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Voluntary Euthanasia: an unfamiliar pilgrimage © Sande Ramage Sande Ramage: [email protected] www.sanderamage.com End of Life Choices/Voluntary Euthanasia Society, Wellington, 22 March 2014 1 A small skull sits on my desk. It helps me remember that death is my beginning and my end and a tease along the way. Flicking me provocative glances early on then keeping her distance until now I see she’s trying to be best friends, intent on a partnership because she is my destiny. We all have a range of death experiences throughout our lives, whether actual or metaphorical. They are not mistakes or near misses although at a material level they may seem like that. Taken seriously they can help open the gates of wisdom to help us step down into meaning, rather than bob about on life’s surface, subject to changing tides. Meaning has always mattered to me, first through being adopted into a fundamentalist Baptist home and then through the lifelong project to find my way to faith beyond the construction of God first offered to me. Meaning matters for me in my roles as Anglican priest and hospital chaplain, where I engage with death every day. Today, I draw from all that experience, although I do not speak on behalf of my employer, the ICHC, MidCentral Health that hosts me as a chaplain at Palmerston North hospital, or the Anglican Church. Notwithstanding that, my context matters. Like many of you, I have borne a child and sat beside dying parents, one who had a protracted journey with varying forms of cancer and the other who contracted motor neurone disease in the latter stages of life.

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Asmallskullsitsonmydesk.Ithelps

merememberthatdeathismy

beginningandmyendandateasealong

theway.Flickingmeprovocative

glancesearlyonthenkeepingher

distanceuntilnowIseeshe’stryingto

bebestfriends,intentonapartnership

becausesheismydestiny.

Weallhavearangeofdeathexperiencesthroughoutourlives,whetheractualor

metaphorical.Theyarenotmistakesornearmissesalthoughatamateriallevel

theymayseemlikethat.Takenseriouslytheycanhelpopenthegatesofwisdom

tohelpusstepdownintomeaning,ratherthanbobaboutonlife’ssurface,

subjecttochangingtides.

Meaninghasalwaysmatteredtome,

firstthroughbeingadoptedintoa

fundamentalistBaptisthomeand

thenthroughthelifelongprojectto

findmywaytofaithbeyondthe

constructionofGodfirstofferedto

me.

MeaningmattersformeinmyrolesasAnglicanpriestandhospitalchaplain,

whereIengagewithdeatheveryday.Today,Idrawfromallthatexperience,

althoughIdonotspeakonbehalfofmyemployer,theICHC,MidCentralHealth

thathostsmeasachaplainatPalmerstonNorthhospital,ortheAnglicanChurch.

Notwithstandingthat,mycontextmatters.

Likemanyofyou,Ihaveborneachildandsatbesidedyingparents,onewhohad

aprotractedjourneywithvaryingformsofcancerandtheotherwhocontracted

motorneuronediseaseinthelatterstagesoflife.

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Astheconversationaboutendoflifechoiceshasdevelopedithasresonatedwith

myexperience.I’venoticedasimilarinstinctiveresponsearoundtheworldas

theissuevibratesandfindsresonanceinpeople’slivesandsoIimaginethatit

onlyamatteroftimebeforeendoflifechoicewilleventuallybecomeoneofthe

optionsinNewZealand.

Aswemovetothatpointtherewillbeeruditeargumentsfororagainst,butI

don’tthinkarguingforaparticularpositionismytask.Instead,Ithinkit’stoadd

tothespaciousnessoftheconversationfromacontemporaryspiritual

perspective.

Ifdeathisourbeginningandourend,

thenitis,attheveryleast,aconundrum

thatforcesustowonder.Towonder

whatconstitutesalife,whatultimate

valuesunderpinthatlifeandthread

theirwaythroughit,andhowwemake

meaningwithinthatlifeforwhichwe

haveultimateresponsibility.

Asscientificknowledgehasexpanded,sotoohasourpuzzlinglifespan.This

createsanillusionofeternityinrealtime,althoughthereappearstobeno

consideredmeaningorpurposebehindthisachievement.Youcouldsaythisisa

convenientfictionthatreinforcestheactofextendinglife.

