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TANGLING WITH TEENS
IS THE BIBLE ANY PRACTICAL HELP?
TANGLING WITH TEENS
IS THE BIBLE ANY PRACTICAL HELP?
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A Few Personal Disclaimers1. A Good Job in Parenting Teens2. A Deep Understanding of Teens
A Formal Definition
No Longer Children but are Still Short of Adulthood [Douglas Powell, Harvard University]
Age Wise: 13 to 19 Years Old Approximately
A Psychological Definition
Becoming Less Ego-Centric
Engaging in More Perspective-Taking
THE CHALLENGES FOR TEENS
They Go Through the Following:
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Summary•A Bewildering Stage of Transition•A Period of Emotional Volatility [Columbine High School Shootings]
Individuation/Separation
• Leading to the Formation of Personal Identity & Values
• Questioning of Authority Figures and Social Norms
Personal Struggles
• Indulging in Masturbation, Pornography or Drugs [Timothy 2:2]
• Testing the Boundaries of Parental Authority
& Toleration
Hormonal Changes
• Resulting in Physical and Psychological Development
• Becoming Moody & Withdrawn at Times
THE NEEDS OF TEENS
The Fundamental Needs are:
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Unconditional Love & Acceptance
• Teens Need the Above More than Expensive Toys
(2)
A Personal Bonding With Parents
& Others
(3)
• Teens are Looking for Meaningful and Intimate Relationships
A Sense of Belonging
(1)
• The Family and Church Should Become the Communal Support Group
• Otherwise, They Would Succumb to Peer Group Pressure
THE PARENTING OF TEENS
• The Most Practical Advice from Scripture:
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Don’t Exasperate or Embitter Your Children [Ephesians 6:4]
Low Control
Low Support
Permissive Parent
Authoritative Parent
Neglectful Parent
AuthoritarianParent
High Support
High Control
• The 4 Styles [Adapted from DL Thomas and AJ Weigert]
• Wrong Parenting Styles can Lead to Serious Consequences
A TEENAGER’S PERSPECTIVE ON PARENTING
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Can I Get My Own Way?
Am I Loved?
Spoilt Stable
Anti-SocialGuilt &
Rebellion
Can I Get My Own Way?
Am I Loved?
CONCLUSION
1. Psychological and Spiritual Maturity is a Journey
2. A Mutual Understanding is Essential in Parenting Teenagers
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