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Ciiy Assessor denies tax exemption; GAGV goes bade to cotirt

Tl« Rodiestxx Qty Assessor's oBtx announced on D e c 31 thattheyhave denied the propeny tax eKcmption re­quested by the Gay Alfianoe of the Genesee VaBey (GAGV)-'nicGAGV plans to re-submit their complaint to New York State Si,f}(reme Coutjusticc Andrew V, Siraa:Ke, who oxtttnented fevocabfy on the GAGVs case aa Dec 1, but declined to issue a ruling at that time.

GAGV President Paul Schieb said, * We fed that diie to baas u«e are receiving unequal treatment under tfie faw. We're askir * people Co writi; or phone Mayor Ryan and ask htm fbr &ir and equal treatment for thc Gay Alliance."

The GAGV hopes to submit one ca-both ofits motions on Feb. 18,Judg^ Siracuse's first availaUc motion dace in 1993. The first motion wouki be to amend the ongmal oonrpiaint, and the second motion wouki be that tiie City ^(^sessors dedsk>n be overtumed^and that the GAGV, lifce similar non­profit oc^mizadons in thk dty, and Hke the Gay and Lesbian Center in New York City, be allowed property tax exctription.

Those wishif^ to contact fhe Mayor m^callliisoffiocat42^7000»orwtU£tn him at30Chutch St,City Hall, Roches­ter N.Y 14614.

Bid from the heart on Valentine*s Day at the Top ofthe Plaza

Valenttne*s Day will be celebrated a g ^ this year by "A Bid From the Hcan;"thcGayAKanoccrftheGenesce Valley (GAGV)'s annual auction, \dhich wiD take pbce at the Top of the Piaza, soene of an eady GAGV <firect action against homophobia.

Over 15yeais^go,GAGVnicmbcrs attended ahetereosexualdance there; atasignal, they switched to same-sex partners, makii^ a point about g ^ and ksbmvisftalityaiid^boutfaQnx>pho

This Feb. 14, there wiH be no need for such an action as tfic GAGV presents its annual funckaising auc­tion, "A Bkl Fnyn the Hear^" £[«» 1 fioSptf*

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ONA SPEOALMISSION: Rw.Jame Spahr mtt tnwelthe countiy as an eaatweUstjfM-the acceptance oj eejf and tectum €iergyu^At the Presbytenan Ciiamh. PktOo by Dm^ Messier.

Spahr may serve as evangelist; changes proposed in Presbyterian anti-gay policy

By Susan Jordan Downtown United Presbyterian

Church (DUPC) and two other More L ^ t chutches in die Presbytery of die Genesee VaOey have taken a new tack in their continuing staigg^ to d i a i ^ tfae and-gay-dcrgy policy of the Presbyte­nan Chuich (U.SJ\- )

Tlic Reverend Jane Spahr tnay be comnnissioned as an ervangelist with a mission not only to DUPCs congteg»-tion, but to tfae entke dcnominatkin. Rev. Spoihc would travel around tfae countxy in stf>port of a proposal fitxn two kxal I^csbytezian churches that die national churdi end its prohibition of g^y and lesbian pastors. The pn:^x>sal >x^ be presented to the General Assembly, thc governing body ofthe church, in June.

The Thud Pnesfaytenan Oftirdi arKl Calvary St'Andrews Chuich submit­ted the proposal to the Presbytery of tfaeGcneseeVaOeyanJaaSO

DUPC dder MonfiaB. Brown said tfaat %>ahr% wodc as aa evangelist will dlfib-s^g^oScaadft tan wiiac j & wouU have done as a co-^mw^ at DUPC ''When g pcfioo is *ppficx^19GA9n^

larditiichaxidcof^Eieg^rtiooacidfyfilb die tasks of ainiaJMeriit ibetodidaQal we^. Butin our^ukiaiifiaikiii^^diied^ odierpujroonsfeatapergoo can ffl, sucfa as bong a cfaajpfaun in a hcgpibi, or

Calif. Thc Church is trying to tdl her she can't be a minisoer at DUPC or any^n^icrc.

**So whatwe*tcproposing since iSify'tt? raised the issue, is to raise the stakes, to gp forwaid full Uast and directiy ad­dress die consdtutional problem. We want to eliminate tfae 'definitive guid-arKc'of 1978 )rfiidibanS9^and lesbian dergy.) This is what tfae } u ^ ^ looked at ^x ien tfaey re jectxxi janie. Tliey said she'sinel^^beGauseofiftiel978niir^ They also dkninaced tfae grand&tfaer d a i ^ , which sakl that die 1978 ruHng ^>plied only to those ordained after 1978. That is a matter of grave con­cern."

Brown continued,*'WeVeaskcdJank to remain in 4% I Gsbycery of tfae Red­woods and underokea^seodrntsskin for DUPC and tfae «»8»p denoniimdon. She wiB travd at tfae invitation of o d n s to disdioiacidpiedDylcties diroi^KXJt our denoaitna£k>n« Shell bewc3dJc ;fiilttnney gctlir^onpiancs and^)cakii gtDSUppGct-e» aB ova die <iountiy fD h e ^ get votes to dkntnafe the restxicdocu

"We11p«f fiirit Wie'HbesefKMtiKout a mgjtng soon to siait fiindraiatng. Re-me»berwe£atted130i!(X)0foril^|udl-

was thc Permanent Judidal Commis­sion, a pand of )u^e$, fike tiic Si^reme Court In June, tfaosev^o wiD vote will be representatives of differcnt prcsbyt3crics, the unit of our function­ing. So it will be a very dififerent si tua-rion. At the end, we can get back to our real business of trying to hdp each other."

Brown sakl that EHDPC wiD seed an offidal lettar of protest about die P^mia-nentJudkJd OxnmisGkin tjiedskxi to die General Assemhly.

Brown stated tfaat removal of tiie 1978 nde would haveafiuTHreaditngeffect Off! the diurch, not onfy in acceptance ofgaydeigy,butalsoin the freedom of local churches and pre^3ytenes to make tfaetr own dedsons.'^One of tfae impor-tantaspects of tfae conflict has been tfaat

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E D i r O R I Vl JA>C \ L & S i A j 1 N l - W S The new ctiine of ••cortectness*'

By Susan Jotdan ^RHien I was new to radical feminist

oiganizing (back in tfae pre-Cambdan era wfaen dinosaurs roamed tfae eartfa) n y sister oonspicuots and I used to joke about *>.€." and "p i . "

We t h o i ^ t of **politicaDy comcct** QTpes as huriiodess, smsdkxindod wottien VAJO gpt seifn^ ifieous tfatiDs by takit^ a Tigyi,party-Jkieview<^ssucs,aodtrasb£ig women wfao had diffiaent opimons and were dieiefoie'"politicaiir kiooficct" We wcrc **px and proud," we joked.

Over a doosen yeais later we Ve seen socnestxangedevclopn)ents.Theferniiiist analysis of the links between homophobia, sexism, tadsm, classism and the otiier *^isnis" has gone from bctf^ a traiSIVial fidienonienon ID bcifig a national preoccupation, especially amof^tiieyoutig Thematnstreammedia tdls us tfaat tfaese issues are being hotly discussed again on coU^p campuses aiKi dse\(4iere.

But vitiak inficxibiy '^x ." women and men can still be a big pain in tlie neck.

L E T T E R S Goodbye a n d thanks fronn E^. Steve Scheibel to the c o m m u n i s

To the Editor: I wouki Uke to take this time ro ex­

ptess my dianks to the Rochester cotnmunity,and $p>ecifically tfae gay community, for its support of Comma­nity Health Networi^^K:. and my partid­pation as a physician at this facility.

After fivii^in Rochester for die past seven years, I have dedded to move to the west coast for personal reasons. My e:)q>e-dence in working tlie HIV fidd hasbeen rewanjir^ to me as a caretaker of those infected with HIV, but also served to usher me t i i r o i ^ a penod of personal growtix Devdc^iing rdationsh^ with patients is a con^)iex and intimate pcoGcss, espedaifyifjTOuhappen tobeg^yoursdf Tlie typical doccor-patient rdadonsh^ qukkfyevoh^esintodosefiiendshqjswitfa a great deal of emotional invcdvement

Ithas been this fedingtliat^xflxed on my involvement with CHN — the idea t i i i you ooiid provide gressive and progres­sive mocScal cace in a nurtutir^ environ­ment Admittedly, I have wodced with patients \(iio,likc tnyself antic iatBd rnore creative moc&al carc to slowdown tfae

tfae term has been adapted and typicaSy twisted by tfae tig^t wing which uses it to silence tfae oppressed.

Inapost-Res^g^inAmeDcavtMdipeefers Rush limbaugh to W h o c ^ Gotdbeta we'retoUit'snolongernecessary to diink abouttiiec^qiressionofg^bystiaig^ts, women by men, pec^^ of color by \diites, workers by boi^es, tlK disabled bytheable-bodied,tfaeTliirdafidFourtfa Worlds by multinational ootporations.»fi:>igetaIldiatstufiElThose difficult, disturlung issues aie a l l ' ^ . c " and can tfaerefore be dismissed witfaout furtfaer ado, e^pedaDy by v ^ t e , own-ing-dass, able-bodied hetcrosexuai males.

Theodierd^IevenreadaboutsamcoQc wlx) was quottd as Sluing'Itmay be px. — but I reafy tfaink diat woman was disctiminated against because sheis fe­mak."

Interesting I tlxxig^ Now oay criti­dsm of the scatus quo iias to be prcfeood byadisdaimer tiiat one is not tiying to be politicaDy correct

deterioration crf" tfae immune system soc-ofkbty fio HIV. Supponed by tfae ACT-UPmovementand tfaeJchnJamesNews-ktter, patients and tiieir (diysicians have beenofictedaooess tolifesavingmedica-dons.

The results of several recent studies oonfirm tfae benefit of some of tfaese treatments, sudi as tlie eatfy intervention widi medication sudi as AZl ' and ddl; the use of combination anti-flctroviials(AZr/ddCaridAZr/dd[);and the Lse of medicatkkns to prevent o[^xir-tunisticirifixtions.Ithasbeenanfiirade to see people's lives extended from e^Jit to 12 ncKXidis without treatment tD two-to-stx years with treatment

Newer studies are examining tiie use of imniunoniodulationincomhiriatk)nwith anri-retroviral therapy to furtiier arrest the rqAcation of HIV. The use of AZT and a^ha-interferon and HIV vaccine therapy may tnaintain the use of one*s own immunosurvdllance to maintain verylowactivityofHIV.Tliis will surely be of clinical benefit

As a oorm&iniiy itis important to oon-sidcr that HTV infection is not neccs-sarity a deatfa sentence. Recent ana^^ of tfae San Frandsco cohort study stiows 'tiiatabout35percentof tfaose gay tnen who are HIV infected remain

The Bi^tf Obstt MI W iMiihfH 11 OBIM a yt»t (Deceaiber aMtijaaxuf mmlMiMj) by ihe BmMr Ooaet P S M fior tfae G ^ Aliance of tbe Geneeee VaBnJot . ABpcoBae«d)r 4500 ooiBea ofeacbiaaacace ifiaidfaiMiaa dndoKB^ ficM vnele of tfae innritl^aQiiiebymiJiBafJMiiaealaJeaprfope.'TliepiAftca-fcogoilheiiapieoc|*lB*t>iyapBo»aiy|iaawiBOfo^WBtwttOP in MtidiBi tt AOC aniaJiceiion a t Ae aenal ocaAecvQiiil rttif ntasoo of tbat peiuM or tbe manbettoc tfaati

oor does u ptittt adidtHUif tfaat states n a t cfae penon fafUMftl in me ad is far sale, or tfaat yon nf l "geT tfait paniciiltr person if yon patcoiBBe tfae estafabsfanenc adm^

iftMt fa^mfyhobtf ^ f J be mffiisiwi,

tfaat ate srsiai. cadst^

For pnofacanon^ snbnMt ne^w ttenia, letteMf simirs^ P ^ **^^**"j**'*'^y^'****'**'**^'^***™******p*"*^^**T ^ ^ r 9 Oeue OBceby n e landC n a MOiin (pbot09 athBCMHan' fotad^ adb faf ifaiB 20lb.) I le^pi aervioea far naa-cnD«a aea^ ads aae arddblc lora fae.

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The E199 Qrjsr ta Ac o t t d i l pnWiraann of Ae Gay Aliance of Ae Geneaee Valey, Inches HMttlia Ae bylavt of

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The cyimons of rahanaiin^ eJiiorial ^aiiten anJ oAar ncHnttty wotas aee Aeir <Mni ann oo not neoaiaany

tfae oMtaimt a tu ide of tfae Gay AKance of iim Ganeaee Valey or tfae ZTanft Cfane. N o fcwatpctaonls HTV

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Then onjan, lOIrcad that DonnaR Shakiki, now head of die Department of Heahh and Ibbman Services (and pto-poabagastqppcd-tywaronAIEiStoriQake i4> for tfae time lost due to wfaat siie odls "dcnoe and b^ooy*0 "(^ • *^»<^ beingtoo correct** This wasa^cnedror so affier I read diat siie was "Sinder fire" for tfaecrimeofjCnco^beingaiesbian (and let s hope she is, although as Gk>tia Steinem pointed out long go, lesbcan-baitiiig is a very effective way of silenc­ing tieterosexual feminists.)

ItseemsdiatSlialalasuC^xKtedaliate speedioodeoniicrGacifHisatlfae Univer­sity of^Wsconsin, tiiat Ixmned epidiets or symtxds which demean otheis be­cause of race, gender, ancestry, ^jp, disalxility or sexual preference. Tlie ACLU diallengpd tlic code as a le-straint on free speech and a federal district court overturned it in 1991.

Shahia is obviously a potential ' ^x i " tyranqg?y-i3asliers,racists, woman-hat­ers and the rest won *t t>e as safc as tfaey siiouki be under iier reign of terror. Of

asyrr]pfiDrnatk:forlor^prti!anl4yeats.Tht5 riDKcr infomiation pboes doubts on die daims o£ some sdentists tfaat HIV is a unifomity&eililness. TUs raises tfae pofisi-biitytfaattiierearestiainsofHIV wfaidiare riotpadKgenk:;,aridaIttiou^mfectk)nrn3y oocur,immunedeteriorarion may not fol­low. Tliis creates the likdthooddiatmo-leoiargenetksrxis^be teA;dtimatear)s^ns to llie treatment of HIV infection throu^ tfaeaeatuxiofrc^dkativemutauonsinHIV wiiidi, altfaoi^ infecting an immune cdl, will be unable to destoc^it

I think that it is important to state diat nobodywantstfaisdis^sefiDoontinueor be a fomi of genodde. I certainty woutd iviEve Hked to have tiiis disease cured a long time agp wiiile I t»u22 around on my motor­cyde gcing from l^each to beadi Tlie sadder aspea of tiiis disease is die realiza­tion tfaat some do die of MVinfiwion, and my vde of a iieakr diac^jes. fixam teconnntieriation fbr txiedksarioii to institut-ingcomfortcaremeasures and conselling patients, lovers, families aliout the deatlung process.

Tliis has spurred my interest in tfae deathir^ process and rituals surrounding tfae i^Hftment of tiie soul and its progres­sion into die H^t Mc ien ifae j ^ s i o d body dies. For me a sense of spirituality has been tiieoc^oomfortin emotionally dcal-

couise,bigotshaveevciyr^g^ to demean odiers, even ^dien it leads to vicdenoe against minodties, who (acoxdh^ to dtf 1 ^ wtn^ dont deserve "^wia l ij^tB*' Uke piotectioo from disciitnir nation and violent attack.

It^snotdie faggots cfao arc die pnsblen^ you see, ifs tiieir vicdms, rfio insist on being so aimoyingly anrect in drawii^ attentton to injustioe. The fieedom to lie incorcect is tfae Amaican Ws^ — ex­cept frx-Reaggn/Bushpditicaland judi­cial appcnuees dftfae I ^ 12 years, wfao faave Iiad to pass tfae idi^ous t ^ ^ s Htmsjs test for its own brand of politk:al correctness.

That doesn't count, however, i>e-cause tfae new critxie of "conectnc^" is ohtyan issue for Aftran Americans, Na­tive AtneEicans,Astans,Hiq>anics,gays and l^bJaos, women^..

life is fuH of surprises. Heie itis 1993 andit sccmsrm'*p.c"whctfacrlwant to be or no t

ingwith tfae tragedy (Ayoungdeath— witfaout this I was ovcrwfadmed with fed­ings of angec, sadness, loss and resent-riient NatusaDy, to g ^ tfaese fediri^^to' a greater power than mcsudiastheGod oocKCpt his dewed me td fed passic^^ joy and love ratiier tfaan numbness. This adcno^iiRtoc^ment of tliis loving h i^e r power fatas transformed my idea of dis­ease—astate\rfidiaflfectsour{Aiysical, nental, OTiotkirial, qnitixil and soul bod­ies —not just a physical condition.

Hnaity^ag^Iwtsh to diank tfae Rodies-fleroonmuniy for its siyport of CHN througli generous donations, supplies aiKivduntecis.PersonaIly,Itiianktiiestaff ofCHN fbr tiidroommitmenttn provid­ing ocxnpreiicnsive health care and es-pMaBy tomyfiicndMValenti, MD.,for iiis steadfiistness in die conception and 'Tbirdiing" of CHN. I espedally want to tiiank my patients, botfa alive and tfaose who have passed into Spirit, for the glimpse into dieir lives — tiieir values, comments, ^ipiedation and criticism —wliidihaveassisced meintobecoming aixtterliealetilccrtainly wish tfae contin­ued faealtfa of my patients and will tfaink of tfaem often as I enter into anotfaer phase ofmy lifc and caieer.

^ c e r d y , Steven F . Scheibel, MJ>.

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goodsiBDdiqgctfteGAGV. Petiticxis shoidd be sem ID NdtaJnaiingCoaMsait-tsc^GAGV,179 A^buiticAvc., Rodies­ter N.Y* 146074255, by Apdl l .

GAGV s e ^ s to fin two Tlie d^ofAlbtfijr passed a l u x n n p a r t t i l l i e p O S i C l o i l S

and kabiaiis on Dec 14 Openly 9 7 AkktCQsn Kddi St John

^Kinsoced tfae btU, wfakli was passed I7 tfae dq^s Comnaon Coundl by a voce of e ^ t to SIX. The bill, s^ttch was a source of oootto^^sy for tfae past five ycatt^addsthcwocds^^Vganriorrntatkjn" to a Ust of protected grou{^.

