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What do you teach?Click the bottom Icon from the palette on the left of the whiteboard then select a symbol then drag it onto the map.
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Same Goals, Different Roles Presented by:Rhoda Trehearne
Beginning Teacher WebinarNovember 2013
Teachers and Parents
What questions are you bringing to the workshop?an angry parent?a parent who is also a colleague?absent or over-involvedparents?Our Goalssuccessful approaches for communicating with parents
strategies for parent conferencing
effective ways to reframe interactions in challenging situations
What Parents Value Most With permission from Gwen RudneysEvery Teachers Guide to Working with ParentsPoll #1: Which of the following two qualities do you think parents consider the most important in their childs teacher?
The teacher is a strong instructor with an effective classroom management style.
2. The teacher cares about their child and knows them as an individual.Ask participants to put a check mark beside the answer you like best10What Parents Value MostImplications for Teachers:
Talk to students. Ask them about their interests, families, hobbies, etc.
Phone/email parents to share your observations and successes (document conversations).Phone parents when worried about a child: not to be critical but to ask for help; is there anything you should know; is there anything you could be doing differently that may help11What Parents Value Most With permission from Gwen RudneysEvery Teachers Guide to Working with ParentsPoll #2: What do you think parents do when they disagree with a teacher?
A. Contact the principal.
B. Contact the teacher.
C. Do nothing.When a teacher is warm and caring and approachable to both the child and the parentparents will often come to you. If you have let parents know to come talk to you about concerns they often will. Open communication and approachability usually pays off.12What Parents Value MostImplications for Teachers:
Be aware of each students strengths and share what you see with parents. Be approachable (to students and parents). Provide diverse learning opportunities. Be consistent and fair with assessment and discipline.A13Personal Reflection How often do I
1. make parents feel welcome in the school?
2. call parents with good news? Call when I require more information, or see a problem developing?
3.put myself in the parents shoes when discussing sensitive issues? Food for ThoughtParents hate surprises. The number one reason why parents get mad at teachers or school administrators boils down to failure to communicate. Elaine K. McEwan
(The same is true for most people, including teachers.)Could be poor grades/doing something unusual in the curriculum/about conflicts with other students/when something goes wrong or when you talk to a student about a concern15Effective Conferencing
According to Gwen Rudney, parents want to know four things from the teacher.How their children are doingHow their childrens performance relates to how they should be doingHow the teacher will helpHow much the teacher appreciates their child
E-6Parent/Teacher Conferences Share a good idea with others:
Parent/Teacher Conferences What teachers should not do:
Start or finish with negatives
Compare a student with others in the class
Offer to do more than you canIf more than you can do(last bullet) solicit parent help.eg organizing desk and binders19Building RelationshipDont make assumptions . . .By making this one agreement a habit, your whole life will be completely transformed.
Dr Don Miguel RuizF-2If something is going wrong dont assume you know the reason, ask open-ended non judgemental questions and seek to find what you are missing. Eg. Tyson Dennis agitated because of the proximity of the SS person and not being given independence20Difficult Conversations Poll #4: When someone challenges me in front of others, I usually
Shut down.Become defensive.Become aggressive.Defer the conversation to another time.When There is a Concern1.Thank the parents for coming to talk to you. Let them know you are there to help and that you care.2.Listen and seek to understand why they are upset.3.Ask open-ended questions.4.Focus on the problem, never on the person.
When parents get upset or angry, it is not personal, they are worried for their child. Portray a gentle and calm attitude.22The Importance of ReframingIdentifies the underlying need or concern
Identifies common ground
Changes negative to positive.
Paraphrase or reframe the concern to show you have listened and understand. Explain difference between reframing and paraphrasing23Responses to Tough QuestionsAsk questions first. Find out concerns.Be calmGive the parent spaceAvoid becoming personal, focus on the behaviourUse non-confrontational voice tone and language.R Curwin and A MendlerF-4Helpful Reframing Stems.....Parent: My child is being bullied and you arent doing anything about it. (positional comment)
Teacher: (reframe concerns)So you are concerned about.......So you feel that......because.......I am hearing, it is important that.....It is clear, you are feeling frustrated because.....
(Tell me more. Its important we solve this and correct whats going on.)
Reframe that the parent is concerned about the childs safety and feeling of security. Youve identified the key interest. Label the feelings. Have a cheat sheet of helpful responses and look at it before difficult meetings.25Now lets try to reframe a positional comment...POLL #5
My child hates coming to school.
My child thinks you are picking on him
(hint use some of the stems you just learned about)Possible answers. 1. You clearly care deeply about your child and want him to be happy at school. 2. It is important that so and gets up in the morning and looks forward to coming to schoolwe dont want him feeling badly about this at this age. 3. Its important that you child is treated fairly and that he/she feels valued in the class. Acknowledge again, you are so glad they have come for help, these are things you definitely dont want and lets work this out together.26Problem Solving Meeting - AgendaWarm greeting. Let everyone know you care about their child and you are here to help and work together.Clarify problems, concerns. Listen. Paraphrase. Reframe to make sure you are not missing anything.Have some options available for discussion.Everyone has opportunity for input. (especially quiet ones)Acknowledge feelings and let them know their concerns are important.Collaborate on an action plan. Ask: Have I missed anything..is there anything more we can do?Write it out- who does what and whenDiscuss what follow-up will happenToo Conclude This AfternoonWill you please write down one or two things you have learned today that will help you to build and sustain a positive relationship with parents.Revisiting Our GoalsParticipants will have an understanding of:
successful approaches for communicating with parentsstrategies for parent conferencingeffective ways to reframe interactions in challenging situations
There Are Many Ways to Climb a Mountain 30Thank you for attending!
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