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BREAKOUT SESSION

Women Caring for Women in the Church SUSAN COX, ANN DALY, GIGI HORNBERGER, MEG MCKINLEY

PASTORAL CARE FRAMEWORKS As ministry leaders, we encounter pastoral care situations often. These two frameworks will help provide a grid through which you can process the situations you face.

THE 5:14 PRINCIPLE

• The Idle: Those who are idle ______________________ but refuse to follow it. • The Fainthearted: Those who are fainthearted know ____________________. • The Weak: Those who are weak need you to ____________________ with them and

help build their understanding. • Be Patient with All: Do not fret if a person is not moving forward, ___________________

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THE 4 C’S Four characteristics of people who experience health and healing:

• Christ: Individuals who get well experience _________________ in their walk with Christ. • Circle: They see _________________________ as their biggest problem. • Commitment: All _________________________ are closed and locked. • Community: They have an ______________________________ around them and are

______________________________. Truth to remember as a Christ Follower:

• 2 Timothy 2:15 • Philippians 2:13; 1 Corinthians 3:6

When things don’t go well, remember ______________________________. When things go well, stay humble and remember ______________________________.

MORAL FAILURE OF A LEADER • Confession: _______________ or _______________? • Don’t shoot the _______________, but don’t leave them on the _______________. • Surround them with God’s ______________, ______________, and ______________. • _______________, _______________, and _______________ is the goal.

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ABUSE: HOW TO RECOGNIZE • Abuse – Any action that intentionally harms or injures another person. Also, a pattern of

behaviors used to manipulate or control another person. • Abuse can be emotional, mental, physical, or sexual in nature. • Motive is power and control • Damages a person’s dignity and sense of self worth

ABUSE: HOW TO HELP • Listen / verbalize • This isn’t okay; it doesn’t please or glorify God • This isn’t your fault or your responsibility to “fix” • We love you. Will you let us help you?

ABUSE: HOW TO COACH LEADERS • Requires a marathon mentality; not a sprint • Goal is for her to take the next faithful step • Include Godly men on the team • Develop a plan of care for team / safety plan for her

ABUSE: ADDITIONAL RESOURCES • Power and Control Wheel • Lay Leader Training • Plan of Care Topical Example • Topical Scriptures – Hope for the Heart App (June Hunt)