The bin exempts reiig^oi^ g c o i ^ , but niakss it otiierwise i D ^ to discrimi-iiaie i g^kist g ^ riien and ksdxans in em-

g^vcs Ifae Eqiri EtnpkTmem OffKVt^ sitf oflbc in Aliatqr wider pogseis to investigate and punish cases of faooiophc^ic dtscrimiriariotti.

The mesKure also bans dpscriimna-

oqgpi, gender, maritai staas, j ^ or dis-abffity. The bill has been passed to Mi^orTlvimaB M Whdan n t wlio has snd tfaat he win sign it

KddiStJolm is die fiist openiy g ^ Black elected offidal in die nadon.

ESPAlobbyist to talk €m prospects for state gay rights l^is lat iof i

The Rodiester Lesbian and Gay Po-Utkal Caucus will q>onsor a forum on gEq and ksfcian ovd limits in New York State on Fetxl at 7 pjm., at tfae Fkst Unitarian Churdi, 220 S. Wtfiton Rd

ScttenideAgpida.wiBdRSCussdie current Slate of dvil f ^ t s l^M^ukxi in die New Yodc Scale AsBembl , 1^7 tfae cbmces

howpoGpteio tfatsasca cuipcesBUK tfaeir k^^risttas tt> support gsty t i ^ t s .

Sindar forums hacve already taken pface in Albany, Udca and Syxacuse, and odxxs are sdiedided this montfa fbr Buf&ki, Itfaaca and Btt^[^ian^>ton.

v # iM »i < I i ; • GAGV board noininatioiis

Tlie nomtnadng caanmittpc of ifae Gay Affiance of tfae Geneaee VaBqr (GAGV) is cunendy aocepdngnonafr-nations t>y pedtion fbr die ADianoe boatd New Inaid membera and offices wil be cfedcd in ApcS, aod five seats for representatives of communtty 9 K K ^ are sdso open.

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Hie Gay AHiance Of die Genesee Valey <fiAGV) has announced dsttk is sedtb^ to M two positions widiin die ofg^ttnadon.

Tlie opeiations mana^s m devdop-mentdkccfior position woukibepartiinic, focusing on monborifig and prc^>osing inqptovcments to GAGV operationa D u o s wodd indude maintaining com­munications witfa local, state and na­tional gay oa^ganiaatiDn^ i novadkig sap-

hocpKgam% tjpdatie^GAGVrecoids, reaeaschti^ and writir^ grant propos­als, and generally piomodf^ and assist-if^ tfae GAGV and its profccts.

Thepostc^&dlitiesmanagerwouki also be a part time position, entailing such duties as ke^sing tfate building c >en from 6:30 to 9:30 p.m. on wcekn^ ts , imintatniiig tfae appearance of tiiebuid-in^ sdnduKng use of die available xxieet-ingspaoe,andpcrfomiingotiier derical and maintenance tasks.

For moce informatkm, tead tfae Hdp Wanted section of tiie dassified advertise­ments, or call 244-8640 and kave a message for tfae perscxind committee. Resumes siiouki be sent to die Gay Alli­ance, 179 Atiantic Ave., Rocliesfier N.Y. 14<J07-1255.

AGR grants go to GAGV, Men's Chorus

Two local g ^ and lesbian orgainiza­tions have leoeived giants for arts pK>ject5 from Ans fbr GncatErRodiestcr^sdecen-trafaation fund

The Gay Afiianoe of tfae Genesee Vaky was awaided $500 fbr die 1993 Rochester G ^ Summer Tlieater sea-son,T«^adiroayfeaiuicprodiictionsof/var G»hredGMWio HatteCmstdBredSideidt WUtt Ae Adnkmt Is Etii^ Chttd Nitte, Vi^Br/l'lt$otia,ilBtttttr^ea:^MaJ^

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The Rociiester Gay Men*s Chorus reoetved $1000 for presentarion of tfae "Alto Rhapsody" i y Brafaun^ at dieir lOdiantvccsaiy Goocxitan May 1,1993.

Women's Day events to indiKle workshops

Tntetttttkanal Women's Di^ 1993 will beoijscucvcdinRodicsttron]SiJbudi6^w3tfa adyofwofkahgpsandan evening event tenlanvdy set for tfae Damon Center, the dosBsiown dsm crfMonioe Com-tmnitiy Colkge, in die Sibky BuOcfif .

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tfaeme indudes women in tfae arts and women's indtvidual and collective cre­ative reqKMises to 0[^>res8k)n in aU its

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What cstti't you liye witiiQut? I r s ptobalAy at the auction

By Evefyn Bailey The Aucoon Conimfttee is very exdted

about tfie quality and quantity of dona­dons for **A Bid From the Hcarf on Feb. 14 at tfae Tc^ of tfae Plasa.

As of Jan. 20, we liad already xcoeived artidsi fexn Rodiester dcoosatois Arthur Vitpch* Christopher Le^g iton, and Fean Speet; A oiks of art from AcfaiBe Forgone, Susan Carter, Eric Belkiiarin, Susan Kos^ Tom Day, Susan Soleil, ^^Ik Groaning; Rene and Pepe Silversmitfas, Chariotte Barnard, and Kristen Malone.

Oi^linal works of art liave been do-natsdfiomthccolectiQnsofL^^Impres-sfons, Oxford GaOery, Nan ^filler Gal­lery, Ramcoe Santiaga Studb, Dtowson Ga^ry, Wanen Pi^Ups Fine Art and die petsonal collections ofthe fbllowing indtviduak: Ead Kage,]ffin Vaknti,Qaiie Pailrer, Joim Dash and Amie Pc^jisii, Dan N^er s , John Strand, Eve Ebaengii, Ron Kwasman, Bob Sdtenicich, Evelyn Bailey, Walter Hickey, Joe Bcvivissuto and Tom Hackett, Jessie Lucas, Tim Mains and otiieis.

The committee iias also obtained tfae fdlowing exdting pieces of fumttuie: Art Deco dresser and inatdiii^ naino^ Victorian sofii, tientwood rocker, bev­eled g ^ wafi mimx; three or^nal seats from tiie Rochester Ccxnmunity Piayers Plajdiouse, and a pksce fiom Weird Fur-nituic.

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Induded in die auction menu ace two ceUuiar phones from ROC Commu- ' nication^ asafe from Protcctinn Alarms RuSy doset painting by Ken Saltzman, tkkets frcm Rodiester Btoadway Tlie­ater Les^;ue and Blackftiars Theatre, iflensfionriRodhc^erOjstannLeatfaer^a wcdsend getaway at Sue Cowefi'sHnger Lakes cabir\, items from Pet Pizzxez, Accolade Antiques, Abacus Bookshop, Silkwood Books, Sosan Green Antiques, tnembetsi:^ toHaza Adiletk: Gbb and odicr assotied items.

Abo to tie auctioned wffl begjftccrtifi-cates from Edwards Restaurant, Rooncy*s» The Bio, The Galfery Cafe, Water Street GciD, Oscais, Crmie de La Creme, Chariics Frog Pbnd, The B ^ Ap{de, Canopy's, Hogans, The Ruk Bendi, Galaxy Hair, Hbitty Bruno Sakm, Sweet Stufi Fabrics and Hfidir^ Roctiester Custom Leatiiets, Mark Eilenwood Electric, Gateway Poster atKi Framirig, Oxford Framing and Jeff Barhite.

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J u c ^ stays Colorado's anti-gay measure; boycott StiH in efifect

Colorado's Amendtnoit 2, wfadch w o i ^ have peimftnentfy banned laws piotcctit^gays froaKiisaiininarioii,has been b l o d n l by a state )udge utitil con-stttutionid questions are resolved.

DistrictJudgeJeffreyBayiess blocked tfae AmMdmentin time to keep it fiom tadrif^ efifect on Jan. 16.

**Tliisisnocavictocy.TliisisaBandaid," said Jan ^J^Diams of Boycott Colcxado. She sakl diat tfae boycott wiD condnue..

A gpif) of indivxkris, kiduding openly kdaantenrusscarMatiriaNavtatik7va,and tiuee Colorado dties, tiave sued die state of Cokxado in a chaUeiige to die fcgaBty ofAnoeridmcnt 2, wiudi penna­nently bans any fonn of civil r^jhts protec­don forgays and lesbians, and rcpedsdie measures akcady protectit^ gays in As­pen, Den ver and Bodder. Tlie Amend­ment was passed by 53.4 percent of Colorado voters.

Tlie lawsuit claims tfaat tiie Amend­ment vidates liotfa tfae U^. and Colo­rado consdturions, and estatilisties a " r i ^ t to discriminate" against g^ys, ks-liians and bisexuals.

TliesdtalsodakxisdiatthcAincndnrient violates tlie equal protection dause of tfae I4di Amendment to die U 5 . Con­stitution, would inltibit firee speedi,iimtt advocaqrandforoepeopk to "adhere toa single, state-approved bdief re4)ectii^ ffy, ksbian or bisenial orientadorL''

' j(goC5 actoss tiie nadon are watching dosdy/'said atxotxtey Masy Cdcstc of die

Coitxado L^al Initiatives Project, a g^oupsBsisting tfae lawsuit ' Ihey wifl use it (Amendment 2) as a modd to con­done discriminadon cveiy wliere* This case has narional sjgnificanoe."

The otfaer plaintiffs in tfae lawsuit indude an oidEiined nrttnister \dio iias never lx;fbre-publicly acknowiet^ed tieing a lesbian, and tiie dries of Dcnvei; A^3en and Bodder. Representing the [riaindffs are ttie ACLU of Colorado, dieiiadonalACEXJLQfaianandGs^R^^ Project tlie Colorado L^pl Inidadvcs Project; and tibe Larnbda Legal Dcfimse and Educaticm Fund.

r-i i ^ strengdi. Lestiian comedian and promoter Robb Tyler has cancded her tour and tiie events die planned in con­junction witfa Aspen Gay Sd Week. G ^ entitpceneuis in Colocado are critkirifig dietioyoottashBtmfiiltDdidrtjusincsses b a t T ^ sakl tiiat monetaty loss is "not enoi^ofanexajse"toiuleoutalx)yoDtt

'The cost is our i ^ t s and tiie pen­alty is our fireedom,** slie said, adding tiiat if Colorado docs nor suflfcr enor­mous economic penalties, arm-g^ forces wiD liegin Amendment 2 initiatcves in otfaer states.

Some cdebdties wfao live orvacadon in Aspen have also said tiiey wiD sup­port tiie lioycott Barbra Streisand an­nounced onDec 11 diatdiewiDnolonger vacation diere.'If diat kw were passed a^a^nstjewsorpeopkofcakx;" she said, "tfae >9dKde country would tie outraged and nolxxiy would question o^ganirir^ a boycoctof diar state."

The dties of Rvlade^pfaia, New York,

San Frandsco. Boston, Seatde, Ausrin, Ctucago and Adanta have joined die boycott, pnAibtdng offidd budness navd for d ^ emptoyecs to QJorado. Washir^ton D.C. is expected to follow tfadr cxssnfAe soon. The U.S. Confer­ence of Mayors, meedng in Wastoig ton D.C on D e c l 7, voted not to hoU its annual meetii^in June 1993inCdo-ladoSprii^ as prcviws^ planned.

The Coalition of Labor Union Wcmen hasdcddcdtocanoditsplanstohoklits convcntioninI>cnvcr,anddicNa&ioal Educadonal Assodation abo dedded not toqpoiBocaNovanbcr 1993 meerii«in die state. The Soudiem Chrisdan Lcsad-eish^ Confisrence of Adanta, die dvil rig^ crtganizaricMi friunded Isy Mwlin L u d u K j i ^ has also JGitMod tfae tx^oott

Bustriesses too are bcg^init^tDOOop^ ciateXCtot^ Conjurers and tfa^ Ziflf-Davis R i b l ^ m ^ C a haveliodicfaatigpd pbs3s to conskler rdocatingin die state.

The boycott l » a«aboot f lO trfSon scifie^ide so fin; aacxxdiag to Kra B o ^ spokesperson for the Gteaiter Denver Chamber of Gommcroc-

The Natbnd Gay and Ledian Task Jorae^sAnti-VtolenoeRtojects^dMttfac number of tiias inddents agaunst gays lis^ increased diamaricaOy since diepas-si^ofAmendment2^frQm89in 1991 to

"166 in 1992. Of die 1992 inddents, 45 occured in November*

The effects of tfae Amendment in­clude endangering gay priscmers, who would no longer lie s^regatod for tfaeir own protection. Denver Safe^ Man-s^erJolinSitnonettestifiedJan. 12t]iatg^ inmates in tfae Dem^er jail have iiad the

optkm o€ being fcept away from faiorDO|^K>bic prisbnecs, but Amcnd-tnenl:^ S^patanun^ior crf people at risk"

The posaafge of ibe Amendment has resui6edtnadea8tepetoidde.Thenotc left

person wttfa AB3i^JEead, *T refuse to livejn a s t s^ wfaete afewpet^le can, at wiD,maken:qrIifeftfivic^fadl.Thankst CVF (Ckskittido fi» iialegx^^nfaMupocsared die Amend-rxsent), hdl wsis ctiivered to my very fiiaritdoot."

Booker added, ^T scfipose Tm weak. But i|t tocdcalotof coors^ to get out befiaitil w t ^ tfamu^ die 'Ausdndiz^CFVhEsinmindfQrpeq^ iflxnidlloMeypu^lLrmsociy my crime inlifiswasLOVE—aibdttodiesame gender."

Hnandai contriburions to tiie legal battfe: ssttnstArne 2 may be seiittoGakjGacioL^Initia&ves P t o i ^ (GI3E5, R O . « o x 44447, Denver CO 8020L To tihanfc Colotado Governor Roy Romer fbr liis support of tfae gay oommunity in oRxidtkKi to die Amend­ment; write Gov.RoyRomer,136StatE Capttc^ Denver CO 80203.

If jTOu pbn to join die boycott ^ ins t tzavding to or spending money in Colo-rado, you can write to die following organtgatinns (sddiough Denver and Bodder voted sgainst the Amendment, tiieseotga'i^^s'^^^'^^cQdtoknowthatyou wiDnottiesfiendingmoneyatywiietein tfaes&rieuntidieAmcndmentisrqiealed^: DenvcrChamlier of Commerce, 1301 Walton, Denver CO 80204; Cokxado

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Carnhri<%e tnayor reveals ''best known secxet^: gay identity

The macyos o i Cambridge, Mass., a sububofBo8SDn,annoutioodonDec 11 tfaat he is gay, i dtiich he said was CamtiQclge's '*bcst known secret"

Kenneds Reeves said diat his sexual odentaiion has iioc zcoeivod attenrion txeoose di&wodb his overiooked i t

* ^ 6 oneindleMess e^er^tedme if I wasg^r rh^^ in in an interview widri die ITs sM^MtB^Rems iwSdmhe had not bfocdte ts» dK iasae Idmadf

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Afnericsns wcassjges,b«it«o

^"Beevessaid' 'DicR is, however, an iDcreaied senaitivity, and I dvnkl ms^ tefiea dial — dat in 1992» diac (ap-pfoadi) tnig^ not sofiSoe in d9 ways."

When Reeves was gn« i an awasd ftom die <kbHer Boston Lesbiaiv'X^ay VdtddAMmat, ^tHA was d e s ^ t e d iat '*iiefidi cf the communiiy" fae sak) llMlhr<HwTiedtipontpbc<^^ idcnd^. At te end of fais leedi, he sd^'^iiocktxitsn honoBHyhonoosexuaL I am a rcd faomosexuaL

Reeves is tfamv^ to be die nsMion's £m opettljir g ^ A & s n Arnedcan may<» (Abaoy AUeanan KcA St John is tfae fim openty gsgr Bbck dected offidaL) Canixk%eis die laigpst American dty witfa an opetdy gay mayor.

Reeves said he has leoeivod a large le^ionse to his announcement most ofttsifspGctive. "Nfycipericnoeissimpiy tfaat the eartfa has not cficned i ^ lie-ncadim^"facaaid"Iliepeaplcwfao iiave loved and valued me as a person do so even mote, I gqess."

:Game to Camfarit%c to attend Harvaid Untvcr-«y. HeisncTwalawyeraDdhas been a mendber of tiie dty Goundl since 1989. He was dected m ^ o r by tfae council in January 1992; his term wfl expire in 1994.

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oKfcrtum die IVa^gadb kiqsine ban on gays and lesbians sevif^ in tfae AonedFoeces.

Rqx Barney Rank pJ^fwX^RiiohB lieen consulted about die cfaange in pobcy by die Qmtem adDGttBsteat&Mi, add that Gfeion wodd issue an oeder cinx»agdieservk» tosaopqucMioniqg SBOia^aboueditarseiHdorienaiiQn, SKKI to end the didiomodbfe dadsKges of diosemembeB ofthe sewioewlK) admit or aee ftiund «D lie g ^ or Icdaaa

Tmmediatdy tlie policy of k i t i ng pecple our of die fflttCKy becwse diqr are gay wiD IK out,** Fcank sakl

During die Whtt: House open oBCcp-tion foiowing tiie km^iuEatkin, some g^tnen and kstsiansin the tecaving line toki Ointon diattheyhuped tie wfll keq> fads promise.

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BudolfNurefevdies of AIDS at 54

RudotfNuceyev^oneofdiegneatt^cers trf die 20ifa century, died of AIE^ on Jaa 6ataliGepiEai nev Paris, France.

Nuieyev became a siifitstar after de-fectingfromtiiefbtmerSovietUnftonin 1961. He was cspcdaiy fisnous fior

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Fonteyn, and he estabUshed rmle ^tnc-CIS as virile and sexy.

This was ttornc because Nureycv, ac­cording to friends, was ^qr. He was (Hcoedcd in deadi by his great kyve, Danisfadanoer EdfcBndm

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werunouuidvcswiiLuidie pBesbyttty,and weare diodBoda> tie inKJfeiedvsdun tfais wiqr. So we te-affinn tfae authon^ of tiie regiond presbytery."

