2. Patliavadana () Edition 1,2015 A Quarterly E-magazine from
Patli Urbanocrats Editorial... Dear Readers, In Sanskrit there is a
Shloka, YaTra NarYastU PujyaNte RaMante Tatra Devta It means, where
women is worship the god live at that place. This 1st issue of our
e-magazine Patliavadana is dedicated to women. If we will see the
history of India, the value of women in India is considered as half
of the person. In Hindu Culture, if we will talk about any Power
(Shakti), Education (Saraswati), Mon- ey (Laxmi) these all are
constituted in women. Our ancestors have given her a value without
which a man is totally incom- plete. Even till the current era the
mother is considered as first teacher of her child. Everywhere
women appear as first agent of development, progress in family,
society. Our team salute this women who work continuously not only
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Patli Urbanocrats S. No. Topic Page No. 1 Administration &
Society 1 2 , 2 3 GWRUnique Decentralized Solution (Clean India
Initiative) 5 4 O Little Flower 8 5 : 9 6 Short Stories 11 7 The
Battle of Looms 13 8 16 9 20 10 22 11 Women Empowerment 25 12 The
different shades of Indian Women 26
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Patli Urbanocrats 1 Administration & Society Administration,
though as old as society, has more or less been seen as insensitive
to woes of society. Ironically, administration was construed to
address ills of society. It ac- quired a mechanical character in
sequence of taking tough decisions for benefits of com- mon man.
This mechanical feature developed so much so that 19th century
thinker Max Weber defined administration as exercise of authority
& identified different form of le- gitimacy viz. traditional,
charismatic and legal. But certainly this exercise of authority
based on any form of legitimacy has yet not yielded any result.
World wars, terrorism, nax- alite movements bear evidence to this
fact. Ethnic violence & discrimination are existing even in
developed and intellectual societies. Analyzing these facts, it
would not be an exag- geration if we conclude the administration
and society are very closely interdigitised. A socie- ty
functioning on Me First notion can not have a selflessly serving
administration. Awareness of rights of downtrodden through
education has been imparted for so long. Yet, administrators have
on many occasions found themselves incapable of dealing with
poverty and allied problems. A young and energetic fresh graduate
enter bureaucra- cy with a lot of zeal. But we find them becoming
indifferent, rule-minded, delaying & ei- ther irresponsible or
too cautious as time nesses off, may be, as said by Merton, this is
trained incapacity. Bureaucracy socializes its incumbents to the
incapable and unmind- ful of the change. It provides a training
ground of incapacity. - Ankita Vats (She has completed B. Tech from
BIT, Patna Campus and is an UPSC aspirant) It would not be an
exaggeration if we conclude the administration and society are very
closely in- terdigitised. A society function- ing on Me First
notion can not have a selflessly serving admin- istration.
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Patli Urbanocrats 5 GWR AN UNIQUE DECENTRALIZED SOLUTION WHICH
SOLVE TWO KIND OF SOCIAL PROBLEM AT ONE GO (A REPORT) Sustainable
solution to Waste Problem World over a drive towards planting more
trees is on. India is not left far behind. The pace of urban and
rural plantation is commendable and has started showing its result
in visibly increased urban green cover as well. There is
horticulture, forest and other department is managing some of the
most beautiful green areas of India and around
metros/urban/semi-urban. With the green comes the challenge of
managing Green Waste. A huge amount of green waste is generated in
India every day. Leaves, grass, cuttings and other green waste
generated out of increasing green cover in urban areas, needs to be
managed in such a way that creates minimum pollution. But the
arrangements in this direction have been non-satisfactory till
date. There are strict rules against burning of green waste, but
the practice is evident at so many places including agriculture
waste being burnt rampantly. National Green Tribunal has also
started taking cognizance of the fact and has stressed more on the
proper disposal of the green waste. CPWD recently identified one
indigenous solution for managing its green waste GWR. This machine
is being experimented by CPWD Horticulture department for last 6
months in various waste conditions at first, and now, In Delhi,
CPWD and NDMC are using this solution in their gardens to manage
their green waste at source. The unit is really a great innovation
in managing the green waste just at source in decen- tralized
manner. The problem with green waste is the high volume and low
density. This makes the waste transportation a very costly affair.
