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My dear friend, what is this our life? A boat that swims in the sea, and all one
knows for certain about it is that one day it will capsize. Here we are,
two good old boats that have been faithful neighbors, and above all
your hand has done its best to keep me from ‘capsizing’! Let us then
continue our voyage—each for the other's sake, for a long time yet, a
long time! We should miss each other so much! Tolerably calm seas
and good winds and above all sun—what I wish for myself, I wish for
you, too, and am sorry that my gratitude can find expression only in
such a wish and has no influence at all on wind or weather.
Friedrich Nietzsche. Letter to Franz Overbeck, Genoa, 14 November 1881
The man who wrote this letter is not the Friedrich
Nietzsche I first met through my father’s words when I
was a young woman. This Nietzsche, the philosopher and
creative thinker, the ‘genius’ and man of unfathomable
ideas, was then beyond my reach. He had the power to
intimidate me even before I had read any of his writings,
simply because my father thought Nietzsche would be good
for me. But today when I read this letter I am left with
a different view of the man and can see now how much I
may have misjudged him. Letters give us an opportunity to
revisit old places and states of mind.
Nietzsche and his contemporaries wrote many and
often long letters. In those days, during the 19th
century, it was the principal method of communication
when unable to speak in person. These days, letter
writing is considered a dying art, replaced by emails and
text messages that are typically short and to the point.
Still, I prefer the written letter.
Letters
We have a long history of letter writing in my family.
What you cannot say face to face you put into a letter,
in the knowledge that at least it will, in all
likelihood, be read if not understood. Even when we, the
various members of my family, live two suburbs away from
one another, there are times when a letter feels safer
than a phone call, an email or a face-to-face
conversation. It is one way of skipping over potential
conflict.
There are also the letters that never reached their
destination. Letters I once wrote in passion, but chose
never to send. These are the letters I have archived in
dark cabinets, an aid to memory and no more. The unsent
letter is the letter we write in a space in between
thinking and speaking. We write to unburden ourselves. We
write freely in the knowledge that the person supposedly
on the receiving end of this letter will never get to
read it, and therefore we are safe from the retaliation
or distress that might follow. Some destroy their
versions of these letters, but I collect mine. They
become evidence of states of mind that I have long since
forgotten. They help me to remember.
In the early 1960s The Age had a special section, and
children from all over Victoria were invited to submit
their work. I sent off letters to the editor, along with
poem after poem, in the hope that, one day, one of my
poems might appear in print. It never happened. Instead,
I received a series of A5-sized certificates of merit in
red print on a cream background. I understood that if I
collected enough of these certificates I might one day
receive a prize: money or publication. I did not always
receive a certificate in response to my poetry. Often I
sent a batch of poems. Sometimes I received a batch of
certificates, but it was entirely unpredictable as to
whether or not I would receive a certificate, or how
many.
This was my first foray into the world of publication, or
of non-publication as it turned out then. I liken these
attempts to letter writing: to my efforts to find an
audience; my efforts to find a voice; my efforts to be
heard. I still have the certificates, yellowed now, in a
large, torn envelope. I look at them from time to time
and wonder at the child I once was, her ambitions and her
romanticism.
I also use letters to help me to recover the past.
In so doing I try to remain faithful to my memory, but it
is a fickle faithfulness. Beneath my writing desk I have
a trunk full of letters, including one I wrote to myself
in 1970. I had sealed the letter in an envelope addressed
to me, to be read three years hence, when I would turn
21.
‘Please excuse the paper and the cramped writing,’ my 18-
year-old self wrote. ‘Did you get into university? If you
didn’t I hate to rake up bad memories. Is life terribly
painful? Any major disasters?’ I asked my future self
question upon question. ‘So far life seems pretty
complicated but the complications, the ups and downs and
all the dreams make life interesting. Are you still a
dreamer? I don’t suppose three years could change you
that much.’
Until now I have kept the letter to myself. My smug
goody-two-shoes 18-year-old self appals me. She may not
seem smug to you, my 18-year-old self, not from what you
have read of her letter so far, but I base my judgments
on my memory of her. I judge her as I remember her, and
not perhaps as she was. I judge her from the inside, but
my letter compounds my judgment.
Paul John Eakin writes about the notion of memory
traces, such as this letter. They are like the bone the
dog buries to retrieve later, and become examples of what
Andre Aciman has described as ‘remembering remembering’
(cited Eakin 2008: 165). I remember the evening I wrote
the letter, seated at the laminated kitchen table, the
radio in the background playing Frank Sinatra. And I
remember that even as I was writing this letter I was
deluding myself. I was not doing it ‘my way’. I was 18
years old, and on the brink of my career in social work
and psychology. But I was also deeply troubled, and
anxious about what might happen next.
