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M: Whot does thot sign meon?which one?Thot one over there. The rood sign.It's o set of directions for where to go. If you wont to turnlet1, yoLr hove to kep in the right lone ond toke thesecond turn.But if I werc ddving, by the time i figured oll of thqt out"I would hove olreody qone through the intersection.'That's true, I suppose. But the next time you drove hereyou o remember \,1hot to do.But the purpose of o sign is to moke things eosy for us tounderstdnd-Some situotions ore not simple, I guess. Once you knowwhere the different roods go, the sign is octuolly verystroightforword. 'But only ofter it's too lote! What they reoily need is osimpler kind of rood structure.But lhot solution is very expensive. The sign is muchmore economicol. II kno\4' thet. But at leost they could erect sevelol of themso c driver coulal hove somc time in odvonce. to be qbleto reod them .lnd know whot to do when he gets to theintelsection.Thot's probobly o good ideq.

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M: lvfeonrvhile, I con never find where i wont to qo on the fi$ttry- I toke the wrong turn or miss the turn oltogether, ondthen l qet fufther lost tryinq to bocktrock., It just isn,t edsyto turn oround ond llo bock to lvhere you come from.F : I know- lvlost roods orc just not loid out in o se es of smollrectongles.' .rnd even where they ore it isn t olwoys

possible to moke o turn.M: Even when ),ou know where you ore, and where it is thotyou wont to 90, it isn,t usuqlly very intuitiveiy simple toqo there directly. It's very frustroting.

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Why would you wont to do thot?It just seems to me thot life used toe0sier-before we had oll theseinventions.Such os?Well, escoldtors ond moving sidewolks, for instonce. Allthey do is keep people from climbing one flight' of stoirsor wcrlkinq moybe o hundred metels. As o resdt, peopleget thot much less ercrcise {rnd get fotter crnd firtter.Nobody mokes you use them. If you wont lo exercise,keep off.'But, os for me, I enjoy the oppoftunity to relotio bit, ofter working oll doy. But I still go to the gym'regulorly.And calculoto$. People con't even do'iml la molh p,ob "m\ utt) mor(. A. oresult, they orcn't os loqicol qs they usedto be. They don't think os cleorly.Hmmm. I wos pretty good in moth,but i{hen I worked out problemsin my he.rd ol on o piece ofpopet sometimes I mode cdrelessmistokes. The colculotoN will (]tleost do the simple orithmetic.correctly every time. But I stillhave to know how to set up' theproblem conectly if l'm goinq to

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get the qht dnswer 11 seems to me thot wc still hove tofil: ln".i.'l |.norrr, oj .ti or hp.ore. rh,.,ot,r,t r,)ront\ Ltop\ h tLrt ;, \ rol I ro do, ,lfl_. nr1t,,,1,.)1 .*t th, ro11" 11 ,,'O nt,oLr ,,,mp,rrer\. L.rrb,rg. .n(rOrl)Lltrr'( )llIF : Ihot's colrocl. And witheverythinll e)ioctly dqht, sowrite beftPr

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6n.\,. tatoqueHi, therel Long time no see.Hil How are you doing?I've been qbrodd.'Excuse me, whot did you soy? It's very noisy in herelI soid I took o trip. Let's find o quiet spot. Do you hqvetime?It's 2:35.

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ReolLy? When?l-oter this s[mmerTo whom?Someone I met over the internet. i hoven't sen her loce tofclce yel.Nol I dorl't believe youl Are you kidding me?No, I'm serious.' And I think I know her better thon iI we'd(rc'iuolly !nct. Appeorarnces atr \,ery decei\4nqt Sometimes,but yoll redliy hove lo communi(rte your whole sell lo getl(r know someone o\,{.r lhe neiI must soy thot I'm llcbbergosled.'Not to cherge the subjcct. But I dlso h.ive some bod news.ohl Whdt's thot?Your old boy fricnd died inOh, thot's terrible. I justWhcrt hopponod?He wes driving loo trst Icondolences.r I'm souy tonews.Wos onyone else hurt?'No. He wos bv himself.