When adgsd if ^ Permanent Judicial ConrirnissicMi judges tiad all tieenmkkie-agodjuBSumflb^roonservattve^adiitemcn, Brown sakl,"Ycs.It'sfinewidimett)faave tfaartxoqg^topeaple'sanendon.Tliis is a "teadufale moment;" tiecause Jane k so qualifiodfordiepodtk3n,andtfaisisiidpif% mar^ pecple ssirt to see tfaings dififer-cndy, and to quesdon tfae anri-gay policy."

Brown added, *'Ouradvisocs tdl us diat tiiis dedaon ( g insttfaecaO toSjpaiir) VRB ilcg^ and improper: Tliere is a lot of strorig fedirig atiout tfaat across tfae country, and serious oig^nidr^gGingon tfaroqg^ a computer network called P r e s t ^ c t "

Ruftior since tiie Novcmticr rejection of die Spalir apped iiad suggest^ diat DUPC mig^tfcxmalfy defy die rulingby tariff Spahr as a oorpastor. ^xiwn ob-serveddiatintliatcaBe,dieriaiionddiurdi oodd remove die present pastors and session from DUPC and put a conscr-* varive oongrc^^on and leadersliip in their place. Gay dders would lie espe­dally at risk. *Ttiere could lie hearings like tiiat called for J anie Spaiir," Brown said. 'The churdi orddned us and can tTemove us,and aU dK: pastjors."

The Reverend Joim Fife^ moderator of die Geneial Assetrfciy.isasiipporter of

DUPC and Janie Spahr. He spoke at DUPConJan. 12,makingitdear tfaatiie fbcisdiatdiediurdicanandsliouklctiang^ itspcdicy.

*T tfaink tfaat tiie possibility of tfaat diange txif^ approved tpfr tie upocniirig Generd AssefrfJy is vey good," fife sakl *Ttwfltx^ane3ctvemefydo6e vote. To

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Fife sakl diat he wifl beadvocaringfor tiie cfaange when tie speaks to oor^^gsi-dons, ptesby teiies and diurcfa leaders around die oountqr.He said diat dtfaoqg^ tie feds die PermancntJudiddCommis-skm cned m votk^ against Spdi^ otfaers disa^g^andwdlcontttiue toresistchatige.

HfewyiretumtoRodiesteronN&rdi ^ at wiikli dme Jar»e ^lohr wffl lie for-nodly oommissioned as an evangelist March6was to tiave been diedateofher installation as a co-pastcH-at DUPQ

JanieS{pd]rtoldtiie.fin^On< " Spec­trum (Sj^tir's currentagenqr) would tie taring me and would tic tfae &Gd agent; funded byDUPCIfdieSpectrumboaid ^iproves, I would end at Spectrum by tfae end of Feliruary, and t i^in tlie post as e^ iuigelist onMarch 1, witfa tfae com-misdon service on March 6.**

Atpresstime tfae Spectrum tioaxd was atiouttotakeafortr^ vote on die issue.

••I'm excited atiout traveling to churdies and talking atiout tfae wonder of God's diversity,'' ^lafar said, "and about persuading tfae Presbyterian Church to diange its polky...'so all may fiedy scrvc.*'

ByMan&ielRiveta TfaeNationdTedinkallnstitutefix tfae

Draf^JTn3)liostDdax(«ekfulicfcvc^ to cdebcatc gj^ness in thc deaf oommu­nity tietween Jan. 11-16.

TTie event featured guest speaker Phil^ C Rubin, die current Mr. Deaf International Leadier, and die acting preddent of die Raintiow Alliance of die Deaf. Rubin is also thc dircctor of die Deaf G ^ & Lesbian Center in San frandsoo and a ftamer student crfTUT.

Known as die wodd's lasgcst tcciini-cd GoOcge fer the liearir^ in^idred, N U D is hoex to appioxknat]^ 1,100 studetus in a campus composed of moeedian 13g00OThes&idcxitsaflendkig NTlDoornefiomdlrKgkinsof die coun-try,aswdlasftomCanadaand Europe.

The woek-kiogcvcm was die fiist of its kind on the RTF can^ius. It bcg^n witfa

a or Q^vson^, presented in die o j l e ^ LAsecalArtsaaJan. ll.Tfae fittHfadocu-tiientary cxi tfaegaycoinmunitypastarid ptescnt^irnodatemphasizingtfae power in "numticrs," as well as sdf pnde. Tlic film also spoke about tiie obstades and consequences feced liy leaders of tfae past ^dio put ttieir lives on t i^ line for tfaetr tiekefe.

Tfae leaders d u c t e d in the film in­duded Harvey Milk, thc firstopcnlyg^y

>rsin SanBarK3SOO,iii^wasass»ssinatedin 1978 by Dan Wbitc» d o r ^ witfa San Frandsoo Mayor George Mceconc. Elaine Nobk^ die fest o^nly lesbian candidate to lie dected to a state legis-kuute^n 1975)»dongwidiQeveJones, founder trf die Names Project Qdlt,' were ako menrioned in die flm. Jones started tfae Names Aspect as part of an eflbit to ptovkk &»:% arid fi^ AIDS victims, induding tiimself, with tiie opportumty to have tfaeir loved ones tememfaercd. Jones* lover was a victim of AIDS.

After die two hour fim, Rubin kd a disaffdcm wiifa tfae predominantly deaf audkrnoe. He aiso tadked about ti^ per­sonal esqicriences in order to provide advice to students ^dio complained tliat Ufe at tiome ^dien you're gay and deafis not easy.

Rubin was a tfaird grader viA)en he kamed wfaat it is like to tie misunder-sioodl&inomtookhkntoapsydiokgist to find out wfaat slie m i ^ aeed to do if her son was gay.

'The psyctiolo^t toki her dut I m^ght tie goirig dira^g^ a phas^ sakl **Ofcourseduringtfaat time of the *50s and *60s tfaey dkln't know a whde lotatxxitg^ and le*ian people so diere was alot of misunderstanding; "JttDok

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Rubin'smomsevenyeatsto om^ireiiend and accept his sexuality. She liecame good fiiends widi his kTvcr, treatuDg faim as tier own son.

Tfae foDowix^ day of die mtni-con-ferenee induded a pand ffacwwon on everydut^ ficmi ooixiif^ out to d e d ^ ^ddistcuaooDskdiewodtpibce. Sheika Dony, a fiicoityniBg^ier in die Depart' mentofHumanI>evek^>mentatI«niD andoneoftlbepBndislsindiedtsaiakon, fek tfaat ttie wockstiqp was acomplete success.

*Tt went wonderfully," sfae sail, **e pand was wel received md diere were no liostie questions even tfaou^ d n e were obvious s t r a i t people in die crowd It's very wonderfijl now (tiie environ-niematRrr/NTID)compared towiiatit used to be back 15 yeais s ^ wfaen I fest stated liere."

However, feculty members ^dio at-teridedeventsHke Jinuato^iv Tbe Worf thse. adcnowkdge tfaat a greater acceptance and awareness needs to be obtained. One member of Bi-Gala (the gay and lestiian student organization on cam­pus) commented diat ttie dub is con­tinuously having ptoblems in tiieir ef­forts to reach out to other gay students. He tiekevcs that this low attendance naay tie due to fear ofbeing found outby

'aasodation," and diecefore beii^ ex­posed to a potentially tiostile environ-naeitt:^lfaisoonoemwa& also shared by jfMQIjStudfintatteridtngtfais^coridtolast ijunfaenoediatFoday.Thesajdentnicn-lioDed tfaat ever since fae's been "ouV' hp B iseodved a lot of tiostjle reactions

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fiom tiis campus peers. He mentioned diattietiopQs to be abfe toded wtdi diis eeAsetdkceen ifitmeanstaBdngtoeadi petton wfaoooftifionts turn one-on-one.

Some stDdents feltdtss^ppointed ttax so few fiKxdty and staff members par-tic^ioted in tfae cotiference, Rubin sug­gested uairig die meda in Ifae fiiiae. He sakl, "Somedmes die onfy way to get reqxmses is by t^ctng confitontatkxiaL Youneod toescdate soaictimes in order to create c l iar^ . Look at Gallaudet (University in Washington, D.C) and wim tiiey did to bring atiout ctiang^f GallaudetUniversiiy was die dte of tfae Marcfa 198&deafralfy^^iinst tfae newly appointed heazingprcsident Dr. Eliza-biedi Ann Ztnser; tfae students calod fbr a deaf preddent to lie sf^iointed ''now," and tiieir demands were met

Tfae wedc kxi% series oondnued with seminars Uke **Why Gay?;" '^Coming CXit Ga^ and Lesbian Empowerment;" *T)iscrimination, Empowerment and Pditical Action;" "Sensitivity in thc Workplace;" cukninating with a tien-efit entided "Cdebrate Your Sexuality Bash" on the evening of Jan. 15. The basil, a fundraiser to benefit tfae Deaf AIDS Corc of Rochester, was also a suc­cess, tuonir^ out about the same numtier of people as did ottier events. Rubin dressed for the evening in his leather atdrCiandsomestudcnts tookdie opportu-ni^ to stiow didr true sehres in d c ^

Ttie week ended tfaat Saturds^ witfa a Yneerir^ of tfae minds on tiow to go atiout estabmiif^ support and advocacy g r o i ^ witiiin tfae campus cotacwDeasiity,

NTTD organizers t i c ^ to make die mint-conferenoe an annud evcn^and liope to tieddetofadtigriot onfydeafg^ mdes as keynole Makers, but i ^o ks ­bian representatives.

Care Cuts an Feb. 8 Avffl benefit AIDS Rochestei; party to foDow at Caipe Diem

Rodiesterateahau. siylibts sjiilltierutting hdr for didr dients on Feix 8, atid tfae proceeds will lienefitAIDS Roctiester^s si^iportservioratopcople afiected H I V / AIDS, as well as educationd progcatris ittid outreacfa in die communiiy.

Tfae fourtfa armud Care Qtfs tias at­tracted more s^rlists tfaan ever tiefore. I^st yeat; Care Cuts raised $7,700 witfain 16 s^ons, atid Gannett Rochesfer News-f>apers g3,vc it a "thumlis i;^!"

Care Cuts '93 is open to tfae public Appointments are reoommetided For a list of partiqpating sdotis and stylists, caB the AIDS Rodiester Devdopment Ofifice at 442-2220.

A cdebration party wiil follo » Carc Cuts "93 at Carpe Diem, 99 Court St., with hots d'oeuvres and a cash bar for aU participants, bc^ruiir^ at 6 pjtn. During tfae reception, Harry Bruno, tiie owner of Hany Bruno Salon and member of AIDS Rochester's board of directors, win announce tfae results of die day*s fimdraising activities.

AIDS Rodiesier is tfae Gomnstfrity service program dfgggnatcd by tfae New York State Department of Hedtfa AIDS Institute fbr Momoe and seven nd^M>ocii^ oounties.

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To: ^SmiiamD. Huggina -5/17/53 to 10/13/92 From and b y : Cad D . Pitts

Sometimes-I fed as i f i tiaven't adiieved. bu t l tiave Sometimes I tfaink \diy, \dien, ^adiat for, Ixit I already know Sometimes I wish tfae world could live as one, butit's not time Sometimes time itself means so mudi, but holds so litde Sometimes, I touch, but never reach Sometimes, I smile before I cry Sometimes there isn't much kft, but

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T h e Catholic Chuich and sexual abuse: a bettayal of trust

By Peter Scribner Lettd Us Ndt Ittto Tert dadort: Ctdtok Priests attd dxSexttid Abuse of

Childrert by Jason Berry; 369 pgs.; Doubleday $22.50)

Ttiesexualabuseofdiildren byCattio-lie priests, and tfae traditionally passive response of Churcfa leaders, is ' 'pedis^ tfae most serious cnsis Catfaobdsm tias &ced ance tiie Refixmation," according to tfae Rev. Andrew M. Gredcy's fore­word to tiiis disturtiing book. Itisakoa crisis tfaat needs to lie recognized liy tiie gay ccMnmunity.

J^on Beoy is a loutstana journalist who, m 1985, stumbled t^xin a bur­geoning sexual abuse scandal in nearby Cajun country. Fatfaer GilliertGautfae, pastor of St John's Parisii, Lafeyettc Diocese, had been abusing boys and young teenagers for several years. One nineyearoklfinallytokihis &dier, ttieboy^s two oUer brodiers also confessed to hav­ing been abused. Eventualty tfaree doGsen odier boys and young men came forward; Fabler Gaudie admitted all and went td prison. Three other priests in the small diocese were also narried as abusers. The Churdilost millions in dvil setdements.

Barry, a semi-lapsed Catholic who was just starting to return to his faith, drawn hy its principles o f social jusdce

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beg^ has own journalistic invesdg^ition. Hewasnotg^,Iieiiadno dose ties with tfae diurch, he had reoently become a parent; atid tiad no personal expedence widi abuse. But as a par»i^ he onpar tfaizedwitfadiefedings ofrflgeand sfaame felt liy tfae fiunilies of tfae abused boys.

Bany^s Louisiana invcsti^tion bcoad-enodintoa continent wide eiqilocation of tiie growirig scandal of sexual abuse by Catiiolic priests. Witfain tfae past ten years, 400 Amenoin priests tiave been namedfors^xflingchdchen (aknostaBthe vktims were boj^), and die Church has paki out an estknated $400 milbon in atiuse datms. Barry condudes tiiat the Church tiiarardiytcieraiedsts^^ ih protecdon of a dwtndtt^ »id incieas-iri^g^,GeiSiate pdestfaood.

Tlie Gatfaofic Church dki riot always require derical celibacy. Early diurch; leaders praisod ceiitiacy as a moraDy pure option diatdiat^oontxasted tiie pagan­ism of tiie Greek and Roman worid of two tfaousand years ago. Inthertaddle ages, tiiree popes were tfaemselves sons of previous pcfies, and several otiiers were directdescendantsofbishops or priests. But Grcgpry Vn, dected Pope in 1073, worded tiiatdie families of manied der­gymen mig^t make inheritance daims s^ iinst Churdi property. De^testxor^ even violent opposition, dencal mactiage was made a crime in 1139.

Asaoonsequence,tiieCathd[ic Church has been served byg^eradonsoftii^ily loyal andpoody paid unmarried dedcs arid nuns. And, amnrding tomedievaJ

homoerotic literature, tiomosexuality dounsfaed befaind many monastery walls. But a churdi dosed by tcaditkxi aacked openin 1963 during VaricanlL Popejohn JDCni, who t ^ called die condavc, was rcporfiodfyeven oonsideringare-aLatnina-tionofcdibacy. Hfasuooessoi; Pope Paul VI, continued die Churches support for social justice and freedom tfaixxigh tfae wodd, dg^dr^ bodi ttJtafemanism and tmshcapitalism. Butar^hc^ofhroad-ening die Church's views <m sexuality dkd with/ZimMtf Plated <he 1968 P ^ encydiGal faanniiig die use of any form of

artificial birtfa control, even in mani^g^ TIK Ripe fitrnfy grounded die d i ^ ^ the position tfaat soc was penrstfied oriy between riianied roqilcs, suid onty fix die purpose of producing children.

Htoftmtae ^Ikse stimned tfae dergy of tfae western worid, eqiedally in Nortfa America. Discouraged priests left by tfae thousands,andnewadmissions to semi­naries plunged.

IronK:aBy,anunandc^iatedconsequence of tiie Churdi's sexual repressk>n was an incceaskig^bomoscxualization ofdiedetgy. YounggEQrmenxK sre less rqidlod by tfae unmarried lifestj^ tfaan heterosexuals. Barry spoke to dozens of dergymen in his travels. Gay and straight; young and cdd, they all stated tfaat a substantial number of gay men liavc entered tlie semkiariesovertfaepast 20years (estknates rariged fiotn one timi to tfaree quarters.)

TTie older priests, tfae Pat O'Brien types, followers of an eariier tradition of licarty, muscular jocks, were uneasily stiar­

ing rectones witfa ycxngg^ men. And aoooBdlagtt)Bany'sso«rccs,virtuallynone of die gsty priests five diaste, celibate Uves.

Tfae Cfaurdi hierardiy, dominated by okfci; sexualy sqxesscd Iriab^American Bishops, was ttl aquandaiy, OffidaUy, the diucdi does not condemn tiomosexuai orientatkMi, ontyhomosesualacts. Bdng g^riotastti,8okx% as tiie person does not e n g ^ in gay sex. SodieChurch' carmot automadcaly exdude g ^ semi-riatsms^xtecotncisttolsvit^Gclibaieiife, \Wdi an inaeastr^ Cadioik: papuhtkm antlpriffitlyvDcationscoBapsii^dielMsh-ops need d ^ g ^ dergymen to staff tiie duirdies.

Bany himsdif wiesdes with homosexu­dity atid Churdi Doctone. He cannot ovetojmebibfcalpas^gss diat seeming oondcninliomose3cuaHty,yet heagteesdiat bett^g?y is anatural (and dierefore God given) oonditiotL He is very uncomfort­able witfascxualptoriiiscuity,butcDndudes diatg^pecple in loving and committed rdationships can lead spiritually moral lives.

Ba^typrDperiydlstlrlg^ishcs homosexu­ality and pedqphilia (attraction to pre-adolesccntsO Pedophiliac men are usu­ally not adxac^ed to ciher adults, and usu-alty do not identify themselves as bdng ^ r . Tfaen 'vrfiy, in a book about diild abusing priests, docs Bariy so dioroughly examine the gay dergy? Why, indeed.

Barry is very unccanfortahle with die moral a g ^ of the sexuaHy active gay priests lie met How can one tali a

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Barry fuulaaootidbdcstfaatdieCadiQiic lieiaaliy—tiieptiests,bishopsandcaEdi-nak—^^x^iedierg^or stra%^— dohave one tiling in commem none are &mily men. In general, they all are more syn^iatfaetic witfa tfae troubles of Men priests tfaan with tiie troubles of tfae ailiused boys or their ^milies.