Was I defending my self against my helplessness? My
mother had decided that we should all return home, she,
my siblings and I, after a year of living separately from
our father. I did not want to go back to live with my
drunk and abusive father, no matter how many miracles my
mother was convinced had occurred, but I was powerless. I
had no say in the matter.
Avishai Magarlit believes that ‘art is born of
humiliation’, in that ‘we remember insults better than we
remember pain’, and it is the memory of these experiences
of humiliation that are reconfigured, reconstructed in
memory, as he observes, ‘between the cold contemplation
of past emotion and the hot reliving of it’ (Margalit
2003: 120). This letter becomes my object of memory, a
trace of my 18-year-old self that I remember remembering,
a type of ‘conscious marking’ (Eakin 2008: 70). It is
full of cliché and grandiosity, and is evidence of my
young self’s attempts to speak severely to some future
self—almost a bid to dictate the future.
I have a memory of trying to be honest with myself,
trying to write my way out of any sense of abjection. And
I have another memory of my disappointment in my 18-year-
old self when I first opened the letter as a 21-year-old.
How could I ever have been such a priss? But the letter
is an accurate memory trace and I must honour its
existence, however much I might want to re-write my own
history.
There are many approaches to the study of memory—
from the literary to the physiological, from the
psychological and individual to the collective and
sociological, from the normative to the pathological as
in trauma—and each perspective offers a different view on
memory, too wide to consider here. There are also
multiple perspectives on the nature of creativity, but to
me its essence lies in our willingness to try and try
again. Similarly, Drusilla Modkeska refers to the artist
Grace Cossington Smith’s notion of a continual try:
It’s true of painting, it’s true of writing, and
it’s true of life. The process of staying with that
continual try can produce long low loops and sudden
illuminations, which we see in retrospect as springing
open and banging closed. But in the tug and pull of time
it is another day lived, another piece of board on the
easel, another squeeze from the tube (Modjeska 1999:
322).
And so it is when I write letters and go back to my
childhood memories. I can try again, knowing that each
time I remember, my recollection shifts. As I record the
images from my memory—the table, the house, the radio of
my 18-year-old writing self—they seem clear to me. But
then I come to a block, to details I cannot fill in.
Everything that happened in my childhood memory happened
in the summer or the winter. Of course, that could not
be. Where were the springs and autumns, the in between
times when life like the weather took on a balanced
aspect, not too hot, not too cold? They disappeared
between the extremes. I begin to make things up, to make
calculated guesses. I create a narrative. I condense and
concertina events. I wrote the letter at Christmas time,
it must have been summer. It was probably hot. I would
have been wearing a tee shirt, but I cannot remember.
To write too often that I do not remember is to
distract my reader and do damage to my narrative. But
still I must be faithful to my memory. I try to reach the
emotional truth of past experience. Such emotional
experience is faithful to memory and, when memory fails,
as the memoir writer Nancy Miller writes, ‘I let language
lead. The words take me where I need to go’ (Miller 2004:
150). It is a future reading of an act rather than simply
a leap into the past. In the end I am not so much
faithful to my memory as faithful to my recollected
emotional experience and to my construction of narrative.
To tell a story, I need an audience—hence the letter, the
many letters I write, and even the letters I write to
myself. As Franz Kafka suggests, letter writing is ‘an
intercourse with ghosts’: not only, he argues, with the
recipient, but with oneself, the letter writer (Kafka
1990: ix). I write letters to recreate reality. I write
letters to write. And when, as Eakin notes, the bond to
parents is troubled, and there is ‘unfinished business’,
I write letters to repair (Eakin 1999: 87).
Lived experience
Towards the end of the summer of my eighteenth year, I
was the only one from my matriculation class at the
University of Melbourne. In Orientation Week I went to
the Catholic Students’ Youth Camp at Mt Evelyn. I wore my
new white jeans. I was fat, but at least the jeans made
me look like the rest of the students. We met at Spencer
Street Station and took the bus to the gum trees of Mt
Evelyn. We shared rooms in groups of four, girls separate
from boys. We stayed up all night, as if by requirement,
and I jumped up and down on the trampoline in the gym to
stay awake. I walked to the top of the mountain with a
boy I had never met before. I was breathless with
anticipation. Would he kiss me?
