Upload
sylvester-riddle
View
36
Download
0
Embed Size (px)
DESCRIPTION
Chapter 11. Interpersonal Conflict. What words do you think of when you hear “conflict”?. Conflict. An expressed struggle between interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals. Points about Conflict. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
Citation preview
Chapter 11
What words do you think
of when you hear “conflict”?
Conflict
An expressed struggle between interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals.
Points about Conflict• is an expressed struggle
• occurs between interdependent parties
• is about goals the parties see as incompatible
• arises over perceived scarce resources
• includes interference from other person
Characteristics of Interpersonal Conflict
• is natural
• has content, relational, and procedural dimensions (rules)
• can be direct or indirect
• can be harmful
• can be beneficial
Common Sources of Conflict Personal criticisms Finances Household chores Children Employment In-laws
Sex Holidays Vacations Spending time in
general Meta-
communication
Researcher: Larry Erbert Married Couples
Sex & Gender Affect Conflict Passive Aggression
Less direct tactic of hiding aggression in seemingly innocent behaviors
Women more likely to use this strategy
Demand-Withdraw PatternUsually the woman makes a demand and
the man withdrawsMen more likely to disengage
Online Conflict Disinhibition
Removal of constraintsDoing something in online environment we
wouldn’t do in other situations“dis” means “apart” or “away”
StrategyDon’t respond immediatelyClarify any misunderstandingsPut yourself in their shoesUse emoticons to express tone, if appropriate
Power:
The ability to manipulate, influence, or control other people or events.
Characteristics of Power
Depends on context/situation Is always present
Symmetrical relationship = fairly equal powerComplementary rel. = unequal power
Influences CommunicationOne-up message—expresses dominanceOne-down message—expresses submissionOne-across message—neutral
Can be positive or negative
Types of Power (French & Raven) Reward
One person can reward another Coercive
Ability to punish another Referent
Based on liking, admiration, or attraction Legitimate
Status or position gives a person rightsRepresent an institution
ExpertWe perceive the person to be an expert
Types of Conflict (not in text) Pseudo
Someone thinks there is conflict when there really isn’t
EgoWe are emotionally invested in the decision
ValuePeople have different ideas about right and
wrong Content
People disagree over matters of fact, information, or an issue
Problematic Behaviors during Conflict
CriticismComplaints about someone elseGunnysacking—save all arguments and let them
all out at once Contempt
Insult someone and attack their self-worth Defensiveness
View yourself as a victim and deny responsibility for your behaviors
StonewallingWithdraw from a conversation
Lose-Lose
Win-Lose Win-Win
Lose-Win
Relational Goals
Personal
Goals
I Win Some-You Win Some
Another Perspective
Another Perspective
Passive, Aggressive, Assertive Passive
Don’t try to satisfy own concerns
AggressiveOpenly express needs, wants, ideas even if
doing so hurts others
AssertiveCommunicate honestly, clearly, directly;
stand up for what he/she believes without harming others or self
Assertive Behavior
Own FeelingsOwn Feelings
AvoidAvoidConfrontationalConfrontationalLanguageLanguageMaintainMaintain
Eye ContactEye Contact
Specify Specify BehaviorsBehaviors
Maintain Firm,Maintain Firm,Pleasant VoicePleasant Voice
Speak ClearlySpeak Clearly
Avoid Hemming/HawingAvoid Hemming/Hawing