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Shown with Senator Vincent and Amy Sheheen are some of the nearly 300 nonpartisan, Charleston women who celebrated the 90th anniversary of the ratification of the 19th Amendment in early September.

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featuresHey Lady! Amy C. Balfour ......................................................................................34

The Car Cart Robyn Passante .....................................................................................40

Pro Kiters Jami Bonyun ............................................................................................48

The Cat Lady Bree Barton ...........................................................................................62

Dating for DummiesJen Rognerud .........................................................................................72

Eat, Pay, Leave Stacy Appel ............................................................................................80

F-Word: “Have We Forgotten the Ladies?” Jennet Robinson Alterman ............................................................82

Letters ..........................................................................................................26

He’s So Original .....................................................................................36

Calendar .....................................................................................................43

She Said, He Said ...................................................................................44

Skirt of the Month................................................................................51

SmartGirl ...................................................................................................53

Browse .........................................................................................................65

skirt! Alerts/Brava/It’s a Shame ..................................................66

skirt! Loves .............................................................................................75

Girl Power .................................................................................................86

24/7 with… ..............................................................................................88

Planet Nikki ...............................................................................................90

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C E L E B R A T I N G 2 0 Y E A R S O F H E L P I N G W O M E N !

Unless noted, all events are held at 129 Cannon St. (between Ashley Ave. & President St.)For daytime parking, one hour street parking is available or consult our website for close-by parking garages.

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Flash FictionHone your writing skills through short, short fiction.

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Managing Your Life by Managing Your $Uncover self-sabotaging money habits. Learn new tools & take control!

Facilitated by Diane Blackwelder, CFP, Charleston Financial Advisors

Mondays, October 4-25 6:00pm–8:00pmRegistration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members

Separation and DivorceExchange ideas and practice new solutions. Find comfort without criticism.

Facilitated by Elise Richard, LPC, CACII, Ashley Therapy Associates

Wednesdays, October 6-27 5:30pm–7:30pmRegistration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members

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Cause MarketingHow to develop successful revenue-generating partnershipsamong non-profits & businesses. Examples given.

Lee Deas, Obviouslee Marketing

Tuesday, October 12 6:00pm–8:00pmRegistration required: $20 C4W Members; $40 Non-members

Business Sponsors: SunTrustMedia Sponsor: Charleston Regional Business Journal

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Newcomers to CharlestonGet the inside scoop on what groups and activities to get involved with.

Jennifer Buddin, The Little Black Book for every busy womanAllyson Bird, The Post & Courier

Thursday, October 14 at Noon • FREE

Working from HomeHear how these business women make their home offices really work!

Katie Kern, CircaPRAmanda Moreno Duke, Cutie Pa Tutu

Thursday, October 21 at Noon • FREE

Title Sponsor:Merrill LynchMary Helen Condon Moore, CFM & Lynn Anne Gillen, CIMABusiness Sponsor: Belk Department StoreMedia Sponsor: Little Black Book for every busy woman

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The Book in YouHow to decide the right genre for the story that’s in you!

Signe Pike, Penguin USA Editor and Author, Faery Tale

Saturday, October 9 10:00am–12:00 NoonRegistration required: $25 C4W Members; $50 Non-members

Y O U C A N D O I T ! S E R I E S

I Love Chocolate: Truffle MakingLearn the basic ganache recipe for truffles and other treats. Take home samples!

Lauren Mitterer, WildFlour Pastry

Thursday, October 21 6:00pm–8:00pmRegistration required: $20 C4W Members; $40 Non-members

Location: WildFlour Pastry, 73 Spring St, Downtown Charleston

Business Sponsors: Care for Life, Eldercare Experts, Mary PetersFinancial Management Group, Danna Helms, Financial Advisor

S U M M E R V I L L E S E R I E S

Fundamentals of Room DesignLearn the basics & bring your questions. Free consultations after program.

Adrian Sims & Ivie Parker, Parker-Sims InteriorsSandra Gaylord, Gaylord Design

Wednesday, October 27 Program 6:00pm to 7:30pmRefreshments & networking 5:30pm –6:00pm

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Ashton Kutcher playing Ashton Kutcher being cool in the Nikon ads.

The fact that anyone would use 60 minutes of their allotted lifespan to watch

Bristol Palin on Dancing with the Stars.

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Amy has written for the Los Angeles Times, Backpacker, Redbook, Southern Living and Women’s Health and authored or co-authored seven guidebooks for Lonely Planet including Los Angeles Encounter and the upcoming USA’s Best Trips.

As a travel writer, I have several phrases I never want uttered in my presence: “About the bed bugs...” and “We seem to be losing altitude...” spring to mind.

But there’s no clearer indication that my day is about to be ruined than hearing “Hey lady!” yelled from afar. Like the glimpse of an iceberg on a cold April night, “Hey lady!” is a simple but ominous warning, one that sends an immediate chill to the depths of my soul. Or it would, if not for the fact that I’m always momentarily confused, never immediately aware that I am, in fact, the “lady” in question.

