Transactional analysis - finding and using your adult ego state

Transactional AnalysisFinding and using your

Adult Ego State

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Learning Objectives

We are about to explore…

1. The three ego states a) Parent ego state b) Child ego state c) Adult ego state2. Analyzing ego states and body language. 3. Unit of measure of Interpersonal relationship. 4. Transactional analysis – Strokes 5. Types of Strokes 6. Johari’s window – Blame model 7. What do I do after this training?


Transactional Analysis – the three ego states

• Everyone has three ego states that are based on childhood Experiences and role models• Each ego state is a separate and distinct source of behavior.

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Parent Ego State: Parental values and opinions are stored in this ego state. May be expressed towards others as prejudicial, critical, and nurturing behavior. Parental messages continue to influence the inner child.

Parent Ego state

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Child Ego state: All the impulses that come naturally to an infant. How you responded to early experiences and the positions you took about yourself and others. Feelings of happiness, anxiety, fear, withdrawal, etc.

Child Ego State

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Adult Ego State

Adult Ego State:• Not related to a person’s age.• Oriented toward current reality and the objective gathering of information.• Organized, adaptable, intelligent, and tests reality, estimating probability

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Double Contamination Parent Child

• The word contamination is used here as an idea of disease. • This occurs when we have or possess a rigid belief and

there is no connection to the fact or reality. • In the adult ego state we get contaminated with the belief we get from the parent ego state and child ego state. • In our Child ego state may well lodge some scared feelings• This would mean that there would be a double contamination of the Integrating Adult ego state.

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Parent Ego state: Expressed outwardly

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Parent Ego State: Expressed inwardly

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We all hear parental tapes playing in our heads


Adapted Child: ADExperience and P influence On behavior.

Child Ego State: Three Parts

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Little Professor: LPEmerging adult, Creative, intuitive.

Natural Child: NCUncensored, basic drives are stored here.

Responding as you did in Childhood:SelfishMeanPlayfulAffectionateWhiningManipulativeCurious

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Adult Ego State

• Used to reason, evaluate stimuli, to gather information, and to store this information for future reference.

• Enables a person to use data to make decisions and implement these decisions.


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The adult ego state gives a Person a measure of objectivity.

The adult can evaluate Parental and child Programming and decideWhat is all right and what Needs to be changed.


Analyzing Ego States and Body Language

• Each ego state has its own words, phases, and truisms, that are used in conversation.

• These may be accompanied by postures, gestures, voice tones, facial expressions, etc.


Analyzing Ego State and Body Language


Transactional Analysis : Three basic types


Transactions: Unit of Measure in Interpersonal Relationships

In Ault ego state, the line of communication are kept open between the transactions.


Transactions: Complementary • Complementary: When a transaction gets the expected response from a specific ego state in the other person…• The lines of communication are kept open between the transactors.


Ulterior Transactions

• Ulterior transactions occur when one or more parties are functioning in two ego states at the same time.

• These transactions are very complex and subtle and may be damaging to interpersonal relations.

• On the surface the message will often be adult to adult with the hidden meaning of parent to child.

• The words send one message while the voice, gestures send another.

• There is a difference between what is said and what is meant.


Manager to Employee

Ulterior Transaction

Why were we not Able to meetDeadlines?


Crossed Transaction

• Such transactions are predictably not ADULT TO ADULT transaction.

• Problems usually occur in Crossed transactions, where the other person is at a different level.

• The parent is either nurturing or controlling, and often speaks to the child, who is either adaptive or ‘natural’ in their response. When both people talk as a Parent to the other’s Child, their wires get crossed and conflict results.


Transactional Analysis - Strokes

Stroking is defined as any act of recognition, verbal or non-verbal for another.

Everyone have to have strokes. The term stroke comes from the physical contact which is essential to the survival of the infant child.

Strokes may be positive, negative or mixed. Positive strokes feel good when they are received and contribute to a persons sense of being OK.

Negative strokes hurt emotionally and make us feel less OK about ourselves.

There is also a difference between conditional and unconditional strokes.


Types of Strokes

Strokes

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NegativeConditional Unconditional

Positive strokes Feel good and contributeTo a persons sense of being OK.e.g.-”I like You”.

Hurt emotionally and make Us feel less OK about ourselves.e.g.- “I don’t like you”.

Are offered to employeesIf they perform correctlye.g.”I like you”.

Are presented withoutAny connection to Behavior.e.g. “I like you when You smile”.


Johari’s window – Blame Model


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Transactional analysis - finding and using your adult ego state