Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life On Course Chapter 8 Developing Emotional Intelligence

Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life

On Course

Chapter 8Developing Emotional Intelligence

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CHOICES OF SUCCESSFUL STUDENTSDEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE


Which component answers the question “Why?”Facts, data and stories are examples of which component?Which component includes opinions, beliefs or positions?

Reasons

Evidence

Conclusions

REVIEW: COMPONENTS OF LOGICAL ARGUMENT


REVIEW: TYPES OF LEARNERS

What are the four learning preferences?

ThinkingDoing

Feeling Innovating


REVIEW: DEVELOPING SELF-RESPECT

What are two crucial choices that build up or tear down my self-respect?

To live with integrity…or not.To keep commitments…or not.


CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKINGAFTER MATH

Decide which character in the story has the least emotional intelligence.Gather in groups with people who chose the same character as least emotionally intelligent and choose a spokesperson.Each group, provide your spokesperson with reasons and evidence that support your conclusion.Each spokesperson, use your best critical thinking skills to persuade others to leave their group and join yours.


CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKINGAFTER MATH

DIVING DEEPER: Imagine that you have been asked to mentor the person whom you ranked number 5 (least emotionally intelligent). Other than recommending a counselor, how would you suggest that this person handle his or her upset in a more emotionally intelligent manner?


DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

FOCUS QUESTIONS

What is emotional intelligence?

How can you experience the full range of natural human emotions and still stay on course to a rich, fulfilling life?


EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESSKnowing your feelings in the moment.

EMOTIONAL SELF-MANAGEMENTManaging strong feelings.

SOCIAL AWARENESSEmpathizing accurately with other people’s emotions.

RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENTHandling emotions in relationships with skill and harmony.

Create a memory device that helps you remember and understand these four components of EI.

FOUR COMPONENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE


Read each description; then decide which component of emotional intelligence is being demonstrated.

Candace notices that her breathing is accelerated, her chest feels tight and her jaw muscles are clenched and realizes her anger is escalating.

EMOTIONAL SELF-

AWARENESS

Alex is furious after discovering that his roommate has eaten all of the snacks that Alex bought. Alex decides to take a long walk and think before confronting him about the situation.

EMOTIONAL SELF-MANAGEMENT

APPLYING THE CONCEPT


Halalo’s friends come from very different backgrounds: one from New York city, two from St. Louis, one from a family farm in southern Missouri and one from a small town in eastern Oregon. Still, he can tell when each of them is upset about something.

Mikel knows that Annette flunked the same test on which Kerri scored a “95.” Instead of telling Annette she should have spent more time studying, he lets her vent her feelings about the test and the class. Later, he asks Annette if she would like to join his study team.

SOCIAL AWARENESS

RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT

APPLYING THE CONCEPT


JOURNAL 28: WARM-UP

Write a list of as many emotions as you can think of. (4 minutes)Form groups of four and read your lists to each other. As you hear emotions that are not on your list, add them.One at a time, each person share the emotion that gives him/her the greatest challenge in managing. Group members, offer suggestions for how the person can better manage that emotion. (3 minutes each)


ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Lindsey Beck

Identify which component(s) of emotional intelligence got Lindsey off course.What new choice helped her get on course?What lesson from Lindsey’s story could you apply to your own life?

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REDUCING STRESS

FOCUS QUESTION

How can you soothe stressful feelings that make life unpleasant and threaten to get you off course?


STRESS: SYMPTOMS

high blood pressure muscle tensionheadaches backachesindigestion irritabilityulcers cold soreschronic constipation or diarrhea muscle spasmstics tremorssexual dysfunction fatigueinsomnia emotional upsets

Are there other symptoms in your life that may be caused by stress?

On a scale of 1-10 (10 = high stress), what do you think is your present level of stress?

As you read the symptoms appearing below, jot down each one that you are currently experiencing.


SYMPTOMS OF STRESS

From the following list, identify whichemotion is most likely to get you off course:

• OVERWHELM• ANGER AND RESENTMENT• FEAR AND ANXIETY• SADNESS AND DEPRESSION• JOY AND HAPPINESS


TRUTH IN CARTOONS

With a partner, examine “The Far Side” cartoon by Gary Larson in the section titled “Healthy Stress Reduction.” Discuss:

• What is funny about this cartoon?

