Habit 4Think Win-WinFreshmen AdvisoryMay, 2015*** Material is created from 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
Lets See What Win-Win is Not..Win-Lose The Totem PoleWhen people only want to win and dont care if others lose. You win, someone else loses.Lose-Win The DoormatWhen people allow others to win even when it means they lose. You lose, someone else wins.Lose-Lose The Downward SpiralWhen people believe that if they go down, then others must go down with them. You both lose.
What Win-Win isWin-Win The All-You-Can-Eat BuffetThe belief that everyone can win; there is more than enough to go around for everyone.Its not you or me its both of us.Examples:Your best friend just got accepted to the college you wanted to attend. You didnt make it. Although you feel terrible, you are genuinely happy for your friend.You want to go out for dinner. Your friend wants to see a movie. You jointly decide to rent a movie and pick up food to eat at home.
Triple UpPlace yourself or have your teacher place you in trios.You will discuss the four ways of looking at situations with your trio.This is for educational purposes. Please participate and only share stories appropriate for school and personal comfort level.Lets have a little fun (you could always make up a situation too).
Win - LoseDiscuss an experience where you practiced or witnessed a win-lose situation or where someone acted in a win-lose way towards you.How did you feel?How might have this person behaved differently?
Lose-WinDiscuss an experience where you, someone you know (leaving out names) or a made up situation had a lose-win mentality. How did/do you feel about it?Would you or should they have done something differently?What advice would you give the people in the situation?
Lose-LoseDiscuss some lose-lose examples from history or current news events.What might one side have done differently? Is there ever a time when lose-lose might be appropriate?
Win-Win Each person in your trio should do the following:Share your definition of Win-Win.Use examples from your own life.Complete the following sentences:It is hardest for me to think win-win when:It is easiest for me to think win-win when:When I practice win-win thinking, I enjoy the following benefits:
Can you do more Win-Win thinking?SureIt just takes some work.Things you can do today:If you play sports, show sportsmanship. Compliment someone from the opposing team after the match or game, even if you lose.Do you have an important test coming up soon? If so, form a study group and share your best ideas with each other. Youll all do better.The next time someone close to you succeeds, be genuinely happy for them instead of feeling threatened.
Make the CommitmentTo practice Win-Win thinking at least once this week.Think about how it makes you feel.Think about how it makes others feel.
To talk to adults in your life about their Win-Win experiences.