Immortality,themostexcellentbook

byEnglishphilosopher,StephenCave

presentswhathecallsthefourstories

thathumanshavecreatedtoavoid

death.i

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Firstthereistheresurrectionstory,whichreligionshavebeenquitekeenon.

Secondthereisthesoulstorywherejustabitofusliveson,ofteninanewform

oranewenvironment.Livingonthroughourgrandchildrenorthemonuments

webuildisthethirdverypopularlegacystory.

Thefinaloneisthestayingalivestory,whichhasmuchtodowiththeendoflife

choiceconversation.Inthisstoryweattempttostayaliveinavarietyofways,

throughcrammingvitaminsandpotionsdownourthroats,swallowingand

injectingavarietyofdrugs,havingoperationstocutouttumoursorimplantnew

partsandbeingresuscitatedtoensurewekeepbreathingandwell,stayingalive.

IntheendCaveconcludesthatnoneof

thenarrativescandeliver,whichleaves

usinsomethingofafix.Headvisesan

approachtomortalitysteepedinthe

wisdomtraditions,somethingColin

Jamieson,aMethodistministerin

Christchurchmightagreewithwhenhe

pointsoutthat‘manyhavehadtheir

livesprolongedsothattheycannolongerliveinordinarycommunitiesbuthave

tobeaccommodatedinagecarefacilities.ii

Thissituation,thatmanyofuswanttoavoid,seemstobeoneofthedriversfor

euthanasiaconversationsassomeareleftgraspingforsignificantmeaningabout

thecontinuationofourlives.

NosurprisesthenthatIwascaptivated

byHelen’sstory,onerecountedbyDr

RodneySymes,anAustralianadvocate

forphysician-assisteddying,inhisbook,

AGoodDeath:anargumentfor

voluntaryeuthanasia.iii

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Helenwas80yearsold,livingaloneinherownsmallhome,wheresheenjoyed

potteringaboutinhergarden.Shehadgivenupgolfandbridge,notbecauseshe

wasbecomingfrailbutbecauseshewaslosinghersight,whichalsomeanther

abilitytoenjoytelevision,filmandthetheatrewasgone.

AlthoughHelenhadanattentivefamilyhersenseofvalueasamotherand

grandmotherwasdiminishing,aswasherabilitytocopewithindependent

living,althoughshehadexcellentgeneralhealth.

Despiteherdaughter’sprotestations,shefeltshewouldbeaburdenandwasn’t

preparedtoenteranursinghome.Aftermuchconsideration,Heleneventually

madethedecisiontoselfterminate,somethingshehadtodoaloneforfearof

implicatingherfriendsandfamily.

Helen’sdeathwasnotimminent.Shedidnothaveaterminalillness.Shehad,

accordingtoSymes,ahopelesscondition.Butultimately,hesays,‘itisnotthe

illness,whetheritisterminalorhopelessthatmattersbutthenatureofthe

sufferingandwhetheritcanbeeffectivelyrelieved’.iv

UnderMaryannStreet’sEndofLife

ChoiceBill,thiscaseseemstofitunder

Section6(1)(ii)whereaqualifying

personmayreceivemedicalassistance

toendhisorherlifeifheorsheis

mentallycompetentandhasan

irreversiblephysicalormentalmedical

conditionthat,intheperson’sview,

rendershisorherlifeunbearable.

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Acaselikethisshiftstheconversationawayfrompeopleexperiencing

unbearablephysicalsufferingandimminentdeathwithintheconstantcareof

medicalprofessionals.

Underthissection,ahumanbeingisassumedtobecompetenttounderstand

theirownsufferingandtheimplicationsofthatand,shouldtheybelievethisis

irreversible,makeadecisiontoseekmedicallyassisteddeath.

