SGHS Mentor Training

2012

Items to Cover

Purpose of MentorsConfidentialitySkills needed for Mentors

EmpathyAttending SkillsQuestioning

Goals for the upcoming yearFreshmen Registration

Mentoring Benefits

Opportunity for self-growthContribution to others and sense of school

communityA chance to give back to the communityResume boosterA+ hours

Confidentiality

Students often feel more comfortable talking with a peer than adult-so it is imperative that you understand confidentiality.You must break confidentiality if

Threats are made studentThreats that a student will harm themselvesStudent threatens to harm others

See Confidentiality Contract

Careful Listening

Look at the person who is talkingPay attention to who is talking

Avoid drifting away to your own thoughtsBe aware of the feelings that go with the wordsSay something to show that you have been

listeningWait till it is your turn to talkDon’t change the subject unless it is deliberateDon’t always wait till the end of the story to interjectRead exampleRole Play

Empathy

Empathy-Understanding other individuals so completely that their surface feelings and even their deeper feelings, thoughts, and motives are easily comprehended. Sympathy is pity and is different Use paraphrasing to convey your empathy for a situation

It is not effective when repeating word for wordIt lets others know that you are listeningThings often sound different when they are repeated back to them,

so the helped helps them to get a more complete picture or understanding of their feelings.

This is one of he most important skills!

Summarizing and Paraphrasing Examples

You seem to be saying…..In other words…Correct me if I am wrong, but you are sayingWhat keeps coming through me are these ideasEx. I didn’t know what to do, sometimes she is

nice and sometimes she is meanEx. I am really having a hard time getting my

parents to trust me and it make me so angry every time I go out

Questions

Open vs. ClosedAvoid Why/ Try What or How

Ex. Why do you like him or What do you see in him?Ex. Why don’t you like the class or How would you

describe the class?

Try not to ask too many questions

WorksheetWhat are some questions to ask of new

students when giving a tour?

Other

Compliments are helpful and be as specific as possible Ex. one of the things that I noticed about you is….

Simple acknowledgementThank youThanks for sharing

Reassuring/Supporting/Advice Dangerous territory

Ex. I know you feelEx. It’s going to be alrightEx. you need to study moreEx. go ahead and ask her out

Avoid Sarcasm Avoid Negativity

Ex. Dances are really stupid Ex. That teacher is easy

Boundaries-Never give out your phone number Classroom Behavior Tips

Resources

WebsiteSee Mentor PlanAdvisory Visit Reports

CommunicationEmail/TextsLead Mentor Meetings

Goals for This year

Have a concrete plan for mentoring the Buddy Program Enhance and expand Freshmen Olympics Work with freshmen class sponsors with ideas to enhance advisory Enhance 8th grade presentation in October Mentors chair events 100% advisory teacher satisfaction! Use Club Day Meeting for Practice and Planning

All Mentors

Exchange Contact InformationAdvice/Best Practices and Challenges to

Mentoring in the ClassroomWould like to add to website

Information about the upcoming meeting

Freshmen Registration

Advisory AssignmentsComments/Questions

My Agenda