• What truth is expressed in this cartoon?

• How could you apply this truth to improve your own life?


JOURNAL ENTRY 29

1. Pair up!

2. Student A: Read your entire Journal Entry 29 to Student B.

3. Student B: "What I hear you saying is...“ Then, "A question I have is...“

4. Reverse roles and repeat Steps 2 and 3.

5. Continue discussing what you have both learned about positive methods for reducing stress in your lives.


ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Jaime Sanmiguel

Jaime shares a common fear with many people: the fear of speaking in public.What helped Jaime choose to move past his fear and take a positive action?What fear of yours might interfere with achieving your desired outcomes and experiences?What lessons can you apply from Jaime's story to help you?


CREATING FLOW

FOCUS QUESTIONS

What are you doing when you feel most happy to be alive—when you become so absorbed that time seems to disappear? How can you create more of these peak experiences in college and beyond?


QUOTATIONS

Choose your favorite quotation from the margins of the "Creating Flow" section.Form groups of three with other students who chose a different quotation.In your group, share the quotation you selected, what it means to you, and your reasons for choosing it.


Skill + Challenge = Boredom

Skill + Challenge = Anxiety

Skill + Challenge = Flow

This is an example of conveying meaning in a visual way. Translate the meaning into words.

Now look at the cartoon in the “Creating Flow” section (person reading a book). Translate the meaning of that visual element into words.

BECOMING AN ACTIVE LEARNER


DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK

Check the employment ads in your local paper.Find an ad that indicates that emotional intelligence (or another soft skill) is one of the requirements. (e.g., "must work well with others")

Bring the ad to class and share it with a partner, identifying the required soft skill(s).


DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK

On Course identifies five indicators for identifying instructors who create flow in their classrooms (see "College and Flow").Rewrite those indicators to help someone identify an employer or supervisor who would be likely to create flow in the workplace.


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: DEVELOP SELF-LOVE

FOCUS QUESTIONS

How much do you love yourself?What can you do to love yourself even more?


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF:DEVELOP SELF-LOVE

Self-Care Plan• Nurture Yourself Physically• Nurture Yourself Mentally• Nurture Yourself Emotionally

Which of these is the area in which you need to work on most ?Form small groups with others who chose the same area and discuss the suggestions from the text.


EMBRACING CHANGE: DO ONE THING DIFFERENT THIS WEEK

Look at the list of nine beliefs and behaviors. Which of these choices is most likely to help you move closer to your desired outcomes and experiences?Write about your choice, using one or more of the 4E’s (examples, experiences, explanation, evidence).


WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE:MANAGING MONEY

Pair up and look at the chart in On Course showing level of education, median earnings and unemployment rate.Discuss:What educational degree raises your potential salary the most? What effect does education have on your likelihood of being employed?What other conclusions can you draw from the chart?What effect did examining this chart have on your motivation to continue college?



Choose the strategy for "Increasing Money Flowing In“ that has the greatest chance of increasing your abundance.Join with one or two other students who made the same choice. Together, develop a Next Actions list to put the strategy into action.



Choose the strategy for “Decreasing the Flow of Money Out“ that has the greatest chance of increasing your abundance.Join with one or two other students who made the same choice. Together, develop a Next Actions list to put the strategy into action.


REVIEW & SUMMARY

What are the three options or components of a self-care plan?

Nurture Yourself PhysicallyNurture Yourself MentallyNurture Yourself Emotionally


REVIEW & SUMMARY

What are some of the physical symptoms of stress?

high blood pressure muscle tensionheadaches backachesindigestion irritabilityulcers cold soreschronic constipation/diarrhea muscle spasmstics tremorssexual dysfunction fatigueemotional upsets insomnia


REVIEW & SUMMARY

What are the four components of emotional intelligence?

Emotional Self-AwarenessEmotional Self-ManagementSocial AwarenessRelationship Management


REVIEW & SUMMARY

What are some of the positive benefits of developing emotional intelligence in the college setting?

What are some of the positive benefits of developing emotional intelligence in the work setting?


UnderstandingEmotional

Intelligence

Creating Flow

ReducingStress

KEY CHOICES TO DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE


TICKET OUT

What do you think will be the most rewarding aspect of developing Emotional Intelligence? Why?


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