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Schneider and the American Family
The Symbols of American Kinship
Unconscious, underlying metaphors for how we think about the worldWhat is a relative?What is a family?How does a person become a
relative?
Kinds of American Relatives Basic terms
Father (Step-, -In-law, Grand, Great grand)
Mother (Step-, -In-law, Grand, Great grand)
Sister (Step-, -In-law, Half-)
Brother (Step-, -In-law, Half-)
Son (Step-, -In-law, Grand-, Great grand-)
Daughter (Step-, -In-law, Grand-, Great grand-)
Uncle (Great-)
Aunt (Great-)
Nephew
Niece
Cousin (First-, Second-, Once removed, etc.)
Husband (Ex-)
Wife (Ex-)
Derivative term modifiers
Step
In-law
Great
Grand
First
Second
Once
Twice
Removed
Half-
Ex-
Foster
Categories of American RelativesBy Blood
“Biogenic”
The essence/biological material of the body is shared by relatives
Genes are shared by relatives
Kinship as possession of a common substance
Mother as genetrix
Father as genitor
Mother and father contribute equally to the child’s substance
Biogenic means “natural” rather than cultural
“Real” “Blood” “True” “By Birth”
Enduring and unbreakable ties
Involuntary
By Code of Conduct By custom, cultural rule or
law
Marriage as a culturally determined phenomenon
Fictive kin
Not natural, but man-made relationships
Come about by choice and free will
Blood Vs Marriage (con’t) In nature (no cultural code
of conduct Natural child (son or daughter)
Illegitimate child (son or daughter)
Natural mother
Natural Father
In law (cultural code, no nature) Husband
Wife
In-laws (father, mother, sister, brother, etc.)
Step- (mother, father, sister, brother)
Foster (son, daughter
By Blood within cultural conventions Father
Mother
Brother
Sister
Son
Daughter
Uncle, aunt
Niece, nephew
Grandparents
Great grand parents
Grandchildren, Great grandchildren
Cousin, first cousin, etc.
The Family as Set of Relatives Conjugal Family or
Family of ProcreationNuclear Family in the U.S.
Derived from the joining of two non-relatives by cultural convention through marriage.
Sexual intercourse is what allows these two “naturally unrelated” individuals to contribute to the creation of a new person who is related by possession of essential bodily materials to both parents.
Without sexual intercourse, new blood relatives cannot be produced.
Marriage is a cultural convention that is designed to make non-relatives become relatives to one another
The “Natural” Nuclear Family in American Society
Mother
Father
Son
Daughter
Living together in a single unit/household
Sexual Intercourse as Symbol Marriage requires sexual intercourse as one of the
duties of the husband and wife.
(Is a marriage without sex a real marriage?)
Marriage and Sexual Intercourse both unite “natural” opposites in many other ways “Natural act (occurs throughout nature) that happens in
culturally appropriate ways (where, when and with whom) as an act of free will.
Sex: Fitting genitalia together
Gender: Maleness united with femaleness
Creating blood ties out of code of conduct ties
Dividing activities and behaviors into distinctive opposing and complementary roles (code of conduct roles)
Combines physical (intercourse) with spiritual (love)
Produces cognatic/non-sexual love relationships out of conjugal/sexual love relationships.
Marriage and Sexual IntercourseUniting Opposite Genders How do we tell male from
female?
Facial hair
Breasts
Temperament
Physical strength
Mechanical aptitude
Nurturing qualities
Aggression
Passivity
Genitalia
We are uncomfortable with same sex marriage precisely because we see the uniting of opposites through intercourse as an inherent part of “family.”
American Marriage:Unification of Sexual Intercourse and Love
Intercourse alone is not sufficient to form a family.
Love without sex is not sufficient to form a family.
Marriage presupposes that both are present.
Definitions of Love
Schneider
Love is “enduring, diffuse solidarity”
Enduring = long lasting
Diffuse = pertains to a wide variety of things
Solidarity = loyalty and group affiliation - support network
Personal
Spiritual
Is a natural part of family
An intense sexual or romantic attachment to another person.