He did not. We did not even hold hands. We simply
walked and talked. I was overwhelmed with the burden of
desire. I wanted more. But I do not think I experienced
his failure to touch me as rejection. He, too, was a good
Catholic. He, too, was shy. Perhaps this is why he chose
me to climb the mountain with him.
On the final afternoon the priest in charge of the camp
called us together for prayers. ‘If any of you have
anything you’d like to discuss with me of a personal
nature, please find me later for a chat.’ A chat—I heard
it as a call to confession. I wanted to confess to my sin
of desire, my sin of lust, my impure thoughts. The very
wanting seemed wicked. Others milled around the priest, a
young Dominican in a flowing white cassock with black
hood, fresh out of the seminary. I kept away.
At this time I was exchanging letters with my
favourite teacher from school, a nun. Among her words of
advice she wrote: ‘there is no definite length of time
for the duration of a kiss but you will know when it is
too long—when it changes from an expression of love to a
means of getting some selfish pleasure from the other.’ I
resisted the impulse to visit the priest to confess.
Something told me he would not understand. Priests were
celibate. How could a priest understand my desire?
Besides, I wanted to tell him other things. I wanted to
tell him about my father’s visits during the night.
During the blessing I imagined speaking to the
priest later, without the wire grille of the confessional
dividing us. I practised the words in my head, the words
I might say to the priest, in private away from the
throng of students, but I knew I could not speak them. In
his quiet office beyond the camp hall the words would
disappear before they even reached my mouth. Some
unspoken knowledge held me to secrecy. Even in the
letters I wrote to my favourite teacher, I could not
spell it out, though I tried often enough to let her know
that things were not right in my home.
My father had been surprised when my final marks at
school were good enough to take me to university. He
could imagine his sons at university, but not his
daughters. I did not tell him then that I had secured my
place by rote learning, parrot fashion, getting it all
inside and holding onto it for as long as I needed till
after the exam, then letting it drift away, like so much
spent paper. I could have filled several wastepaper
baskets with this torn-up knowledge, and when I reached
university I recognised the consequences. Assaulted by my
ignorance, I could not think. I could not write.
In that first year at university I walked most days
from Warrigal Road to the Cheltenham railway station to
take the train into the city. I carried a hardwood
clipboard with a silver fastener on top to which I
attached my loose-leaf sheets. I carried it in a calico
bag. After a day interspersed with lectures, I hurried
away from the psychology practice lab on the top floor of
the Redmond Barry Building where we had compiled lists of
things, such as how many students in each prac class
could roll their tongues to demonstrate a certain innate
genetic ability. We had experimented with memory; how
many words in a list could each remember. Words at the
beginning of the list and those at the end were the most
easily remembered. We were meant to complete these
experiments like scientists, but my work was sloppy. This
was not the psychology I had wanted to study. This was
not an exploration of the inner life of a person. This
did not help me to understand myself or anyone else,
especially my father.
I walked down the corridor past the black-framed
picture of Oscar Oeser, and other former dignitaries from
psychology. I heard sometimes, from my lecturers,
mutterings about the death of psychoanalysis. The real
stuff now was in behaviour and cognition. There was no
point in delving into the past, these people argued. The
past was irrelevant.
The hippies were everywhere, commanding us to make
love, not war. One evening, outside the Admin Buildings,
the radical students were gathering to demonstrate
against conscription to the Vietnam War. They wore ragged
clothes from the opportunity shop, the girls in long
granny skirts in velvet and calico and the longhaired
boys in jeans, chanting and waving banners.
I was wearing my tight woollen skirt, a hand-me-down
from my older sister, and stockings with sensible walking
shoes: the only pair I possessed. On Mondays, Wednesdays
and Fridays I wore my white jeans. I washed them every
second night and hung them to dry in front of the lounge
room heater after everyone had gone to bed. The skirt I
wore on the other two days, and washed it on weekends.
Although I told myself I did not want to be like these
hippie students, the ones making all the noise down near
the Union Building, I hated to see myself as old-
fashioned.
I hurried past the dangerous group of students. The
police had arrived with batons and shields. I had no more
lectures that day. I could leave the university for home,
not for the safety of home but for its familiarity. The
university was a place of strangeness. The hippies broke
rules. I obeyed them. But I could not obey the unwritten
rules at home, those unspoken rules that we should go
about our business as if everything were in order. My
father might drink too much. My father might at any
moment become abusive, violent like a ticking bomb, but
we should be polite to him and ignore him, like my mother
did under a veil of sweetness.
