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Building Social Skills
Addressing Bullying Young Adult Transitions
Bullying Definition
“Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another person who has a hard time defending himself or herself.”
-Olweus, Limber, 2007
Types
Physical aggression, Verbal aggression Indirect aggression, Relational
aggression Special consideration: Cyber-bullying
Social Thinking Profile
Neurotypical Social Communicator (NSC) Resistant Social Communicator (RSC)
Nuance Challenged Social Communicator (NCSC)
Emerging Social Communicator (ESC)
Challenged Social Communicator (CSC)
-Garcia Winner et al, 2011
Bullying
How special needs students are often targeted.
Preventative steps: Precise questioning Friends Social radar Scripts Specific strategies for talking to an adult.
Bullying
How special needs students are sometimes mis-labeled as bullies.
Preventative steps: Social thinking training Understanding context Working with the school Teaching flexibility/compromise Social radar
Bullying
Parent Response How to regain control.
Cyber-Bullying
Types of Cyber-Bullying
Harassment: Repeatedly sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages Cyber Stalking: Repeatedly sending messages that include threats of harm or
are highly intimidating. Flaming: Online "fighting" using electronic messages with angry, vulgar
language
Denigration: Distributing information about another that is derogatory and
untrue through posting it on a Web page, sending it to others through email or instant messaging, or posting or sending digitally altered photos of someone
Impersonation: Breaking into an email or social networking account and using that person's online identity to send or post vicious or embarrassing material to/about others.
Outing and Trickery: Sharing someone's secrets or embarrassing information, or tricking someone into revealing secrets or embarrassing information and forwarding it to others.
-Nancy Willard, the Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use (CSRIU), 2004
Cyber-Bullying: Considerations
1. Anonymity.2. Less awareness/increased stigma.3. Adults feel disempowered by the digital
landscape. 4. Victim does not have a safe place.5. Victim fears reporting, will lose privileges. 6. Dis-inhibition, bully is disassociated from
their behavior.7. Long term effects, increased public
humiliation.
Talking to youth about cyber-bullying
Prevention:Stop, Block, Talk
Think before you write:-‘Golden Rule Test’, ‘Trusted Adult Test’, ‘Front
Page Test’, ‘Real World Test’
Computer in a public place. Parent should have password. Alternatives social outlets. Less computer time.
Bullying
Questions?
Young Adult Transitions
Building more responsibility in the home. “House Contributions” Self-monitoring of computer time Shopping trips Budgeting Self-monitoring of homework
assignments
Young Adult Transitions
Social Outings: Help initiate social outings, even if it
feels awkward. Help develop social radar. Try once, then decide. Pre-brief outing and build predictability. Outings with set times and locations and
‘purpose’ are often easier.
Young Adult Transitions
Accommodation with Accountability. What is self-advocacy? What is hygiene and why is it important?
Young Adult Transitions
Try to teach patience and perseverance. ‘Comfort with discomfort’. -Help them find small steps towards their big goals.
Emphasize journey over destination. -Have boundaries and accountability (20 hours per week
minimum, wake up time, screen time). -Chores (household contributions), homework and
independent living skills as much as possible on their own (even driving sometimes). It starts the progression towards independence.
-Help them learn the importance of wellness. -Try to find as many opportunities for real-world
experiences and social connection as possible.
