Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life On Course Chapter 5 EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life

On Course

Chapter 5EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

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CHOICES OF SUCCESSFUL STUDENTSEMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE


Spending three hours writing a major paper due at 8 a.m. the next day.

Spending one hour a day on an assignment due in two weeks.

Watching a movie you’ve already seen three times when you have a test the next day.

Spending two hours helping a friend look for a lost cell phone when you need to finish a paper that is due in the morning.

Spending ten minutes each evening checking your Next Actions list to plan for the following day.

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II

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In which quadrant would you place the following activities?

REVIEW: SELF-MANAGEMENT QUADRANTS

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REVIEW: SELF-MANAGEMENT TOOLS

What provides a list of important actions that need to

be done numerous times to achieve a goal?

What provides a list of important actions that need to be done as soon as possible?

What provides a list of important actions that can be

done only at a particular time?

Tracking Form

Next Actions

List

Monthly Calendar


What question can you ask yourself to strengthen focus?

What question can you ask yourself to

enhance persistence?

What are my goals and dreams?

Do I love myself enough to keep

going?

REVIEW: DEVELOPING SELF-DISCIPLINE


CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKING: PROFESSOR ROGERS' TRIAL

Which character in the story is most responsible for the team's grade of D? Be prepared to explain your answer.DIVING DEEPER: Imagine that you have been assigned to a group project in one of your college courses and that the student whom you chose as most responsible for the group’s grade of D (Anthony, Sylvia, or Donald) is in your group. What positive actions could you take to help your group be a success despite this person?


DEVELOPING MUTUALLY SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS

FOCUS QUESTION

How could you make accomplishing your success a little easier and a lot more fun?


Dependence:

Codependence:

Independence:

Interdependence

:

FOUR WAYS OF RELATING

I can’t achieve my goals by myself.

I have to help other people get their goals before I can pursue my own goals.

By working hard, I can get some of what I want all by myself.

I know I can get some of what I want by working alone, but I’ll accomplish more and have more fun if I give and receive help.


Identify the way of relating that is depicted in each of the following statements. Be ready to explain your answer.

NOTE: Some statements may have more than one correct answer...

QUICK REVIEW!


Kyle helps Cherie with her writing assignments and she tutors him in math.Candace always lets Kim copy her homework because she doesn't want Kim to get mad at her.Joe refuses to go to the tutoring center: "If I can't learn this by myself, then I shouldn't be in college."

QUICK REVIEW

Independence

Codependence(Candace)

Dependence(Kim)

Interdependence


What past experience of yours might make it challenging for you to choose interdependence?

What could your Inner Guide say to help you choose interdependence when doing so would help you achieve your desired outcomes and/or experiences?

JOURNAL ENTRY 16: WARM-UP


ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Jason Matthew Loden

What choice(s) does Jason make that demonstrate interdependence?

What similar choices could you make to achieve greater success in college?


CREATING A SUPPORT NETWORK

FOCUS QUESTION

How could you create and sustain an effective support network to help achieve your greatest dreams in college and in life?


QUOTATIONS

Choose one quotation in the margin of the “Creating a Support Network” section.Write why you agree or disagree with the quotation. (3 minutes)Join a partner and share/compare what you have written.Be prepared to share with the class what your partner says.


1. Write about a time when someone was a great help to you. (5 minutes)

2. Pair up.

3. Partner A, read what you wrote to Partner B.

4. Partner B, ask questions to clarify anything you don’t understand. Then state in your own words what you heard your partner say.

5. Reverse roles and repeat Steps 3 & 4.



ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Neal Benjamin

Pick out what you believe is the most significant "Creator statement" in Neal’s story.

Explain to a partner why you chose that statement and how you might apply it to help you achieve your desired outcomes and experiences.


STRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS WITH ACTIVE LISTENING

FOCUS QUESTIONS

Do you know how to strengthen a relationship with active listening?

What are the essential skills of being a good listener?


ACTIVE LISTENING

STEP 1 Listen to understandSTEP 2 Clear your mind and remain silentSTEP 3 Ask the person to expand or clarifySTEP 4 Reflect the other person's thoughts

and feelings

Which of the following listening skills do you think will be the most challenging for you?