Traditional approach of transporting the waste to landfill fails in
case of low density high volume waste as not being economically in
favour of the transporters. Hiring private transport system for the
same makes the cost for department higher. On site solutions are
the best viable options. But such solu- tion needs to ensure Takes
very less space Are non-polluting Dont use any chemical process or
burning Should be easily maintainable Should be cost economic with
higher/better ROI GWR took our notice on all such parameters.
Decentralization is the key here with very small size of the unit
at 9 x 9 x 9 (LWH) with less than 2 ton of weight. The unit is
capable of reprocessing up to 2 MTd of green waste on site. The end
product is a solid biomass with various usages, primarily in energy
and or- ganic manure. This unit is a one stop solution for Total
Elimination of the entire organic reject at the place of its
generation without any environmental side effects. It is a unique
solution of its kind in the world and Nokooda and ORM Green for
which patent application has been filled. Now the entire range of
solution is available with his new company at Clean India Ven-
tures (P) Ltd. New Delhi.
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Patli Urbanocrats 6 One of the trial units of GWR was installed at
Sai Mandir, Lodhi Road, which was inaugurated by the CM of Delhi,
Smt Shiela Dikshit on 8th May, 2013. Two operators and two helpers
were operated the machine. That machine was consuming up to 500 Kgs
of flowers. So the flowers that adorned the lord on a day are no
more thrown into the dust bin or in Yamuna River. The by-product
from the machine was Havan Samigri and Liquid Micro-nutrients
(Compost). In a month from the date of inauguration of the Temple
unit, the team was able to prevent above 15 MT of flowers from
being immersed in Yamuna and are now reaching other Temples as well
to install such solutions. CPWD and NMC using a higher version GWR
for the garden waste, that consumes not only dry leaves but also
all sorts of shrubs, branches of trees as thick as about 2.5
diameter. The machines are working presently at Budha Jayanti Park
of CPWD, and Lodhi Garen, Talkatora Garden, Nehru Park, and India
Gate purana quila nursery of NDMC areas. The by-product of this
machine is named UrjaStick (Fuel stick) that can be used for green
energy products. One such use is in the smokeless stoves. The cost
for cooking will be almost half compared to LPG. This can be a boon
for the BPL families and will surely ease the dependence on fossil
fuel sources. This Model of GWR unit can be used in any park where
a lot of green waste is generated. Unique thing that should be
discussed here is the sustainability factor. Once the capex is met
for the in- stallation of unit, the entire operation is
self-sustainable. The unit is capable of recovering the major part
of opex, such as cost of manpower, operation and maintenance all by
itself from the sale of by-products. Practically within 4 year and
half the capex spend by the buying agency is met in comparison to
the tra- ditional ways of waste management. The GWR units costs
from INR 8 lakhs to INR 48 lakhs for differ- ent models. One thing
is guaranteed that this solution is lower in cost than any existing
methods of disposal and also avoids the cumbersome process of
transportation of organic waste to the landfills on the outskirts
of the city and avoids a lot many health problems apart from
reducing the carbon footprints. It also reduces the congestion on
the roads from the waste trucks. Every unit installed by the
municipalities or government civic bodies, creates new jobs in
green sector and are self-sustainable. The series of solution are
for Vegetable Mandi waste, Hotel waste and cow dung waste as well.
The demonstrated capabilities of the machine are certainly
encouraging and we should see a new model of decentralized waste
management for organic sources taking shape in India very soon.
Sustainable Clean Cooking Solution Furthermore, this solution is at
one side helps to manage the waste at source, and convert into by-
products as fuel stick form, therefore at another side, it helps in
clean cooking which is again solution for the better health benefit
of our rural and BPL woman, who still cooking with traditional
means. United Nation Foundation has awarded the company for
providing clean cooking solution in 2014. One of the world's
biggest but less known problems is daily exposure to toxic smoke
from open fires. In the beginning of 1990s, there was more focus on
Indoor Air Pollution (IAP) and its effects on health due to
traditional cooking. Growing scientific evidence over last 15 years
has shown that IAP contributes not only to respiratory illness but
also include cataracts, child pneumonia, heart disease, cancer and
low child birth weights to pregnant mothers. Furthermore, thousands
more fall sick with illnesses which could be avoided by adoption of
clean burning fuels in efficient cook-stoves.
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Patli Urbanocrats 7 Toxic smoke exposure is high for women and
young children who spend most of their time near open fires or
school-children may try to study by weak light of cooking flame.