Barry emphasises that the real evil of sexual aliuse arises not from the acts diemsdvesi but &om the breech of tnst Esp^da^in smail rural Cadidic commu­nities nd in die heavily ethnic urban CatfaoHc nei^bothoods, tfae parish priestis die very symbcdofmotalauthor-ity. Af^man^i^woidd take advantage

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The Colour of Resistance: a conversation Tvitfa 0>niiie Fife, Cree poet of t ^o spirits, at HaUwaUs ^Ways in Being Gay** festival

ByMdora As part of die Ways in Beitig Gay

festivsd fadd at Haflwsdls Contentpo­rary Arts Center in BuflUo last No-vetrdier, Connie Hfe, a Cree poet and person of two sprits, was asked to read. She is tfae editor of tfae Colour of Resistance, an antfacJogy by Native American wotnen atxiut tfae past 500 years of resistance.

Melora: Could you tell mc aliout yourself? How do you identify your­self?

Connie: I am a Cree lesbian from Saskatchewan, Canada. To non-na-dvepeople,Iidentify mysdf as lesbian. In my own commuruty, I identify mysdf as two-spirited simply because of what it means traditionally.

M: How is diis accepced in your community?

C : Well, there ' s definitely homophobiain our commuruty. CcA> nization b r o u ^ t with it not only rac­ism, but also homophobia. Amongst our traditional people, however, we are still considered to be special people, gifted people in that we have two spirits, one bcingmale and one female.

Definirely our community has ro sairr addressing issues around sexual-iry: Particularly now di^t AIDS has come in to our lives, and seeing that lots

of us ^xdio are cfytng wili want to go tiome. P e ( ^ stffl see AIDS as a gay disease, as if AIDS tias mocab ofi ts own. Yet; in Canada, women. Native women,tieterosexuaI women are at sue times tfae nationalriskforgetting AIDS.

M: In your community do women liave a voice and have powei? For instance in the Haudenosaunee com­muiuty (also called Iroquois or Six Na­tions) of tiiis area the women have had great power. They chose the duefe and could dc-hom tiiem (take away tfaeir status) if they did not carry out thdr tasks in a responsible way.

C: Thc Cree are fortunate. They have kept a lot of their traditions intact de­spite 450 jrcars of outside contacts. All of our narions were matrifocal or matrilineal, but not all ofus have main­tained that tradition—It*s tfae same in any commurtity — it's always die women wfao are doing tfae work for economic or sodal change in die com-munity,but we stillhave the men in die majority- of the leadership positions and it's men that govem Catiada,

M: Could you speak about the Two-spirited People of Firsr Nations group in Toronto?

C: Mosr ofour work is surrounding youth education * • -> -

ri^t now. We have one pakl worker

and many volunteers. M: This manth*s^4Aflfl«ir tncntions

Susan Beaver,aMofaawklesbianirfio is csecutive dtrector of Two ^witod Pbopk of die Fkst Nations. Speaking alxiut disoifttination on die teserva-rions she sakl, '*Wc often grow up witfaout a kz^uage to descritie oar-

-aetres: Lesbitm, gsy or tteer moused ^ curses And msults/'

O Stic makes sense. Wfaen I define ntyself,firstrm Cree-Iths^ipens tfaati am two-simted. Sexuatity is not at tiw foreftont, but i t i s who I anx I am not dcanganytfaingdifiEerentftom wfaat wc have alvrays done, what women have always done It's hard for us to fed part of the so-called 'lesbian commuruty" because alotoftiieir issues focus around tfaeir sexuality and for us, we have

' issues of survival—wchavepovertyin our ctKTimunity, education, AIDS and any number of other issues, like vio­lence against women, and we're all involved in all these different areas.

M: D o you find the lesbian commu­ruty accepting of women of color?

O The white mkidle class leslaan commuruty? N o , there's no place for us there.

M: D o you thdnkyouget more preju­dice firom being Indian or being gay?

(|oeNevaquaya,aComanche/Yuchi and the other poet at the reading, inter­jected ''Bigotry is bigotry,")

C; I guess so. It's different though. I know radsm and homc^hobia are re­lated but when I'm in a room with white l^biflns 2tnd I tixpmence cadsmt

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it doesn't tiave to dowttfa nty sexuality, i t l i ^ todbwtdidie&cttfaati 'm brown skinned I n tof own oxnmunity, it's iKit liecmise r b r JMian , it's tiecause Fm lesbJsnu Yet the smiiss are die «une; yDttcaii>s^»«oMsdtietn.

M : H o w d m w e ^ c ^ n todeat widi tiie nKi^m in oijir oomnKBUty?

O Wfattii 9 ^ taS krisans shouki start diak^gidng a m o n g ^ dien»dves, sttft ieadif% grbi^fps. Ifaere is lots of material ou t tiiere. We aH tiave tfae power to diadge.

MrLet'stalkaliouttfaelxKdcsyouare workk^ oru Can you tell me about Sister Vision Press.?

C:^terVisi(»nisrunbytwpwcxnen, Stepbattie Martin and Makeda Sdlvcta,' and is atiout seven Of d ^ t years oki. It is the only Black women, women of colour press in Canada.

M: Some ofyour poems are induded in tiie anthology Piece <fAty Heart.

C This coUection took five or six years to put together. I t is die otily, to my knovdcc^ , complete lesbian of ccdour antfaology.

M: Why d o you say tfais anthology is a t^kte?

O Because all ofus arc there. It's not just Native women, Afro-American women, but also Japanese, Chinese, Soutifi Asian, Indo-Caribbean,Chicaiia, Samoan, Padfic Asian, Puerto Rican, Malaysian, Mexican, Latina, Afro-Car­ibbean, Filipina, Chinese^^anbbean, Sansd (third generanon Japanese Ca-nadian) women, and women of mixed racial heritages fi-om Canatk and the United States. We re aJ! dicrc. WCVL -sll

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fbccM diat are trying to keqi us down. WclMicveaiwaysicsiwdsuccunnbingto ifae kinds of genodde we tiave a& tiad to thne witfa and we are stffl ticrc. T o mc d ^ s a ^ p trf^tesistanoe andresttience.

'Who cfid you indude in your r?

C : S o m e o f Joy Har)o , Mary Taienountflin, Betfa Brant Ttiere ate thtotaoi 40 wdtets in my collection and fiHtunately some previously unput>-fished writers and quite a t i t of unpi i> Hdied mateziaL Tliat^s wity it took so king, Tfaere's ac tudka ooiifrie of young women too. I woukl tiave liked to tiave more. Matybe next tsmc.

M: D o you fed Native American women stiould have more of a voice in tiie woiid of literature and tlie outside wodd?

G Definitdy. Ttic more ofour mate-risddiatcomes out, tiie more of actiance to diangp or redenne die &ce of litera­ture. Until tiie ]ast 1 Oyeaxs, we have tiad to compete widi the standards tiiat Eurc^peanHteratuzeiiaveimposed xjfton us.

M: I Uked your comment aliout tiow European literature seemed so c^ised in.

C: One of tiie dtfifcrences I sec tie-

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tween Eurc^i^ui literature and L K % -enous Hterature is tiow diazacters in European stories can become caged. Ttiat's tiic only way I can descritie i t Tliey^re let out on aleasfa and allowed to develop so fi&r, and tfaen diey are yanked back. WtiereasI tfaink tfaatwiut has to lia{^ien is we rieed to allow our characters, allow cHir poetry to have its own life, aSow it to tiecome living work.

We tiave a dear understancKrig tiow sacted langiiage is and tiowitisinyog-tant fbr us not to waste words and not prostitute tfaem. Tliey are sacted. Writ' i i^ is almosta form of ceremony^xdien

you'rein tiiemomentofbeingcreattve. Itis inriportsuitthar tfats is notdiscajrded.

M: On thc personal level, why d o you write?

0 I write because somebody g^ve Die story or an incident or a memory or scMiicdung happened tiiat needs to tie tcdd and I just h^^icncd to be some­body wtio tells i t

1 am a poet because it is nsy fieki internally. Kfy rdationstiip widi meta^ phor is ptotiably tfae tiest relationstiqi Fve ever faad in my life, and die only one tiiaf s still liere. (tia tia).

M : Any messages for our readers? C: Start tioyootting literature atxxit

Native people t>y non-native pecjple and vsrhen yau sec it on bookshefvcs under tfae heading of Native tiicrature, let tlie owners know. Tliere are now enough of us writing tiiat we can represent our­sdves.

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I tear open die ttbdc plastic envekape tiecause I open aH my junk maiL As I c iadcopen tiie catalogue, a mean lean andniu9dfidguyaMdicsmyeye.IVn]n IGTO^ or rnore aoaaatefy^ in heat Nfy didk starts getdng tna i » n ^ bosn starts goitig soft

&fy guess is that die metdiantwt%U say he was usirig atcracdve nriodels to draw my attention to tfae merdiandise. Notintz^ case! Nfy now dacbd Ixain is sayirig '"Bi^ tfaese tiiirigs and you will beas attractive to your fiiends as tiiese models are."

Fm in tiic tiouse wtiere I can start ftom die fiont cover, I find two picture-perfect men standing stvrtfess, so dose tc^t i icr diey are airtmi&tied togetiier. Witfa i»nfc; wiiite and iilack letterir^ I am toU I » n bokkr^ ' T h e Catalogue fbr die Gay Man,"

The merdiant was r ^ t ; tiie m o d d did getrny atoentkmL lam^ostartifig to pidojp the message tiiat diese gUQ look U K wfaat g ^ men sfaodd kiok l£e. The prolilem is diatldon'dookliaediatand amno tabk to look like tiiem.

OndieinsideoaverarefourbodieSyShavod \G^y ^tiaved arms, shaved diests, musded torsos, jumbo baskets, faces diacseem to say "take mc home t o n i ^ " Thc cc^y tdls mc that this catalogue caiers exdus^^ly to ga^ men. It recognizes and reveres gay style, Itgoeson to mention gay h^cdom.

If the merchant-w^nts to promote gyty freedom he mig^t start widi the stereo­

type many g ^ tnen have about diem­sdves, feeling tiiat tiiey need to looklike tiiese models to tic a wmdmiifc peoon. Hc3Mnrat»utsamepeopfe^rihokioidiaB^^ fiiendBniodeiingthedodtt^Mf^&Jends aicBlwi^witte;Asiap,abkxtdi«Aloc^fitt; dan, youcg cki, tttify, brid and oome m a random assortment

Anodier p « ^ diows a leadier o i^ l ike jadket on a modd ^xiiose txxfy ku^uage seems to s i^ '^talK me tiome" or jiet ' tadoe me." Above lam ase red and tiladc letterslatidir^tlim'"Boy Toy."Fktuoed oppositcisai^bare^dhcsttsdinakadier . jadietwcarir^^jkydcypediQrtsttiariQciks

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I leel good Vivien I get a cal»io |^^^^^ tliat I am a gsy ccmsumer and a i x ^ ^

meicfaaiitB wfaat ocmstitiites a _ man* I don*t want to be esqpoaed t o the li&lbEiinal message tfaat I need to kwk a certain ws8^ to b^ wortfa^^iBe gay man.

Rart of die copy nead *Snare tiK Savage Beast"

ous arKi convenricMi^ dotfaing. All tiiemod-eis ace white, wehnuscied, of medium buH^thck30'&Alacepid»sdinv(3per-ncadiledass sodd sttuatkins. Not»ody I know tooks itte die gisys m tiits cata-

When I tum the p%cs of tlie cata-Icgue I die messE^ tfaot if I bufr tiie items I wfl tie sexy. I also get an ez-tendedmessagediat^dan'tkiokJO^wdl-musdbd, over-gloomed and tiove a big baskctrmnotawordiwfaflepflcson,Ig!eta message that the kleal is to look like tiie moddis in die catakigLie.

Over tiie years women have been portrayed as b d n g very thin by tfae fasfaion industry. Many researdios fed ttiis portrayal is a major contributor to cheincrcaseincafiingdisordeEslike bulimia and anorexia.

Tlic same messa^ is oomai^ across in

rnostdoditngcaiakigucsdieectcd to g ^ merL The underwear catalogue s h o ^ a gu7 undressed to kifl. The m o d d is only wearing underwear but is {rfiofeo-g^a^hcd fioEQ liead to toe, litdgMig with that'Iperfect** liody tiiat die mer-diandiscr is defining.

The messf^ is dKse. £fl want ttl tie a *Boy Toy" or if I want to *^nare die S a v a ^ Beast'* I ISKI l iet tv lie over-g loomed, well-musde-toned, big-barisetad and d s a A real^iy feeedom is die fieedom fixxn the stereotyped g ^ man portrayed in die iHiderwear cata­logues.

I fed good when I g ^ a catalogue tiiat recognizes that I am a gay con-sisner and a merdiant wants rny busi­ness, but I don't want to be tokl by merchants wiiatoonstitufies agood-kxik-ing gay man. I don't want to be ex­posed to die subliminai mesa^je diat I

nood to k x ^ a certain way 03 be a wortliwfaik gsy man.

If a mcrdttuit^enDtB tny t i u^es s he wffl faave tE> lap: m o d d s du t more dkisdy laedectcaean^faepeople arouid nM,QOt*e fBaftojBpedlawty b o ^ anorw. Tm nccgOHi^ to oader anydiing firom die cataiogue because I know it's no t going to make m e any more attiac-Qve^tsitdietnQieQaiik^gin I seelike t i ^ one^ die nxxe I am goif^ to doubt what teal peopfe kxik&s and are striving to lodklike.

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yeat5anddiepasiicwinondis.R)rdie first tune Our community lias openly en-dcHsedamajorportycandklaBe. And guess wfaat—we won!

During his campaign President ClintQa^ioke in support oflesbian,g^ and bisexual ci^ril r ights . Tha t s^Joiowlec^ement fiom Clinton and odicr pdKticos, tliat we can lie a power*-fid pciirical FORCE, diat we really do live nextdoo^wodcin die ncKt office and are reaBy nc^ so different, tias t i r o i ^ t manydiai^es.

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DOITT MISS I H B ONE!

On.^pril25onemilfionpftrtiripantsate expected to take over tiie streets ofour narion's capital, demanding tiiat 'Tib-ettyandJustkxferAT'apptytDalAmeri-cans wxdiout r c ^ ^ to tfaeir scacual orien­tarion.

Over 650,000 ofus marched in "BT, but sadly not one of tiie platform de­rnands tnade hacve been rhet We are not fieetDliveandloveaswechoo6e.Sodon:7 hews ate stil on die bodes in mat^ states. We are StiD subject to vksknt attacks arid iiatassment every day. And our fiiends, &mtlies atid loved ones condnue to live widi HIV and die AIDS pandemic that up until now tfae previous administta-dons tiave ignored.

b is time sfgan togo to D.C codemand our rights. To cpiote Morris K n ^ t (founder of Chdstt^rficr St Wcs^, **diis

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I % •FTT MISS T H B ONE*

On tiie podtive skie, it lias b c o u ^ our community, in aD ofits dtversity, into more dialogue widi each otiier and al­lowed many cf us to fed strong and em­powered Thar same adcnowledgi^nent has b r o u ^ t a backlash fiom tfae far r^ihi^ as evidenced by the fided anti-g^ initiative in Or^t>n and the far t i n t ' s winning effort in Colorado.

But this backlash has positive dements a b a Itlras raised our awareness about dvil r^tsandaboucaooessing^K^iatis rig^itfully OUIS. It has stiown tiie itnpottanoe of ^peaking out and doing sometiiing to create change.

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• :i •FTT MISS nasoNE! ttsf^sogpeat^socr^rstkaltfaatevefyone for die rest of tiieir lives will be enctianted by i t "

So wiiat I'm s^ingis , lie tiiere! S^>-port tlie marcfa in aiq? way you can, tie iti^)!ritu£d, emodonal o t finandal And rememtier ttiose we have kist; tfaose wiio woukl be tiiereiftiiey codd. You can d o tilts by supporting die missing in action program (MIA).Fara$5dQnation you can faave a lost loved one's natne dt^ik^edon a banner at die Mall akx^ widi thousatids of otiier btodieis and a^teis wfao have fidlen to a disease fuded by our government's inactivity and in­difference.

Finally, talk about die Ttiardi-"wherever yougo,gctdiewordouttoaliourbrothers and sisters. Let's show Bill that wc intend tomakesuoehekeqishis weed. See you in D.C.Il

For more informBtion on the MIA program, contact mc at 328-^594.

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Joe StefPan^s concert \(dtfa the Fieed<mi bdngs local and national attention, si^pCMt

By Jobn Sttand -~ TheRodiesterFrcedomStngecs'ddjut

Holklay Concert widi prominent 9iy ac-tMstJoeSieJBkirioconfydrewafuBfaouse; burxeadiedliieentireGQrtinamitytimx^ media coverage.

Ironically singing in Rochester the sssnewedoendas tfae Army-Navy fix)diaH ^ttne,StBfl&n's receptkm was A«y wamx Havingsungthenationalantiiem twiocfbr theArrTty-'Navyg?nries,Sceffan sangpub-lidy for the £u^ time in four years on Dec6withdieiiewlyfiMmed local mixed chorus under tiie direcrion of D r Ted Ashizawa.

Thc Frcedom Singers concert fea­turcd Benjamin Britten's "Ceremony of Carols," and the 23 member en­semble joined Stef&i with six tradidonal Christmas carols, as well

Stefian soloed witfa his own selection of sixhalkl^artsof^.Hewasacootrpanied by David Abbott on die piano Even licforehebcg^nsirigiri&dieaLidieiicegjtve hkn a k r ^ ; ^ starxfing ovaries.

Well-known th rou^ his ctiaUenge of the U.S. military's ban on g^ys arni ksbians in die military, StefiEaui recently rdeased bis hardcover book, H«wwr Bowiu/, which is already into its second printii^ Formedy the voice of thcT>Javy \[Me a nrsdshfxnan at tiie Naval Acad­emy, Stef&i pur huts stng;tfigin tiie doset un tH his jo in t c o n c e r t \iacfa the R o c h e s ­

ter F r e e d o m Singers.

Four Rodiester telcvisaon starions and one radb station featu^ Ste&n dur-ir^ tss weekend witfa die Ftrodom Sing­ers. He received tDcntwn not only fiom kicalprintnriEdia,butalsonsUkxidlym Tbe ^^4a&ensi forsitigjr fbrtiie first tirxie since leavingtfae Navy, and widi the Roches­ter mixed chorus.