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M i One of my fovoritepostimes' when ltrovel is Ieoding the bod tnglish on tee-shirts ondposters. Sometimes thy i]re qLLite hilorious.'It's not nice to moke fun of people. Especiqlly sinceEnglish isn't their native longuoge.Oh, I know thot. I'm not moking fun of' them, reoll),,' T u\r lur'ghjrg ol lne o,Jd Lr'; rhEnglish is certoirrly not on eosy longuage to leorn.Of course not. Even notive speokers ore fcr tiom' perfecl,ot leost occordir'rg to standord grommor usogeAnd spelling.And punctuotion.' even lhe British don't usunlly speokthe "king's English ' properly.So why do you lough crt foreigners' misuse ond iqnorcthe mistokes of the notive users?I don't know. I guess it just isn't funny when peoplecon't even use their own Ionguoge properly.There is|i't just one English, you know. There ore lorgedifferences belween the woys the longuoge is used inEnglond, the US, Austrolio, Indio, ond Jomoico, forinstonce, qs lvell os the mony diolects within thoseSure. And there dre olso differences bosed on closs' ondeducotion. l'\'e hcord thot BBC dnnouncers ore troiled

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So therc ore mony Englishes, interocting with one qnotherO^n top of' the foct thot English itself is on qmolgomotion,of mony ljnguistic usoges. It,s bosicolly cr form oi Cermon,but over time, for historicol reosons, it odopted o iqrgehench vocobulory os well os Creek ond Lr:tin qncl Celtic_And then, os the British Empire took shope, it qbsorbedr^,ord. io,.n oll u'pr ,he wurld. orohoo ) lrom every kro,_rnlonquoge group.I know thot.And it chonged $'ithout much centrol ouidonce. Therpfteror t avpn oDV di.tiotrorip\ unril th" I 0"0r

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.lhOl. {treot (omtOI lo or\onF try.ng lo tco,n tt-elonquuge, l'm sureThot\ right. Studt effort, ond proctic !\,ill help onyoneiP1pro\e. I'ul i. i. nnl np, F.:or) [o u\p rhe l4rq logppetJe'Lly. or p\en ver' llo.p,^ perf-o...). to qer ore.-p.irrro. ro)s.Thot's o good thing, or the Amelcons would never mokeony sense ot qll.

{xestioors'L Why is na-n-ncitive longuqge use aften considercd funny by nativespeokers?2. Why da people leorn English, if it is so difficutt?

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I'm \ /orried obout our kids.\ Ihy? Whot have they done llow?It's not whot they've done, it's their lifestyl.'You meon their hoir otld clothing styles? Those ore justfods,'they won't stick oround' long. I wouldn't worryobout those things.No, 1 meon something more iniportont. I meon the woythey eot.Whot do you meon?t meon they like Western fqst food too much. I don'tthink it's heolthy.Mostly it's just meot ond breod, rvith some vegetobles-How con thot be unheolthy?The meot is mqde from geneticolly olteled' cows andpigs, ond we don't know how thot offects long-term'heolth. The vegetables ore preserved'with lots ofchemicals.' Neither of these conditions c(fn be verygood, I think.Accodjng to most scientists ond heolth officiols, it's ollvery safe.It's olso servcd' with lots of solt ond MSC' otherodditives.' Even though these ore noturql substances,they're ho.mflrl to us.You're just being on olormist.

