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“I saw theangel in
thestone ~
andcarved toset it
free.” Michelangelo
WELCOME
“AWAKENING THE GIFTS WITHIN”
An Introduction to The Virtues Project
WATER DEMO
From the Family Virtues Guide
“Idealists dare to have big dreamsand then act as if they are possible...Idealism does not mean that you arean idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just
WISH that things were better.Idealists do something to
MAKE things better.“
WHO ARE THE PRESENTERS?
Terry Rahn &
Valerie HessMaster Facilitators of The Virtues Project
What is The Virtues Project?
A global grassroots initiative that is transforming the cultures
in homes, schools, organizations and communities, through awakening virtues, the gifts of character.
4 Key Principles The parent is the primary educator of
the child. Children are born in potential.
Their natural qualities can develop into positive or negative traits depending on how they are educated in the early years. Character develops as children learn
to make responsible, moral choices. Self-esteem is a natural outcome of
living by virtues.
What are virtues?
What’s good in us
The gifts of our character
The qualities of our spirit
Our inner strengths
Virtues: The Gifts of Character
AssertivenessCaringCleanlinessCommitmentCompassionConfidenceConsiderationCooperationCourageCourtesyCreativityDetachmentDetermination
ReliabilityRespectResponsibilitySelf-disciplineServiceTactThankfulnessToleranceTrustTrustworthinessTruthfulnessUnderstandingUnity
DiligenceEnthusiasmExcellenceFlexibilityForgivenessFriendlinessGenerosityGentlenessHelpfulnessHonestyHonorHumilityIdealism
IntegrityJoyfulnessJusticeKindnessLoveLoyaltyModerationModestyOrderlinessPatiencePeacefulnessPerseverancePurposefulness
Every Child Is Born In Potential
Just as a seed is aspecific tree inpotential,
a child is a particular,fully independent human being, in potential.
Virtues
Is it ever too late?NO!!It is never to late to begin applying these strategies and achieving amazing results!
Nor is it every too early…
Is this an add on curriculum?NO! This is not one more thing to add to your day. You infuse the strategies into what you are already doing.
Will my kids or co-workers think
this is dorky?Maybe
Humor is one way that adults and kids become comfortable with the language.
Hang in there!
What are the goals for this workshop?
TO AWAKEN YOUR VIRTUES TO INSPIRE YOU TO SEE VIRTUES IN OTHERS
TO HAVE YOU PERSONALLY EXPERIENCE THE FIVE STRATEGIES OF THE VIRTUES PROJECT
What are our expectations? Follow the directions for each exercise
Finish activities within allotted time frame
Follow the boundaries that we establish
The A.R.T. Of BoundariesAssertiveness
Respect
Trust
Do what is right for you
Be deeply present withoutadvising
interrupting rescuing
criticizing teasing
Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.
INTERACTIVE INTRODUCTION
1. Pick one partner.2. Choose who will be partner 1.3. Partner 1 ask partner 2 all the questions, listening for their virtues.4. Partner 1 acknowledge partner 2 for virtues you saw and heard. VIRTUE + EXAMPLE = VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT
Did you remember to write the virtues you saw on each other’s gem tags?
What did youappreciate about
this activity?
What do you hope
to gain from this workshop?
THE HISTORY• 1991 • Three people• Response to school shooting and youth violence in the US• Began as a parenting program• Virtues the common thread• Soon discovered universal application
Dr. Dan PopovLinda Kavelin-Popov
John Kavelin
THE FIVE STRATEGIES
• Speak the Language • Recognize Teachable Moments• Set Clear Boundaries• Honor the Spirit• Offer CompanioningTM
CONGRATULATIONS!!
You have alreadypracticed all five strategies!!
