2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT RESOLUTION USING MASTERING THE MIDDLE GRADES AND FRESHMAN SEMINAR TO TEACH CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS Slide 2 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT IN OUR SCHOOLS 1 in 4 students are bullied in school on a regular basis. Teens in 6 th -10 th grades are the most likely to be involved in activities related to bullying. 77 % of all students report being bullied verbally in some way. 30% of students in the United States are involved in bullying on a regular basis either as a victim, bully or both. 56% of all students have witnessed bullying at school. Slide 3 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT IN OUR SCHOOLS 15% of all students who don't show up for school say their absence is due to fear of being bullied. In 85% of bullying cases, no intervention or effort is made by a teacher or other adult at the school to stop the bullying. 20% of students admitted they are responsible for bullying their peers. Slide 4 2012 Summer Institute CYBERBULLYING Cyberbullying has become one of the most prevalent types of bullying that occurs between teens. About 80% of all high school students have been bullied in some fashion online. These growing numbers are being attributed to youth violence including both homicide and suicide. About 35% of teens have been actually threatened online. About half of all teens admit they have said something mean or hurtful to another teen online. Slide 5 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT ALWAYS A BAD THING? What words, feelings, and images come to mind when you hear the word conflict? What factors influence how we respond to conflict? In what situations can conflict be positive? If conflict can be positive, why is it almost always seen as a negative event, something to be avoided? Slide 6 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT What can we as teachers do to help students see that though conflict is unpleasant and unavoidable it is necessary and can be a positive event? Slide 7 2012 Summer Institute CAUSES OF CONFLICT THERE ARE ONLY THREE Resources Psychological needs Values Slide 8 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT: CAUSE(S)? Slide 9 2012 Summer Institute TYPES OF CONFLICT THERE ARE ONLY FOUR Interpersonal Intrapersonal Intergroup Intragroup Slide 10 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT DEFINITION A conflict is a disagreement. It can be between two or more people (interpersonal) or even inside oneself (intrapersonal). Conflict occurs when we dont get something we want, or when our values or desires compete or clash. Our response to conflict is influenced by our culture, family background, personality, previous experiences, and values. Conflict is not always negative; it can provide an opportunity to grow, understand ourselves and others better, draw closer to others, demonstrate respect, develop self-control, and even benefit those involved. Slide 11 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT SCENARIOS FROM HISTORY 1. Jane Addams was born into a very wealthy Illinois family in 1860. Her father was a state senator and friend of Abraham Lincoln. Her family and society expected her to marry, have children, and not be involved in political issues. Jane loved her family, but wanted a different life. She wanted to help the many poor immigrant families in Chicago. What kind of conflict is this? Why? Is the following conflict interpersonal, intrapersonal, intergroup, or intragroup? Write your response. Slide 12 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT SCENARIOS FROM HISTORY 2. Mohandas Gandhi was born in India in 1869. While working in South Africa, he was thrown off a train, beaten, and not allowed to stay in some hotels because he was Indian. These experiences awakened his desire to return to India and work for social justice. Is the following conflict interpersonal, intrapersonal, intergroup, or intragroup? Write your response. In 1915, Gandhi returned to India, which was ruled by Great Britain at the time. He worked to organize the Indian people to protest against unfair British laws and taxes which kept them in poverty. He was arrested and jailed by the British rulers. What kind of conflict is this? Why? Slide 13 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT SCENARIOS FROM HISTORY 3. Matthew Henson accompanied explorer Robert Peary on seven different expeditions to the North Pole. Peary said that Hensons contributions as a navigator, hunter, translator, and explorer were critical to their success. Is the following conflict interpersonal, intrapersonal, intergroup, or intragroup? Write your response. On an expedition in 1909, Henson, an African American, may have reached the North Pole forty-five minutes before Peary, who was white. But Hensons relationship with Peary broke down after this, and Henson was not given credit for his role until many years later. What kind of