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see ony need to chonge-F : You'rc rightr no one is perfect. But we're not onimols,stuck with' the hord-wired instinctuol behovior potternswe're born with. We're humons, with broins thot ollowus to control our own octions if ond when we desire todo so.M rThot's the old 'nolure vs. nurtule"' orgument. "Are wewhot rve ore becouse we're born thot woy-or becouselve leqrn to be thot woy?" Both sides hove o point, butthe hLllh is in between.' I think. We ore o combincltionof noture ond nufture.F : I don'l think it's exoctly in the middle, though. t here oreinl.]erent' design limitotions.' lve ore biologicollyhumon, not something else. So we con't just sprout-wings ond flt no mottel how much we wont to. Bullvithin those limits, we ore olmost infinitely elostic.'Wcon ol] be or do anything thot is humonly possible, butrve horr rn lr\'. nnJ \ " ho\ p to trLrin.

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i fhrougi perseveronce,r even duli, people con occomplishgreot things, in ony field. I think it wos Thomos Edisonwho soid, "Genius is 10olo inspirotion, ond 90oloperspirotion."'Ihen the siow-witted* have to sweot. o lot to keep up!Somr do. odmifledl). but thpy hove to work hord, i or i.tnon olhet\ do- ond Lhey hnve ro fo(Js su horo onohoininq sorne norrow objective thot they lo.o,lght ot tholOlqer pi, tLlre. ln locr, thol. tru. lor oll of r,s.Don't be so demeoning. of people who orenrt qs smoll osyou ore.I'm IIol. I soid we,re o1l like thot. Lct me give you onexomple.Okoy.

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M: But he \^/AS wrong! He thaught he rros in the Eost Indies.Even to the doy he clied, he didn,t know th.rt he hod"discovered" Amedca, he thought he,d found o shortcut toAsiit.F I But he ch.trlged the history of the world, nonetheless., fhesame is hue with the younger gener{:ttion. Mostly, they,reeittler going to get into trouble by not listcnlng to us, orthey'li ovoid o lot of problems by ibllowinq our odvice. But,even now ond lhen. thev fp goino io o, thr.r o\\,n .h.,tvclnd end up with something morvelousl.

M tC{]n you give me ony reol excrmples, Irom your olvnoxp(.ripn,F .o 5.,m.mcr\^ri.k tt.,h.i-L,..j9rrolF j Ol course. lvly husbond ond I wcre deod set oooinst orrr.oorrthl.r.,hoi", ut bolilje, J l\p.vth.ng obolrt hir,l v,/n.wrong. Too old, wrong nationolity, no money or st.rtus, noprospects. He wos o nice enough fellol\,,, but .L reol lose.But no motter whot rve sQid or did, she wos aletermine.l tomolly him. And she did, too. lt turns out to hote been ihebest decision of her 1i&. Even ofter all these yeors, they,rc

still perfectly hoppy together. I con'l jmoqine a bettr.son,,n'row , \-n houdh o.. ot rl r n"gorires iro.ri r in p'o.,.MtShe wos lucky. Usuolly these bod matches en(l uD os.rmjsmotched couple, ond eithe. o lifltime of unhojpinessor o nosty, divorce.f : True. But nobody con see tile futurc. We do th best we con,using.our heod or heort ic guide us to the best of its obiljfy.But ultinotely, wc hove to rnoke our own choices ir life,not just occept someone else,s ideos, no mottei how smoflor well,intended tliose ideos ore, a s.(de rr q c.er 1dl ir rteLsometr.-F e' : t.*-,e, ",edte[:s: @.

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M : I quess I wos the some \ 7oy when I wos my son's qge.Sometimes I wish I hod listened more to my old mon,but ot the time I wos certoin thot I wos right qnd he woswrong. Usuolly, he turned out to be for wiser thon I-but, still, sometimes, I wos giod thot my choices workedout' even if he disogreed dt the time.F : Stondinq on our own two feet' is \^'hot mokes us humanM : Moybe. But chickens ond monkeys stond on their owntwo feet, too, ond they're not noted for their decision-moking obility.F :Well, "chickens" ore too cowqrdly' to act on thei. own,ond "monkey-see-monkey do" is iust on expression forthoughtless imitotion. But being humon meons usingour broins ond developing on independent ottltude. Justbecouse we oct oqoinst our porents'wishes 5ometimes

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things? Life is not just one big porty, you know-it,s o lotof ]ittle quiet moments, too.F r Of course life isn't just one big polty thot would be tooboring ofter o while. Life js o whole string of big pofiiesthese ore the rewords for going full bqre ot qccomplishingsome importont objective. I get up every doy fuil olenthusiosm for mI job, I work hord ot it until it,s done forthe doy, ond then I pdrty-hordy' through the night tocongrotulote myselffor o job well-done.