At a well-attended receprion for Stefl&ncMiDec 5,hesaiddiatsingngnow represents an important dosure for hkn petscttially, and diat he is pleased to havcoomefundrdewidrissuestegarding gays in tlie military. He was referring parricuIarlytoPrcskicntClintDn'sprom-ise tokft tiie ten tfarough executive onier. Mernbers of tfae kxal gay QDnorriurMty ^ ixdlassdkool board rnembeES,kgislatocs, ocxiricikxieri, arid odieis hocKxed Steffim at that Saturday receprion.

I> . Adiaawa sud die holklay cocioett was a great start for the new chorus, whkfa is a groijp dedk:aced to induskxi, not exduskm. He invites new singers to jcin now tiiat die Rodiester Foeedom Singers are preparing foe tiieit eaiiy June concert cnritfbd, "One World, Many Faces." Wonmn are especiaUy needed. For information caU John Strand at 442-4120.

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C a n d i c m a a . Brig;it*s Eve, lariiokL Celik fiee feist crfl)e9t^ jaiogB/reriewd ctf Ufe.

JPokt ica l C a t t o i a fb tunu SM°i Satvione of Empire State BdUE Agenda ^oA ^peak on g ^ Bl^lcgislationinN.V^ pal»FirstUnirarianChurcfa,220 S.19SlntonRd.

^ A P v ideo nigfat. Call James, 242-9195.

Eaqploratioii8:Color»Fofm a n d Pat tern. Sfaow by Eric Bellmann andSr.AnnedeMare. IfaitOii^Feb. 13 at Shoestring GaOery, B r e t o n Conunons at Twdve Comers.

T U E S D A Y 2 laAemadonal W o m e n l D t ^

meerii^. 7pm, YWCA,Board-loom A, 175 N . Qinton Ave. All \xnomen are wdcome.

At^wemendpwnhB aid trip. Sponsored by Out and About Call Renellc, 232-2999.

F R I D A Y S A d i r o n d a c k s w o m e n ' s

weekend. Sponsored by Out and About Feb. 5-7, Fourtfa Lake, Old Forge. Call Sue or BetK 244-7159.

AIDS Mastery Workahop. Wedcend wodsshop sponsored hy AIDS Center; Stror^ Memo­rial Ho^iitaL Fdl. 5-7 275-3576.

Pho tog r skphs b y T a r a Ma^gidre. Proceeds to AIDS ^pncics.'nicSaint;171 S t f t i i S t

C o m e O u t for M o v i e s . Thebna atid Lattise (7 pm) and PartitigGlimaes C>30pm)atGay

Alliance Community Center, 179 Adanlic Ave. Bee popcorn, odier flefbeshmmts lot CDOOEU) aose-CE^doned or subtiried. To betMA: Rodiester BtsBroal Women's Network 461-3576 (V/TIY.)

Leather Fantasy N i g ^ 8 pm, $5 donarion to benefit AIDS Rodiester. The San^ 171 St PEHi St Leadier oig^nizatiocis fixHn BufiBdo, Rochester and Syracuse will take.part

S A T U R D A Y 6 Dr . Vitginia MoUenkott

speaking on ''Intimacy and intimacy: tfae Seamality/Spiri-tualityCctinecrion."Faficm^by piAlicdialogue,rcoq>tiotL 7:30-9 pm,lXywinuwn United Pres­by tenan Churcfa, 121 N . H t e f a i ^ S t 325-4000.

B r o t h e r s U n i t e d board meeting. 7 pm. Gay Alliance, 179At&nacAve.

O m e g a oofieefaouse. 8-11 pm. Call Jan , 223-1748, or CoAy. 924-1579.

S U N D A Y ? Dr . Vi^ ; ima MoUenkott,

adult dass , 9:30 am; guest preadier at 11 am wor^ip ser-vioe.I>3»vmtowmUnifledPrcsby-terianChurdi,121 N . F n z h u ^ S t 3254000.

C O A P Star T r e k idgfat. Calljames, 242-9195.

M O ? g D A Y 8 C Q A P b o w l i n g n i ^ i t . CaU

Dana, 323-2895. Care Cuts . Day of haircut-

dngtobencfit AIDS Rochester.

R x list of salons, caU ARI, 244-2220. Cckbtarion party, 6 pm, Carpe Diem, 99 Court S t

I^ifidcal Cauctis m e e d n g ; SueCo^veiwiBspesdtonrunninga polt t icalcampa^ 7:30pm,Gsy ABtano^ 179 Atlantic Ave. C ^ BiH Pritdiard, 251-7437.

T H U R S D A Y 11 Sxtfa N a t i o n a m a c k Les­

b ian and Gay Conference. Pdx 11-15, Hitexi Hotd, Long Beach, Calif, ^leakeis indude Ar^iela Davis suid Bell Hooks. (213)666^5495; FAX (213)666-5900.

F R I D A Y 12 BtodKtsUniiiedValendne's

Party. 10pn>2am,'n]eSflint; 171 St: Bud St 15 admission; cash bar.

SATURDAY 13 N u t r i d o n for H I V pos idve

peofde. 10 am-noon, incamale Wocd Ludietan Cfaurdi, comer Goodman and EastAve. ]2. Reg­ister by Rtxll.244-6065L

Cotnmuni ty forum. For all Rochester-area gpsy groups. 10 am-noon. Gay Alliance, 179 At­lantic Ave. Call Bill Pritchard, 251-7437.

Safer Sex workshop . 1:30-5 p m . T h e Swnt, 171 St. Paul St ^xnsoiedbyjdhn Washbum Lk facEuy, Commutmy Heahh Net­work. Interpreted for deaf and hearing impaired. Call Sid Meczgcr. 244-900a . ,

S U N D A Y 14 A Bid From dK H e a t t Gay

ADianoe fourth annual ^ l a aue-

dcnaoddiampa^gnebcundi. 1-5 pm. Top of tfae Fhza. | 1 2 in ad^noe, ¥15 at doo t Tkkets at Rochester Custom Leadier, AIDS Rodntc t ; Vl^ge Green, Paulas Grocery, Silkwood, P a i M e i ^

RdaSMsfai^ Sunday. Open Arms MOC, 875 K MsttL 6 pm. 271-«478.

Love ScmgB A m o n g t h e Stsrs* Rocfaester Gs^y Men's Chorus at Stxasenbur^ F!an-etarken. 5 pm^flO. 423-0650.

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to ads, fion-camera-ready ads. 244-9030.

T U E S D A Y 1 6 I n t e m a d o n a l W o m e n ' s

D e y m B c t k ^ 7 pm, YWCA, Boardroom A, 175 N. Ointon Ave. AI women aie wekxjme.

T h e S u m <tf U s . Opening c f p ^ by David Stevens about a &dier and g^y son* Fdi- 16-Marcfa 21, GEVA Tfaeateii 75 Woodbuiy Bhd. Tfckets 232-GEVA; Yoice/TTY 325^1441; FAX (716)232-4031.

W E D N E S D A Y 17 Rodiester Rams. Meetit^,

8:15 pm, Badidor Fomm, 470 University Ave,

T H U R S D A Y 18 '^Getdng Into tfae Fktuee:

Wotnen in tfae Arts.** Lecture by Marilyn^ Synauaes, j u c ^ of " W o r ^ Art Wot ts 3. ' ' 7-9-30 pm, l yamk l Arts Center, thud floor,VilageGa«BSqtarc,274N.

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Efnp ty C l o s t t <lesdliiie. Hioso0af)faB» camenMtad^ ads. 244-9030.

J c w i ^ Woaicn*s V o u ^ s Psal acsl Present Fdx 19-21, Ontacb losdaiQe for SlucSes in Educatfoo* 252 Koor S t W, Totonox Wtidbshops, readtr^' mote. $75 irxiudes some meak (vcgetaristt). Cal {416)923-6641; FAX (416)926^725-

S A T U R D A Y 20 O u l * n d A b o u t ski ing.

Cross country sldir^atalllevds atGeneseeCoun^PadcOdlBob 473-9384.

Btotfaers U n i t e d board meecing. 7 pm. Gay Alliance, 179 Adantic Ave.

Sixdt A n n u a l AIDS Inters h i h Sesvfoe. 7^30 pm, Soud^ E m m a n u d United Church of QiDBt; 1095 R Henrietta Rd. SL intctiictcd. 271-8478.

Rocfaester Gay Men's Cho­rus. Concert, Crou.se Audito riixn, Syracuse Urriversity, Syra­cuse- 8 pm, fee charged. 423-0650.

Roches ter R a m s Febmary bar n i ^ 9 pm- 2 am, Bachdor Forum, 470 University Ave,

S U N D A Y 21 Gospe l w M s h i p service,

Open Arms MCC, 875 E iV&in S t6pm.271-«478 .

CX3AP bfundh. 11:30 am. CaU Chuck, 334-2795.

Ou t and About podudc so-daL Brii^ (fish to pass. Call Jim, 288-0403.

Piano at your service Jack Bradigan Spula

MJi. , Eetxttman Sctiool of Mtuic; trained piatto tectttncian

c l a s s i c a l p i a n o m u s i c / o r yomr party, wedditig, u9uot% \ ceretttony,* etc, (solo A. aceompatiitment)

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CmtTmaher (7pni)and.&s»e Abur (lOpmXGqr Attstfio^ 179 Atlantic A v e Ftee popcorn, odier refecshnaents ^kotoxxxu.) CbBe<aptkaoed or siiidded T o benefit Rochester Bisexual Wbmen's Network 461-3576 ( V / n Y . )

Biotfaefs Unt ted sociaL 10 pm- 2 am. The Saint, 171 S t Paijd S t ) 5 admissicm cash bar.

SATURDAY 27 O p e n A n n s M C C night

OOL Dinner at Toey Roma'% 125 White ^ m x e B h d 5:30 pm. Rochester Women*s Commu­nity CfaortK concert^ 8 pm. 271-8478.

C h a n g i n g t h e W o r l d T h r o u g h Song . Rochester

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SUNDAY Mote Ligfat Skippott Gtoup for gay and kdi&i peopfe arSi fiiendB^ 12:30pm, M d Sundays. Downtown UrittedttoLy terian Ot t sd i , 121N. R n h t t b ^ 325-400ft ^ ^

2 : 3 U p n ^ LukeVSt Sknatis CyieaeQnKfa, 17& HediBKb St L«Sondiy . 8 » « 1 2 0 .

Evesy eeoood Mondsqr, 7:30pm, Gay AliuMx, 179 Adandc Ave: 24^«64a

meets on first , . , rrCali:^fididfeRudaat kvoshmxiay Services, 461-

.yrene UiuKfa, 17 SL Fttsiiudi StEvaj:dMiriSmday.BDAac dKmer smer Mass. 9758.

Gbmai 875 E Mrin St OAinoe St en-tonoe of Audttocium Center.) 6 — 271-8478.

Untted Rmbyteoan ChurdL 121N. Hizfasch St NotKxxri-petittve hour; 7-8 pcxLosmped-ttve hour afi»: 8 pm. CaD Rsraota244-1MO

Creative Responses Chorus of Rochester. 8 pm, f 5. Down-tciwnUnitBdRcsbytadan Church, 121 N . Htzhi^Ji S t

Btothers Uni t ed board meethig* 7 {»xi. Gay Alliance, 179AtIanocAve.

M O N D A Y 29 C O A P Rocky HorrOT miri­

n g shc3iw, catt Dana, 323-2895.

M O N D A Y l Ennpty Closet mailing party.

For Marcfa issue.7-9 pnn. Gay Allianoe (i^jst^s), 179 Atktt^ tic Ave. 244-9030.

Netwotk Mnsritigfltid; stiDpet 6c30 poL second fx3rlocatkin,infoLcail461-357< Cky M e t A CooldtMf GoQwfi 7JOixn, foiiwfa Suncfiy. 244-

Cfary Mm^s AkxibolioB A n o t i ^ mous St Luke's/St Simon Cyrene ChmJL 17 & f^tzhuefa St 8:30 prrv 2 ^ 7 2 0 . Gdey,LeabEWi,Bistsciflii and Famcfa Amodfltkm ( G L B F ^ U of Rodiester. Sunc%s, 7-30 — Morcy 402.

Seoondand fc«diMatdays, 7:30 pm. WC

Gms Tbim Presbytenan Cfaurdi, 4 Mdjgs St Hrsc and d u d Man-£ ^ 7 : 3 0 ^ 9 pm, 271-6513. *frwsW^Di> Internarional ggy and ksbian ra-

mofidi^ business meetir^ first & i n d s ^ 4 f»n, Badidor Forum, 670 University Ave. 251-212Z

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AIDS RodiestEr, 1350 U n i v e r ^ Ave. 11:30 am to l i 4 5 pm. 442-2220 or (800)437-0157.

SexuadX^otxipulstvcs Ation. For diose d e l i n g tfaeir own personal soniaf sobriety: 7:30-9

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Ataotivmous 8 pnoL Genesee Ho^i tu , 244 Alexander St

Postdvte^Sober 7:30ptn. For local 069CC 328-2220 (days), or 442-

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Third Tuesdsn^ aril first I ^ id s^ QI 5)536-7753, ask for Sam Edwards, or Tvrite PO Box 211, I\mYannNY14527.

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dosed meetit^ for a d d b s -3-JO po^ ADD6 Rodiestes; 1 Untvoaity Ave 4422220 cr

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Rdiea^als, Pinnade naoe, 919 S. Ointoo Ave. 6:30^jqpm. GM^ Attanoe of the GSetMsee Valey boatd of <&ieclon Mseiug seoocid WedoesdsvSL 7 pmJ^At lan tk : Ave: 2 4 4 « 4 a UBQrAkxshoikxAnooynious 7pna,UnitManChurdi> 2»W2ntr3oRd Out and About Various activtties. Cal Brita, 6479141. P o s k i v ^ Sober AA erouD. dosed meetir^s.

flfGenesee Valey^^^GAIJQi Fourdi Ihucsd^pst 7i30 p m Bar location caD 244-8640, l»ve floes-

A & A I D 6 AIDS beteavetnent sv^xj t t eiDoup. Second and fixnm I h u ^ ^ AIDS RodKStEi; 1350 U n w a a » A v t 7-&30nnL 377-0332. F reedom ISngen . Reheatsal evajr'IhuisdsRr7-9:30pm, Dowmuwa OmaadPteslwugian Q u i d ) . 121N. H t ^ K ^ S t 442-4120.

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BJarmialGay LieabianUnion Monroe Communtty CoBc^ Bvery Wednesdav at noon, Rootn 6-313,292-2000.

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canon caH Pat, Gay Alcoholics Anonymous Qosed tneetir^St Ixilg^/St Simon CyrencXlurdi, l7 S. H t 2 b # i St 8:30 pm. m 6 7 2 0 . R o d m t c r IfistofScal B o w i n g S o d e ^ CkwcrXarics, 2750 Monroe

HrstFddm^tid third Tuesdvs. Cat 01^536^5573 and ask for Sam EdwatdsL or vmitB P O BoK 211,I\mYannNY145Z7. G I A S GayA-£^bi£tti Alternative Sodab. 8 pm-midr^i t ,Sept d v o u ^ M ^ at Untver^tbst Churdi, 150 S. CHnton Ave. 232re031 (vdce/ TDD), Monday-Thursday 630-9-30pm.

S A T U R D A Y GayiyLesbtanA^^AoQa Htst Uiitacmn Church, 220 S Winton RdL 7 pm.

Ave. SJOpri^ 251-2175. Dtug/Aloohol oot idtadi^ catepsogram Second or twoday care prperar ofidsd \veddy l y A I D S R S V estei; 1350 Univetsity Ave.

Tfaird Saturday. 8pm-2am, Badidor Fotum, 470 Univeraty Ave 271-6930.

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Sibtas United in Two &«rits Rodiester Lesbians of (formedy

CokarCfa Ovg^mriaboa) Tfaird Sat-uids^. 2 ^ p m , Gsnr Allianoe, 179 Adantk Ave. 244-9564.

6tb Annual AIDS Interfaith Service

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Growing i^). Baby Dear Jean, I faaven't propettytfaanked

you. Fve just returned foam niy trip to Syria. Foigive my dday in writir^ You caq^itme ofiFguacd^dienyou faanded me die ring in tfae parkir^ lot after our meeting. I faadn't taken you setkxdy ^liienyixisakiyou'opataedtoget rid <tfyour ex's' ring. Arid tfaen wfaen I saw vdiat a handsome silver and turquoise rii^ it was,wdl,Iwasiust;Isuppose,stunned.It's beautifol, rrnxji nkxr dian tfae otfaers I luvi^,wfakfa of course youS?c nooood and commented on.

Every oxp le of ycais wfaen I visit rny modier in N e w Mearico, I b t y a l i i ^ Turquoise is nqr birdistone and diey sell jewelry everpxdicre. As time faas passed Fve ended up witfa several But tfae one yougjivc mc is tfae nicest Perfaaps tfais anecdote will interest you.

Fifteen years ago in Germany I met a man,notGerman,butaforcignerwotk-ir^ there. He hsd a motorcyde. We went foraridcinto die countryadcltwas late at nigjit and he was romantic T o my amazement, when he dropped mc oflFat rTi)rhotdheadcodforoneoftfae ririgs I was wearing^ Botfa rings were inexpensive silver ' 'puzzle" ring;s, the land that Bip apart and are hard to reassemble unless yoa*vc played wifo focm awfaile. 1 was offendcdbyhisrcqucstand proud, tfaen, of mysdf foe tdling him "no." He rode offsidy. I have noidea where tfaose rings arc today, long lost

Over tfae years Fve read some, and nowunderstanddiadn certain cdtures tfae gesture of small presents is an af)propri-ate way or, iet us sa^, making inqxilstve befaavior more genteel I reflect tfaat my companion tfaat August evening in Main2 was k m ^ , and faad I faad tfae

grace to b i 7 faim dirmer or gh« him tfaat insignificant ting I Goiid faave eased his oonsdencrandpctfaapssiBtainedourfe^gfc mood of rotnance.