What is attachment? Strong feelings of loyalty, affection toward someone or something. A bond with someone or something.
What does attach mean? To fasten or bind something to something else.
An intense feeling of deep affection
What is affection? A feeling of liking or caring for someone or something.
Schneider’s Types of Love
Conjugal love (sexual love)Cognatic love (non-sexual love)
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Styles of love (Hendrick & Hendrick)
Logical love (pragma) “I consider a lover’s potential in life before committing myself.”
Possessive, excited love (mania) “When my lover ignores me, I get sick all over.”
Selfless love (agape) “My lover’s needs and wishes are more important than my own.”
Romantic love (eros) “My lover and I were attracted to each other immediately.”
Game-playing love (ludus) “I get over love affairs pretty easily.”
Friendship (storge, philia) “The best love grows out of an enduring friendship.”
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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
Three main components of loving relationships Intimacy
Feelings of closeness, bondedness, and connectedness
Desire to share one’s innermost thoughts with the other
Desire to give and receive emotional support Passion
Intense romantic and/or sexual desire for another person, which is accompanied by physiological arousal
Commitment Commitment to maintain the relationship despite
potential hardships
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Sternberg’s Types of LoveNonlove
All components of love are absent.Liking
Intimacy is present.Passion and commitment are absent.
Infatuation“Love at first sight”Passion is present.Intimacy and commitment are
absent.
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I+P+CConsummate
LovePassion Commitment
Intimacy
Empty Love
Liking
Infatuation
I+CCompanionate Love
I+PRomantic Love
P+CFatuous Love
Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love
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Empty loveCommitment is present.Passion and intimacy are absent.
Romantic lovePassion and intimacy are present.Commitment is absent.
Companionate loveIntimacy and commitment are
present.Passion is absent.
Sternberg’s Types of Love, con’t
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Fatuous lovePassion and commitment are present.Intimacy is absent.
Consummate loveFull or complete measure of loveCombination of passion, intimacy, and
commitmentAn ideal type of love Harder to maintain than to achieve
Sternberg’s Types of Love, con’t
Family as a Group of Persons Abstract notion of a person Vs. the concrete
manifestion of a person Personal attributes as criteria for “relativeness” Person as a unit of American Culture
People have attributes
Gender
Age
Class (status and/or wealth, ie. The “famous relative”)
Occupation
Religiosity
Political attitudes
Kin term that evokes a particular type of kinship role/behavior set.
Choosing Our Relatives
Who MAY be included, but in the U.S. not who MUST be included.
A person MAY be included as a relative, but that does not mean that he/she will have a kin term assigned to him/her
Attributes Distance
Physical proximity
Social proximity
Genealogical proximity
Everyday Use of Kin Terms
Kin terms as signals for particular kinds of relationship and role expectations. Formal Vs. Informal/Intimate
Symmetrical (same status) Vs. Asymmetrical (different statuses)
Authority/Respect
Generation
The Resolution of Oppositions
Kinship acts to resolve oppositions:
Male Vs. Female
Humans Vs. Nature
Human Vs. animal distinguished by the use of reason
Nature Vs. Culture
Law uses reason to take the best of nature and encode it to maintain the good.
Proper kinds of sexual union
Proper kinds of parent-child relationships
American Kinship & American Values Relatives In nature (no
cultural code of conduct) Natural child, Illegitimate child,
Natural mother, Natural Father, Natural Grandparent, Etc.
Relatives In law (cultural code, no nature) Husband, Wife, In-laws (father,
mother, sister, brother, etc.), Step- (mother, father, sister, brother), Foster (son, daughter
Relatives By Blood within cultural conventions Father, Mother, Brother, Sister,
Son, Daughter, Uncle, Aunt, Niece, Nephew, Grandparents, Etc.
Nature Only
Culture Only
Nature Tempered by Human Reason Extracts the Best of Nature in the Form of Human Culture
Conclusion