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Strategies for Creating Success in College and in

Life

On Course

Chapter 2ACCEPTING PERSONAL

RESPONSIBILITY


CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKINGTHE LATE PAPER

Which person in the case study do you think is most responsible for Kim's failing grade in Psychology 101? Why?What choice(s) did Kim make that sabotaged her success in Psychology 101? What other choice(s) could she have made?Dive Deeper: Is there someone not mentioned in the story who may also bear responsibility for Kim's failing grade?


ACCEPTING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

• Do you accept personal responsibility for creating the life you want?

• Are you a successful student?Have you adopted a creator mindset by believing that

your choices create the outcomes and experiences of your life?

Have you mastered creator language, accepting personal responsibility for the results?

Do you make wise decisions, consciously designing the future you want?


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONSADOPTING A CREATOR MINDSET

• What is self-responsibility?

• Why is it the key to creating the life you want?


THE VICTIM MINDSET• A Victim Mindset causes people to believe that what

happens to them is out of their control, that their outcomes and experiences are determined by such things as luck and other people.

• Read the following statements and decide if they represent someone with a Victim Mindset.

I could never go to college. I don’t even know the first thing about getting started.

I wish the college wasn’t so far from my house. I can’t go to school until I get a car.

I have never filled out a college application, but I can go to the school and ask for help.

Yes

Yes

No


THE CREATOR MINDSET

• A Creator Mindset causes people to believe they control their own destiny by the wisdom of their choices (even though this belief is not always true).

• Read the following statements and decide if they represent someone with a Creator Mindset.

I have never been good in math, so I know I wouldn’t be able to pass the college entrance exam.

My best friend's party is this weekend. I think I will do my homework on Friday instead of on Sunday.

I used all my money paying rent and can’t afford to buy my textbooks. I may have to drop out of college.

No

Yes

No


Why did you miss class?


ROSA PARKS

• In 1955, Rosa Parks, an African American woman, was ordered by a bus driver to give up her seat to a white passenger. Parks refused and was arrested. A few days later, African Americans began a boycott of Montgomery buses that ended when the laws requiring segregation on public buses was lifted.

Break into groups and discuss how this story relates to having a Creator Mindset. Be prepared to give a brief summary of your group’s discussion.


Indicate the extent to which each of the following statements applies to you. Use the following scale:

1 = Strongly disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Slightly disagree

4 = Neither agree nor disagree 5 = Slightly agree 6 = Agree 7 = Strongly agree

1. When I get what I want it’s usually because I worked hard for it. 2. When I make plans I am almost certain to make them work.

3. I prefer games involving some luck over games requiring pure skill.

4. I can learn almost anything if I put my mind to it.

5. My major accomplishments are entirely due to my hard work and ability.

6. I usually don’t set goals because I have a hard time following through on them.

7. Competition discourages excellence. 8. Often people get ahead just by being lucky.

9. On any sort of exam or competition I like to know how well I do relative to everyone else.

10. It’s pointless to keep working on something that’s too difficult for me.


ACTIVITY: RESPONSIBILITY AND CULTURE

• Imagine an imaginary line from one side of the room to the other. This line represents a continuum of beliefs about personal responsibility. One end represents the belief that you determine your own destiny (internal locus of control). The other end represents the belief that fate or other people determine your destiny (external locus of control).

Your score places you on the line that best represents your beliefs.


RESPONSIBILITY AND CHOICEQUOTATION

• “When you make the shift to being the predominate creative force in your life, you move from reacting and responding to the external circumstances of your life to creating directly the life you truly want.” ~Robert L. Fritz

Write about a time when you either did or did not act as if you are the “predominate creative force in your own life.”

How did this choice affect your life?


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONMASTERING CREATOR LANGUAGE

• How can you create greater success by changing your vocabulary?


SELF TALK: THE INNER CRITIC

• The Inner Critic is the internal voice that judges us as inadequate, blames us for whatever is wrong in life, and can find fault with anything about us.

• How many times does the character makes an Inner Critic statement?


SELF TALK: THE INNER DEFENDER

• The Inner Defender judges, blames, complains, accuses, criticizes and condemns others. Write about a time that either you or

someone else made Inner Defender statements.

Break into groups and discuss your examples.

Also discuss: What lessons can you learn from these examples as it applies to the college environment?


SELF TALK

• Divide into groups and discuss how the Inner Critic and Inner Defender are similar and different? Examples of each.

• Be prepared to share your findings with the class.


SELF TALK: INNER GUIDE

• The Inner Guide seeks to make the best of any situation and knows that judgments do not improve difficult situations.

Give an example of when you faced a difficult situation and your Inner Guide helped you to make a wise choice.