Wefl, not otdy am I older now, but I faave a ^diote boor of ririgs ainong tny asseg,soon tfais o^ltpoksevctdwitfa tfae dear intent c^passic^ tfaem out among conquests. I was travding in a countiy \>heBeiiienkyvenieriaridooqpie widi tfaem witfa an ease tfaat is no t common faere. r d done nr^ research. I t was just a matter of waidng ir o u t

And dien I met baby. Waieed was our giade in ^ d a . Arabic names have mean­ing; Wal«d , to my atnusetx^ent trans­lates to **baby." Actually Walecd was riotourjmaygtade.WealsohadTinrio^^^ was in chatge and simposed to know everything, arrange everything biat he turned out to be an arrogant boor wfao miscakulatcd travd rimes, took us to rcstauiants we hate4 gt uc|g^ng|t alkT^^ us tfae btiefist periods of fice tkne. Tinao used Waloed cnlf to deal witfa tfae locals, when deady Waked was bright and knowled|gc^le and liked Americans.

Ife n y ^ i A i i wlien I travd to feign car skkncss, so I can sit next to die driver 'vdiere I can get die best view of tfae countryside. I just tell everyone tfaat if I can*t sit there n i dttow ufrf Tliat way Fm spared talking abovLt jobs and children and polides witfa the odier tourists. Anyway, on tfais bus tfae tp-front seat was a douUe and Waked was assigned the task of givitig travd directions to tfae driveTyWhohadn'tmadyiafKtz^ outside of Damascus/

^And so I got to know Waked, listen to him grouse about Tinro (wfakfa he did^ veryrekjctantty—he was quite profes­sional and he got to know me. I cotn-[daincd, told faim vrfiati wanted, vdiat i tteeded—to see die peopk, be doser to diecultuDe,tticisoavcrtfair^ I wanted to be away fitom tfae gro i^ . I wan ted more tune in the souks, more time in die old parts of dties. I faave aiways wanted neoTB,

Then one mordtig to Tkno's faocroc;

Waloedtokldiedrivcrtolcavetfaeroad and

and fae took us — me r ^ O ^ — to a Bedouin camp! It was wonderfol The Bedoians ^pere qde t at fiis^ cautkws p e t f a i ^ but tfaey are profoundtyfaoqx-tiUe peopk aild uttootncd va intp t i ^ tent We took off our shoes and sat on r t ^ WMh diem a n i diey offisnd us tea. I asked Waked to tdl one woman l ad -naisd faer goU eardng^ and fae aiaqpered he c o d d not, for if be dkl she wodd suiefygivedicmtome.Hetokimc alabcut Bedouns-^X^kedwaspkasedatmy inter­est; fae became my teacfaer.

Onccvcnir^Wafcedaskcdmctogp for a walk witfa him. At fittst it seemed Hke Waked needed to exptess his fiustratkm over the toui; but aiter 15 minutes of complaints fae relaxed and b^l^n telling me about Sofita, tfae cfaarming coastal d ty ^diete we werc staying He talked about fais educarion, fais rnily, fais mili­taty service—fais life. Another nigjitwe snixkofftoarcstaisantwfaere I was the only foreigner. Tfaere was a siHy water-M wfaich tfae waiters could tum on and offikeabadishowec;and diey dki that several dmes when tfaey sawmy camera, easier tbr rne to en joy picture ©king Thc foodwassifcrband Ismokedawaterpipe and a fet woman sitdng nearby who was also smokirig a watE^: pipe gigj^ed un-controIlaUy each time I inhaled and coumed.

Anoti^r evening, in Alqipo, Waked tT ytdaftRfl when I met an drve vendor, a handsome man vdio eyed my caning wtdi s p e ^ interesc .Wake4^ i;indeistood tfaati preferred men — actually I told him in a rather irr^id^ve moment wfaik I vf;as smcdring d ^ confounded water pipe. I*d even told Waked tfaat in tfae utes hatf tfae g ^ m m had faad ccudies

^owit ig up on a T V cfaaracter named Wdfy Qkaver; wfakdi is kind tif wfaat his name sounded Uke. (Tm not sure he iit¥tenanndJto,butitgvcsyouaoideaof tfae extent to vdikfa oureonversadons evdlved) To my ddigjte die obve vendor extended an invitarion to <iinner wfakfa

I dedined with iWMidlwirtwgret There jmt wasn't dme. Insteid I took his photograph. It wffl d a

Late at n ^ a s I wtoie ki n ^ }oumd I dioqg^dxiutdM^igflpcteniBpcrihy the most imponant aspect of t n v d i i ^ p^faaps of oeatcr vahie tfaan visiting {daces Uke P i ^ r ^ t s or die Omi^ad Mosque. Theriextmornif^atbtcak&Bt I ^n^e Waked one of die sihcr and tur-qucise ring? I faad bou^ tsevera l years a g o k N e w Mezko ,a t i r^ tfaat issofiSer dian dieoocyoug^vcnit,one ofthe rings I rK> lc»^er wear. I was nervous giving tfae ring to Waleed but did not hesitate. I simply tcdd htm I wanted him to faave it asaprcsentHeputitcMiattfactabkandtfaat impressed me, fae dki not r e g ^ my gesture as suspidous.

W^eed wore tfae rir^ constantiy. He Uked i t Walecd Uked me. Actually — and wfaile tfais may be faard to bdieve it isn't l» rd to ex^ain, we'd spent so m u d i time talking about his country and my fitsdnarion widi it and my ap-predarion for lus efforts to h d p tne experierK3e it and about his endiusisem fer Americans — w e had falkn in lovc. A remarkstie love asidicced in tfae shared annoyanoe of wrctdied Timo, but cd­ebrated over wondeffli Arsribic cuisine during long talks under starry Syrian nights.

At the airport Waleed had to stand liefaind a bamer beyofid ^rfadi narionals could not move as ourgtocp was pro­cessed t fa fo i^ passpc^ control. We waved goodbye across a vast marbk faaDr way. Botfa o fus had tears in our eyes. Fve never fdt so good about feeUng bad

So, dear Jean, dianks fer the ring M^ dut tn Bin faas been at me for years to wear fewer, ricgs^ top tadqr, fae insists, focan^gtbg fi^prcMtie to excess. BiU's r^^ofcouEselhaveonekssring And an ache in my heart Yesterds^ I received a postcard fiom Waked: * V o u are rriy fiiend. Cotne back s^sin." Love, Er ic

Richard D. Fenwick

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AgEOifrof us firm Rodicswrnetwidi GovoxKsr Mario Cuotno in Deocndxx. We wete part of a g r o i ^ of gay and ksixan activists fiom across tfae state.

The f^genda coveted AIDS^ dvil i^hts, youdi issues, domestic partnecship and btas-tdated vioknce. The ms^ority of die tkne wsB qxsnton AIDS and youth issues. The Governor was attendve and quesdoned his staff wfaen tfaey did not have answers to our questiotis. I & tasked tfaem mote tfaan onoe wtdi mvest^^UEng oixr dakns and rqiordng back to him witfa diesr findings.

Tfais was die first time I had ever seen Gov. Cuomo in action. He appears to beavetyinteS^pDtandartkidateman^who definitdy adheres tpdie'^xidkscopsiierc" pdky of management He didn't mince woKfe vdicn it came to painting the bkak picture of vdiat our State's fiscal sttQsfaa8becotnc.Howirvet;tfaeriiernbcE5 of otarentoueags^undefiertod by tfae cries of '^3O0r;''cQAttnuedtap6C8S fbr increased futKb%of cxtstir^prograrrisaxid tfae addidon of new oties.

It was a good chanoe to meet peqpk fixitn aU over tfae state. Everyone was OBcitedtcibetlictMriQsdybecauseriacie of

us were sure if vtneli ever ^gfdn have tfae oppcmuntQr to sit down witfa die Gover­nor. He was faolding a scries of meetings widivariousoQnsdttientgtoqis tfaat week Aiiber an hour and ai fad^ he was gone.

Qiotno IS on reoxri in sifsport c^our issues. H e faas a liaison tek tfae lesbian and ^ commuaity, and s c f ^ r t s the tfaiee m ^ b i l h k i die State Leg^fature. He has at^Ksnted a number of openly g^y men andlesbians topromineritposidons. We met on die nig^t tfae Albany Qty Coun­dl voted fear gay and ksbian c r^ rig^ Tfae Governed promised dtfaer he or his staff woukl call die remakiir^fenoesitters to peisuade tiiem to s i ^ p o n thc M . So wc knew wfaen we walked in tfaat v^ wete fiidr^a fiiend

In ^pite of faavii^ sudi a tremendous sv^portcr in thc Governor's mansion. New Yorit's ksbians and g^y men arc StiU witfaout the protecdons tfaat would beguatanceedbyastaae-wkkdvilr^ts bill Ourrdatkmshfishavenokg^irccog^iition. WecritkiseCoksradoferpassing Amend­ment 2, but we live in a gjass house. New Ycsk shouki have been tfae first state to pass dvil ri^ts i^^slatkm. Seven otfaer states have done so. We have had tfais fiiend fot 10 years. Why has betcer prepress not been made?

Tfae l^jidatute in Albany, bodi houses, has becotne entrenched widi incum­bents wfao are more concerned witfa secuor^ didr own pdiitical fiitures diM in die kng^aon intecesls of tfaeir oonstitucnts. Gov. Cuomo even aUuded to the faor-tcndcKS pmceduce die buc^iet must go tfacDqg^ tD receive sfspro^^ The system is bmken tnd we're aU paying tfae price. This

has become gpvernment of tfae pdiri-dans, for tfae politkians, and 1^ tfae poUtidans.

They^re not all bad. Localty, we faave some fine dected offidsds rqnesentii^tfais atea in AS3aiqr.jM36t of tfaem bD'c been tfacpeft)rotil)rooeortvw> tenia or have just been dected. Butwitfa tfae w ^ tfae system is set up, it could take years for any of tfaem to become committee cfaairs, vdiete tfae real power b^;ins. Assemtdy-man David Gantt ,a 10 year vetecan, just gotachaimian6hf>.Dowe have to wait that long?

Tfae answer is n a Gay and ksbian dvil t ^ i t s were needed yesterday and tomor­row viwin't wait This year the chances for passage of the rights bill are good. Butit wis take a knge oonstinient efibrt to put pressure on the State Senate to make sure it comes ifi fisr a vote and is passed. That's wfaere you come in. The oudying counties need togptorg^uiized.

Cai taod/ot w d k your State Senator. Urge him or her to vote yes for your dvil f itSL Ifyou'renotsucewhoyour represen­tative is, cafl die board of dections. Ifyou know peopk in areas Uhe c tor , Wyo-rnirigand Wayne oounties,Serieca FaUs, Geneva, get them involved.

Our fiiends in Albany need us. Weput dicm diere. Susan, Joe, Davkl, Bide, and Mary EUen are read^ to hdp us, bat we must h d ^ tfaem too. They cannot do it akme.

Our meeting witfa tfae Gcrvemor was nice. But maybe tfae time wotdd faave been better ^ lent meetirig vritfa our ad­versaries. After all, they're the ones we have to ODnvirxs. Let's take bad: our gpv­

ernment G ^ men andkabians faacvc just as t n i d i i ^ ^ to be ptDtected ^g^inst dis-oJminatkxi as atsybod^ dse. We can IK> longencfyonourfiaendstododiewotkfisr uSL If we want to be tceaeod equaBy, w ^ faave to join in tfae s t c i ^ ^ wttfa tfaem.

Someoneoriocsaki"...fitedoiniskist by tfaose uiivriUing to fi^tforit''As Cok>-rado faas diown die country, tfaere axe ^ o | d e out diere wfao are ready to ^ g ^ to deny us tfae benefit of ariy rigfits. They cannot win and we must not lose.

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BY LYNXGALLUGO

Qn sex, weapofit}^ & i o i ^ I f l could find you Iwould say "Come facte, and k t me hdd you."

Iflcouldcven AQow mysdf to locdc fi3r you, Iwould ask, **Whercareyou?"

If I codd want you. Really want you, ^tfaout reservation, I cotdd begin die search

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One of die tiling^ pec^ic argued over most during die stmg^e for tc^firce equality in New York State was whether or not breasts are sexual or^ns . WeU, aren't my breasts sexual? The answer is, they can be. They can also not be.

The quesdon is one of intent If I'm ieding sexual and intending t[i act sexu­ally, my Ineasts are sexual, rig^t along wWi the rest of my body. If Fm not feel­ing sexual or intending to act sexually, my breasts are nor sexual—c^takxig with the rest ofmy body.

The key here is dar it s w)'intent Some­one dse cannot make my body sexual witfa their intent If a man has sexual fedif^ and wishes to act sexually, tfaen fais body K sexual, not mine. Ifhe diooses to act on me against my wiB, tfaen his body becomes a weapon. At diat p€»n^ my body is—a body, und I ftmn rrq? own intent He rnakes a dioice. His body does not have CO be a weapoa I rnake a choioe. My body does not have to be sexual

My body can ako become a weapon. If I'm under attack, my body can be a vv sapon of defenfic. But rny body does not need to be vioknt in order to be a weapon. I don't need to be ar^y, fcarfii, or hatefii >X'hen 1 march for my r i ^ t s and fiee­doms, for my safety and my very hfe, I pur my body on die line. I use my body to sraft* rny demands. Jgoprepared to meet thiiGCwho oppose me with rrxy hodf.

Burmoreort!tentfiannoc,vi?henldo, I dvMT >>Ath )oy and pleasure. 1 make my

fig^t in the spirit of pride and cekbra-tion. I wcfld rr^ nonviolent wcffion to­gedier witfa odriers to create a powerfid, svfveping movement I ^ t for tfae rig^ to choose wfaat my body wi8 be, and wfaen, and witfa vdiom.

I £ g ^ fiir tfae times vdien rr^ body is not a weapon. I ^ i t fiir vrfien my body wiU be sexual, but dso for when it will not be. I % ^ t to know and have it be known tfaat I can faave indmacy, even deep, faonest, up fixint, skin-to-skin physical intimacy, without o b l ^ d o n to be sexual.

lean knonjv you widiout vdb or ficades by putting my body in full, direct con­tact with yours. We can hold each other, stroke each otfaer's skin, cuddle, roll, i a i ^ and piay. We can s n u g ^ up dose and know tfastf it's not out of fear or oon-flfikxi about t h u ^ outside us. We can know diatit^nbi^eak^ loss t n6skes us squeeae each otfaer so t^^N^^^ i^ ld^ oursdves into each otfaer.

My intent is to be loving and tobe your fiiend This land of touching is sensual but not sexual It comes fitxii and creates a safe place f<M: us to be in. . And it can be shared by more dian two.

My body is my own. I am my body. I am not parts, I am whok. In kyve and friendship wc can be whcAe togetfaer.

You take tny hand and lead me to a soft place, a safe i^ace: your body. Ever so gentfy, you draw me down to wherc my cheek can experience die warmth o f your sldn and rny car can kno\v your heartbeat I can curi niysdf into you and lie rocked, naked and n e w b o m agam.

Flesh to flesh, you teach my body co leam you and take you in. You stroke my hair and kiss my fiioe, and we k u ^ . I laug^ in joy and rdief as we rub noses. I hugh to rdease try nen^ousness when you bat at my fiicc with your breasts as I fie beneadi ) ^ Then I lau^ vritfa sheer pleasure in die garne. Leamng against you in your Is^, I can find a long-lost space inside myself wfaere trust is safe £ttid lovir^s not a fixiish vtaiture. How did you know? Was it in my eyes ^dien you approached me, even as part of me shied away firom you, a near stranger? You arc not strange, and ndtfaer am I.

( i l A AT) R A P

BY HARLOW RUSSELL

HaO of fame GLAAD RAP is an occaskxial cokffim

passing on informarion finm the Gay and Lesbian Affiance Against De&tnation (GLAAD), as published by GLAAD/ New York. This year's Hall of Fame indudes:

GanhBKioks^<V^oIJbaQr|feooffis» 3322 W M C &KlAye»JWadh»j^^ yaS&. Biooks* J!iewjilb|]lii ^ < a i M indudesaSGt«tidod^'WcSh3ABeKce," wfaich afifirms that well be unshackled only 'Sjdien we're ftee to lovc anyone we choose." Brooks says tfais is meant to inciude same sex couples; the song also addrcsses radsnfi arid other inhu-manittes- Write him a diank-you note!

The Whoopi Goldbe^ Show, c /o The Lmpm Gtoup> 230 ? ^ k Ave, Suite 550,New Yods N Y 10169. Whoot^ deserves your praise for cam­paigning ag^iinst Colorado's anri-g^y initiative and for using her new syndi-catsd talk show to di^)d stereotypes and promote indusion. Elton John tdkl Whoc^ about beingg^y, his sham mar* ri^ge, and how he finaUy fixmd tcue kive vritfa a ruce man. Elizabetfa Taylor and k d hz^ have also been intcrvkvt^ Tdl Whoopi how important it is to keqi les­bian ariid gay issues upfiont and cn die ail.

Schools, Board of Educarion^llO Livingston St, BtooMlyn, N Y 11201. Five New York City districts have re­jected the "Children of tfae Rainbow" curriculum because it indudes recog­nition ofksbian-and g^-hcadcd fimilies. Fernandez has stood firm, demanding rfiat any ^ ^ t n c t which rejects the cur­riculum devise gc^-indusive ahcmarives. Send him a note of support!

cast Fh&ca, Secaucus, N J 07091* This is tfae superstarion which broadcasts Tbe f^htapiGahbe/gStm Ri:tfiior has it tfaat die starion may give the show's 11 p.m. time slot to Rush l i m b a u ^ currendy in tfae 1 aJTi. slot So write already.

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To the South - Texas Fbr a desrinadon diat's out of die ordi­

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dally for dK holidfl^ weeks and tfaeme weeks) so reservadons ace s t rong sug­gested montfas in advance.

C t e crf'die iievsest arid gistBStg^ovring winter vacadon destinations is Nfiami Beach. Known as * "Soutfa Beadi," gay men and women faave found paradise ki tfae lesKxed art dooo district Hese you wil find an abundance of vacarioncrs fiom around ifae wodd eri oying tfae fine beadles and wann sundxne Soufti Beadi oriSas rRsneious faoiEb snd tcstsucants destined to pfa»se any tmvdcr.