M: Thot moks fun too much ]ike work. l,vc nevcr thought itmottered much if I r{os number one in my closs or if I woshonored os "Employec of the Month', o. onything like thot.As iong os I do mf iq911 or finish my ossjclnmeets in .rsatisfoctory monner, I'm quite hoppy. Al1 the rest of it isjust mindless. ego.lF:Not ot oll. It's toking on,o chollenge ond beatingeverybody else ot his own gome. It,s lremendous, eoo_sotisfoction knowing thoi you ore the king of tiemountoin. It's like the Ollanpics-why settle for silver ifyou con get the gold?

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Qitugu"Therc's o new store opening tomorrow Do you wont tocheck it out?'Sure. But I don't think l'11 buy qnything theteWhy not?Over the yeols, I've built up' o ftiendly relotionship withq lew merchonts, ond I'd rother spend my money withthem thon with some stlonger.Whot if the p ce is better? It's stupid to poy more thonyou hove to for onything.Thot's not so importont, in the lonq run.' I've lealnedthqt if I sove o little here ond there, it doesn't reollydmount to much qnywoy-the prices ore going to beobout the some onywherc you go But if I do businesswith people I like ond trust, they'll help me moke goodchoices. They won't iust try to sell me onything,(noMng thol lht\'ll nF\pr sce nre oqninYe:j, I ogree lhot qu(rlity isimpofiont. But so is Pdce.I olwoys try to find thebest de(ll. lf I only buyone item from oneploce, ond never buyonything there ogoln,the store hos stiliserved its purpose,'qs for qs I'maoncerned,


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F :Thot's iust too olienoting.- We need to bring humonrelotlons bock into oui lives. Money is only mon_y, butpeople ore the most importont things.M I There ore lots of impoftont people in my llfe, ond o few ofthem ore the merchonts thot I see on o regulor bosis. Likethe qld woman who runs the little grocery on the corner.Sometimes I buy something there lust to help her out,'even though I don't porticulorly need the product. Butthot's just becouse it's convenient for me to shop there. If I

couid sove money by qoinq elsewhere, I would.F: Becouse I'm o volued' customer, the people I shop with willgo out of their woy to gjv me the best deol ond the bestseNice they con. They wont my business, cert.rlnly, butthey olso like me.

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Thot's normolly poft of my routine.' But I just don't hovethe time, these doys. Thot's piobobly why I feel so stresscdout.I'm sure )'ou re right. How obout o good moss.lge? Cetsome close fiiend at work to rub youl bock ond neck foryou, ond your foreheod. Thct.n/ill give you some goodtemporory' relief .Thot's o qood ideo. l'li see whot I con do. But uhot l'dreally llke is to be oble to toke moybe on hour off otlel'lunc]I ond toke o nop.lt's too bod \,ve don't live jn Spoin. There, everybody tokes oSounds $-onderful, doesn't it? And some componies hovefocilities for o bdef "power nop" to rechorge employees'bcrttedes.' But we don't.Whot you reolly need to do is find some hobby thot is notreloted to your rrork ond deYote os rnuch [ime ondotlention to it os you con. Ybu'li toke your mifld o[{ yourdoily problems clnd rcchdnnel your mentol plo.esses. Theresult is the sqme os o power nop you feel energized ondrefreshed.I used to liove some hobbies, but I just got bored lvith themofter a while.Try ogoin. Find something thot reolly interesls you ondthro\^, yourself into it. It ccln be onything coliigrclphl',photogrophy, writing o sonnet,' gordening, onythingllori'll feel .r lot better.