Why the fear? Because “Hey lady!” often precedes a horrible announce-ment: “Hey lady! Your dress is tucked into your underwear!” or “Hey lady! You know you just drove over a kitten!” Discretion prevents further elaboration.

Although, most of the time “Hey lady!” means someone is gearing up for a sales pitch. And whether it’s a finger puppet in Nassau or spiced turkey jerky in Temecula, I can assure you, I never want it. I do not want it on a plane, I do not want it on a train. I do not want it in my purse, don’t ask again, I might just curse.

The problem is that I’m incapable of ignoring the person yelling “Hey lady!”—I’ll always approach, like a dog sniffing a porcupine. A child reaching for a hot burner. John McCain sitting down with the ladies of the The View. Curious, optimistic, stupid. I don’t want the turkey jerky, but here I come.

My excuse? The last gasping throes of manners and civility in a world that no longer cares. Raised in Virginia, I’m a master of the Southern mode of com-munication. If someone tries to sell a Southern woman something she doesn’t want, there’s a procedure for polite refusal based on generations of passive-ag-gressive behavior. Cliché, yes. But a cliché implicitly understood by all parties.

For 200 years, the world has misunderstood Southern ways. I will now ex-plain in four paragraphs how we think, using a typical scenario at the Virginia Junior League Arts & Crafts Fair:

Amy wanders the booths. She pauses, mesmerized by an unusual purse. The Pursemaker smiles, “Each one’s made of 15 MoonPie wrappers.

Amy takes a closer look, concluding that if this was the last handbag on Earth, she would henceforth carry her money in her shoe. “Adorable! How’d you come up with that?”

“Cute, right? It just came to me, looking at all the wrappers sitting there in the trash. And then, voilà!”

Amy smiles, “Voilà! But you know what? My niece made me one out of Frito bags just last week, bless her heart, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by buying one so similar. But I love your stuff. You have a card?”

Can you see the mastery of this exchange? Pursemaker understands her goods have been refused, but there are no hurt feelings because I have complimented said purse, blamed an absent 10-year-old and expressed future interest. Everyone feels good about herself. Toasts all around. And I can assure you, she never hol-lered, “Hey lady!”

I have found on my travels, however, that most people do not understand this delicate art of refusal. Outside the perimeters of the Mason-Dixon, a po-lite expression of admiration before a refusal is perceived to be actual interest, which results in a harder sell.

Recent efforts to toughen up have failed. While researching a guidebook in Los Angeles, for example, I spent a morning checking out restaurants on gritty Hollywood Boulevard. On the sidewalk, a wild-haired ruffian approached. He zeroed in, targeting me with a pointed “Hey lady!”

I stopped, deciding it was time to take charge of my life. No more passive-aggressive waffling. I looked him in the eye and proclaimed: “I don’t have any!”

Any what, I cannot tell you. Money? Breath mints? Common sense? I paused. The ruffian paused. The world stopped on its axis. And then the ruffian realized he was offended. He snapped back: “I ain’t even asked you for nuthin’ yet!” How true. My apologies. Here’s a dollar.

Since social interaction is an inevitable part of my job, I’ve decided to try a new approach. One that I hope will minimize frustration for all involved. It came to me recently as I trudged toward a fish market on a distant tropical isle, just moments after “Hey lady! You wanna be my girlfriend?”

I paused. His audacity was compelling. Forget manners. Forget propriety. Why not say yes? I could live my life by the tenets of the improv handbook where the first rule is: “Never deny anyone’s offer.” Say yes. Keep the show flowing. Carpe diem y’all!

So that’s my plan. In the future, if a guy on the side of the road yells, “Hey lady!” then asks me to be his girlfriend, instead of blurting a flustered no, I’ll just say yes. After a few seconds of celebration, I’ll then ask him how I look in my jeans. I’ve kept the show going and upped the ante. Depending on his answer, I’ll counter or simply walk away.

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Before I had kids, I scoffed at any mother I saw wheeling around one of those ridiculously large car-shaped grocery carts. She always looked frazzled with a vague sense of forced oblivion, as though since she couldn’t see her children at the moment, then she didn’t have to mind them. (She sure could hear them, though; there’s something about being in those plastic cages that makes kids scream like banshees.)

Now that I’m a work-from-home mom with a two-year-old and a two-month-old whose job it is to get the groceries each week, I am the

frazzled one pushing the car cart. A typical grocery store visit for us goes some-thing like this:

Entrance: The baby sleeps blissfully in his car seat perched on the back of the cart while I manage to get a wiggly toddler through a plastic window and belted in against his will. Then I realize there’s toddler goo all over the horn and crumbs on the seat. The conveniently placed canister of sanitized wipes near the doorway is empty.

Produce: It’s impossible to keep the car cart out of everyone’s way as I bag my fruit. So I plod through produce like I’m lost, backtracking and apologizing as I go. That’s when I see a kindred spirit—another mom huffing behind one of these stupid red carts. She’s got two kids, both in the “car,” and they’re arguing. I see my future, and I don’t like it.