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laiestin queer fiids and fende^anasing <»-weird news itetns, and otfaer informa­don that may not qualify for ffae *'Ncwsftonts" secdon, but wfaidi is sriB of intErcst;oratdievayleastgpodfor a l a u ^

CXorficstFefaruaryiiemoomesfiom the gtcar Liy (no rdadon) TomKn, who is making a apedal gift ofier to accompany her neady rdeased set of videotapes. Not only do you get Errtestittt: Ptok Eyperieme,IJ^forP^dde9tt,IJ/ySoldOitt!, LifyTortebtJ^ppearingMtett,?^ for^ps^Itttelfsr§tI^irid»lMterse,ycsa also rscctvc *^ valuable faatrioomT'

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The <»rds are $7.50 plus $1.50 sfa^)-pirig and faaiicfling^ fron Queeris Riie Ibker Ojb^ P.O Buc 268385<9>, Qs -cago IL 60626. Intezested wfaofesakrs cancaIipiZ)463-2819.

Fans of Anne Sesic and Se twL Hsdley wSL be interested to leam tfaat tfae two Rodiesaalesbianrixskianswere&atured in

i t t im^be t r ibm«3bcpso^ i /H '<^ Mkfa«^ ifae7 vere asked not to sing

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rm, '* Scs^ s a ^ Ifae two condude at ifae end of tfae interview diac even d m ; ^ tfa^don^s^ce cKi evcxjidaog and m s p ^ ofthe pteifiuces of tDUDbag; 'S»e stffl Kke radi^facr."

Seale and tfedky are not tfae onty Rodieseaiatis v^Kiiei^vedniedB n o d a lately. Joe Gua^iatdo^ of Galaxy Hsk^ lOSSHucbon Ave, vw«fcaiuied recently inP^ss^trcIt^ematiottaiH^MMtasmtei H w

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anybody u> tfaank fbr encouragement;*' Seale sxys^ "it's tfaem." She and Hedley discuss tfae cfaallenges of toudngin a sadon wagon padnl widi peopk and equipment ^l^ttdon me if I mentianit; Sfludia," Sesde eay% **bk3t you are no k ^ padoer." "At least Fm conststent," her

of oe's"h^g^hair 'de^gps ftarcvemcgwcar arc shown in a full-page spread.

Ifae mqgjffiane sdects o c ^ thefaodest infixnanooal deigns, so das represents a g^eatoompfimenr ft>Joe's cxcadve tafcnt

faculty, on a moce sotenn noee» a prcss release from PWA Daniel McQueen sifgests diot those wishing tcMdic999Sif3poet:forpeopfewidiAII^ d i s { ^ aUuc candle in a window £Kang diestDsec,tDbelitevcryni^3tuntilacureis fotmd. I>stmd writes tfaat tfais wfl h ^ PWAs know tfaat di(7 ase oot akme, and * yoa cannot know how important that Imovriec^ is.'* For more infbtxnadon or to vdunieer; cal Danny or Joan at Pride Aafi&nv^;a2ineinBuf&k>,atl-876'3881.

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ttTwn,! ^i»bsoaiskigkia£^^iop wUdi speodizestnhaKkmdeaafo. There was a beautiful d i s t ^ of C3nistmas tree omamentsinoneGomer. Hiesfiore was crowded widi students shopping for g^told^hotxic:

I fiodood two oJegMeod gL9s» obvi-ouA^ togpdiei loGfciDgat die omorncQA. Nfy * jgKfda£* went off and I caves-dropped on tfaem.

'%bttee tDhaeetiimoDC^^^etdktffty said, pdnticqg to a hand carved Santa Qaus.

"We\e got enou^ ornaments," re-^xMided tfae otfaer.

'nieodieroaesndod,'*OK,but this is die kst one. If we're goir^ to visit your parents for Chdstmas, weS^ goc to save mote money."

ItfainkTm^iriysafein assuming tfaat tfaey're a oonpie. Betqg a ixxnantic I coukln't hel^ wonderif^ about them. How did dicy meet? Do tfaey Hve to­gether? How long have tfaey been to­getfaer? WouU das Cfaristmas be tfae first visit to tfae in-laws?

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l^iMaf^ sixe fao# ttxymtsSf^ wodd react Butit's been weD wortfa tfae dskltook.

Now I look forwaid to Oaistmas be-cauKmysatr fianJ^pisinaqETattxl Tom atid I have fon de^deaiiog our b

iWtv etie* we took a walk m tfae snow to look at oifaer people's docoradons and we left our tree lit so tfaat v^ could see how it looked in ifae windowas we approached our home. The season lived-i^j to every romantic fentasy Fd ever had about what my ficst Chdstmas with my life-partner woukl be like. Even die weather c o c ^ erated—itwas a vety snowy December

But thc fantasy ended on the momir^ of tfae 24di wtysn Tom left to spend die actualholidaydownstate widi his famiiy, Imopedaroundour^partment undl about 5 p.m. when I headed out toniy modier^s house fio^iendChcstmas with tttjf himily.

I c^ed Tom about 9 psn. We also tdkedontfaephoneChnstmasDay. And I joined him downstate on the 26tfa. We had a great time visiting relatives ofhis tfaat Fdnevcr metand catching "after Christ-mas"sales. But die actual hc^d^ had been empty and meaningless because we'd been^iart

At ttiat point wc hadn't fully accepced oursdves as a femily. Christmas is the ulrimatcfaniilyholidayand neither ofus eidtitd imsfc inc lending it away from our families of origin — so we split up for it We failed to recognise oursdves as a fenfiyuntil Qoistmas was over. Bur wc kamed a lot that year and vowed diat we'd never spend holidays apan again.

Now we sp>cnd Christmas togetfaer witfa my femily and visit his family to­gether the day after. Tom has become an integral member of my family. My nieces andn^hewviewhtm as anotfaer utideand my modier fiends die same amount of mdney on Tom's Chdstmas gift as she does ontny sister's husband I wasalidk

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jiesttdiessMxie9^^ by die santie o k n a n b ^ df dbsm tontairiing sefidraeribd value. I s l v i ^ wdiB dfofdieOidsttiiascaids (evento Atr rdaiive9f)andheaiwa^%ures outhow to make tfae tree stand strai^t in its base. We are devdc^iing tratjtioos tpgcdier. Weare makit^history togetfaer. Sfaared experiences like diese are what stret^;di-cnstfaebondbetween two people. And wc don'thave toocdudeour&iiiBesofcci^jin in order to be together.

Tfae youngguys I o\xrhcard at tiie gift shop seem to have c a t ^ on early. T^ey arepunir^dKirrdatiofSwpin die proper perspective in tfae context of tiieir femi-Kes. If dus »m didr first trip togptfaer to visit femiiies fbr tiie holidays, there may have been some tense moments. Bitt tfaey are brave e n o i ^ to inticgrate each odier into tiie lives of tiieir femilies. Ihey are wise e n o t ^ to invest in their finure by buikfif^ holiday memodes and traditions togedier. We canall be inspired and ettv-powered by tfaeir exarr^le.

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He^jnefhmi tbAlDS Jk: / H P ^ X Q J | « J 5 4 ? | t f ? ^ ^ lM3isarion-ptt^t;volutitBerofgsni7a«gh^ '' tosupportprogatm distprovkie servke^ t d p ^ ^ Funding is provided to agendes located in d i e c d u n ^ oiMamoe^ O t o i v i Sdit^er, Seneca, Iivir^ston,Cfaemur^Sleidien, Wayne and Yates. Hodine (716)987-1853.

Gay AlBance ef dre Gettesee Vidhy peer fedlitaiors can provide referrals to pfaysidans and service agencies. Person onduty Sunday/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Messs^ machine otiier times. (716)244-8640.

ATDS Coordsstadim Profect tff Morrroe Cotatty, run t h r o i ^ Monroe Coun^ Department of Healtfa and AIDS Insdtute of New Yoric (State Department cxf Healtfa) provides iriforrnation, educadon and trairiing, arid tnaintairis a resource library. Sue Cowdl, (716) 274-6114 (V/TTY).

C}mrrtttrtitfHealdyNetwork,Itte. (CTTN), 758 SouthAve. Not-forprofitdinic specializing in eady, ^gressive medical care for pecple with HIV/AIDS. Invest^donal new d n ^ arc made available to patients t h r o t ^ clinical drug trials. Offers HIV testing; arid couiiselirig to people vrfx) are urisiire <rftiieir HIV status. The John Washbum Library is n educadonal resource and spotKors outreach programs Mke Safer Sex and Personal Healtfa vt^dcshops; stpport g r o i ^ for HIV positive men and vwimcn.You need not be a CHN patient to enrtJl in CHN dinical drt^ trials or to use tlie library.; social woric and case management services. (716) 244-9000.

Fift^LaJkes Health SystetmA^ncy provides medical literature and newspaper clippings as well as demographic and statistical data for use in devdopinghealth care services. 461 -3520.

Greater RochesterAIDS Interfmd)Nehtfork (GRAIN) provides lay and profes­sional care th rou^ healing and memorial services; training of ftiendly visitors for visiting bcwncs, ho^itad^, hospices and prisons; information about pastoral resources and advocacy on behalf of people af?ecred by AIDS. (716} a9'%050.

'Mottroe Corrutt atity Colk^ raamtains an AIDS Resource library in the Leroy V, Good library, 1000 E. Hchrietta Rd. 424-5200.

Morrroe ComrtyHeaiih I>^aifimertt, at 111 Westfall Road in Henrietta, offers testing and counseling for'HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. (716) 2746146.

Stnmg Memorial Hospital provider a complete range of HTV medical care, induding access to experimental treatment protocols, and HTV testing. Aiso provides individual and group psychother^y. Training of health care profes­sionals also available. Infectious Disease Clinic, (716)275-0526. Department of Psychiatry. (716) 275-3379. AIDS Training Project, (716) 275-5693.

Afier AIDSy AIDS bereavement support group. Second and fourth Thursdays, AIDS Rochester, 1350 University Ave., 7:00-8:30 pjn. (716) 377-0332

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Rochester Lesbian And Gay PoliticaLjCmicus

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Ctfi ksbiari, g ^ and bisesual issues from different denominadons or churches, irxivkkial a»9^gMk3ns, or tfactnsdvcs.

7facpMit>1i n ^ c x coMitaMafe advo-c a q ^ a

and lesbian relattonships, at 6 p jn , 875 E. Main S t

Open AciM M c W i p o t o f ^ O o i i ^

0!3V!g» i^ a s w c cfaar«»ed o^gttiOft-tion cOumiicied lo meetii

SuB«ijoin's<90&^1iiBC%wabedie guest speaket: She wAdttcuBS die sttuc-tuce of a o a n p ^ g o aM* tfae re^Kiosi* bAaes c^ead i scs^xient For example^ faow does a candkfaie raise tfae money needed to run a campaiign? What is a fidd opetadon and vrfqr is it crudal to avktccy? Who deddes wfaat issues ase pursued and vrfdcfa are not? H o w im­portant is polling^

7 1 K year's rnaqotal, ct^ oxjndl, sdiool boatd and county deric races win oflfer limidess opportunities for local g ^ rxien and lesbians to get plt^ged in and see what a campaign is from tlie inside. Join us fot tfae meeting and see v(*icre your talents migjit be put to good use. Or just come to satisfy any curiosity you ntiight have had about how c«r dected of&dals really get elected.

The meeting will begin at 7:30 p.m. at the Gay Alliance, 179 Ariantic Ave.-For further information call Bill Pritchard at 251-7437.

Interfaith Interfaith Advocates for ljesbian.

Gay and Bisexual Pecple is a gitxf? of ac­tivists ftom varying feiths wiiich has been meeting on a regular basis for a year. The gxxips purpose is to provide advo­cacy for and improve commvinication of lesbian, g?y and bisexual issue in a reli­gious context

Members of Interfeith Advocaces, coming fiom a variety of traditions, rep­resent dtfaer committees with a fixus

tfaese^ McniMsoflolRfetdi Advocaies fbr

a oooviclkm of d»eincki^ve and afaidifig na&aeofGod^ kive feral. For more in-fbnmdon adt 663-9130.

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Tfae Gay and Lesbian Overeaters Support g^djp faas started die new yesT o f f e n d Wrdi trips planned to tfae su-permariEet for readir^ labels, and ex­erdse days, and lessons on controlling and understanding overeating tenden­cies . . . wc get outta breath! Join us on Sundays at 2 p jn . and wdoome a brand new yod Cafl 342^X)23 for more inftx

Lutherans Concerned? Is there any interest in forming a

si^ipott/sodal gjXHjp for ! Q Luriiecaris? Should we form a local chapter of "T-utfaerans Concerned?*'

In February adinner meeting will be hdd for tiie purpose of discussing tiiese issues. For information and location, piease contact Dick, P.O. Box 211, Penn Yan, N.Y, 14527 cx call Tom at 461-5032.

Open Arms "*Gay rdationsiiips don't last* is a lie

perpetuated by jnoranoe." On Fdi. 14, Open Arms MLC.C's worsiiip service wdl be a cdebration of Relationsiiip Sund^, an affirmation of fulflDii^gay

Ckmeountiy Cfaan»cQncsrtat Down­town IMtod PteAytcfiam CSaiich. 121N. Ht2fai^ St Hoee cal die diurdi office, 271 -8478, to caaAe cfinncr res­ervations.

Open Aims Metropolitan Commor riity Chtodi is a fetti oocntiunity^ien: ffcy and lesbian people arc free to ex­perience for diemsdves die presence, guidance and strcr^;th crfGod fix their lives today. Worship services and ac­tivides arc open to aB, regardless of sexual cakntatiori, gerider^ race or prcvir ous church/feith affiliation.

Weekly worship services b e ^ a t 6 p.m. on Sunday c v c n i i ^ at 875 East Main St (Prince St entrance). For a fiee brc¥ihure or further Lnfotrnarion about any activity, call 271-8478 or write Open Amis M.CC, 875 East Main St^ Roch­ester, 14605. Open Arms is aplace to belong, a place to beccffxie!

O m ^ a O m ^ a coffeehouses are h d d fix>m

September to June on die first Saturday ofeadimonth,f iom8pjxi . tol l pxn. These coffeehouses give us a d ^ c x to meetinfocmally for games, music, snacks, and conversatiorL

events, w m e t o u s a t € i i p * i ^ » ! ® r i-Boa 1029% BiDcheslBi^ NiY. 1 4 6 1 ^ 0292 a8:€al>a at ( 7 1 ^ 223-17«ior Cocfcy(710)924-1579.

Rochesier Gay Men^s CSioms

Rocfaester Gay Men's Chorus has bq;ijn pxparation for our lOdi Anni-vecattyGonoGCtonME^UatHodstetn Sdiool of Mie i c

We are very pleased that oia: numbers are on tiie increase due mostiy to tfae rettim of sevecal fcsnier mcmbas. We wdcome tfaem back and are looking fonsrard to our best concert ever.

On Feb. 14, (valentine's Day) RGMC, in conjunction witfa the Strasenburgh Ranetarium, 657 East Ave., vpffl prcsent *ljove S o c ^ Amot^the Stats" at 5 pjti. preceded by a dessert reception at 4 p.m. Tickets are $10 and are available by contacting die Chorus Line at 423-0650 or at the door.

It^s never too late to join the Roch­ester Gay Mcn*s Chorus! we reiiearsc every Tuesday evening at die Down­town United Presb)rterian Church, 121 N . Fitzhugh St , at 7 p.nv Therc is no audition and musicd ttainingis not requircdl For more information please contact the Chorus Line at (716)423-0650.

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EMgnlty-Integrity/Rochester Is an ecumenical organization open to everyone w h o wishes t o worship in a pleasant, non-threatening a tmosphere . W e invite you to jcMn us for our weekly celebration of t he Eucharist, followed by a social hour, o r cnie of our many speda l events such as po t luck supper, picnic, retreat, etc. A Roman CathoHc mass is celebrated each Sunday of the month , except for t he fourth Surxlay v ^ e n mass is celebrated in the Ef^scopal tradition.

Pastorel mttd Peer Couneelhtg Is elso available

Sunday S d M d u t e Llturgy-5:00 p.m.

So(M Hour*6:00 p.m. St. Luke's Episccq^al Churdi

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RodbeMr Gay Summer Ihescxe h e fbrasicooodyearbeen tfaerec^:«erttof a g^ant from Alts ftr Gteater Rodiester. I h e gtant DiA be used to produce two plays this summer.

^d inumofous opdons fix die sum­mer season, RGST vHU. announce its seascmsl plans in Febcuary, t h audi-QODsin

Themostjooencti^ was to Soudi Afijca and invdved ^^ste dddtcn aod dildien of coioc About 60 dukfaen have been parted the g to tp .

l l i e Rodiester Women's CoKxsmntiy Chocus will be travding to New Ha-vet>,CQmi.topartic^3ateina)ottitoori-ccrt witfa die New Haven Women's Qiocus cn Miidi27. Ibey wiB be hostk^ a ooncot hete in eatfy IV qr in exdiange.

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», concessions, co6ti»nes» as Wid as box office aod volunteer coor-diriadon. For rncttc iriforrnadon call 251-7098.

Women^s Comtnunity Chonis and Creative Reqx>nse Rochester

Two diorus groqjs, Rodiester Wo­men's Ccwnmunity Chorus and Cre­ative Response RodiestEr, focmedy the Peace Child Chorus, will combine to oSer an evening of music promoting unity and harmony amongst pecple, called Char^The WorldThrot^Sor^,

Downtown United Presbyterian Church ( D U P Q , 121 N . Fitzhugh St., will host the ccMiccrt on Feb. 27 at 7:30 p jn . until 9 p.m.

Tlie first half wQl be a separate per­formance ixom both dioruses. The second half wiU present the choruses together.

Udoets are $5 in advance and $7 at the door. Hie event wiD be inteipteCDd hy Joy Duskia

Creative Response Rochester is a chorus cociqxised of childrcn firom 8 to 18 years of age. The group is a part of an intemationai organisation ^(^lich sends chikken on intcmadonal tours.

B y l M c k N k l s e n The Finger lakes Gay and Lesbian

Sodal Groiqi continues to meet twice mondily, year round

We hdd our armu^ Christmas-Thanks giving Dinner with 75 pecple in atten­dance, and a wonderfiil time was had by alL New Year's Day wc hdd our normal sodaL

We continue to grow with more and more new people every time. Cotne join us, you won*t be disappointed. If you can, bring one refreshment item, tc , a botde of pop, a bag of chips, etc. As always our meeting location is known onfy to mcrribcrs. Further iriformarion by writing to Dkk N^lscn, PO Box 211, Penn Yan, N Y 14527 or by cdling 315-536-7753 and asUr^ for Som Edwaids.

