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“There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give...children...one of these is roots, the other, wings. (Hodding Carter)

WHY KIDS MISBEHAVE!

www.mannasolutions.org DR. RICK CHROMEY

W H O E V E R S PA R E S T H E R O D H A T E S T H E I R C H I L D R E N , B U T

T H E O N E W H O L O V E S T H E I R C H I L D R E N I S C A R E F U L T O

D I S C I P L I N E T H E M .

( P R O V E R B S 13 : 14 )

Introduction:

NOTES:

BELONGING:

BOREDOM:

BELIEFS:

Rudolf Dreikurs

The first step towards boredom is _____________________________.

“As water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.” (Proverbs 27:19)

PROACTIVE DISCIPLINE:

• Ban the Bribes: When we resort to external motivators like prizes, candy and gimmicks to reward our children’s behavior we create temporary fixes that fail in the long run. Win their behavior with rewards, you have to keep them with rewards. It’s a never ending, vicious cycle. • Encouragement: Substantive praise and commendation wins a child’s affection and attention. Substantive praise focuses on WHAT was done well, not that it was done WELL. For example, don’t say “Good job, Johnny!” but “Johnny, I thought your idea really showed great depth of creativity.” • Preparation: If you don’t prepare, you will repair. Ninety-percent of misbehavior happens when parents are in reactive situations. We create our own problems. Be prepared to parent! • Natural Consequences: When misbehavior happens, try to invoke natural consequences that match the deed. If your child accidentally spills glue, have him clean it up. Teach responsibility. • Feed The Need (or the inner GROWLS): Every child hungers for grace (unconditional acceptance), relationship (connection/community), ownership (control/contribution), worth (value/voice), laughter and security. • Create a Positive Family Setting: Spend time with your children individually. Watch for personal biases against certain children. Avoid predictability. Remember, attention spans match the child’s age (up to 10 minutes). When you exhaust a child’s attention span, you no longer are in control.

The Genuine

Goal:

RESIGNATION REVENGE POWER PLAYS ATTENTION-SEEKING

“I believe in you” “I trust you”

“I know you can handle this” “You are listened to” “You are cared for”

“You are important to me” (Barbara Coloroso)

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