are easily intimidated and readily give in or go along with others
These people achieve what they want at the expense of others
These people believe that everyone can win
Life is an All-You-Can-Eat BuffetWith your group, talk about an experience where you had a win-lose mentality. How did you feel about it? What were the short-term and long-term consequences? Would you do things differently now?
Life is an All-You-Can-Eat BuffetWith your group, talk about an experience where you practiced lose-win or someone acted in a lose-win way toward you. What were the short-term and long-term consequences? How do you feel?
The following exercise will help you start living Habit 4Discuss a specific situation that you may face in the next seven days that will require win-win thinking- it might be during a music lesson, at work, in a challenging class, or at home with your family. How will you prepare yourself to think win-win?
Competition Gives Way to Cooperation
Win-Win Agreements Based on previous activity, Complete the chart for student/teacher win-win agreements.
Your assignment.Identify one situation in your personal life and school life that could be better for both people if win-lose were replaced by win-win thinking if cooperation replaced competition.