Open fires and typical wood-fired cook -stoves emit Carbon Monoxide
(CO) and other noxious fumes which are up to 100 times higher than
WHO recommended limits [WHO, 2011]. About half of all pneumonia
deaths under the age of five in developing countries happen due to
smoke exposure. Research has shown that even without improving
combustion efficiency of the cook-stoves, addition of chimney to
stoves can help direct smoke exposure reduction but it provides no
environ- mental benefits and limited health impacts. Open fires
from cook-stoves has another risk of burns faced by poor households
depending on kerosene, clay cook-stoves or unstable metal usage
which contributes an estimate of 300,000 burn deaths/year. Young
enviroprenurs are encouraged to contact their ULB, Mu- nicipal
authority, or government civic bodies to install the prob- lem of
waste, and they can utilize the potential of by-products in
sustainability mode. Woman self-help group are encouraged to spread
this solution around their locality with assured profit gain, as
well as this solution will be helpful to provide employment to
unemployed youths from EWS and SWS around Urban, semi urban and
rural areas. - Manoj Pathak www.cleanindiatech.com (Sri. Manoj
Pathak is an innovator and founder of NoKooda, ORM & Clean
India Tech.) To connect please contact on
[email protected] According to WHO estimate, smoke
exposure from traditional cooking practices is fifth worst risk
factor in developing coun- tries for diseases, causing around two
million deaths every year which exceeds deaths from tuberculosis or
malaria.
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Patli Urbanocrats 8 O Little Flower O Little Flower, Your Life Is
not Short... You have to Bloom, You have to grow, You have to
spread your scent all over around. O little Flower.. Your life in
not too short... Be Happy, Be Strong... Dont allow yourself to get
plucked... Your beauty has to grow more... Your sweetness has to
increase too... You have to share happiness... O Little Flower,
Your life is endless... In memories, in heart of people... You can
never die... As your life is very long - Avinash Kumar Secretary,
Patli Urbanocrats (He is an Engineering Graduate from Nagpur
University and completed his post graduation in Management from
Pune University. From his college life he has been active in social
work and has worked with many social enterprise in Bihar either via
providing online support or as full timer. Currently he is working
on project of soft skill development through his new venture in
keeping mind the lack of skills in employees and student of Bihar
what he has found during his work dura -tion with other firms. He
is keen to develop a network of So -cial Enterprises, so that one
can compliment other in field where they lack to make social work
more sustainable. In Bihar, he see lack of interest among student
class to volun -teer for social work, he wanted to develop a pool
of volun -teers who are interested in social work but dont find any
platform for the same. )
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Patli Urbanocrats 11 Short Stories 1. Who is Happy A crow lived in
the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw
a swan. "This swan is so white," he thought, "and I am so black.
This swan must be the happiest bird in the world." He expressed his
thoughts to the swan. "Actually," the swan replied, "I was feeling
that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has
two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in
creation." The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot
explained, "I lived a very happy lifeuntil I saw a peacock. I have
only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors." The crow
then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people
had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow
approached the peacock. "Dear peacock," the crow said, "you are so
beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When
people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the
happiest bird on the planet." The peacock replied, "I always
thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet.
But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have
examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow
is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days I have
been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam
everywhere." That's our problem too. We make unnecessary
comparisons with others and become sad. We don't value what the
Divine has given us. This all leads to the vicious cycle of
unhappi- ness. 2. THE TRIPLE FILTER TEST In ancient Greece,
Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day, an
acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, Do you know what I
just heard about your friend? Hold on a minute, Socrates replied.
Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to
take a moment and filter what you are going to say. The first
filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are
about to tell me is true? Well, no, the man said, Actually, I just
heard about it and All right, said Socrates, So you dont really
know if its true or not. Now let us try the second filter, the
filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my
friend something good? Umm, no, on the contrary So, Socrates
continued, You want to tell me something bad about my friend, but
you are not certain its true. You may still pass the third test
though, because there is third filter left-the filter of
Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be
useful to me? No, not really. Well, concluded Socrates, If what you
want to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor even useful, why
tell it to me at all? CHARACTER IS WHAT YOU DO WHEN NOBODY IS
WATCHING. - Sachin Kumar (Sachin Kumar, is currently working with
Ambuja Cement as Marketing Personnel after completing his
management degree from Pune.)
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Patli Urbanocrats 13 THE BATTLE OF LOOMS Recently, there has been
much noise over the governments plan to repeal the Handloom
(Reservation of Articles for Production) Act, 1985 which affords so
called protection to traditional handloom weaves from being copied
by power loom competitors. Well..!!! let me correct my earlier
statement. In fact, there was not any noise regarding the same.
