This first half Starters brief overview self-esteem & leadership Then 3 Options

This first half

Startersbrief overview self-esteem & leadership

Then 3 Options 1. Remain in here - Self –skills & facilitative

leadership , Servant leadership

2. Facilitated discussion with Rick on self-esteem issues in Noble Firs

3. Self-directed discussion in groups (cafe style)

10.40 Everyone – back here for feedback

Which self-

skills?

Generic traits (self-skills) for

leadership

Traits needed in

our changing cultural

landscape

Traits needed for leading in this ‘spiritual season‘

Summary of previous session

We ended with...The link between unity, mission & the character traits (self-skills) this landscape of the Spirit requires

...with all humility and gentleness,with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

The unity of the Spirit

HumilityServant

attitude, etc

‘...that the world might

know...’

Particular character traits needed particularly in our cultural landscape

Handling power

Desiring to serve

Handling criticism

Recovering from failure

Being vulnerable and

accountable

Poor self-image

Leadership & self-esteem

What are the relevant issues to consider here?

Any thoughts or observations?

Leadership & self-esteem

Related themes

Shame (felt in relation to others)

Skem

Adam and Eve

‘Narcissistic wound’Secondary narcissism- older children and adults seek personal gratification over the achievement of social goals and conformance to social values.

RELEVANT FACTORS

OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM

CHURCH LEADERSHIP

•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE

SOURCES OF OK-NESS

•GOD AS FATHER•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC

RELEVANT FACTORS

OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM

CHURCH LEADERSHIP

•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE

SOURCES OF OK-NESS

•GOD AS FATHER•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC

RELEVANT FACTORS

OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM

CHURCH LEADERSHIP

•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE

SOURCES OF OK-NESS

•GOD LOVE IS NOT PERFORMANCE RELATED•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC

How might we help ourselves and our co-leaders?

What practical steps can we take?

STEPS TO TAKE

SELF AWARENESS

ACKNOWLEDGE

PRAYER“SOAKING”

CONTEMPLATIVE

ACT DIFFERENTLY

IN YOURROLE

MAKE ALLOWANCES

& ADJUSTMENTS

IN OTHER AREAS

Covered more in other units on leadership formation:

Become aware of your dysfunctional tendencies

Grow in those practices which help you be grounded in GodKnow your personality type

Finally...Do accept praise graciously but don’t become

addicted to it:

‘Applause: enjoy every moment of it, but never believe it.’

Oscar Wilde

Session 2

a) Poor self-esteem

SOME KEY IDEAS ABOUT LEADERSHIP

Leadership is relational

Leadership is keeping in step

with the unpredictable

Spirit

Leadership is being open to

the whole body of Christ as the

place where missional

imagination is cultivated

Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership

Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership

Past models (pre-modernity)

Settled pastor/priest

Teacher (Reformation)

Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership

current models (emerged in modernity)

The ideal leader = good at one of the above + has a demonstrable devotional life

Manager- effectiveness

Technician- programmes

Teacher- content

Therapist- health

THE FOCUS OF LEADERSHIP

Current leadership paradigm

Is there a different paradigm?

Pastor

cares

for:Church members, who in turn help run:

Church projects

Focuses on church questions

THE MINISTER(S)

NOT QUITE SO IMPORTANT PEOPLE

Engage with the community

People and systems

Leaders for

m

Puts mission questions at the apex

THE MINISTERS

Still important because they equip church members to ‘do the work of ministry’ Eph 4: 11-16

Engage with the community

People and systems

Leaders for

mPope John Paul II identified two fundamental priorities of evangelization - “solid and deep formation” and a “strong testimony.”

A Catholic Perspective

Engage with the community

People and systems

Leaders form

Pastor cares

for:Church members, who

in turn help run:

Church projects

WHICH MODEL DOES YOUR CHURCH OR ORGANISATION EXPECT?

WHAT ARE THE CHALLENGES FOR YOU?

Does facilitative leadership have a theological rationale, apart from Eph 4 (which can be used as a proof text)?

The day of Pentecost

50 days after deliverance / the exodus (parallels with Calvary) they came to Sinai.

Sinai - The giving of the Law – which then made them a kingdom of priests (intermediaries)

Sinai - Fire (lightning) and noise (thunder)

Pentecost - Tongues of fire and mighty wind

...Pentecost

The Spirit given to all

The Law written within each person through the Spirit

Each person now a priest (standing between God and others)

What are the implications of this for leadership?

Any thoughts?

The Spirit •Anointing is corporate •Leaders are not privileged

•Leaders are there to bring out what God has put within people

Ministry •Ministry (priesthood) is the calling of the whole church

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIPnegatively...

Is not about having all the answers which may frustrate people (the drive to appear omniscient)

Is not about doing what people want us to do, which also might frustrate people (avoiding the drive to be popular)

But neither is it about denying our knowledge, expertise etc (false humility)

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIPpositively...

It is about doing what we believe will facilitate discipleship – i.e. formation of people both spiritually and in terms of personal maturity.

It is about helping people develop and express their charisms (helps, prophecy, mercy etc).

It is about helping others to become servants in the way their exercise their charisms.

It is about shaping systems (groups etc) which will facilitate community formation, create alliances between people etc...

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP

Two questions:

Is empowering leadership the same as delegation, or is it different?

How to do it in practice?

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP

How to... Deal with: ‘What if they are better than me?’

Get to know people – gifts, capacity, aspirations

Learn to ask the ‘impossible dream’ question

Begin to differentiate between pipe dreams & people who are willing to make a difference

Don’t feel responsible for entitled demanders

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP

Concentrate on people who are joined to the church community (somewhere)

Don’t discount people who might not look like leadership material (example – P S)

Take the risk

Pray for them, give them a book, equip them in some way that does not make you too prominent

Don’t try to realise people’s visions for them

FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP

A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.

Lao-Tsu

You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead whoever wants to become great amongst you must be your servant, and whosever wants to be first must be your slave. (Matthew 20:25-26).

Servant Leadership

Points to note:

1. This is in response to their experience of leadership in their own culture, where Rome ruled over a slave economy with a rod of iron.

2. Would Jesus say something different in a culture where leaders were often treated as existing purely to meet the demands of their followers?

3. All Christians are called to be servants, not just leaders. The servanthood of leaders should never be seen as a special level of discipleship – this would denigrate those who serve in other ways.

Which comes firstLeadership or servanthood?

NOT:

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Appointed as Leader

Learn to be a servant

Effective leadership

Leadership Servanthood as a self-skill

Christ as the source of servant leadership

‘Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve

and to give his life as a ransom for many’ (Matthew 20:28)

‘I am among you as one who serves’

(Luke 22:27)

‘Your attitude should be the same as that of

Christ Jesus… taking the nature of a servant…’ (Philippians 2:5-

7)

Marks of Servant Leadership

Menial tasks ---------- A here-for-others focus

We primarily express servanthood through leading well We lead with the attitude that status is unimportantThose we serve are not our masters Openness to others doesn’t mean we will inevitably do what they suggest we should do (doorkeeper vs doormat)

The Status Syndrome‘Everyone who exalts himself will be humbled and he

who humbles himself will be exalted’ (Luke 14:11)

The Basin and The Towel

What are the status symbols used in your church to identify leaders (you may think there are none – but think carefully)? What effect have they had on you and how do you deal with their potential to separate you from those you lead?