• Speak the Language • Recognize Teachable Moments• Set Clear Boundaries• Honor the Spirit• Offer CompanioningTM
SPEAK THE LANGUAGE OF VIRTUES
Name a Virtue
Encourage Mastery
Encourage Meaning
A Rainbow of Respect
Create Visual Symbols
When to Speak
theLanguage of the Virtues
ACTIVITIES• Speaking The Language of Virtues (handout)
• Acknowledgement Card
ACT With TactTM
Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”
RECOGNIZETEACHABLEMOMENTS
TEACHABLE MOMENTS ARE…
• The opportunities to shine light on virtues being practiced (acknowledge)• The opportunities to bring attention to virtues needed in a given situation (guide)• The opportunities to call one another back to our virtues when we fail to practice (correct)
In Teachable Moments
Stop Shaming
Excellence
Start Naming Virtues
What Destroys Conscience?• Shaming
• Name-calling• Beating or hitting• Over-protecting• Over-punishing• Ignoring effort• Lack of clear boundaries
What Builds Conscience?
• Naming virtues• Clear boundaries• The opportunity for
reparation• Acknowledging effort
DARKEST MOMENT/SHINING HOUR
•Describe one of your darkest moments at work. What virtues were needed?
•Describe one of your shining hours at work. What virtues were involved?
•Give your partner a virtues acknowledgement.
ACTIVITY RENAME AND REFRAME
ht side)
SET CLEARBOUNDARIES
Boundaries Keep Us Safe
Clear Boundaries are needed to stay on course.
•Clear boundaries are needed when we have a problem.
Clear Boundaries are needed to create a safe and peaceful learning environment.
Our boundaries are what we need to examine first, when we have a problem.
Do our boundaries address the problem? If the answer is “no”
SET A CLEAR BOUNDARY
What virtues are needed?
How do they need to be practiced? Be specific.
Boundaries are found in …Vision statements
Mission statementsStaff policies
Discipline policiesProgress Reports
Performance EvalsProgram rules Family rules
Guidelines for Establishing Clear
Boundaries1. Be Moderate2. Be Specific3. Be Positive - Virtues Based4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences5. Make Consequences Educative6. Be Consistent7. Communicate Rules Clearly8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable10. Make Expectations Clear
BoundariesCourtesyRespect
TrustAssertiveness
Follow directions and treat each other as you would want to be treated.
Listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing.
Hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop.
Participate in a way which is right for you. Share what you are comfortable sharing.
WRITING A BOUNDARYWrite a personal boundary for work and for home
Remember, first identify the virtue that is needed
Next, write down a specific example of how to practice it
BOUNDARY QUESTIONS ACTIVITY
In groups of three, take turns asking, one person at a time, all of the questions When each person has finished answering the questions, both listeners acknowledge virtues you see in the person who shared
HONOR THE SPIRIT
WHAT HONORS YOUR SPIRITWhat brings you joy?
What inspires you?
What renews your spirit?
What gives you energy?
What Re-
creates You?
Honor the Spirit
Mastery
Mystery
Meaning
Explore MysteryHonor Meaning
J ournalingSpirit WalksVirtues Picks
Sharing Circles
The Virtues Pick1. Pick a partner. Decide who will share first.2. Share something about what’s up in your life at this time (good or bad).3. Read your virtue card aloud and share how it is speaking to you.4. Partner, companion in SILENCE with no cross talk.5. When first person finishes sharing, partner give VIRTUES ACKNOWLEGEMENT and write the virtues on their gem tag.
Simple Steps for Spiritual HealthCreate a Routine of ReverenceTake time every day for reflection.
Enjoy YourselfSpend non-compulsory time alone
and with people you enjoy.Make Time for Friendship
For listening and companioning, for being together.Lead your life with Integrity
Tell the truth. Do it now.Expose yourself to Beauty
Be in nature.Spend time with the Arts.
ACTIVITY WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY?
Q & A
Evaluations
Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues
Strategies1. Naming VirtuesWhat are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward?2. What is the Teachable MomentFor our organization?3. How clear are our Boundaries?What boundaries do we need to establish?
4. How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension?What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed?5. What are our true issues?What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another?
Personal Virtues Shield
YourTotem
CoreVirtue
CoreVirtue
WhatBrings
You J oy
ChallengeVirtue
See Me Beautifulby Red Grammer
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