There was not even a whisper of such an action plan in the public.
Everything was being done discretely behind the doors evading any
public attention. The discussion, debates, meetings and
consultation were being carried in nexus with the powerloom lobby
with no representation from the handloom sector. The outcome of
such discussions would have been obvious. Had it not been the
intervention from the veteran Bollywood actor and present BJP MP
Kirron Kher in parliament, the Handloom Act would have been
repealed in oblivion. The intervention was followed by a social
petition on change.org which garnered support from 15000 peo- ple
in a week. Although, 15000 was not a big number considering the
Indian population and the work force engaged in handloom sector,
however, it did pressurize the government. The government was
forced to is- sue a clarification in this regards in the
myth-reality format (http://pib.nic.in/newsite/mberel.aspx?
relid=121281). While traditional handloom was just saved from
disaster but it gathered little attention. The mainstream media was
bustling with Salman Khans bail as it drew more TRP for them. They
trailed him from his house to court reporting every seconds
details, repeating them incessantly throughout the day as if it was
a national emergency. I guess the marginalized weavers were not
capable to draw the same TRPs for them. Anyways thats not the issue
of this post. The handloom sector is feeling complacent about the
battle being won. No doubt there has been great effort from
handloom protagonist to safeguard the weavers interest. But I feel
the government step was only an act to postpone the issue for some
time. The powerloom lobby will again rise and it might even succeed
next time. The depleting handloom community may not be able to hold
grounds against the rising powerloom lobby next time. As per the
report, there has been almost 50% downfall in handloom units since
1988 and around 35-40% fall on labors depending on handloom. With
such statistics, the handloom sector is in greater danger than
ever. The sword is still dangling over the handloom sector and the
powerloom is just waiting to strike again at right moment. There
has been numer- ous attempts in last 3-4 years to dilute the
provision of Handloom Act. But with or without the Act, the
violations are still taking place. In fact, many of us including
myself was not even aware of existence of such as Act prior to this
debacle.
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support to petition for protection of handloom on change.org. So
what step could be taken to protect our handloom sector- AWARENESS
In spite of being culturally rich country, the present generation
is devoid of knowledge of the same. I never knew about the
handlooms, different styles of weaving, the processes involved
until I developed interest in it. It is ironical that we are forced
to learn calculus, algebra, integration etc. in our school
curriculums which does not have any use in our daily life. But
things such as knowledge about handloom which can change lives are
not given attention. Even if the children do not choose it as their
profession, they will at least be aware of it and promote it by
using it in daily use. Thats enough for saving the handloom sector
from perishing. The craftsmen/artisans desire appreciation,
integrity and livelihood for their work and noth- ing more.
IMPLEMENTATION The biggest problem of our nation faces is proper
implementation of legislations. Here the law is only for weaker
while the powerful exploits it. The power loom lobby is incessantly
violating the Handloom Act throughout the country but there has
been no action. I have never come across or heard any case
registered for violation of the Handloom Act. So what are we
fighting for -- an Act which has never been implement- ed. Its
similar to a weapon without ammo. Further, the Act is find its
roots back in colonial era. There is a need to review and
reenergize the Act in terms of present situations. The Handloom
sector has been almost forgotten from government priorities with
minimum schemes and policies being formulated for its promotion. In
fact, there has been instances where government itself had acted
against the handloom sector. Earlier, the bed-sheets used in
railways were required to be from Khadi/Handloom, however, later it
shifted to mill made products. Still there are laws and directives
for government department to use handloom products only but they
are seldom imple- mented either for lack of awareness or intent.
The not so culturally rich countries (in comparison to In- dia)
like Thailand and Laos are promoting handloom products by using
them in school, offices, cultural events etc. The question that
troubles me is why cant we do it? Our rich cultural heritage has
merely re- duced to as trophy to be showcased during Republic Day
and Independence Day. MAKE IN INDIA CAMPAIGN Recently, the nations
stalwart PM, Narendra Modi, introduced Make in India campaign. But
I dont be- lieve it had any relevance to the handloom sector.
Considering the legacy which the PM carries, it was an invitation
for giant industrial conglomerates to start manufacturing in
India.
