7 POWERFUL EXERCISESfor just 5 minutes early can give you that added jolt of oxytocin, the bonding chemical, to help center you, ground you, uplift you, ensuring you a more positive

to Deep ly Connect w i th your

Love Par tner

7 POWERFUL EXERCISES

JENNIFER BLANKL

Certified Relationship Coach & Divorce Preventionist

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Jennifer Blankl,

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Jennifer helps strong, professional women

have a successful, fun and exciting relationship with their love partner,

even when they don’t have the time, energy, or desire...

so that they can feel loved and appreciated,

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Trained and Certified by Tony Robbins as a Relationship Coach and

Divorce Preventionist, Jennifer works with her clients privately

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7 Powerful Exercises to Deeply Connect with Your Love Partner

Jennifer Blankl www.jenniferblankl.com copyright 2017

Certified Relationship Coach | Certified Divorce Preventionist | Workshop Host | Speaker | Trainer

You have a TON of things on your to do list of life. You’re crazy busy. I get it. I

have a husband running his business out of the house and 2 boys, one in 1st

grade, the other in 3rd grade so believe me… I understand. I also know that

when we do the work to CREATE that time to connect with our love partner, we

win on so many levels and benefit in so many ways. Doing simple, yet

consistent connection exercises with our partner can help us feel more

grounded, more secure, more loved, accepted and understood. The feelings

and shift in focus we experience from connecting intentionally with our partner

solidify our foundation, align us with our partner, and help keep us feeling

centered, so that we can go out in the world and thrive... because we know our

relationship at home is solid and that our partner has our back.

Practice these 7 exercises with your partner for a deeper connection. Carve the

time out. Do these 3-4 times a week at minimum. (Except #7. That one you can

do a minimum of monthly because of the high level of vulnerability that one

requires.) Block out daily connection time in your calendars, as you would your

other appointments. Be consistent, yet gentle with yourselves. Do your

best. Make up lost opportunities to connect by extending the length of time you

do connect tomorrow, or this weekend.

1. Eye Gazing (4 minutes) If you tend to feel awkward easily, perhaps try another exercise (except 7)

before you dive in to this one.

Face each other in a seated position with your knees touching and hold eye

contact for 4 minutes. Yes, it may feel slightly awkward for the first 1-2 minutes

if you’ve never tried this before. And yes you can blink! Avoid talking during the

exercise. This 4 minutes is magic. Research shows that after 4 minutes of

gazing into your love partner’s eyes, both of your heartbeats begin to

synchronize! After 8 minutes, your blood pressure begins to synchronize! Just

think about that! Your hearts are literally aligning. This magical physiological

alignment only happens when romantic partners do this.

Set the timer so that you can stay fully engaged and present for your partner in

this exercise without having to wonder when 4 minutes is up. Or you can

choose a 4-5 minute song and hold the eye contact for the duration of the song.

Playing a song can also help with the uncomfortable silence. In a world that is

increasingly trying to grab our attention and distract us, this connection exercise

is sure to efficiently re-spark feelings of closeness and intimacy. Doing this a

few times per week will give you and your partner that slowed down connection

you both need.




2. Extended Cuddle Time (5 minutes) This one is so simple, yet too often ignored. What is your bedtime routine? Do

you and your partner distract yourselves with cell phones, laptops, or books?

Do you rationalize that using those things helps you get to sleep? Well, the

happy chemicals that get released in your brain from cuddling and/or sex help

you get to sleep much easier.

Whether it’s close to your collective bedtime or not, having an extended cuddle

session a few times per week does wonders for your intimate relationship!

Some of my clients like to do this first thing in the morning. Setting your alarm

for just 5 minutes early can give you that added jolt of oxytocin, the bonding

chemical, to help center you, ground you, uplift you, ensuring you a more

positive start to your day! Or you could cuddle to a certain music playlist that

you know is a specific length of time (often 20-30 minutes) as their daily

required minimum of physical affection.

