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Prepared By
Manu Melwin Joy
Assistant ProfessorIlahia School of Management Studies
Kerala, India.
Phone – 9744551114Mail – [email protected]
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Life Games
• All games have animportant and probablydecisive influence on thedestinies of the playersunder ordinary socialconditions.
• But some offer moreopportunities than othersfor life long careers andare more likely to involverelatively innocentbystanders.
• This group may beconveniently called LifeGames.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• NIGYSOB is a twohanded game in whichthe aim is justification.
• It must be distinguishedfrom the game “ Ain’t itAwful?” (AIA).
• NIGYSOB iscommercialized in athree handedprofessional form as thebadger game.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• NIGYSOB is also played asa two handed maritalgame in more or lesssubtle forms.
• The best antithesis iscorrect behavior.
• The contractual structureof relationship with aNIGYSOB player should beexplicitly stated in detailat the first opportunity,and the rules strictlyadhered to.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• In clinical practices, thequestion of payment formissed appointments orcancellations must besettled clearly at once,and extra precautionsmust be taken to avoidmistakes in bookkeeping.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• If an unforeseen
contretemps arises, the
antithesis is to yield
gracefully without
dispute, until such time
as the therapist is
prepared to deal with
the game.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• In everyday life,
business dealings with
NIGYSOB players are
always calculated risks.
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• The wife of such aperson should betreated with politecorrectness and eventhe mildest flirtation,gallantries or slightsshould be avoided,especially if thehusband himself seemsto encourage them.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Thesis – Now I have got
you, you son of the bitch.
• Aim – Justification.
• Roles – Victim, Aggressor.
• Dynamics – Jealous rage.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Examples.
– I caught you this time
– Jealous husband.
• Social paradigm – Adult –
Adult.
– Adult – See you have done
wrong.
– Adult – Now that you draw it to
my attention, I guess I have.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Psychological paradigm –
Parent - Child.
– Parent – I have beenwatching you, hoping youdid make a slip.
– Child – You caught me thistime.
– Parent – Yes and I am goingto let you feel the full forceof my fury.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Moves.
– Provocation – Accusation.
– Defense – Accusation.
– Defense – Punishment.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Internal psychological
advantages – Justification
for rage.
• External psychological
advantages – avoids
confrontation of own
deficiencies.
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• Internal social advantages
– NIGYSOB.
• External social advantages
– They have always out to
get you.
Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Biological advantages –
belligerent exchanges,
usually ipsisexual.
• Existential advantages –
People can’t be trusted.