What was the outcome or experience of your choice?


THE LANGUAGE OF RESPONSIBILITY

• Look over the qualities of Victim and Creator language in the chart below. What are some benefits of using Creator language?

Victim Language Creator Language

Focuses on weaknesses Focuses on how to improve

Makes excuses Seeks solutions

Complains Turns complaints into requests

Compares oneself unfavorably to others

Seeks help from those more skilled

Blames Accepts responsibility

Sees problems as permanent Treats problems as temporary

Repeats ineffective behaviors Does something new

Tries Does

Predicts defeat and give up Thinks positively and looks for a better choice


THE LANGUAGE OF RESPONSIBILITY

Change the following Victim language to Creator language

•Our classroom is so cold, I can’t even concentrate.I don’t want to be distracted by being cold, so I’ll bring an extra sweater to wear during class.

•My roommate bothers me every night and I can’t study. I know my roommate is going to want to talk when I get home, so I’ll study in the library before I leave campus.

•The gym is always so crowded that I can’t work out.The gym has been really crowded the last few times I went, so I am going to go at a different time and see if there are fewer people there then.

•No matter how hard I study, I’m just no good in chemistry. I find chemistry to be challenging, so I’ll go to the chem lab and find out if there’s a tutor who will help me.


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONSMAKING WISE DECISIONS

• How can you improve the quality of the decisions you make?

• How can you take full responsibility for the outcomes and experiences in your life?


THE WISE CHOICE PROCESS

• The Wise Choice Process is a 6 step decision making model that empowers you take full responsibility for creating the life you want.

Step 1: What is my present situation?

Step 2: How would I like my situation to be?

Step 3: What are my possible choices?

Step 4: What is the likely outcome of each possible choice?

Step 5: Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?

Step 6: When and how will I evaluate my plan?



1. What’s my present situation?(Identify the problem or difficulty.)

2. How would I like my situation to be?(Define my desired outcomes and experiences.)

3. What are my possible choices?(Without evaluating, make a list of options.)



4. What’s the likely outcome of each possible choice?(Missing information? Stop and get more!)

5. Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?(Make a promise to myself.)

6. When and how will I evaluate my plan?(Assess my results.)


THE WISE CHOICE PROCESS EXAMPLE

1. What’s my present situation?

I don’t have the $900 it will cost to get my car fixed, so I have to take the bus or ask people for rides wherever I go.

2. How would I like my situation to be?

I own a safe, reliable car so I can conveniently go where I want when I want.


1. Work extra hours at my job.

2. Make out a tighter budget; stop eating at restaurants.

3. Ask Chuck to give me a ride to campus.

4. Ask for a raise.

3. What are my Possible choices?

1. Earn more money but have less time to study.

2. Save money and have more time to study.

3. Save bus money and maybe develop a new friendship.

4. Might get more money for same amount of time, especially if I do jobs that others don't like to do.

4. What’s the likely outcome of each choice?



5. Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?By February 1st, I will develop a budget that willcut $125.00 off my monthly bills (including noteating at restaurants), I will ask my supervisorfor a raise, and I will ask Chuck for a ride tocampus until I get my car fixed. I will put allextra money into a savings account.

6. When and how will I evaluate my plan?By July 15th, I'll have at least $900 in my savings account and get my car fixed.



• Think of a problem or challenging situation you are now facing, and write out the steps of the Wise Choice Process.

Step 1: What is my present situation?

Step 2: How would I like my situation to be?

Step 3: What are my possible choices?

Step 4: What is the likely outcome of each possible choice?

Step 5: Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?

Step 6: When and how will I evaluate my plan?


PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY AT WORK

• If you took responsibility for choosing your ideal career, how could you get more information about possible career choices?

• Which of the following would be your first choice for getting information to help you decide on a career? Why?Seek part-time employment doing an entry-level

position in a particular career field.Talk to others presently in a career field. Research careers online.Take a career interest inventory.


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONCHANGE YOUR INNER CONVERSATION

• How can you raise your self-esteem by changing your self-talk?


THE CURSE OF STINKIN’ THINKIN’

A + B = C (Activating event + Beliefs = Consequences)

Activating Event

Belief Consequence

Which “internal

voice” does this sound

like?

Instructor didn’t show up for a meeting.

“Instructor thinks I am dumb. I’ll never finish college. I’m a failure.”

Got depressed and wasted the evening.

Which “internal

voice” does this sound

like?

Instructor didn’t show up for a meeting.

“Instructor wont help me. Instructor doesn’t

care.”

Got angry and spent the night

complaining to friends.


STINKIN’ THINKIN’ & STEREOTYPE THREAT

• Using A+B=C when faced with Stereotype Threat

Activating Event

Belief Consequence

Female student taking a math test.