Aisle 2: Every time I stop the cart, my two-year-old sticks his head out the side and asks if he can walk now. This will continue for the next nine aisles. Every single time I stop the cart.

Aisle 5: I’m pushing the cart slowly, looking for the needle-in-a-haystack kind of bread my husband likes when I feel a thump. I’ve knocked over an entire display stand of individually wrapped Hostess cupcakes. The stand seems like it’s 10 feet away from where I’m standing but then again, so is the front of my cart. A nice woman stoops to help pick them all up. For the next 15 aisles I will pat myself on the back—and sigh with remorse—for not putting any cupcakes in my cart.

Aisle 11: My son stops asking if he can walk and instead tries to escape. He manages to get his head, shoulders and chest out the side window despite being buckled in. I’m tempted to let his determined little noggin “tap” the cereal boxes on the bottom shelf as we pass. The image makes me giggle.

Aisle 12: I remember the taco seasoning but forget the refried beans. I cannot turn around in the aisle, especially with people behind me, so I have to cruise up Aisle 13 to return to Aisle 12.

Aisle 12 redux: This thing has more blind spots than a semi. I almost bump into an old lady with a mini-cart. As I swerve to avoid her, the stack of coupons sitting on the baby’s legs flutters to the floor. I won’t realize I didn’t find them all until I’m checking out.

Aisle 14: Another run-in with the same old lady, only this time I hit her cart. Oops. Quick, boys, look cute.

Aisle 15: My toddler has begun chanting. “Mama, mama, mama, mama, mama, mama...” At first I try to answer him, but soon realize he is not ex-pecting an answer. This is some type of song. Or rhetorical statement. Or form of torture.

Meat counter: At this point I’m absolutely sure this godforsaken thing was not designed by a mother, or anyone with kids, or anyone who shops for more than one day’s worth of food. The engineers shrank the size of the basket to com-pensate for the size of the car attached to it. This makes very little sense since the people who use these carts have more than one mouth to feed. My basket is full and I’ve still got six aisles to go! I try to perch my stack of fresh meat packages on top of the car. Five seconds later, they fall off.

Aisle 19: The woman with the car cart and bickering siblings is at the other end of the aisle. As we approach one another I give her the “Isn’t this a pain in the butt?” eye roll-slash-smile and she gives me the “Oh God, I hear ya sister” grin and I answer with an “I used to vow I’d never push one of these friggin’ things” face and she nods with an “I wish they gave out samples of wine here” look that makes me want to hug her. Then we heave our carts in opposite directions, but mine feels a little lighter. There is strength in numbers.

Aisle 20: There’s a giant delivery cart filled with boxes of eggs taking up half the aisle. It’s in the way of the yogurt I need to get, and I begin to huff at the stock boy before realizing that my car cart is actually slightly bigger. And the way I feel about him right now is how everyone else has felt about me for the last hour when they saw me coming up the aisle.

Checkout: My son yells the entire time we’re in line. Not words, just “Aaaaah!!!! Aaaaahhh!!! Aaaahhhh!!!” at the top of his lungs, a wordless “I’m mad as hell and I’m not gonna take it anymore” tirade. I try to talk to him. Scold him. Bribe him. Finally, I push the cart into the tiny checkout aisle and, since I can no longer see or reach him, I ignore him. Forced oblivion. Ahhhhh.

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1The Women at Work Professional Networking Group holds their luncheon at the Harbour Clubon the 2nd Wednesday of each month, 11:45am-1pm. Or catch 4th Wednesday coffees at Panera Bread, 5070 International Blvd., 8:30am-9:30am. [email protected]

Lisa Chewning, of Write-It-Right, facili-tates Saturday Flash Fiction workshops. A cross between a short story and a prose poem, flash fiction can help you hone your writing skills. 10am-12pm, $40/members, $70/non-members. c4women.org

It’s Louie’s Kids’ 7th Annual Yoga Marathon today! Salute the sun from 12-3pm in Marion Square with 108 sun salutations. louieskids.org/yoga

“Edgar Allan Poe: Back from the Grave” takes you into Poe’s mind in an original performance art event. Poe’s characters come to life within the passageways of Fort Moultrie. creativespark.org

Wanna try something new? How about a beginners fly fishing class with Capt. John Irwin of Fly Right Charters. $75 fee includes lunch and materials. Call 571.3899 or email [email protected].

The Avondale Business Association and Triangle Char and Bar host a 5K Run and Walk to benefit The Charles Webb Center. Register before the 20th and $30 gets you a t-shirt, entry to the after party. active.com

Don’t miss the 6th annual Read and Romp Family Benefit Event. Head to the SC State Museum in Columbia from 1-4pm today for fun, learning-based activities themed around children’s books. Best suited for kids ages 2-8. Adults free, kids $10. reachoutandreadsc.org

Children are invited to dress up their teddy bears and bring them to the Teddy Bear Picnic in Hampton Park. Enjoy crafts, activities, and live music by Sol Driven Train, 1-4pm. charlestonparks conservancy.org

The India Association of Greater Charleston hosts IndiaFest2010 in Marion Square, downtown. From 12-5pm, enjoy demonstrations, dance, music and food of India.