When I walked into my house through the front door
that evening I could see my father through the window. He
had the crumpled look that came over him when he had
drunk too much. I knew as soon as I walked past the
double glass doors of the lounge room that he would call
out to me. I tried to move past quickly.
‘How’s university?’ my father asked. ‘What are you
reading?’ He did not wait for an answer. ‘Have you read
Nietzsche yet?’ My mind shut down. I could not think. The
name held a significance I could not fathom. I knew
Nietzsche was a philosopher but I had not read his
writings. To me then Nietzsche was as ancient as ancient
history and I did not want to be troubled by him. I did
not want to tell my father that philosophy was not part
of my studies nor did I want to speak to him at all. I
mumbled a greeting and fled from the hallway.
Trauma
My mother stood at the kitchen stove weighing out
portions of the best steak, the best vegetables. My
father had diabetes and was on a restricted diet. My
mother had a pair of weighing scales on top of the bench.
She doled out everything, weighed and measured. She
cooked the steak in sizzling butter and the kitchen was
full of the smell of fresh meat and gravy the colour of
mud. We children ate bread and porridge, sometimes chicken
or rabbit, and pea soup with bacon bones, but we never
shared my father’s red meat. I told myself I did not miss
the red meat. All that blood. How little I understood in
those days. How mysterious it seemed. I looked for clues
to make sense of him, my father, this strange dark man
and the passions he exuded.
My father roamed the house at night looking for a
spare bed, a bed to share with another; most likely, I
thought then, with one of us, his daughters, starting
with the oldest. He checked at doors. I could hear the
rattle of the door handle; smell the alcohol on his
breath as he stood over me. I pretended to sleep. He
turned to my sister and I heard him busy himself with her
– the rustle of sheets, blankets peeled back, the murmurs
and creaks. I turned to face the wall, squeezed my eyes
shut and prayed that my turn might never come. When,
later, my father spoke to me of Nietzsche I saw it as a
prelude, a type of grooming. Soon my father would
practise on me.
By the time I had reached my second year at university
and had a real boyfriend, I rebelled against my father. I
learned not to ask questions. I learned to look into
books for knowledge. I took myself off to the Medical
Library and looked up books on human sexuality.
My favourite nun from school wrote me letters about
notions like ‘existential chastity’, which can be
realised, she wrote, only in the state of virginity, but
also in that of marriage. ‘An attitude of respect, of
consideration and fine restraint, which must be invoked
even in the sexual act where spiritual love finds bodily
expression, if this is to reach its perfection.’ None of
this should take place outside of marriage. She had
worried then, my favourite teacher wrote, that I was
‘going overboard with boys’, and that I should save my
love for my family and friends, and for marriage, unless
I should choose like her to be celibate.
At the end of this second year at university I
stopped writing to my favourite teacher when she, too,
finally left the convent. Then when I left home my mother
began to write me letters instead. ‘The thing that bugs
me’, my mother wrote, ‘is your ideas about sex without
marriage … When you want to live without any discipline
at all, you are not growing but heading for disaster …’
As a small child I had longed for letters addressed
to me. ‘You have to write letters to receive them’, my
mother said. She did not tell me what a risky business it
could be—even in those first letters to The Age’s
Children’s Corner. The stiff reply on a single sheet of
paper and the merit certificates had been enough for a
start. Letter writing was an intercourse of sorts, an
intimacy that felt safe, far safer than sex. There was no
need for the physical touch of another, only the sheen of
the envelope, the slicing open with penknife, the feel of
the paper, a whiff of perfume, the chemical smell of the
ink, the leftover hint of cigarettes, and then the words.
Nietzsche
When my father spoke to me of Nietzsche, he spoke of
someone and something I did not understand, some mystery—
the mystery of sex. I was 19 years old. Until then I did
not understand sexuality except for a muddled version my
older sister had told me five years earlier. She had
wanted me to know the facts of life, she said, not the
way she had learned them from our father, curled up on
his lap each Saturday morning. On Saturday mornings our
mother was away at work. I would scurry past the open
lounge room door, not wanting to look in, ashamed. There
was something about the way my father and sister sat
together, something about the way he held her sprawled
across his lap and whispered in her ear, something that
caused my cheeks to redden and my heart to race. My
father sought comfort in my sister. My father was
unhappy. He had needed more than my mother could offer.
Even when I wrote letters to my favourite teacher, I
could tell her none of this. Instead she advised me how
to deal with boys and I provoked her by telling her what
fun I was having with them.
