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Understanding Your Teen:Adolescent Development
Presented by Danusia Nedilskyj, PhD. Clinical Psychologist
SJHS Parent Night, October 6, 2014Ps
OUTLINE
• The Adolescent Brain
• Stages of Adolescence
Normal Development of your Teen
Warning Signs
Risk Factors
Communicating with your Teen
BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
Uneven pace
Back to front Physical coordination first, reasoning and impulses last
(Prefrontal Cortex)
Does your teen... Have difficulty controlling his/her emotions?
Have a preference for physical activity?
Exhibit poor planning and judgment (rarely thinks of negative consequences)?
Exhibit risky or impulsive behaviors?
ERIKSON’S PSYCHOSOCIAL STAGE OF DEVELOPMENT
Identity versus role confusion Exploring independence and developing a sense of self
Transition from childhood to adulthood
Crisis resolved, leading to strong sense of self, independence, and control
OR...
Crisis not resolved leading to unstable sense of self , confused about selves and future
WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO 17-21 YEAR OLDS??( Late Adolescence)
Future goals (work, school)
Relationships (1-1)
Family
WHAT IS TYPICAL TEEN BEHAVIOR?
Identity
Privacy
Desire to control
Peer interactions
Mood changes
Sexuality
ATYPICAL BEHAVIOR
Academic Red Flags Sudden drop in academic achievement
Cutting classes, tardiness, or truancy
from school
Behavioral Red Flags Sudden change in friends
Problems with authority, poor conflict resolution
Excessive dependence
Poor impulse control
ATYPICAL (cont)
Emotional Red Flags
Sudden mood swings
Feeling down, hopeless, worthless
Signs of frustration, anger or stress, difficulty concentrating
Poor self-esteem or lack of motivation to succeed at school
Hearing voices or seeing objects/people that are not there
Physical Red Flags
Signs of self harm (scars on hands, stomach, thighs; burn marks)
Aches and Pains
Rapid weight loss or weight gain
Excessive fatigue
RISK FACTORS FOR MENTAL DISTRESS
Genetic factors Low esteem Having a learning disability Isolation Having chronic medical condition (diabetes, cystic fibrosis, cancer) Substance abuse Family history of mood disorder Home conflict (i.e., divorce, parents who use substances,
unsupportive family Extreme academic pressure Exposure to trauma: Assault/rape, bullying, domestic violence,
community violence, child abuse, chronically chaotic environment.
TALKING WITH YOUR TEEN
Love and Connect Their world is changing, make sure your love doesn’t.
Monitor and Observe Pay attention to their activities, your involvement matters
Guide and Limit Remember to be both firm and flexible
Model and Consult (with teachers, pastor, pediatrician, etc). Be a good example for your teen
HOW TO TALK-COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR TEEN
Use connection, not separation, to encourage compliance
Don’t teach, JUST LISTEN
Stay Calm
Keep Talking!
Emphasize strengths
and what they’re doing
RIGHT.
Focus on self-awareness and
self-regulation instead
of “bad behavior”
REMEMBER
Your teen WILL make mistakes--NORMAL!!
YOU will make mistakes—NORMAL!!
Important to check your own emotional reactivity to your teens mistakes.
RIGHT-SIZED MISTAKES VS. WRONG SIZED MISTAKE
Ex. of a “right-sized” parenting mistake—overreacting when you worry about your child’s safety VS. “wrong sized mistake”---they got a C or lower on a quiz or paper.
Oftentimes, overreacting (and possibly even under-reacting) to a “right-sized” mistake can lead to the teen shutting down and withdrawing from you, trusting you less, etc.
Each time you communicate with your teen is an opportunity to learn from it and find ways to strengthen that bond even more the next time. “Nothing’s finished, nothing’s perfect, and nothing lasts”—Wabi-Sabi
WHO CAN SUPPORT?
Talking to school personnel
Ask about available supports: tutoring, after school programs, special education services
Talking to physician
Ask about normal adolescent development, ensuring healthy behaviors (substance abuse, reproductive health, screen for mental health issues)
Referring to mental health services
Check with insurance carrier for benefits, Info line (211), inquire about private practice providers, have your child assessed to rule out certain factors (i.e., ADHD, Learning Disability, Depression or Anxiety, Language Disorder
Parent Support
Other parents, church or social groups, parenting classes are all valuable resources to remind you that you are not alone!