Join Mary Harris and Karole Turner Campbell for Poetry and Paint at the Open Studio Workshop. Materials provided, 10am-12:30pm, $5. Registration ends two days prior to class. The Meeting Place, 1077 East Montague Ave., North Charleston.

Florence Crittenton Programs of South Carolina hosts the inaugural Sugar & Spice Soiree tonight from 6:30pm-9:30pm at Alhambra Hall. Enjoy cocktails, hors d’oeuvres and dancing. Tickets $75/individuals, $125/couple and can be purchased by visiting florencecrittentonsc.org.

We’ll be at Third Wednesdays: Caveman Masculinity: Pop-Darwinist Constructions of Manhood. Why do we seem determined to believe that men are the way they are because of what happened in caveman times? Third Wednesday events are informal conversational salons and are open to the public. Noon, on campus in Stern Center 409.

Mikayla Mackaness and Jenny Bloom speak tonight at Redux’s Double Vision lecture series. Free, open to the public, and comes with a complimentary glass of wine from Social Wine Bar. Lecture begins at 6pm, 136 St. Philip St. reduxstudios.org

The League of Women Voters Charleston host District 1 congressional candidates for a one-hour forum. The audience will be able to submit written questions and distribute campaign literature, so come prepared! Begins at 7pm at Wando High School.

Tonight top Charleston chefs provide gourmet samplings at the 11th Annual Signature Chefs Auction to support the March of Dimes. marchofdimes.com/southcarolina

Do you remember Celia’s on Archdale Street? Then you won’t want to miss An Evening with Celia to benefit Saint John Catholic School. Tickets $20/person, 744.3901.

The Halsey Institute brings the 2010-2011 Southern Circuit Tour of Independent Filmmakers to Charleston. Free, 8pm, Simons Center for the Arts, room 309.

The Blue Bicycle Books Author’s Luncheon Series with local authors Josephine Humphreys and Beth Webb Hart. continues today from 12 to 2 pm. For tickets, 722.2666.

Virginia Postrel speaks on “The Role of Glamour in Political Economy” in the Wachovia Auditorium in the Beatty Center (5 Liberty Street, downtown). Free, 3:30-4:30pm.

Tonight is the full-production premiere of AWOL, written and directed by Joanna Crowell and performed at Charleston Ballet Theatre. The play is based on interviews with Iraq war resisters and veterans.

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Ina Garten’s new Barefoot Contessa book, How Easy Is That? comes out on the 26th. She promises it’s full of easy-peasy recipes with few ingredients, while still maintain-ing wow-factor.

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Jeff, and I fly to Hawaii to begin our stint as kiteboarders, it occurs to us that knowing how to fly a kite might

be useful. “Oh well,” I say, “I sus-pect we will both be naturals.” We spend the entire 10-hour flight speculating as to what

awe-inspiring tricks we will have mastered after six days of lessons. After landing in Maui, we check into

the hotel and take a quick glance at the beach and pool area. We scoff at the tour-ists sipping cocktails from coconuts, reading trashy magazines between naps, and staring at the water from underneath their oversized umbrellas.

“How cliché,” I say, shaking my head. “Imagine how boring their postcards must be! ‘Today, I avoided any new life experiences and drowned myself in weak piña coladas. Tomorrow, if I feel up to it, I may dip my toe into the swimming pool. What an adventurous life I lead!’”

Jeff nods in agreement. “It’s like they’re not even trying to impress their friends and family.”

The day before my husband,

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Jami Bonyun earned an M.S. in Mathematical Finance in preparation for her career as a humor writer. She lives in Austin, TX, with her husband.

Pro Kiters

It’s true that Jeff and I are competitive when it comes to acquiring life experiences. Lately, it’s become increasingly difficult to top our more ad-venturous friends. A few years ago, it was scuba diving, elephant training in Thailand, and psy-trance parties in India. These days, it’s spelunking, Arctic dog sled expeditions, and illegal base jumping.

We arrive at Kite Beach for our first lesson and gawk at the kiters effortlessly maneuvering their giant kites while gliding across the water on their tiny boards, doing back flips and 360s, and jump-ing 30 feet into the air. Our private instructor, Dylan, skips over to introduce himself. Sporting a floppy sun hat and a perma-nent smile, he’s one of those overly cheerful individuals who I find unnerving since you can never figure out why they’re so damn happy (usually Jesus or drugs). He is ecstatic to get us fitted with equipment. He offers us helmets, but we adamantly refuse; helmets are intended for fearful, unath-letic beginners who will inevitably injure themselves or others. We sign a series of waivers, and I try to ignore the fact that their world-class kite-boarding school is operated out of the back of a van.