My father later told me that Nietzsche was a
nihilist. It fitted with my sense of my father’s
negativity and despair. For years afterwards the idea of
reading Nietzsche became abhorrent to me. I imagined I
could never understand his writing. Nietzsche, I
imagined, was too much like my father. My father had
roamed the streets of Holland, as a latch key child, my
mother told me. His parents worked long hours, his mother
a cleaning lady, his father an archivist. When they came
home at the end of the day his mother cooked the best
pieces of meat for her husband, and the children ate
leftovers and scraps. As a young boy my father took
comfort in his studies as a way of overcoming the
hardship of his childhood, much like Nietzsche had sought
comfort in his studies. When I was younger I believed one
needed great intelligence to study philosophy.
Philosophers were society’s geniuses. Philosophers
plumbed the depths of knowledge in ways other mortals
could not.
I found out later, after university, that the cause
of Nietzsche’s ill-health—beginning in his childhood with
‘severe headaches, eye pain, nausea, colic, and general
debility’—is still uncertain; nevertheless it was
sufficiently severe that he could not marry, find ready
employment or make friends easily (Pletsch 1991: 182). As
a consequence it seems, Nietzsche was determined to ‘make
a virtue of deprivation’ and he consciously used his
isolation as the basis of much of his writing (Pletsch
1991: 207). After he had broken free of the institutions
to which he had once been attached, namely the church and
university, there were some who considered his writing
outrageous. But when my father spoke to me about
Nietzsche he turned him into an intellectual icon. He
reinstated the great man within the institutional
hierarchy. My father’s question, ‘Have you read him yet?’
put me outside of that institution, as much as he may
have intended to invite me in.
Nietzsche wrote about the ghosts of the past, the
great thinkers and artists from earlier civilisations,
including the Christian God under whose weight he and his
generation struggled. He was born into a family top heavy
with theologians and was steeped in the demands of
religion to be a good boy. My father, too, came from a
long line of religions. The story goes that my father had
been baptised five times throughout his childhood—no one
can say why—and later converted to Catholicism in order
to marry my mother. He too abandoned religion once his
experience of war and migration had turned him into a
nihilist. By then life had become meaningless for my
father. He lost himself in alcoholism and despair until,
a few short months before he died, he found God again in
the form of Judaism and began to learn Hebrew. Nietzsche
died similarly in a state of despair or madness—possibly
caused by tertiary syphilis, which it is believed he
first contracted when he was a student—but without the
redemption of a new language and religion (Pletsch 1991:
225).
Trying to study Nietzsche was, for me, like
struggling with mathematics. I could read and re-read his
ideas but I could not take them in. It was like a wall
before me that blocked my way. I was comforted to read
that others, too, struggled to understand Nietzsche’s
ideas, while some pluck sentences from his translated
works—as I have done at the beginning of this essay—and
spread them around like a sprinkling of sugar on
porridge. Like many significant thinkers Nietzsche made
absolute statements in one breath, only to reconsider
them in another. Absolute statements about abstract
ideas, as statements of fact, contradict the notion
Nietzsche himself espoused ‘that knowledge is useful only
insofar as it serves life’, and creativity as I
understand it arises from challenges to any sense of the
absolute. Reading Nietzsche’s philosophy can still make
my head hurt, but not so his letters.
Nietzsche was a man in advance of his time, who had
anticipated the roll of history as it unfolded; but he
died a ‘mad’ man who had struggled with his thoughts and
feelings. This Nietzsche had upset the establishment by
declaring that God is dead, and announcing the failure of
conventional morality as a guiding force. This Nietzsche
had declared through his notion of the Superman, his
Űbermensch, that one must find one’s own way and not be
driven always by one’s predecessors; one must assimilate
history to one’s own uses rather than be ruled by it. I
thought then that this Nietzsche was like my father. In
his writing it was as if he, Nietzsche, were trying to
shed the weight of the past. My father tried to shed it,
too. But no one of us can entirely shake our pasts free
from our present.
Letters to writers
In my filing cabinet I have another folder, ‘Letters to
and from writers’. It contains letters I have written to
those whose writing has inspired me to make contact. In
1997 I wrote to Drusilla Modjeska, emboldened by the
biography of her mother, Poppy. I wrote to Modjeska about
the difficulties of autobiographical writing, and she
responded on a postcard showing Grace Cossington Smith’s
The Lacquer Room. In her note Modjeska told me that writing
nonfiction and autobiography is not for the fainthearted,
but responses can be surprising. Those whom you imagine
will be critical of your efforts are not, and those whose
support you expect can turn on you. Writing letters is
for an audience of one. Writing for a larger audience
becomes more dangerous.