IunderstandthatthisisanathematosomebutitresonateswithmeforIlive

alone;havedoneformanyyearsandhavecometounderstandtherhythmof

that.Athome,thingsaredonethewayIlikethemtobe.Myritualsenlivenme,I

havemyfamiliarbitsandpiecesscatteredabouttohelporientmetowhat

matters.Therearemanycuesinmyhometohelpmemakesenseofmyworld.

Furthermore,mygovernmenthasrepetitivelytoldmethatbeingindependent

andtakingcareofeverythingmyselfisthewaytobe.Thisisthesocialand

politicalcontextinwhichIlive.

LikeHelen,ifIbecomefrailandunabletoliveindependently,Idonotwantto

losethatsenseofmeaningandfindmyselfinfantalisedbybeingforcedintoa

communitylivingsituation,somethingIhaverunscreamingfrommywholelife.

AsIreadHelen’sstory,IrealisedthatIwantthechoicetoselfterminatewhen

lifenolongerholdsmeaningforme.AndIwantthatchoicetobelistenedtoas

thechoiceofathinkinghumanbeingwhohasworkedhardtofigureouthowto

livewithmeaning.Idonotwanttobepatronizedbypeoplewithpowerofany

kind;includingmedicalprofessionalstellingmeIamdepressedorunableto

makemyowndecisions.

UnlikeHelen,IhopeIcanritualizetheendofmylifewithmyfriendsandfamily.

Totellstories,togivethanksformylife,todrinkaglassortwoofbeautiful

bubbly,toreadsomeofmywordsagain,theorderingofwhichhasgivenmesuch

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joy,toblessthepeopleIloveandbeblessedbythem,andinadignifiedway,

acknowledgethatitisdone.

WhenIhavebeenexpectedallmyadultlifetotakeresponsibilityformyself,it

seemsliketheultimatebetrayalofasociety,aglaringlackofcompassiontohave

thisfinaltaskofthegreatestmeaningtakenfromme.

ButHelen’scaseandmydesiretohave

thechoicetodolikewiseisabridgetoo

farforsome.Theworryseemsto

revolvearoundthequestionofwhatwill

becomeofusifweembracetheability

ofourcommunitytoselfterminate?

Willweendupasmonsters,devouring

ourownkind,adriftintheuniversewithoutmoralcodeorcompass,lackingeven

shredsofcompassionforothersandourselves?

ColinJamiesonagain.‘Euthanasiaisabouthowandwhywedie;whatprocesses

shouldbeprohibitedormodified,butmainlyit’saboutthevalueofcompassion

andthemotivesoftheparticipants.’v

Nevertheless,major,existentialcommunityfearsneedtobelistenedto,satwith

andexplored.Inparticular,weneedtoaddresstheoverwhelmingfearthatwe

arenotenoughtocompetently,wiselyandcompassionatelymanagethecreative

lifeforcethatenergisesusforatimebeforeitslowlystartstowane.

Oncemanymighthaveappealedtoanomnipotent,externalGodorasacredtext

forguidance,butmoreoftennowtherealisationisthatwehavetotake

responsibilityforlifeanddevelopthefaithinourselvesthatwecandothiswith

compassion,love,justiceandmercy.

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Butcanwelistentooneanother,respectautonomyandindividualchoiceswhilst

livinginthetensionofawidercommunity?Areweupforitandwhatifwegetit

wrong?Whatwillguideus?

Althoughwemayhavemovedpastan

overarchingreligiousmeta-narrativeor

agreedreferencepoint,oursearchfor

ultimatevaluesandmeaningcontinues.

Contemporaryexpressionsof

spirituality,althoughtheymaysound

unfamiliar,needtobetakeninto

accounttohelpilluminatethisprocess.