Women are not good in math. What do you

think the consequence

would be in this scenario?

Female student gets anxious,

distracted and forgets

everything she studied.


DISPUTING IRRATIONAL BELIEFS

• Become familiar with your inner voice Dispute irrational beliefs dealing with the stereotype

threat that “women are bad in math.”

Offer evidence that your

judgments are wrong

Offer a positive explanation of the

problem

Question the importance of the

problem

Offer a plan to improve the

situation

I did pretty well in high school math and many women have great jobs using math skills

everyday.

When I excel in math, I’ll have fewer women to compete against for jobs.

I don’t have to be the smartest woman

in the class, I just have to continue to

learn more everyday.

What would be a good plan to improve the situation?

I’ll study every night, do all

homework, ask questions in class, go to tutoring, and see the instructor

during office hours.


QUICK REVIEW

• Identify each of the following as Inner Critic, Inner Defender or Inner Guide statements

I am failing English because the teacher doesn’t know how to explain things clearly.

My car has a flat tire. I’ll ask John if he can give me a ride to school tomorrow while the tire is being fixed.

I’m too clumsy and slow to be on the soccer team at school; they would laugh at me if I showed up to practice.

I know I won’t get the job I interviewed for; I have never been good at answering questions on the spot.

My math book is horrible, so there’s no way anyone can pass that course.

I know I have a habit of procrastinating, so I’m going straight home today and pay all my bills so I don’t incur late charges.

I know I stutter a lot when I get nervous, so I am going to practice my speech at least one hour every day.

My friend said he would buy my textbooks for class, but he didn’t. Now I’m going to fail and it’s all his fault.

Inner Defender

InnerGuide

InnerCritic

Inner Critic

Inner Defender

Inner Guide

Inner Guide

InnerDefender


QUICK REVIEW

• Identify each of the following as a Victim Mindset or as a Creator Mindset. I’ll never pass math. It’s just too hard.

My study group is a waste of time.

I have a meeting with my teacher to discuss how to improve my grades in English.

My coworkers like to gossip a lot; I need to stay to myself so I can get my work done.

My roommates yell a lot when the football game is on so I can never concentrate on my studies.

Victim

Victim

Victim

Creator

Creator


• People respond differently to certain situations. Identify each part of the “A + B = C formula”

QUICK REVIEW

Activating Event

Consequence

Belief

My instructor didn’t show up for a scheduled meeting.

I’m not sure what went wrong. Sometimes things just don’t turn out the way they were planned.

I need to reschedule with my instructor. Then, I am going to use this time to study for my history class and get ahead in my biology class.


ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Dominic Grasseth

What thoughts did Dominic change? What old classroom behaviors did Dominic also change?What choices could you make about your thoughts or classroom behaviors that would help you achieve your desired outcomes and experiences?

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WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: READING

• What four things are you Collecting when you read actively?

Key concepts

Main ideas

Secondary ideas

Supporting details


CHALLENGES WITH READING

• In groups, make a list of the biggest challenges you are having with reading assignments for your present courses?

What are the three most common reading problems identified by your group?


STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE READING:BEFORE READING

• You now know that Prior Learning, Quality of Processing and Quantity of Processing are crucial to learning. In groups, create a list of strategies you could

use to apply these three concepts before reading an assignment.

Review the next 2 slides and compare your results.



• Approach reading with a positive attitude.Attitude is the foundation of your success.

Get your mind in the mood to learn!

• Create a distributed reading schedule.Spread your reading over time. Cramming

leads to superficial and short-lived learning.

• Read when you’re most alert.Study during your mental peak each day.

Don’t study when you’re tired.

Quantity of Processing

Quality of Processing




• Read where you can concentrate.Minimize distractions.

• Review past readings.Make neural connections stronger

by connecting new information to what you already know.

• Preview before reading.Relate the new material to what

you have already learned.

Prior Learning


Prior Learning



• When you are previewing your reading, what should you be looking for?

BoldItalics

CAPITAL

LETTERS

? Questions ?

I. Table

II. Of

III. Contents

Summaries

summary at the end of

the chapter

Titles:Headings


STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE READING:WHILE READING

• What are some strategies you could use to decrease the amount of time you spend reading?Read in chunks.Concentrate on reading faster.Read for answers to questions on your list.



• How will looking for answers to specific questions help you while you read?

• How will writing new questions and answers that you discover while reading, improve your reading?



• If you had to read something about which you have no interest, what strategy could you use to avoid mindless reading?Look for something that is particularly

interesting to you.orLook for information that you could use.

In other words, read for IOUs (Interesting or Useful).

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