Suited up in harnesses that attach us to the kite, we spend day one on land, learning the basics of kite flying. Since Jeff and I are sharing a kite, we take turns trying to impress Dylan and secure star-pupil status. At one point, another beginner shreds a thousand-dollar kite on some bushes, much to the frustration of his instructor. I snap a quick photo to document his failure.

On day two, we graduate to body-dragging in the water. One at a time, Dylan sends us into the ocean to fly the kite back and forth while simply holding onto the board. It sounds easy enough, but the kite has a mind of its own, and it proves challenging to maintain your grasp on the board while being violently dragged face-first through the water. After my second turn, I vomit salt water and immediately update my Facebook status to explain how hardcore I am.

On day three, I quit twice before noon, but I’m only half-serious. We practice putting the board on our feet while floating on our backs and simultaneously flying the kite with one hand. Once our feet are secured into the footstraps, the idea is to dive the kite with enough force to yank us into a standing position. The sheer elation that comes from standing is abruptly followed by an unpleasant and disorienting crash as the kite changes course. I finally see the point of those helmets. By the end of the lesson, I have perfected the face plant and ridden maybe 20 feet standing up on the board. That’s still 10 feet further than Jeff, who pouts inces-santly and complains to Dylan that I am receiving an unfair amount of instruction time.

On day four, Dylan quits, claiming that we are “bumming him out” with our negative attitudes. He accuses us of “not having fun” and sug-gests we pursue a less demanding activity. “Have you tried snorkeling?” he asks with a deadpan expression. I struggle to keep my composure after such a slap in the face. “Does anyone actually have fun climbing Mount Everest?” I argue. Dylan eventually agrees to continue with the lesson, but only if we promise to be more laid-back.

I show up on day five flaunting my new mellow attitude, responding to everything with a shrug and a “whatever, man.” I keep this up until I lose control of my kite on a bad run and hurtle past the designated safe area toward the rocks. Under duress, I revert to my true nature, alternat-ing between crying and yelling profanities as I trail helplessly behind my stubborn kite. Dylan, the optimist, continues to smile at me from the beach and initiates a series of nonsensical hand gestures. I consider giving him the finger. Jeff, on the other hand, recognizes my hysteria and dives into the ocean to rescue me. Although I appreciate the gesture, my white knight swims at an agonizingly slow pace. After watching him doggy-paddle in my general direction for a few interminable seconds, I take matters into my own hands and pull the emergency cord to cut myself loose. The kite, freed from its screaming six-foot anchor, crashes onto the rocks. I swim back to shore and stomp through the crowd of concerned onlookers. One of them snaps a photo to document my failure.

Although Dylan manages to recover our kite, my near-death experi-ence puts a damper on the rest of the lesson. On day six, the wind dies, and all lessons are canceled. Jeff and I are both relieved, although neither of us will admit it. We spend the day on the beach, drinking piña coladas and doing absolutely nothing. Drunk and happy, I fall asleep and dream about our next big trip...tracking chimpanzees in Tanzania.


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time I was born, was a crotchety old biddy with hair that came out in large clumps. Before I learned to walk, the carpet in our one-bedroom apartment was covered in soft, grey fur balls—irresistible after a supper of Gerber mashed peas. If cat hair is indeed indigestible, my stomach is probably so well-lined with downy fur that you could gut me and make a nice winter coat.

Looney never liked me much, so I amused myself eating fur until the day a stray tabby appeared on our doorstep.

“Look, Mom! She’s got a tail!” Even as a four-year-old, my powers of perception were exceptionally sharp.“Yes, Bree, she does.”“Let’s call her Tail-er!”Hence, Taylor was christened as the newest addition to the family.

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It wasn’t long before the other neighborhood strays got the same idea, and our front porch became a kind of revolving door for the bruised and beaten. We were living in a rough part of Dallas when gang warfare was at its height. When Bloods and Crips weren’t shooting each other in the alley behind our house, they were clearly beating the shit out of their pets.

Limping calicos, tailless kittens, alley cats with mange—all staggered up to 222 N. Rosemont for some solidarity and Meow Mix. My mother was a generous spirit, but she drew the line at communicable diseases. The truly sickly specimens were ushered on with a gentle prod, only to be replaced by the next band of battered pussies from the ’hood.

Over the next few years, we moved in and out of the ghetto until we finally landed in an upscale part of town, where we were promptly brand-ed with a scarlet “R”—Renters. Despite our stigmatized social status, we couldn’t help but notice that the quality of strays had improved. Three-legged tomcats had been replaced by Turkish Angoras with entitlement issues. My mother still fed them, unable to ever deny help to an animal in need. And slowly, subtly, they began to inch their way beyond the front porch and into our living room.

That’s about the time I noticed something strange. The number of cats we owned at any given time was inversely related to my mother’s serotonin levels. Only two cats? She was relatively happy. Three or four cats crowded into the kitchen for a Friskies feast? Bad news, Dr. Phil.

