Team  Coaching  with  Equanimity  Katherine  Kirk  @kkirk  

Rachel  Davies  @rachelcdavies  

Workshop  

Who  has  some  ideas  to  try  at  work?  

“New”  Lens  

Equanimity  

Coaching  is  about  Change  

3  Universal  Truths  •  Everything  is  in  a  constant  state  of  change  •  We  need  to  collaborate  •  We  will  always  baHle  dissaIsfacIon  

3  INDUSTRY  Truths  •  Everything  is  in  a  constant  state  of  change  •  We  need  to  collaborate  •  We  will  always  baHle  dissaIsfacIon  

Discuss  in  your  groups  •  Examples  of  changes  in  a  team  situaIon  •  Did  you  encounter  these  truths?    •  Or  can  you  add  a  truth?    

Distractions vs Truths •  Get control •  Defend myself/take

care of ‘me’/boss •  Satisfy me/boss

•  Constant  state  of  change  

•  We  need  to  collaborate  

•  We  will  always  feel  dissaIsfied  

How do I do that?

Are we allowed to

do that?

Do we have time? What if

it goes wrong?

Not my idea. Might

be hard work.

MANY REASONS FOR RESISTING CHANGE

Groupwork Review examples from your experience Did you find these distractions? Or others?

Equanimity?  

Equanimity • What it is NOT

– High emotion– Prejudice– Your personal opinion

• What it is – and attitude– Calm– Open– Curious – not attached to the outcome

• Monk’s description: inquiry without distortion (e.g. from emotion, concepts, prejudice or old-conditioning)

DistracIon  vs  Learning  Ever-changing environment + learning = success (can adapt to change)

Happiness vs Equanimity AIM: Happiness •  Want to be happy •  Get happy •  Get frightened of losing

being happy •  Unhappy we aren’t

feeling happy SUMMARY: Obsessed with maintaining a feeling – may miss what is REALLY happening

AIM: Equanimity •  Want to see clearly •  Want to learn / reduce

suffering •  Practice being

consistently calm & open

SUMMARY: Able to ‘ride the storm’ and see reality to work with it

Tools Retrospectives Empathy Maps Value Stream Maps Others?

Desired  change  from  current  state  

FORCE-FIELD ANALYSIS

Developer  awareness  of  our  company  

Developers are busy

Developers lack confidenceDeveloper aspirations Open source approval process

Support from CTO

Meetups want speakers Too many meetups

Example

Hindrances?  

5 Hindrances (To gaining equanimity) 1.  Desire (craving, clinging) 2.  Aversion 3.  Apathy (dullness & lethargy) 4.  Restlessness 5.  Oscillating doubt

Identify & address these in the group, and equanimity can be gained

Groupwork Worksheets with challenges •  Find the Hindrance(s) •  What tool would you use to reach

Equanimity

ReflecIons?