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Philosophy of Care
Love and Kindness oriented Developmentally focused
Needs & Strength oriented Relationship focused Ecology oriented Trauma informed
Not 1 ...But
All
Care does not follow any simple formulaic regime Successful outcomes are achieved through
relationship building ...
purposeful activity ...
gives Looked after Children
optimism about their future life chances
(Smith 2011)
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Rethinking Effectiveness
If what we are doing for children is so good for them why do they fight us so much?
Roderick Durkin
Building Resilience “Increasingly more researchers are finding
that …
… fundamental human relationships are
foundational in creating resiliency”
(Brokenleg, 2010)
Dancing a Different Dance
“Emotional disturbance is not a solo performance but a dance with multiple partners” (Brendtro & Shahbazian, 2003).
“If this is the case, maybe it is time to dance a different dance”.
(Digney & Smart, 2014)
No Disposable Kids In a society that values children, there can be...
No disposable kids
(Brendtro,2005)
Challenging Serial Rejection
“Angry youth act in ways that can evoke serial rejection from adults who react with punishment and exclusion”
(Smart, 2012)
Sisters of Pain That defined us as juvenile delinquents and later helped us to fulfil that destiny
I’m not so sure that a child running away from something that is abusive and demeaning is being delinquent
Aliese (Fulcher & Moran, 2014)
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Deep Seated Pain
Trauma leads to repeated involuntary triggering of the stress reaction with feelings of overwhelming fear and helplessness”
Complex Trauma results from ongoing exposure to fear and
helplessness”
(Brendtro, 2011)
Unconditional Space Starts Where? The mind is
empty ....... desires expectation fears doubts .......Stay outside
Unconditionality?“Out beyond ideas of right and wrongdoing,.. there is a field. I will meet you there”
Rumi
Reaching – the Hard to Reach (1)
Who? Young people that seem to
evoke serial rejection by adults
Young People who have been through the full gambit of care provisions
Why Unconditional? “Unconditionality lies at the heart
of inner peace...
.....the prerequisite for an appreciating, loving relationship...
... first with self and consequently
with the mirrored outer world” (Allerstorfer, 2013)
Occupying the Space – U.S. is about US
Put simply, the unconditional space was to be protected—sheltered from rejection. Participation was not contingent on good behaviour. .... (Smart, 2012)
Needs not Behaviour Unconditional
space is designed around the needs of the youth and not problem behaviour
(Smart, 2012)
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Distrust, Discord, Disconnection
istrust – young person believes the adult won’t care, understand or be able to help
iscord – young person and adult don’t share goals e.g. the adult seeks control or change the young person wants autonomy
isconnection – joint conflict and avoidance characterise the relationship
(Brendtro, 2009)
A Space to Connect “We knew that if
our responses to this boy were based on his behaviour then we would never connect”.
(Smart, 2012)
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Survival Strategies “Remember that
the very behaviours which have kept your child alive in the past could be preventing him from being truly alive in the present”
(Archer, 1999)
Belonging...“the love of a mother for her
child [could be] an example of unconditional love ...
...[which] relates the topic of unconditionality to “belonging”
...and defines it as a basic human need.
Ferrucci
If you don’t like where you have been,
and you don’t like where you are going,
then take a new pathway
Maya Angelou
Kids who Keep us at a Distance
He displayed a range of behaviours to keep adults at a distance including verbal aggression, threat displays and
derogatory insults toward women These are the types of actions that often stir up frustration and even counter-
aggression in helping adults (Smart, 2012)
Unlocking the Potential
“I am of the opinion that every human being holds a special potential that wants to unfold itself”
(Allerstorfer, 2013)
Unconditionality therefore
enables us to open up for unexpected and unintentional experiences.
It makes us open our fists in order to receive empathy.
It also allows us to open our hearts.
Creating Unconditional Space Allows...
It makes us open up...
it does not judge... it does not blame expect or weigh... it makes our
personality grow.
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A Changed Life When we respond
to needs... often problematic
undesirable behaviour diminishes or disappears altogether
(Garfat, 2011)