What would you like to see change in your bedtime routine? Think about it, talk

to your partner about it, and then incorporate it into your lives as a non-

negotiable connection habit.

3. Access the Positive Anchors (from the past): Hold hands and look deeply into each others eyes. You and your partner take

turns sharing something you love about each other such as:

Special moments you have shared together…

Things he or she did for you that made you feel loved,

supported, heard, understood, etc….

4. New Greeting (30 seconds) Intentionally greet your love partner with a SMILE, a hug and/or a kiss when

you or they come home... and really show them you are happy to see them! A

smile is super powerful. A smiling woman can make a man feel appreciated

and needed. A smiling man can make a woman feel loved and respected. Also,

the way we greet our partners when we/they come home really determines the

tone of the rest of the evening. Practice setting a warmer, happier tone by

taking the time and effort to greet your partner in a positive, loving way giving

them your attention and presence. This can also help you and your partner

avoid being on auto-pilot and transition from "work/parent mode" to

"partner/lover mode".




5. The 7 Breath Forehead Connection Exercise (3 minutes) This one sounds a little woo-woo, new-agey... but trust me... IT. IS.

AWESOME! And very effective! Whether you’re lying on your sides in bed or

sitting upright, face each other directly and gently touch your foreheads

together. Put your chins down slightly so your noses aren’t quite touching (it’s

okay if they touch but it’s not necessary that your noses do touch for this

exercise). With your foreheads touching, breathe seven slow, deep breaths in

sync with your partner. Similar to the eye contact exercise the first one or two

breaths might feel like they’re taking up a lot of conscious thought, but by the

third or fourth breath it will feel like a very natural thing to do. This exercise isn’t

limited to seven breaths (you can keep going for several minutes if you’d like)

but I find that seven breaths is the perfect minimum number of breaths for

couples to really drop in to the moment and feel connected. If you and your

partner are overachievers who like extra homework you can absolutely do this

exercise for several minutes if you feel so inclined.

6. Uninterrupted Listening (20 minutes) For this exercise, set a timer for 10 minutes and let your partner say whatever

they need to in order to vent to you. They can talk about their day, their work,

how they feel about you, what’s been on their mind lately... whatever they feel

like. During their verbal brain dump, it is the receiver’s job to simply listen. The

receiver does NOT offer any advice or verbal feedback in any way. You just

imagine your partner’s words as a flowing stream of emotion, and you simply

soak it up. You are free to give non-verbal listening cues with your eyes or body

language. But the exercise as the receiver is to simply listen to whatever your

partner has to say. Once the timer has gone off, the roles switch and the other

partner has their turn to speak in an uninterrupted stream of consciousness.

One partner might be more verbal than the other, and that’s just fine. Often the

partner who is quieter or in their head more of the time will welcome the chance

to verbalize their thoughts without interruption because they might feel more

frequently interrupted in their daily life (whether by their partner, friends, or co-

workers, etc.)

7. “In The Flesh” Vulnerability Exercise (30 minutes) This one requires your courage and vulnerability so begin with the other

exercises first unless you’re feeling extra brave. Sit naked on the bed, cross-

legged and as close together as possible - knees overlapping but not in close

body-contact. (It's impossible to be in close body-contact in this position.)




The thing with hugs and cuddles is that each person is looking over the other's

shoulder without eye contact - effectively, each is alone with their thoughts.

Sitting cross-legged and up close, has our “intimate parts” open and exposed to

each other, completely vulnerable. Look deeply into each other’s eyes. Don’t

pressure sex here... just enjoy the vulnerability of each other in the flesh. And if

it does lead to lovemaking well that’s certainly a bonus. Lovingly examine each

other's body and take turns expressing only positive comments and feedback

on what you like or love about your partner’s body. This is a wonderful exercise

for rebuilding or improving the trust and honesty in your relationship as well.

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7 POWERFUL EXERCISESfor just 5 minutes early can give you that added jolt of oxytocin, the bonding chemical, to help center you, ground you, uplift you, ensuring you a more positive