It was undeniable. The day I found my mother hunched in a ball by the clothes dryer, unable to get up, we were offering asylum to at least five strays. When Taylor’s first litter of kittens came, she cried for days. The morning she rang her fiancé to call off their engagement, I noticed four unfamiliar furry faces peeking out from behind a pillow.

I struggled with basic cause and effect. Was it the cats causing the depression, or the depression causing the cats?

“Mom?” I ventured, while scrubbing vomit stains out of the rug. “May-be it would be easier if we, you know…had fewer pets.”

“What?”“Maybe it’s better to just have two cats. Like we used to.”“Less stressful?” She stared at me like I’d just proposed we lop off her

left breast and donate it to UNICEF. “My cats make me happy,” she said, smacking her thighs with her palms.

My mother has a habit of doing this—slapping her hands down on her thighs to emphasize a point. It’s one of those tics that start to wear on you when you’ve known someone an entire lifetime, like when they chew too loudly. Which, incidentally, she also does.

“Okay,” I said, throwing my hands up in surrender. “We’ll keep the cats.”

I was beginning to understand that, in many ways, my mother preferred cats to people. They were less complicated, more unconditionally loving, and in spite of the nuisance of cleaning the litter box, it was a whole lot easier dealing with their shit.

Not long after our conversation, she had the living room chair reuphol-stered in cats. Not real cats—she wasn’t skinning the neighbor’s pets during manic episodes. Instead she pored over fabric samples and finally chose a pattern with dozens of life-sized American shorthairs. Now, when we had company, they were forced to sip their Franzia while balancing uneasily on 50 pairs of embroidered yellow eyes.

“I just love your…decorating,” guests would say. “Thank you!” my mother would beam. “I still have a swatch of the

fabric if you’re interested.” “Oh! Well…”The guest would grope desperately for an excuse. “Bill

would never let me reupholster the couch. Not in this economy! If only I could. I do so admire your…creativity.”

My mother got a lot of compliments on her creativity. Most of them came when she wore her Wicked Witch of the West leggings, which had horizontal black and chartreuse stripes like a prison uniform that acciden-tally wound up with a green sock in the wash. I have a Halloween picture of the two of us, my mother in those leggings and a witch costume. She’s hold-ing Looney Tunes, who is wearing a miniature witch hat, and I’m standing in front of her with black-eyeliner whiskers painted on my face. Looney is dressed like my mom, and I’m dressed like Looney. I think, if I had to pin-point the first time I had a sneaking suspicion that my mother wished she’d actually given birth to a kitten, that would be the moment.


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and the background noises fade, the peripheral colors swirl. He has a chessboard tucked under his arm and wears bright red sneakers; has paint stains

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Normal is a dirty little word.It’s not Aaron’s chessboard that gets you, or the fact that he buys you a beer

with three neatly packed rolls of pennies. The hook is the walk through the city after hours, the crazy full moon, and how pleasantly surprised you are when this shiny new boy says, “Meow.”

Don’t get too excited. It will never be as good as it is tonight. You will spend long, nauseous days wishing for a call. You will laugh nervously when he hits on your roommate, who at the time is wearing a mud mask and a stained Bel Biv Devoe shirt.

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When it ends without really ending—you taking his bus hopefully, but hiding when you see him at the Mini Mart—you journal yourself into a self-awareness headache and hate yourself for turning to pajamas and ice cream. Such a cliché.

You need a break from Boston, so you run home to Mommy in California. You get a tan. You hang out at the Santa Monica Color Me Mine. The staff tells you that you’re really good at dots. Soon, you’re known as “Dot Girl.”

A boy walks into a bar,

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Jen Rognerud lives in Minnesota with her two kids, a cat named Georgie, and a man who smells quite nice. She is currently working on her first novel.

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At night, you eat Mexican food and watch Frasier with your mom. You get on her computer to check out this thing called the World Wide Web. Everyone’s talking about it. Maybe it’s time to get on board.

You end up in a chat room. You talk to a few guys—a young accountant who loves Britney Spears, an “unhappily married” newlywed who’s eager to talk dirty and an IHOP waiter from Branson, Missouri, who also happens to be in L.A. visiting his folks.

You’d like to meet this guy from the country music capital of the world, but unfortunately, you’ve told him that you look like Tiffani-Amber Thiessen. The one picture you scanned and sent was taken by a skilled photography student who shot you from the top rung of a tall ladder. The flattering shot from above (which will eventually become ubiquitous on something called Facebook), has given him a mighty tall glass of false hope.

Back in Boston, you go balls out and decide to try actual internet dating. The first guy you meet is Perry, who invites you to his place for a drink. A

few years from now this will all seem really shady, but for now there are no Dateline specials on internet predators. This isn’t even considered pathetic. Not quite; not yet.

Perry has a large piece of antique film equipment in his living room. He calls it “a really sexy machine.” Brother. Good thing you brought Yahtzee. You have decided that you will bring Yahtzee on your dates with strangers, to shake things up if there’s a lull in conversation.