conflict is this? Why? Slide 14 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT: LETS LOOK AT SOME SCENARIOS SCENARIO #1 Will and Jack were practicing shooting baskets on opposite ends of the gym, without realizing that they were standing almost back to back. Jack was making most of his shots, but Will was missing most of his. When Jack stepped back and bumped into Will, Wills frustration got the best of him, and he whirled around and punched Jack. Jack couldnt understand why Will was hitting him, but his natural response was to hit back. Slide 15 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT: LETS LOOK AT SOME SCENARIOS SCENARIO #2 A student submitted an article to the school paper that would have embarrassed several students and teachers if it had been printed. Some members of the staff wanted to edit the article so that it wouldnt be offensive and embarrassing, while others, including the editor, wanted to run it as written because they believed it was a good article that told the truth. Slide 16 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT: LETS LOOK AT SOME SCENARIOS SCENARIO #3 Toby and Josh have been friends since elementary school. Now that theyre seniors in high school, they both must pass Advanced Physics in order to graduate. Toby, who isnt doing well in the class, just found out that Josh has been getting the answers to the tests from his brother who took the class last year and who stole the tests off the teachers desk. Josh has offered to share the answers with Toby. Toby knows that what Josh is doing is wrong, but he also knows he must pass the course in order to graduate. Slide 17 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT: LETS LOOK AT SOME SCENARIOS SCENARIO #4 A group of Peruvian students sits at the same table in the cafeteria to eat lunch every day. But yesterday, they got to the cafeteria late, and found a group of students from Scotland at their table. The Scottish students refused to leave, and the Peruvian students feel that they are being disrespected by the Scots. Feelings are getting very tense between the Scots and the Peruvians. Slide 18 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT SO MANY COMBINATIONS Resources Psychological needs Values Resources and psychological needs Resources and values Psychological needs and values Resources, psychological needs, and values Slide 19 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT HOMEWORK TOPIC Find an article in a newspaper or magazine that describes some kind of conflict. Attach the article with tape or staples to a sheet of notebook paper. On another sheet of paper, write a brief description of the conflict, including specifics of the situation, the type of conflict, and its cause(s). Note: If students do not have access to newspapers and/or magazines, this will be easier if you bring in some magazines and newspapers from home. Give each student one page from a newspaper (national, international, local news, or sports), not an entire newspaper. There will be a conflict in every news story on the page. Slide 20 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT JOURNAL TOPIC Think of one conflict you have been involved in lately. Who are the people involved? What kind of conflict is it? What are the causes of the conflict? Has it been resolved, or is it ongoing? How could this conflict be resolved so that the outcomes are positive? Slide 21 2012 Summer Institute ANGER AND ANGER TRIGGERS Slide 22 2012 Summer Institute YOU AND YOUR ANGER TRIGGERS WHAT DRIVES YOU CRAZY? Make a list of things that push your buttons. Slide 23 2012 Summer Institute IDENTIFYING WHATS UNDERNEATH OUR ANGER WHAT FACTORS CAN INFLUENCE HOW WE RESPOND TO A SITUATION? Previous events Im tired of people always disrespecting me like this. You always do this to me! Physical Overload Im exhausted, and youre getting on my last nerve. Emotional Overload Im in a lot of trouble/conflict at home. I dont need this mess happening right now. Family Background In my family, people yell all the time when theyre mad. In my family, you just keep cool and move on. ExpectationsI hoped this was going to be a good time, but then you brought this mess up. ValuesYou spilled food all over my new sneakers! Slide 24 2012 Summer Institute YOU AND YOUR ANGER TRIGGERS WHAT KEEPS YOU SANE? What do you do to keep from pummeling that person into the floor? Slide 25 2012 Summer Institute SOCIAL SKILL: REMAINING CALM UNDER PRESSURE Looks LikeSounds Like Slide 26 2012 Summer Institute USING CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS Used on Used when Skill their own reminded Conflict resolution 47%+31% Dealing with disrespect 47%+28% Slide 27 2012 Summer Institute CONFLICT RESOLUTION Conflict as a normal part of life Conflict can have positive outcomes! Conflict causes and types Anger and anger triggers Social skill: Remaining calm when angry Slide 28 2012 Summer Institute Slide 29 2012 Summer Institute QUESTIONS & ANSWERS?