Communication: Parents and Children

Presentation by: Pang XiongCourse: Speech + Communication

What is communication?Communication is the process by which we use signs, symbols,

and behaviors to exchange information and create meaning (Floyd pg. 2)

Types of CommunicationThere are FIVE TYPES OF COMMUNICATION!!!

1. INTRAPERSONAL: conversations in your mind

2. INTERPERSONAL: between 2 people (research shows this is the most commonly used form)

3.SMALL GROUP: engaging with about 3-20 people

4.PUBLIC: speaking/writing to an audience larger than a small group

5.MASS: transmitted by media i.e. magazines, radio, newspapers, blogs, radio, websites

Floyd pg. 14

How is communication related to Parents and

Children? Communication meets relationship needs which are…essential elements we look for in relationships with other people

like… companionship, affection, relaxation, and escape.

Having a rich social life is one of the most powerful

predictors of overall happiness

(Floyd pg. 2)

Types of Parent-Child Relationship

Researchers found at least four attachment categories which describes the relationship a child has with his or

her parents

1. Secure relationships (the strongest type)

Child feels he can depend on his parent or

provider and knows that person will be there

when he needs support – knows what to expect

2. Avoidant relationships

Child has learned that depending on parents

won’t get them that secure feeling they want,

so they learn to take care of themselves.

3. Ambivalent relationships

Child has learned that sometimes their needs are

met, and sometimes they are not, seeking for

the feeling of security they sometimes receive.

4. Disorganized relationships

Child does not know what to expect from their

parents. They’ve learned that doing certain

things will make their parents do certain things.

(Purdue University)

Parent-Child Relationship continued…

Some characteristics children have in each type of relationship

(Purdue University)

Avoidant Relationship•seem too independent.

•often does not ask for help, but gets frustrated easily.

•may have difficulty playing with other children their age. •Biting, hitting, pushing, and

screaming more common •may be aggressive at times.

•don’t complain when the parents leave them, and

usually doesn’t greet parents upon return •seem to try to

care for themselves.

Secure Relationship

•plays well with other children his age.

•may cry when his mother leaves.

•will usually settle down if a friendly adult is there to comfort him.

•When parents pick him up from childcare, usually very happy to

see them.

Disorganized Relationship

•does things that seem to make no sense.

•sometimes speak really fast and will be hard to understand.

•very young children might freeze in their footsteps for no

apparent reason. • may have a hard time

understanding feelings of other children. •children playing with dolls might act out scenes that

are confusing and scary. •may be very hard to

understand• may seem very different from

day to day.

Ambivalent Relationship

•often cry, get frustrated easily•act younger than they really

are and may seem over-emotional. •love to be the

center of attention. •often very clingy. •get upset if people

aren’t paying attention to them • have a hard time doing things

on their own. •latch onto everyone for short periods of

time. •hard time letting parents go at the beginning of the day, • crying may last a long time.

Characteristics continue…

(Purdue University)

1. Family Communication affects adolescents identity formation and role-taking ability (Barnes and Olson)2. Academic Struggle 3. Self-Esteem may drop

What happens when there islack of

communication?

4. Change in Values5. Behavioral issues6. Self -doubt

and many more…

Parents are the single

biggest influence on their children.

As a parent, you’re the a teacher, provider, protector, support system and so much more, all wrapped into one.

(MLCC)

C O N C L U S I O N Toddlers, adolescents, teens, and even

adult children view their parents as role models. There will be days when

parents cannot mentally, emotionally, and physically

take it all, BUT if you do not give and show your children the essential

elements in relationship needs there are more negative consequences

then expected. Some days tend to be better than

others. Keep in mind the key to a successful and

healthy family – communication &

involvement.

Works CitedBe the Influence. Parents. Manitoba Liquor Control Commission (MLCC) and Addictions

Foundation of Manitoba (AFM), 2012. Web. July 10, 2012 <http://betheinfluence.org/whos_the_influence_parents.aspx>

Floyd, Kory. Communication Matters. New York: McGraw-Hill Higher Education, 2011. Print.

Howard L. Barnes and David H. Olson Child Development Vol. 56, No. 2, pp. 438-447 Family Development and the Child, Blackwell Publishing. April, 1985. Web. July 10, 2012. <http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/1129732?uid=3739736&uid=2134&uid=2&uid=70&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=47699126392807>

Lynette C. Magaña,Judith A. Myers-Walls, and Dee Love. Provider- Parent Partnership. Different Types of Parent-Child Relationships. Purdue University. 2006 – 2010. Web. July 10, 2012. <http://www.extension.purdue.edu/providerparent/family-child%20relationships/differenttypesp-c.htm>

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