Next is Jordan, who you eagerly meet at a North End bakery for cappuc-cino and biscotti. His long bangs are pushed back with what is clearly a girl’s headband, and he talks slowly and endlessly about Chinese astrology. Even though you’re drinking espresso, you fall asleep. He nudges you awake and says, “So Jen, what inspires you?” Enough said.

You communicate with Sean by phone for about a month before you meet. He’s funny and natural and you feel optimistic. You even leave Yahtzee at home for the first date. Things are just as easy in person as they were on the phone, but you spend the majority of the night trying to figure out if you’re attracted to him.

You notice that his glasses are crooked—broken, actually. Maybe it’s the dim neon lighting of the dive bar, but you could swear that they’re also mauve. He confesses that he’s wearing his mom’s. And they’re taped.

Jen, I know that you’re lonely, but do not kiss the guy who shows up to meet you with his mom’s glasses—taped. Okay? Have another Guinness. That’s probably wise.

Three beers later and you’re making out in the corner booth. You’ve man-aged to convince yourself that you like him and you keep up this act for three more dates. He shows up in the lady glasses every time and inevitably, the two of you play a lot of Yahtzee.

You return to the chat rooms and strike up a friendship with Stephen King. Not that Stephen King, Stephen King the software developer from the U.K. He calls you Tiggy and sends pink roses on your birthday.

While planning a business trip to Florida, Stephen asks you if he should “pop up to Boston for a week to give it a go.” You must admit it’s a pretty picture—knocking around Manchester with this bloke, eating fish and chips and adopting a sloppy accent. You know, like Madonna, or Gwyneth.

You meet him at the airport and escort him back to his hotel. Stupid, stu-pid girl. You’re lucky that he’s a nice guy. You’re lucky that your big life story doesn’t end with you chopped up into little bits.

Later that afternoon, good old stinky Aaron gives you a call. He wants you to come over to help him make chutney. You fight it by holding hands with the Brit and playing Yahtzee ‘til your fingers chafe. In desperation, you take things to the next level: Scattergories.

Stephen leaves the U.S. with one friendly kiss and a heartbroken slouch. Before he goes, he buys you a Nintendo. You shouldn’t take it. It will make you feel guilty for years. But you really love video games…

After you’ve played Mario Kart for about five hours, you call Aaron’s work. Naturally, he works at an arcade. You make plans for later that night.

In his slanted bedroom with the bright yellow walls, you wear clown wigs, roll pennies and meow along to songs. The moon is full, of course, and you’ve never seen it so close. Aaron turns off the lights and you stand at the window, tucked safely into his toxic armpit. He starts talking about science and phenom-enon. He tries to explain why the moon is alarmingly big tonight, why it takes up the whole sky.

Then he asks how your roommate is doing.Shoot, fool moon. Makes you give in to this weirdo every time. Baby girl,

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At this very moment, a blonde toddler in a day care center somewhere in America cries inconsolably because Billy blacked out the eye of her new Barbie doll with a Magic Marker and Sasha got apple juice at snack time while she got pineapple instead. In a sun-drenched backyard, a four-year-old in a lopsided baseball cap is having a meltdown because the tip of his squirt gun just broke and his mother couldn’t find his Batman t-shirt in the clean laundry this morning. And in a

bustling city, at a linen-covered table in a pleasantly crowded bistro in the nicer section of town, a businessman revs himself into a full-blown tantrum because the patrons next to him got their Caesars and breadsticks before he did.

Dining out, like flying, has a mysterious effect on previously civilized Homo sapiens. Earlier in the day, they were reviewing important policy memos with colleagues or mesmerizing audiences in an auditorium or changing their oil and paying their phone bills like reasonable adults. But mere moments after exchanging pleasantries with the maitre d’, the same people can be observed wailing, red-faced, because the much-anticipated Chilean sea bass arrived with a side of potato gratin instead of mashed.

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Eat, Pay, Leave

The confounding secret known to waitpersons everywhere is that while a small portion of the population actually comes to a restaurant intending to enjoy a meal, the rest arrive armed with an arsenal of unresolved stuff that should have been brought up in therapy. They wish to be coddled, in-structed and left alone, all at the same time. They want to fight, be noticed and be invisible. They long to impress and humiliate. They want to eat dessert without actually eating dessert. They would love to get drunk, get famous, or at the very least, have the chef write off their check because the medium-rare steak had a few peppercorns on top.

I’m amazed when I remember my parents instructing me as a teenager not to overtip.

“It’s a sign of poor breeding,” said my mother. “Waiters look down on you. Overtipping is offensive—they resent it.”

By age 21, when I’d waited tables on and off for five years, I knew I’d never heard such a preposterous lie in all my life. There is no such thing as too large a tip unless someone plans to leave you the entire family inheri-tance after he eats.