I wrote a series of letters to Helen Garner, one
after the publication of The first stone, another after The feel
of steel and finally after I had read Jo Cinque’s consolation. She
wrote back every time. Towards the end of 2004 I found
the courage to suggest a meeting on the pretext of my
doctoral thesis, ‘Life Writing and Revenge’. Garner wrote
back, a short note on a pink slip of paper: ‘I don’t know
that I know much about writing and revenge (not
consciously at least) but perhaps we could meet for
coffee and see what transpires’. We met in a café on
Brunswick Road and talked about the thin divide between
fact and fiction, about ways of reaching an audience and
about the desire for revenge.
‘It all depends on the sort of relationship you want
with your reader’, Garner said. ‘Your attitude to your
reader. You don’t have to tell everything but you can’t
be defensive’. We were sitting at a rickety table. One of
its legs did not reach the ground and I had to resist the
urge to stick something underneath to stop it from
shaking.
I had wanted to meet Garner for so long; I did not want
our meeting to end. But of course it did. After our
goodbyes, we stood at the intersection at right angles to
one another as we each waited for the lights to change
colour. I did not look back. Later I sat in my car and
took notes. I wrote a transcript of our time together as
a way of holding onto the experience and I puzzled over
my disappointment. I knew beforehand it had been
unrealistic of me to expect more—that I should be
grateful for any time together—but I had wanted more, an
ongoing friendship perhaps. I wrote more letters but
Garner did not respond.
I once sent a long passionate letter across the
world to the famous Alice Miller and did not hear back;
it took over two years before I received a formal letter
of thank you in reply to a letter I sent to Margaret
Humphreys after I had read her book The lost children of the
empire. These days I correspond with Gerald Murnane. I
have no desire to meet him. Letters are better.
I addressed my first letter to him as ‘the man of
the perfect sentence, the man whose writing I have come
to love, [who] sits on my shoulder like Nietzsche’.
Unlike Nietzsche, who tells me this is all nonsense, I
imagine the man of the perfect sentence will tell me he
is bored. Bored by my dishonesty, bored by my inability
to craft the perfect sentence, bored by my feeble
attempts at imitation and bored by my failure to follow
an image.
But it turns out that Murnane and I share too much
in common to be bored with one another. He is older than
me, but we were both raised in troubled Catholic
households, and we both write letters. Murnane has more
than 19 drawers of steel filing cabinets in which he
keeps his unpublished writings and his letters to and
from others. Since 2005 I have become one of his regular
correspondents. A writing friend, also a correspondent,
jokes that our words, hers and mine, will be archived
forever in one of those filing cabinets.
‘Letters are the great fixative of experience,’
writes Janet Malcolm. ‘Time erodes feeling. Time creates
indifference. Letters prove to us that we once cared.
They are the fossils of feeling. This is why biographers
prize them so: they are biography’s only conduit to
unmediated experience’ (Malcolm 1993: 110). Letters can
provide an unedited view of what goes on between Kafka’s
ghosts, the ghosts of the recipient and of oneself.
Nietzsche’s letter to Overbeck contains the metaphor of
life as a boat tossed on the sea, a boat as container.
Letters, too, are like containers. They carry us through
life, they contain our thoughts and feelings, they lead
us to new destinations.
These days I also use emails to connect, but I still
write letters. There is something sacred about the
written letter addressed at the top: the agonised
introduction, the long slow unfolding of my reasons for
writing, the vague apologies for my intrusiveness. All
these qualities go into my letters to distant writers
whose published writing I read as a letter to me, and a
call to respond.
When I slide my stamped addressed letter into the red
letter box, often addressed via the publisher of a
writer’s latest book, I brush a kiss against the
whiteness of the envelope to wish my letter well, in a
ritual of hope that my letter will be well received, and
that I might get a response, and not just another merit
certificate or a nod of approval from Nietzsche.
If Friedrich Nietzsche were alive today I would
write him a letter. I would write to let him know that I
am not scared of him any more. Now when Nietzsche sits on
my shoulder, I can spell his name without hesitating.
When Nietzsche sits on my shoulder, and looks down on the
page, then tells me my work is nonsense, I can shrug him
off and write him a letter instead, as if I were writing
a letter to my father, now long dead, and saying all the
things I never could have said while my father lived.
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