ANewZealanddefinition:

Spiritualitymeansdifferentthingstodifferentpeople.Itmayinclude(a

searchfor)one’sultimatebeliefsandvalues;asenseofmeaninganda

purposeinlife;asenseofconnectedness;identityandawareness;andfor

somepeople,religion.Itmaybeunderstoodatanindividualorpopulation

level.(Egan,etal.,2011)vi

OrfromtheUnitedStates:

Spiritualityistheaspectofhumanitythatreferstothewayindividualsseek

andexpressmeaningandpurposeandthewaytheyexperiencetheir

connectednesstothemoment,toself,toothers,tonature,andtothe

significantorsacred(Puchalski,etaI.,2009).vii

Theremarkablethingaboutthegrowingbodyofcontemporaryspirituality

definitionsfromaroundtheworldisthattheyallpointtoissuesofrelationship,

meaningandconnectedness.

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Connectednessfeaturedinaslightly

differentwayintheNewZealandstudy‘I

wouldn’twanttobecomeanuisance

underanycircumstances,’which

exploredthereasonswhysomehealthy

olderindividualssupportmedical

practicesthathastendeath.viii

WhenIfirstreadthisstudy,Ibecameworriedaboutthetragedyofsocietywhere

theoldandfrailenteraside-stream,apparentlywithoutvalue.Meanwhile,

youngthrustersdominatethemainstreamintentonbuildingupassetsand

achievementswithinaneconomicallydrivenframework.

Nothingshouldeverdetractusfromtheneedtokeepdevelopinga

compassionatesocietysothatallpeoplewhatevertheirrace,creed,age,

orientation,abilityorotherwiseareenabledtolivelivesofdignity.However,as

readthispaperalongsidemanyotherdocuments,watchedvideosandpondered,

Ibegantowonder.

ErikEriksonwasapsychologistwho

observedaseven-stageprocesstothelife

cycle.Heheldthatintheseventhstage

fromabout65todeath,thetaskrequired

istoreflectonlife.Thereissomethingof

abalancingactbetweenintegrityand

despair,withthesignificantquestion

beingwhetherwehavelivedameaningfullife.Themajorvirtuetoemergeoutof

thisprocessiswisdom.

WiththisinmindIcouldseethattheunwillingnesstobeaburden,expressedby

somanyolderpeopleinthisandotherstudies,mighthaveadepthofwisdom

withinitnotabletobeperceivedbypeopleinearlierstagesoflife.

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Forwhenthebuildingupofresourcesandachievementsisanover-riding

preoccupation,extendinglifetoaccommodateevenmoreachievementsseems

sacrosanctandrejectingit,somewhatprofligate.

However,asthisachievementphase

slows,therecomesarealisationthatour

tasksarealmostcomplete,thattimeand

circumstancecanbeseenforthe

imprisoningconstructsthattheyare,

andthatwenowsitbesidetheriver

ratherthanactivelynavigatingit.

Theriverappearstoflowmuchfasterthanwecancopewithandwemaybe

awarethattowadeinit,tocrossthisriverortostandagainstitscurrent,will

likelytakemuchmoreenergythanwecanconceiveofeverhavingagain.

Thisseemstometobeawiseunderstandingoftherhythmoflifeandoffersthe

opportunitytocastaquizzicaleyeonthewaysandmeansoftherivertraffic.

AsIreadHelen’sstory,itseemedthatasherconnectionsdiminishedalongwith

hermeaningmakingactivities,notwantingtobeaburdenbecameapositive

sacrificialmovementthatwasnosacrificeatall.Perhapsinsteaditwasachoice

toletherlifegointothestreamofthegreatergoodasshenearedthecompletion

stageofherlife.

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Itappearedtomethenthatthe

parametersofthisconversationabout

euthanasiaandendoflifechoicesarea

littlenarrow,havingoftenbeenreduced

to‘simplisticlegalisticcomparisonslike

‘physician-assistedsuicide’versus

‘naturaldeath’.ix

TheMedicalAssociation,HospiceNewZealand,AdvanceCarePlanninggroups

andothersareresolutelyopposedtoanychangeinthestatusquo,believingthat

endoflifechoiceshavenoplaceinpalliativecare,evenalthoughweknowthat

palliativecareandeuthanasiacontinuetogrowtogetherinBelgium.

