Workshop OverviewSelf-EsteemWhat is it?Self-EsteemWhats it made of?Types of Self-esteemThe secret to improving Self-esteem
Self-EsteemWhat is it?Self-esteem refers to the way we see and think about ourselves.
Self-EsteemWhats it made of?Your self-esteem is made up of all the experiences and interpersonal relationships youve had in your life. Everyone youve ever met has added to or taken away from how you see yourself!
The Effects of High Self-EsteemPeople with high self-esteem possess the following characteristics:-They like to meet new people.-They dont worry about how others will judge them.-They have the courage to express themselves.-Their lives are enriched with each new encounter.
-They are nicer to be around.-Their ideas are met with interest because others want to hear what they have to say.-They are magnets to positive opportunities!People with high self-esteem have an I think I can attitude!
Benefits of high self-esteemMore persistent at a difficult taskIncreased respect for oneself and behave in ways that encourage others to respect (Me)moreImprove unconscious behaviorFeel better, live better
The impact of self-esteem on our lives:How we operate in the workplaceSchoolHomeHow we chose our friendsWho we fall in love with
Average self-esteem:Fluctuate between feeling appropriate and inappropriateSometimes act wisely, sometimes foolishlyInconsistent in behaviorThis relationship with self reflects relationships with others
What causes low self-esteem?Overly critical ParentsSignificant childhood lossesParental abuseParental alcoholism and drug addictionParental neglect/overprotectivenessParental rejectionParental overindulgence
The Effects of Low Self-EsteemPeople with low self-esteem possess the following characteristics:-They dont believe in themselves.-They see themselves failing before they begin.-They have a hard time forgiving their mistakes and make themselves pay the price forever.-They believe they can never be as good as they should be or as others.
-They are afraid to show their creativity because they will be ridiculed.-They are dissatisfied with their lives.-They spend most of their time alone.-They complain and criticize.-They worry about everything and do nothing.People with low self-esteem have an I cant do it attitude.
How can we improve our self-esteem?Living more consciouslyTaking good care of yourselfThe practice of self-acceptanceThe practice of self-responsibilitySelf assertivenessDeveloping support and intimacyThe practice of personal integrity
The practice of living consciously:Watch your thoughtsdo you find yourself saying:I know I am not doing my best but I do not want to think about it.I know the way I eat is wrecking my health but.I know I am living beyond my means, but
Living consciously means:Being in the momentA concern to understand the world around meA commitment to learningTo seek clarityBe aware of values that motivate meDistinguish between facts and feelings
Self acceptanceSelf-esteem is something we experience, self-acceptance is something we do.Refusal to be in an adversarial relationship with self.Listening to feelings can lead to a deeper awareness of important information
Self-assertiveness/responsibilityWillingness to stand up for selfProtecting boundariesTo live by your valuesLearn to be kind without self-sacrificingCooperate with others without betraying our standards and convictions
Living purposefullyTo live productivelyTranslating thoughts into realityAnswering questions such as: What am I trying to achieve ? Why do I think these means are appropriate ? Does the feedback from the environment convey that I am succeeding or failing ?
The practice of personal integrityIs the integration of ideals, standards, beliefs and behaviorsWhen our behavior is congruent with our professed values, when ideals and practice match, we have integrityWhen we have lapses in integrity it is detrimental to our self-esteem
One of the biggest enemies to high self-esteem is Laziness:We do not challenge our inertiaWe do not chose to be awakeWe do not wish to experience discomfortThe greatest problem is that it becomes a vicious cycle and our laziness or inaction damages our self-esteem and we tend to become more lazy.
12 Steps to High Self-Esteem (Reading)Step 1-Forgive yourself for past mistakes.Step 2-Focus on your positive attributes.Step 3-Follow the example of successful people.Step 4-Become a self talker.
Step 5-Exhibit a good attitude.Step 6-Get plenty of rest.Step 7-Make your work skills your ownStep 8-Practice your talents
Step 9-Become physically fit.Step 10-Learn new things.Step 11-Improve your personal relationships.Step 12-Dress well!
Final ThoughtYou are a unique individual. No one else is like you in the whole world. This makes you special already!Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for you so you leave your mark in history!