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M On the other hqnd, life ond school oren,t necessorilv thesome. Lots of people l,ve gone to schocl witll*erell,tl vcrvimp.essive in the cldssroom. but di.l crll rigl.rt ior.themseh'es.Sure. Unless yoi.r't.e goil.rg to be oin school-,getljnct o11 AJi isn,lto succ.cd in recrl life- which isplOcc thon i'hc very:.orJtlolle(i,ony 5chool.(;el ri ng olong with pcctr)le,p0tie]]cc, endLtronce, leorninoore 011 good Lhinqs to hovc iitllll polenti.rl.,i g o,)snn.e. J Jrumur',, LrFt u.,lt.oJqlr th. hor.1 tjrnr\,lllrt o seri.Lrl dedi(oti,rD tlr wrrrkFollowinq throllqh; to mcrkt: surc proiects ore comltetell,finished.Knovring how lo mQnog. vour time. Doinq work you lovo.i.r-uppos yolrr looks play ci big roie in how rveli voti do,oiso.I lhi l thot .j (ulrl ,-i. tv,.r\ .tLrd) t \p .,Fn .h.,rr. th"r. tr.lll.,,,rri'LJl pl.upl._ q I h.r, o orlrl I,jo..t. n.r 5oonL I. rIr,Jm .k' rr^r.-r,r-nI th,rn rri. ot/ri ot\ n1CS.And don't lbrqct iucklAbr',lLt .1t. .\nJ n,,ne ot th".\p thinq\ orr dt.,.ljy tponI Lj orsch, rol I tre thLV/

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Mthings. Even if they know their sweetheqfis love them verymuch, they like to be reminded somefimes. the more oftenfhe better.Bul I don't neecl conslont reminders foom my wif_e. I knowshc loves me, even if it isn't eosy for her to do so.But whether you "need" to be told or not, you still eoio-Yverbdl confirmotion, don't you?I don t dislike it, cerloinly. tsLrt l knolv she loves me becouseof the woy she looks ot me ond the things she does for meIt'.r obvious. The words ore just icing on the coke.But \rhcl good is o uoke without icitlg? lt's okoy, it's bet:erthon nothing. but the icing mokes it so much bettr', don'tyou think?I suppose so.I think you should tell her yori love her every chonce you get.Hmmm- Shculd t give her floh'ers too, do you think?Flowers .1.e optionol. But yes, obsolutely, why rlot? Andwhy not iewels ond expensive perfume ond the like os$/cll? Don't you think she is $'orth somc extrd ottenlion?Of couNe she is.And she'lt probobly rcrvord- you with some tpeciolLlLtenlion roo. Wouldn't you like thot?of aourse I wouldl

1, why .loes the mon think women speqk o different langudge than2. Haw aften da yau tellyaut spouse "l love you"?

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Thonk you for soying so. But do you meon it?,Of course I meon it!Well, then, you see \rhot I meon.But how does one go about getting discovered?Thot's the hord poft. Sometimes, it's purely by occident.tsut moinly you need o good ogent who con gct yourpictures to the right people ond orronge iust the dghtouditions.' But just one lucky Lrreok, orld you'rc ln!Wow A rcol movie stor! Wouldn't thot be sornethingl,Trust me. It's iust o motter of time-Whot ifyou hove to do o nude scene?Whot's wrong with that? Itt iust picturcs. Itt just business,thot's oll. Wouldn't you like to see me noked?Of course I wouldlBut don't get ony ideos. I'm only tolking obout o movie.l'm not reody to gct involved in ony sort of relotionshipthot co!ld hurt my coreer.'PersonollJa of course, I'm greotly disappointe.L but I respectyour wishes. I understond whot you meon, but, even so, Icon'l help but hope you chonge your mind.Well, lel\ get to know eoch other better. Ailer o few dotes,1et's see.FoiI enough!' And which movie did you soy you wanted tosee?

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