1-Day Dating Breakthrough!
Hosted by: PCB Agency
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OVERVIEWTHE CIRCLE
DATING MARKET/GAUNTLET THEORY
LOVING YOURSELFVULNERABILITY
HOW TO KNOW YOUR MATCHHOW TO MEET MEN
TAKING IT ALL IN
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The Circle
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The CircleFacilitato
rsStephanie “Don’t Let This Smile (You Can’t See)
Fool You, I Get Gangsta” Ghoston
Gwen “Gee” SandersPaul “Pippy” BrunsonToday’s Community!
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Dating Market
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Dating Market• The origin of modern marriage
• How “the pill” changed everything
• Hook-up culture• Everyone is an expert :-) (your family, your friends, your co-workers, bloggers, TV personalities, etc.) 6
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Dating Market• 100+ million U.S. singles• 48+ million U.S. single men
• Men seek commitment at a rate twice of women*
• 1,000+ online dating sites & apps
The Numbers
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Why are we not connecting?
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Dating Market
•Perception•Mobility•Maximizer vs. Satisficer
Why We’re Not Connecting
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Gauntlet Theory
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Gauntlet TheoryHave self-love Be vulnerable
Meet many menDetermine best match
Continued effort (in the face of adversity)
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Self-Love
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Self-Love• “The perfect you isn’t something you need to create, because God already created it.” ~Marianne Williamson
• Perspective (aka “the freaking miracle”) wheel!
• The act of loving yourself means taking care of your; mind, body and spirit
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HomeworkCreate your own
perspective Wheel, Identify your
breakthroughs, and watch how a freaking MIRACLE
ensues!
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Vulnerability
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Vulnerability• Do you understand what it means to be vulnerable to love?
• The difference of faith in fear from faith in love?• Importance of ‘surrender’ to acquire vulnerability• “Faith isn’t blind, it’s visionary” ~ Marianne Williamson
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HomeworkRead Brene Brown’s
‘Daring Greatly’ (possible power circle book club...hint...hint)!
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How to Know Your Match
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How To Know Your Match• Your values are YOUR RULES to life
• Know them in priority• Look for the most closely matched (with you)
• Opposites attract...then, attack
Values
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Funeral Exercise
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How To Know Your Match
• Controller• Supporter• Promoter• Analyst
Personality Types
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How To Know Your Match
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How To Know Your Match
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How To Know Your Match
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How To Know Your Match
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How To Know Your Match
• What’s the difference between a deal breaker & a non-starter?
• Identifying your non-starters
• Will evolve over time
Non-Starters
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Create ‘The’ List
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How To Know Your Match
• There is a difference between attraction and attractiveness
• Be able to verbalize what traits attract you. Prevents ‘lust trap’
• Does attraction grow or wane over time?
Attraction
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HOMEWORK
1) Identify your values2) Confirm your
personality3) Create non-starters
4) Know traits of attraction
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How To Meet Men
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How To Meet Men• Does this perceived, nearly extinct species called ‘man’ actually exist?
• Similarity between dating and the lottery?
• 80% lost on the rod
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How To Meet Men• Should be online “introductions”• Try multiple platforms• Photos are 90% of the decision • Show don’t tell
Online Strategies• Fish with a net• Move offline quickly • Take safety precautions• Stay current • Be proactive
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How To Meet MenGood vs. Bad Photos
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How To Meet Men
• Expand social circle• +2 Gatherings• Ask for introduction effectively
• Man-classes• Volunteer events
Offline Strategy• One-off/periodic events (Superbowl, Inauguration, etc)
• Steakhouses• Hotel bar/lounges
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How To Meet Men• What is flirting?• The triangle• 87% of men understand one universal (combo) move
• Practice builds confidence which makes more effective
How To Flirt
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Homework
Select one offline strategy and do it
(with a partner from today)!
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Taking It All In
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Taking It All In• The fear of looking ‘thirsty’ keeps a lot of people single
• Name one person who has maintained success in a craft without working hard?
• Work hard for it, stay in the present, keep eyes on the TRUE prize
1-Day Dating Breakthrough!
Question & Answer
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