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Patli Urbanocrats 15 The Make in India campaign did not had
anything for handloom sector which lives by this slogan every day
since ages. There has been a constant neglect by the government to
this sector. Its high time the gov- ernment realize the same and
take some serious steps to restructure the whole handloom sector
and im- prove the conditions of weavers. WHY POWERLOOM VS. HANDLOOM
? Im still figuring out the question why there is a struggle
between the Powerloom and the Handloom. What prevents there
coexistence? The handloom sector is in no position to challenge the
reign of powerloom as far as market shares are concerned. The
powerloom lobby never so aggressively took steps to dilute Hand-
loom Act earlier. So whats causing this friction between them? I
believe that its an unending greed. The recent escalation in social
media which has portrayed handloom products especially sarees as a
luxury product has created this drift. There has been exorbitant
rise in demand for handloom and handicraft prod- ucts in foreign
market in last 5 years due to the digital revolution. The fight of
the powerloom is for that market share only. The power loom lobby
must understand that if a customer loves handloom products that
does not mean they hate power loom. The customer cannot in any
circumstances be entirely dependent on handloom. The power loom
will still dominate the customer preference for its wide variety
for much lower price. The handloom shall never become a threat for
it. The government has a greater role to play in this aspect.
INVOLVEMENT/ ENTREPRENEURIAL SUPPORT The most vital steps to
protect handloom is to garner support from masses and promote
entrepreneurial ecosystem for its growth and sustenance. The young
designers, artists, creators and entrepreneurs have to come forward
to rescue this dying sector. We cannot and should not rely only on
handful NGO who are striving towards this goal. Further, this
sector needs creativity in terms of designs, products, marketing
etc. in order to meet contem- porary styles and preferences of the
customers. - Kaushal (The writer is working with KANKS Legal
Services in Indirapuram, Ghaziabaad, UP)
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Patli Urbanocrats 25 Woman Empowerment Woman empowerment is all
about to have the rights of equal share of control over resources
in home, society, community and nation to gain power. As a Woman,
she has to face many things from born to death. As like if a child
born as a girl from that time, many protocols are applied for her
in many places as per different religion. Empowerment of Woman is
very essential and give the chance of power to think and act
freely, exercises choice and fulfil their potential as full and
equal members of society. Fortunately, I got the very relevant
atmosphere and family whom can respect and value for what Im, what
I think and what I want to do. But as I see around me its something
happen not really justify good for woman. In society there are many
cases we can observe that woman has to survive for living as they
are not provided education for live a better life, a married woman
has to bare violence from her in- laws for money, or somewhere I
observe woman is used to earn money instead of man for better life.
Is it a respectable matter for society which is the part of these
all shameful things? Woman is the great creation of god, god gives
her many responsibility as a daughter to help the family and get
proud to her parents, as a wife to take care and handle all the
matter of home and members, as a mother she has to develop the
ability in child and give them a great life. But woman is not
valued as man. But despite these all thing, I believe that
education must be provided to all women. By getting edu- cation
woman can understand better than uneducated person and the way of
thinking will be also changed if we have knowledge about the things
nearby us. So also for society welfare woman must be educated. For
that, we must help those girls who are not able to study. We should
provide them the facility of scholarship, books, stationary and
etc. In India, there are many places where girls are not allowed to
get education. For that type of area, we should spread awareness of
education for her better future. If we can start from only one
person, then it will also be good for woman empowerment. It will be
grateful if we can do a little thing for empowerment of woman. -
Monali Kakuva (Monali is from Gujrat, she is an engineer in
Computer Science and completed her degree from Gujrat Technical
University.)