Positionsarebeingtakenandargumentsmarshaledasthegoalofstoppingthe

legislationorgettingitenactedispursued.Listeningcanbethecasualtyhere.

Notthelisteningforagapintheargumentsoyoucanthrowyourbestarrow

kind,butthetypeoflisteningsofamiliartochaplainsthathearstheheartbeatof

humanpilgrimage.

Wheneverachangeinsocietycalls,a

changethattearsawayatwhatwe

consideredtobeimportant,vital,

absolute,it’sneveraboutaquickdashto

theend.Instead,it’slikeapilgrimage,a

slow,painfuljourneywithblisters,

walkingalongsidepeopleyou’drather

notknowandwishwouldshutup.

Butthepointofapilgrimageisnotreallythephysical,thewalking,orthelosing

weight,orlearningtosleepinhorridpilgrimhostelswithdozensofpeoplewho

snore.Rather,it’saboutdeepeningourhumanunderstandingoflifebeyondthe

superficial.Beingopentohearingtheheartbeatthatthrobsbeyondourown.

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Ithinkthisendoflifechoicejourneythatwe’reonismorethanwinningor

losingafightaboutapieceoflegislation.It’smorethansomepeoplegettingtheir

ownwayandothersfeelingaggrieved.

Frommyperspective,thisisoneofNewZealand’ssignificantspiritual

pilgrimageswherewehavetolearntolistendeeplytoeachother.Tolistento

ourmotives,ourintentionsandourfearsaswelearntodevelopourultimate

values.

Thesevalueswillcontributetothecoreofwhatwillsustainusaswemoveintoa

newphaseofspiritualitythathasnocentralimmovablelinebutmustbefluid

andflexibletoaccommodatediverseperspectivesonwhatmakesmeaning.

Thisjourneywillstirupourunconscious,whatliesdeepwithinandbetweenus.

Itwillbepainful,forwehavetomovepastthinkingthatkeepsusimprisonedby

fearsintoadevelopingstreamofconsciousness,groundedingratitudeand

compassionwherethedignityofallpeopleisparamount,evenifthechoices

madebysomearenotwhatwemightmake.

Thankyouonceagainforyour

invitationandforbeingapeoplewilling

toexploretheyearninginhumanhearts.

AndthankyoutoMaryanStreetand

otherpoliticianswhohavebeen

preparedtoputthemselvesontheline,

alwaysaplaceofdeeppersonalcost.

iCave,Stephen.Immortality:Thequesttoliveforeverandhowitdrivescivilization,BitebackPublishing,London,2012.iiJamieson,Colin.AGoodWaytoGo:consideringmercy,self-determinationandselftermination,XlibrisCorporation,2013,p33.

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iiiSyme,Rodney.AGoodDeath:anargumentforvoluntaryeuthanasia,MelbourneUniversityPress,Melbourne,2008,p183.ivSymes,Rodney,AGoodDeath:Anargumentforvoluntaryeuthanasia,Melbourne,2008,MelbourneUniversityPress,p192-198.vJamieson,p33.viEganR,MacLeodR,JayeC,McGeeR,BaxterJ,HerbisonP.(2011)Whatisspirituality?EvidencefromNewZealandhospicestudy.Mortality,2011;16(4):307-324.viiPuchalski,ChristinaM.,Ferrell,Betty,Virani,Rose,Otis-Green,Shirley,Baird,Pamela,Bull,Janet,...Sulmasy,Daniel.(2009).ImprovingtheQualityofSpiritualCareasaDimensionofPalliativeCare:TheReportoftheConsensusConference.JournalofPalliativeMedicine,12(10),885-904.viiiMalpass,P,Mitchell,K&Johnson,M,Iwouldn’twanttobecomeanuisanceunderanycircumstances…NZMJ27July2012,Vol125No1358,pp9-19ixCarey,LindsayB.,Cohen,Jeffrey,Rumbold,Bruce.HealthcareChaplaincyandEuthanasiainAustralia,in‘ScottishJournalofHealthcareChaplaincy,Vol12,No1.2009,p11.