A waitress or waiter must be so much more than a server. She must hear the lonely confession of the guy who was just stood up by his date at table nine and grant him absolution. She must play umpire to the two children throwing drinking straws, napkins and wood-backed menus at one another while their parents sip martinis. No matter how busy the dining room, she must find time to act as a marriage counselor to the silent couple in the corner who glare at each other over bowls of French onion soup, and referee the three guys wrestling one another for the onion rings without getting her arm broken. She must hasten with bar towels and soda water to soothe the hysterical matron whose blouse is now covered with Burgundy “accidentally” spilled on her by her daughter-in-law. A competent waitperson must produce Band-Aids, Tylenol, crayons, Prozac, ice chips and extra Béarnaise sauce on a mo-ment’s notice. She must call upon the saints to help her conjure up a graceful smile as the leering bachelor party who filled her section all night leaves her 10 bucks on a $200 dinner tab.

As pleasant as it might be to get divorced and fly off to Italy, India, and Bali, á la Elizabeth Gilbert, one needn’t invest all that time and expense in the name of spiritual development, especially if one doesn’t have a book contract in hand. For every devotee sitting cross-legged on a mat in a Buddhist ashram or hiking up a Tibetan mountainside, her counterpart in America is right now balancing four hot entrees on a tray and wondering how to break it to table 12 that another diner just got the last order of mahi-mahi. Waiting tables offers an accelerated spiritual path for those courageous enough to embark upon it, besides which there are almost always free leftovers after your shift.

As a waitress, you will discover within yourself reserves of patience, restraint, and kindness, when the loudmouth CEO sends his pasta back twice, just for fun, and you refrain from stabbing him with a fork. You will examine aspects of your own nature against the intriguing backdrop of a culture of greedy gluttons who can’t believe you actu-ally expect them to choose between a salad and two sides with their filet mignons and baked potato. You will marvel at the complexity and diversity of human nature before you, including those persons who believe “quiche” is pronounced “quickie” and others who would like a doggie bag in which to stow the remains of their hot fudge sundae, the leftover butter, as well as all the unused packets of Sweet ‘n Low. Res-taurant employment will teach you the art of balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence, once you realize that the dash-ingly handsome man who cornered you near the cash register was only flirting with you to make his girlfriend furious. Your faith in God will be restored when the cranky old lady at table two, who threatened to complain about you to the manager, mistakenly leaves you a 30 percent tip because she couldn’t find her reading glasses.

When you come to the end of your path waiting tables, or to the end of your wits, or both, you will have gained an inner wealth that can never be taken away—which is a marvelous thing since the paycheck just really will not cut it. And you, unlike so many others, will have inside your heart the secret key to being welcomed no matter where you find yourself in the world, a truth at once simple and profound: Eat. Pay. Leave.


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“Remember the ladies…If particular care and attention is not paid to the ladies, we are determined to foment a rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any laws in which we have no voice or representation.”

Abigail Adams, in a letter to husband John Adams, Second President of the United States

I don’t know about you, but I think we could use some ‘fomenting’ right about now in our country.I know that the economy and wars and natural disasters are hugely important; however, I’m not

feeling the love for the whole issue of women’s equality these days. I applaud the regular attention being given to women in countries like Afghanistan and the Congo, but am saddened that here in the United States, we seem to have backed off of the fight for treating women equally.

What happened to the Equal Rights Amendment? Why has the Paycheck Fairness Act not passed in the Senate? Lawmakers in the House said it would strengthen the Equal Pay Act of 1963 and also allow women to receive the same benefits for sex-based pay discrimination that are currently available to those discriminated against based on race and national origin. Women now make up half the American workforce, but they still haven’t managed to achieve pay equity. Women must work more than 16 months to earn what men make in 12 months—for the same job. They earn 77 cents for every dollar earned by their male counterparts. According to the AAUW, over a working lifetime, the disparity between men’s and women’s wages costs the average woman and her family $700,000 to $2 million in lost pay.

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Paycheck discrimination hurts families who lose out on badly needed income. With so many women now supporting their families, unequal pay leads to unequal wealth in ways that affect the entire family. There is less money to pay bills, less income to qualify for a mortgage, less money available to send children to college. The effects ripple through our culture.

What about having a voice and representation? Only 17 percent of the US Congress is female, compared to 42 percent in Nordic countries, or in Rwanda where more than 50 percent of the national parliament is female! Worldwide, the US is ranked 90th in women elected to national bodies…tying us with Turkmenistan. (Fun fact: in my home state of South Carolina, we are ranked 50th in the nation in terms of the number of women elected to our state legislature.)

Here’s the real kick in all of this—according to a 2007 Catalyst study of women on boards and commissions—women held 15 percent of corporate officer positions. The study also stated that Fortune 500 companies with the highest representation of women board directors attained significantly higher financial performance than those with the lowest representation of women board directors. It’s the economy, stupid.

Recent research shows that stronger than average results prevail at companies where at least three women serve on the board of directors. According to a report published by the National Association of Corporate Directors, when at least three women serve on a board or commission, “People talk differently when there are more women. It is much more conversational and less hierarchical, and as a result, all of the directors get better information. Having three women is ‘like three legs on a stool.’ Strong. It is clear you are not there because of gender but because of your talent.”

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