\ b u t h Group There is anewgroupin town i b r g ^

^ e s 16-20 who need a place to talk about ^]diat it's Uke growing up g^y.

H ie gcoip is run by t n o prof^sionaEy trained sociai workers in a respected human service agency. Tqpics will be detccminod fay o i f ) interest; bur oodd indude cocpix^ out issues, acceptance (Asexual orientadon by sdf and odiers.

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H i e g r o i ^ meets Tuesdays fixxn 7:15pjn. to845p^rlxatRKXxtyScrvice ofRodicstet; 30 Nocdi dinfion Ave.

Groifi fiKiUtators are Scott ^filler, CSW, and Rsgr Voothds.

For mote infisrmsmoo about the group or to jcun, please contact Scott MiBcr at (716) 232-1840.

Afientkm ksbiaoK dieeeis a woman iDstartaksbiaastfipoctgpoOp if

tbere is interest Please contact Sooct Miller at tfae above number for more irdbrmaflon.

Out and About Out and About is a volunteer oig»-

ru2adQn v(Mdi is oommitGed to die en-lidiment c^die quality of Kfe oflesUans, g ^ men, and tfaor fiiends in tfae Rodies­ter area tiirough healtfajr activities. Cidi your invcrfvcment and creative imagi-narion. Out and About can continue to offer exdting opportunities to share the great outdoors with one another. Our newsletter, 'Tifesigns," is pub­lished quartedy and available at a sub­scription tate of $12 per person (diedcs made payaUe to Out zuid About). For moi£ infotmaticm, t^case write to: Our and About, c / o GAGV, 179 Adantic Ave., Rochester, N Y . 14607. Sec you Outand About

Tliis year's New Year's Party, \rfiich was held at the Gay Allianoe, was a smasfaftig success (and fun, too)? A b ^ thanks goes out to al who attended and helped in planning Out and About's 1 9 ^ calerKlar of events. WeVe got some new stuff planned for die new year, aioc^ with some of tfae good old stand-bys. Our Unity Picnic is May 23 in Mendon Ponds; mark your calendars!

Ihcoqg^ tfae end of dis month. Out and About will continue with cross­

country skiiogin Duiand Eastman I%ak eadi Sunday at 11 ajn.; weather pcr-mitiif^ (exduding Fdx 21). O n Feb. 20, Out and About win be travding to Genesee Coun^ Park ^jike Erie snow-belt r ^ ion ) fbr a day of cross-country sldtrig M skin kvds an: cosdialty invited IfintercstDJ in any of these events,give Bob Stear a call at 473-9384.

Ihefburdioffourwomen-ootydown-hill ski t c ^ to Bristti is set for Fd>. Z This is a new evem for Out and About; and interested parties sbouU contact RepeHe at 232-2999.

Anotfaer women-onfy event (will wondeis never ocase) is the Adtroodacks Women's Wccfcend, Feb. 5-7. Come relax iik a Victorian lodge located o n IxKirth Lake near CHd Foige, N.Y. Hiis is a weekend for skiirig; sleddir^ reading and game f^jg^ing by tfae fire, shopping, skating or sni^^usg with your sweetie to stay warm. This is a tcnific, low-bui^;et getaway fix atiyoc3ie \d io likes die outdoots (or at least wants to beat the winter blahs.') Call Sue or Bedi at 244-7159 for fees and more information.

This month's potluck social is Feb. 21. Bring a dish to pass and prepare to enjoy a leisurdy afternoon eating and talking (and share a l a i : ^ or two). RSVP Jim at 288-0403. Also, we need a host/hostess for the ]Vbrch poduck social on March 20 (contact Fred at 336-9158.)

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m v INFECTED PARTNER CAN K n U HIV INFECTION USED TO BE BY CHANCE, N O W ITS BY CHOICE!

I am aware diot die ms^odty of persons, g^andnoQ-s^yflieawateoftfaisfikX Yet ^s^arepecpiestfllcrf^^g^ngin unsafe sex practices? Low sdf-esteemi

I am not here to daim I have all tfae answcts.IamheresQle^toinspire.Asgay pe<^le we have bought into the sham-

less-diari, and padvdqgM- When has it beenah^ittDbeg^Growir%:qp as agay person,howmanyofus were abletosay, 'Tlcy momanddad,guess whatPTfaere's disgq^gcous boyinngr dass thatTmrcaBy attracted to,"orhcm inariycrfycxiwEreaUc tostareattfaecttic quarterback witfaout fear of getting cau^t^

ProbaUy not many. This was usually something feared and kept to oursdves.Wc inherentiy knew, even as dddren, that to be different was to be wrong. Tbis is about taldng on an idol tity of shame. In time this gets generalized to, not simply gay is wron^ but I am wrong,

inarn\es&-6nanarid'Swocib4css'' dian a tKjn-^ty person, dien 1 may fed I need to please others for acceptance. How dse canlfitin ifl don'tdofoccwhets? After all, what is my wordi? There is a constant apdogairg for being g^. Do you hear the pain in this? I cannot be m d l must

grve die worid wfaar iris tfaey caq^ect G ^ men and women are superb at acting or

passitig (as stra^^. It truty becomes a survival skill

lamnotpadiokigjzttigsudibdnKiQc. I will never find a gay man or lesbian wcongfijrdcing^rfiatheordiehad to in Older to survive. I simptypoint out tfaat in sqppressir^ self, we send an unccm-sdousmessage tDOutsdvestfaat'lam not OK.'"Iliis pkys directiy into adevahied sense of seJf.

What I have come to reopg iiae now is tfaat some indtvkiuals widi lessened sdf-esteem hsve a lesser desire to et^^gein safer-sex peactkrs because they perceive tfaeieisnosdfofinqioctanoe to protect If scxneone with low self-esteem encoun­ters someone who is''drop dead fiicking gotgeous," who do you dunk has the power and control in that relationship? Often tfae individual withakssersenseof self respect w31 tum over his will to tfae other f *so that he won't leave me.'^

Reoentty I woriced with an individual who tcJd me about an encounter with his "fantasy man." This encounter in­duded utfin^tected oral and aiial ses (Ixyth p>assiveaiidactive).lliisisabrig^35-yisir-c)klprofes8ionalbuanessman,who knows allaboutsafersexpracdoes.Howwasitthat this n i ^ t he oodd take such a gamUe, endar^gering self and other?

When 1 asked ''^fichael" how this could happen, even when he was not drinking, he said '*To be with diis guy made me fed important; accepted, and loved." I realized wc wcie de^it^ widi sometfaingmudi deeper than a need for ediicatinn aboutsafer sexual practke&

Wc have internalized the n^fitive mess£^ps about our sexuality fitom die

outer homophobic wodd. If we befcve tint g ^ is weoffig; tfaat g ^ men ate kxiely seoondKlassd&sen^and^qridatkiod^'s can'kwod^wchsweboM^idoto an extern

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at downaod dktodiemaboutg^sacuslity as cfaiUzen?It just doestiYfaqipen. We leam about g ^ sexudiiy fism g ^ pom( vkkos or nM^adncs). Here wesecgor-

C ^ canoiifywaQderab<3ut^feciij]j> of sdf after sudh emp^expeifenoe& And wtessie is die oooocm ib r odteis? I t is int

tfae perfectsize penis (orcoucsewekam to bdieve dss imfit be at teast e^it-{dus inches).

Afl we realty see is tepectikia Hie same acts, over and ovct There is no cteattvity. Intin^icy is not understood or induded. ThcreisrK>escpKSfiionofsd£'nieiek rio variety. The same postkios ate used over and over. It becomes nodxng moce than anactWbenIamstak^dien"I,"tnyreal Sdf, is not showing 141 at tfae meeting betweenthetwaScacbecomes a ritual or a role tfaat I play to please my partner, veisus niysdf I do w l ^ T H E Y (to on die videos because this is all I know. I t i s ^ a t is expected of me.

Does this sound familiar? I act how sodetyoEpectsnietoactlhidedieparts of me that sodety expects me to hide. I pctfouu sexuaDy the w ^ 1 diink I am supposed to. Ifs all unreal There is no essenoeherec^wholamasanindivkiual. I am no longer being moved by my fed­ings or e:sperience,butbyapre-scr^ted role I have chosen to play, chosen ofien duetoladrofawareness of ahemadvesand of my own sexual being

LookataDtfaeplacesg^^rmenGonnectni have sex: bars,bathhouses,gyms, pads .

into unsafe se:$ pfacttoes. Tfaekqrfaereisfici]tveebiisdouBty,afidtD

be aware of wfaoyoii SK as an individud. rmnotevengDJHgtofiiousoo the term gay,becausetfaiKissin^alabd,Tdhich teteusaboutaeaaqgptyofpibq^butnever aboutjQK Howknportantttk tobe awaze of who you are^^«i»t you need and want What feds O K and not O K , and what your interests are, Howirtfiortantto be yourSELF.

You aee a sexual b d t ^ an indivkiuai TheiewillneverbeanodiarpefSDnon this

youisdf to show ifl at tfae meeting of you andyourpBrtner(s).Beaware diarsexuali^ is notjustaboutg^tals, or havif^sex.Itis aboittaninneraqictience, which honors all sexual fedings.

Intimacy docs not come fiom sex. It never has and it never win. Sex is sex. But sex may oome fixxn intimacy* Ttiere is much to write on this tc^ic, and I will continue next month,

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This awaaiiBprasentpd cadi year by tfae New Yock Snatc Bar and worics in an SEcaof tfae b w tfaat helps others and ben­efils sodety.

D u m , ydho cuneoity works at Moin Wesc Afiomqs st Law, Inc, a not-fiac-pcofit ooqxxattDa wisdi provides kg^l services to the w o d d i ^ poor, is being foopj^iMi foe his uomnaifencat to 2h£an West;s8 w d s s his feDqueotOQitttetfioo to pufalicatiocis siKdh ss tfae .fiiqE^r Gfasr. HeJBdtoKfaawnwnofdieboairi of dieGi^ and L e d n n Afaemadve Sodal (GLAS), arid ft board rnerrdxr at the Faitfa Com­m u n i s Healtfa Awareness Center. Durm & also a member of tfae N e w Yodc Bar Assodadon's Special Com­mittee oa AIDS and die bw.

Daniel Hollazid tiancied as C H N director, wffl run aciniinistratjon

Dafikd J. Holland of Rodiester has been nsKnod executive dttector of Cooi-rmmity Heahfa Network, I n c (CHN), 758Soo(diAve,iheriot-fiDr-profitrnec^^ oenterptovidir^care to pcofJe witfa HIV and AIDS.

iBttaaoPofdieo^»ma«iijn'^$l3 mtflkm b u d g ^ and astaff of 25.

'l>uVaia8kkai3ieaEpcricDoesmdialr encwUodOINkidieseoQnddecadecf tfae HIV epkknac," n d D c M Vaiend, founderand medical djfector of CHN.

HoBand comes so CHN widi over 10 yean ofciparirncr as tfae finatidalacfaairi" stEBtor of tfae B o d m e r Mental I ^ d d i CeoteratdieRodiestcrGenetaiHoqpiiaL HewasaCapMiindie UJSL AirRxGe,aad is ag^Skkate cfSt J d t o Eisher C o U ^

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GEVA Hieatie announces die cachU-tioo, *1n The Fax Of Akfe in," nmning ftom Peb, 15 through Macdi 20, in ccxi-)unctkxi wflfa didr pcoducrion'The Sum Of UB", a piajr about the nda r ioo^ be­token a &ifaer and his gay soa

The cadiihttioci is curated by David Kwasig^ and feacures visual art and po* etry by rc^cnal and national artists. Irn duded in tfae ediiibition are Kristine Bov^ouoos, Rodiester (xeroac, collage); ParnelaHawkiris,Rodiester(rT]ixedrne-dia); Robert Ptyn^NewYorkGty(pho-togrs^hy); Dimd Kwasigroh, Newark, N.Y. photography); Laura Migiiorino, Nfinnoqxilis (mixed media); Mchelle Oostcfbaan, Rodiester (painting John Paradiso, Albany (mixed media); David Pruden, Rochester (photography).

For fiicdier infiiimadon idioiic tbe eiUidcnffaMcdDBddKwn^coh st 31S-331-8217.

Workshop set on nutrition for HIV positive people

Jadde Cannisezaro, a oookinginstruc-torfiomdieRodicstBrMuseum and Sd­ence Geotei; will pscsentafixddemon-saaaopfocIWpoBttvepeoffcanc^i^^ wiftiAH^SooFdi 13,fiom 10ajn. to noon at locamate Word Lutheran Cfaurcfa, comer of Goodman and East Ave.

Theoo6tis|2fadudesljg^itkttidi).fte-icgttfaoon hy Fdx 11 is lecfsrod. Hie event is apoosoied by NutnnatisI Be-souroeGioupiForrrioiBinfrtfmarioiiaiid to regjBter, piease caO 244-6065.

Aletter fironni Gov. Cuomo to gay and lesbian community

Dear Friends: OnMoodayDec 7,Ihad tfae opportu­

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The meeting took place as we con­tinue prqiatatiofis for a new year. In less tfam a mond^ I wA snnounoe my kg|iBlativc<^Beridaforl993.Asptoniiscdar tfae meeting, I will induck die civil t ^ ^ bdl in tfae State of dicState and

wfl ooonnue ID iggpesflvcty pursue its passage by die kgjBlatute.

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GAGVISacffities managct; Knt time position entails keeping Gay Alliance Community Center open from 6:30-9:30 p.m. on weekni^ts; maintaining ^^>earancc ofbuikfing; scheduUngus-£ ^ of j^ioce; sorting mail, maintainiiig buUetin ^^oat)^ and perfpimii^ otfacn , duties. Send tc^me by Fd>. 15 toRsrsocK"^ nd-Goaxxataeer GAiGV, 179 Adantic Ave, Bpdiester NY 14607-1255, or can 244-8640 and leave tnessage.

GAGV operations mansger /de-• d o p m e n t director. Part dme posi­tion involves g^ant xisseardi and wnting; evakfiMBcxi and improvement of GAGV qpenitkms; maincaining communica­tiotis with local, state and national gay organizations; supporting Board comnstttsea and o4)er GAGV pfofcos niaintaining GAGV reoonis, and tnote. K&Kt tx^Hmitarwith^^asmrnunity and fisues, enthusiastic about promoting GA<W, and abfe to take dtrcakm fiom Board Send xesume by Feb 15 to Person­nd Conunittee, GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave, Rochester NY 14607-1255. or can 244-8640 and leave message.

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Cfaivaltously domestic-minded, setisitivdy gende yet strong. Presently livir^ in a dtsnnal c ^ t ca&od pxison, very done and in t m d of mordiy stable, gcrnind^ canng indnidual to oxxespond with. Ardiie Gikon. #20S116;SOCF P O Box 45699, Lucasville O H 45699-0001.

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Loridy Black male, 32, 6'5", 201 ihs., incarceiatod but not for k x ^ Self-taught po«ry writer, envoys music, real ^ < xivetsatkxi and matute peojpie. Ages 26 and up fed free to respond All kttcts answoBd Jerome HdKns #A157-179, Box 1368, Mansfidd OH 44901, also Sylvester Marks #A215-727, Box 1368, Mansfidd OH 44901.

R o o m m a t e s / Housemates

Manne gmrinman seeks emfdoyed, non-smokit^ housemate to share two-bedroom OXKIO on East Ave. ofierii^ pnvate batii, oompktety fomished, park­irig al utftties, $300/nx3nth Cal Osrley, 461-0821, evetiing^

BeflfXHosUe m ^ to dioee grackxs home m 19th ward ontfa m ^ two snaD dogg, fomished 9250.328^1360.

Non-smokitig ntmle to shue cute tiuee-fiooc, new^ tcrnoddod townhouse witfa two fonaks. Across fiom Cobbs HiB Park JHbrdwood floocs, laucdzy. fl98/mondi plus xttfltdes. 461-3986. Avatkfafe inmediately. No seomty rc^ quired

home. House i s ^ the aottheast side

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petsoowan«odliaitS27&/BiontiLOdl 288-6351. Must see to bdiesd

Boomic If you're A pet fover; neat, i^esponaibk arid wod^i^majpbe you'tae die woman Itobqkifig|bt:Ibi»e akuge, modem, thtte-b«idrd6n^ t i ^ room aq)artment on ii>e East side, in a dean area. I have at the knudes^ cafak, washer/dryer, and more. The rent is S300 for evcrytfsf^ and it^ a wonderfol home wifo atmoipheie. F k a s e t f l t ^ ^ 5728, ask for Aroo.^^

o^tAs. Scpaittte bedrdGUC! ise cf oiffictrapaoe. AButOttus, ktundQr, {dsooe, stc»agc induded P ^

CaH yiM^L and f4«»se kave a wcsss^e, 654-5350.

Mature, mm-simAing gay male tnuned to share house in die Hj^daod ^ u k area. Off-«trect paddr^ washer/ cbyei; 1225 iridudcsaiL Leave rnessage at 244*1629.

AraflaUc March 1, Mature femak.

Vealk Ave difdex. Two bedrooms, one and a half betths, kutkity, one cat No more pets. |295/montfi indudes utili­ties. Dq>osit required 275-405Z

Male to share krge, gradous hbme wifo famjwhckl bedcoom in d^/sdMdt;^ west-Appleton^ f2SO/mondi indudes offettect parking; cabk, w3sher/di^|re^ idiitics. Cdnvcnknt to bu^ d o w n f o ^ 328-1360.

For rent 19da ward: chamiifig one-bedroom

upper on Appbasan St S395/monfo in­dudes ofl^tseet patkr^ caide, washed dryer; heat, decttic Convenient to bus, downtown. 328-1360.

AfMOtnient: Goodman-Mc^ area. One bedsoom (feve rooms and pocd^. Indudes g^ua^ and l^itKlry fodlities. $500 plus utilities. 271-2672.

Stucfio, fomidied, efficactxy kfidien, detadiod private bafo, oSsfteet paddrig utilities, cable, $200.328-1360. Sharpj

"W^ced to jftatif Icriraian couple with small dog

wishes to rent a studb, one-bedroom or twcvbedroom aparinMit RdiaUe. Will­ing CO work on propeny. Pkase coo-tact Nfidicflc or Wendy, 325-4058.

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