PRACTICING ACTIVE LISTENING

1. Form a trio. Decide who will be A, B and C. 2. Person A, tell Person B about the most useful or

interesting thing you have learned so far in this class; Person B, use Active Listening skills. (3 minutes)

3. Person C, give Person B feedback about which Active Listening skill s/he did well. Provide examples.

4. Rotate and repeat Steps 2 & 3. Person B talks to Person C; Person A provides feedback to Person C.

5. Rotate and repeat Steps 2 & 3. Person C talks to Person A; Person B provides feedback to Person A.


INTERDEPENDENCE AT WORK

What incident have you witnessed (or can imagine happening) in which independence in the workplace interfered with achieving desired outcomes and experiences?


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE

FOCUS QUESTION

How can you communicate in a style that strengthens relationships, creates better results, and builds strong self-esteem?


INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Placating– Its okay if you don’t help with our

project in sociology. I’ll just do the work myself.

– Please don’t be upset with me. I'll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later.

– I'm sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from our party last night. I’ll do it right now.


INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Blaming– You never do anything to help our

study team. You’re just lazy!– This room is a mess! When do

you plan to start doing your share of work around here?

– My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework.


EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Leveling– I know you've got a lot of work

to do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together?

– Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight and I'll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon?


THREE STRATEGIES THAT PROMOTE LEVELING

Communicate purposefullyHave a clear goal for your communication.

Communicate honestlyExpress unpopular thoughts and upsets.

Communicate ResponsiblyBe accountable by using “I Messages.”


APPLYING THE CONCEPT

After reading each statement below, identify whether it is placating, blaming or leveling.

I was really upset when you and your friends came in at three o’clock last night, laughing and yelling. I have to leave for work at 6 a.m. and I need my sleep. Would you agree to never do that again?

Leveling

PlacatingDon’t worry about waking me up last night. I know you enjoy partying with your friends. I’ll just go to work sleepy. If I get fired, I can probably find another job.


APPLYING THE CONCEPT

Blaming

Professor Hartley, I had a couple of questions about my failing grade on the test, and I'd like to make an appointment to discuss those with you. Would tomorrow morning during your office hours be a good time? Say 9:30?

Leveling

You are such a jerk! You never show respect for anyone. Why in the world would you be yelling and slamming stuff around at three o'clock in the morning?! Man, you make me sick!



On a clean piece of paper, create two columns. Title one column “Assertive” and title the other column “Unassertive.” In each column, list 10 or more words that you associate with the key word.

Write for three minutes about the key differences between being Assertive and being Unassertive. Be prepared to share your writing.

On another piece of paper, create a sketch that illustrates the essence of the two concepts: Assertive and Unassertive. Be prepared to explain your drawing.


ONE STUDENT'S STORY:Amy Acton

What assertive choices did Amy make and how did those choices change her outcomes and experiences?

What similarities and differences do you see between Amy’s situation and yours?

What assertive choices could you make to improve your own desired outcomes and experiences?


EMBRACING CHANGE: DO ONE THING DIFFERENT THIS WEEK

Look at the list of 10 beliefs and behaviors regarding interdependence.

Which is the one you are least inclined to do?

Dive deep and explore why. See if you can learn something important about how you view interdependence.


REVIEW

What are the four components of the CORE Learning System?

•Collecting•Organizing•Rehearsing•Evaluating


BECOMING AN ACTIVE LEARNER: TRANSLATION

One effective method of memorization is "translating." First, translate verbal information (ideas expressed in words) into visual information (ideas expressed in pictures). Second, translate the information back into words by explaining the picture to someone else.


EXAMPLE OF TRANSLATION

Here’s a visual way to remember the three qualities of leveling:

A porpoise (purposeful) is swimming to Abraham Lincoln (honest)because it’s responsible for returning his wallet


BECOMING AN ACTIVE LEARNER: TRANSLATING

One of the key reasons that some cognitive psychologists believe the translation strategy works because of "dual encoding.”

That means the brain stores information in both visual and verbal form.


BECOMING AN ACTIVE LEARNER: PRACTICE TRANSLATING

Translate one of the following into a picture and be prepared to explain your drawing. Feel free to use the On Course text for the information.

• 5 suggestions for writing a meaningful journal• 5 things you Collect when reading• 4 ways to refute irrational beliefs• 4 self-management tools• 3 ways to empower your affirmation• 3 principles of deep and lasting learning


Developing MutuallySupportive

Relationships

UsingActive

ListeningCreating a

Support Network

KEY CHOICES FOR EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE


TICKET OUT

What example did your parents (or other important adult in your life) set for you in regard to employing interdependence?


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