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Patli Urbanocrats 26 The Different Shades of Indian Women The
Mother - Karuna Aunty. Thats how we often addressed her. The
adoring Karuna Aunty with her shy son. Her son, Amit, is appearing
for his 12th std boards. They avail from Muzzafarpur but Karuna
Aunty moved with her son to Patna leaving behind the comforts of
home to grant good education to her only child. Life has not been
so easy for her. Her husband suffers from paralysis and needs help
to do his day to day business. But another doting mother comes for
rescue. Karuna Anutys mother-in-law stays with her
differently-abled son while Karuna Aunty takes Amit to a better
place to fulfil his dream to be an IITian. But thats only the be-
ginning of her challenges. She shares the problems she faces in a
new city from apartment hunting to paying her infinite bills of
Amits tuition fee, grocery etc. Back at home she had support of her
in-laws for all her needs but now at the age of 35 shes learning to
be inde- pendent. She smiles and says Sab ho jayega agar upar wale
ki kripa hai toh. Beta padh likh kar bada aadmi ban jaye bas aur
kya chahiye. Baki toh bhagwan ka diya sab kuch hai. Well we really
hope Amit cracks IIT. Good Luck to him! The Young Bride - Rajkumari
was 12 when she got married. Today at 22 with her two children she
seems happy with life. She misses her childhood home but feels life
is better at her in-laws place. She was the eldest child of her
parents and had 4 younger sisters and 1 little brother. Her fa-
ther was a milkman. They lived with other milkmen illegally on a
government owned plot. The entire family of 8 lived in one single
room. Rajkumari claims proudly that unlike the old- er days she and
her husband have their own separate room in her in-laws house. She
smiles gloatingly and says Ab sab kuch badal gaya hai DiDi jee. In
ka khud ka motorcycle hai, ap- na makan hai aur mera dono bachcha
sab English medium school me padhta hai. She feels proud of her
accomplishment of having her own house and vehicle and her chidren
studying in English medium schools. As a child Rajkumari too went
to a government school but due to her marriage she had to stop her
schooling mid-way. She talks further about her wedding. She was
really happy that night with all the new clothes she got and gifts
from neighbours and relatives. Her husband had come in a maruti car
with a dozen of people, all singing and dancing before the
decorated grooms car. She has no regrets of her early marriage.
Well maybe we need to learn from Rajkumari how to find happiness in
small things of life and not to regret on the losses we have
suffered in the process. The Breadwinner of the Family - She was
old. Probably 50+. We called her Siriyain Aunty because her
husbands name is Shri (called as Siri). Nobody knows her real name
not even she. Siriyain Aunty gives massages to the ladies of the
colony. When I was a child I remember she charged only 10rs for a
full one hour massage. I have always remembered her as an old lady.
Her face has always been covered with wrinkles. Now she wears thick
glasses. She is becom- ing blind with cataracts. Her husband is
older than she is. He used to work sometime in his youth but all my
life I have seen him drunk and lost on the streets. He would scare
me when I was a child. We would scream Piyakkar (drunkman) is here,
piyakkar is here and run away scared that he might catch us someday
and god knows what he would do.
30. Patliavadana () Edition 1,2015 A Quarterly E-magazine from
Patli Urbanocrats 27 But we did feel bad for the poor and tired
Siriyain Aunty. She had no children and her husband would be drunk
all the time. She would give massages to earn money for their
livelihood and his booze. All the women in the colony advised her
to leave Shri and go to some women welfare socie- ty or maybe to
just live independently on her own without his daily dose of abuse
and beatings in the night. But she refused. She doesnt remember
when she got married. She feels she has been married all her life.
She has got accustomed to this life. Now Shri is too old and weak
to beat her. But he still drinks and abuses. She cant work much now
days as her eyes wont support her. But she never sleeps hungry. She
has worked for many years for many women. Every night some or the
other woman gives her food. Shri drinks less too because they dont
have money. But she has earned bread for her family for many years
and she deserves some rest now. Maybe if she had chil- dren her
condition would have been better. The Devotee - Chanda Aunty is a
follower of Baba ji. But being a hard core follower is not an easy
task along with taking care of the family. She would wake up at 4
in the morning before sunrise and by 5 o clock she would start her
daily rituals of prayers and meditation. It would take about two
hours to finish it. And then she would cook lunch for her kids and
her husband. They followed a rule of offering food to Baba ji
before every meal. It was not a compulsion but a devotion for him.
Chanda Aunty turned vegetarian as the different levels of Shivir
required her to give up eating flesh. She never regretted giving up
non-veg as after being a disciple of Baba ji she felt disgusted by
cooking or eating carcass. But her children still liked non veg and
she would not want them to give up unless they want to. Every
Sunday she would organise satsang at her home and women from the
entire col- ony would gather to pray and sing in front of Babajis
photo. She would cook prasad to be distribut- ed among the women
after satsang was over. Every Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday she
would fast and eat only falhaar at the end of the day. She gave up
on her favourite beverage tea after Babaji talked about its ill
effects. And it was not only tea that she left but also fast food,
mithai and all oth- er outside cooked foods. Result being she lost
a good 4-5 kgs. Well it seems Baba ji did have a good effect on her
health and soul. - Shivangi Singh (She is working in IT sector in
Bengaluru and has keen interest in working for society.) -
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