The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Sharpen the Saw

Synergize

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Think Win-Win

Put First Things First

Begin with the End in Mind

Be Proactive

Private VictoryPrivate Victory

Before you’ll ever win in the public Before you’ll ever win in the public arenas of life, you must first win arenas of life, you must first win private battles within yourself.private battles within yourself.

All change begins with you.All change begins with you. Private victory helps you become Private victory helps you become

independent.independent.

Public VictoryPublic Victory

Life’s most urgent question is:Life’s most urgent question is:What are you doing for others? What are you doing for others?

Martin Luther King Jr.Martin Luther King Jr.

Public victory helps you become Public victory helps you become interdependent. It helps you learn to interdependent. It helps you learn to work cooperatively with others.work cooperatively with others.

At the deathbedAt the deathbed

In the office?In the office? Making more Making more

money?money? Or you want to spent Or you want to spent

more time with the more time with the people you love?people you love?

What do you wish you had spent more What do you wish you had spent more time doing?time doing?

Rate your relationshipRate your relationship

How are your relationships with …

Lousy ------ Excellent

Your friends? 1 2 3 4 5

Your classmates? 1 2 3 4 5

Your siblings? 1 2 3 4 5

Your parents? 1 2 3 4 5

Your teachers? 1 2 3 4 5

RBA similar to a bank accountRBA similar to a bank account

You can make depositsYou can make deposits You can take withdrawalsYou can take withdrawals It can be a healthy account or an It can be a healthy account or an

unhealthy accountunhealthy account

RBA different from a bank accountRBA different from a bank account You have opened an RBA with You have opened an RBA with

everyone you meeteveryone you meet Once you open an RBA with a Once you open an RBA with a

person, you can never close itperson, you can never close it The deposit of The deposit of

your RBA tends to your RBA tends to evaporateevaporate

Activity Activity

Share with your classmate Share with your classmate (sitting next to you) the (sitting next to you) the most powerful deposit most powerful deposit someone has made into someone has made into your RBAyour RBA

Here are some examplesHere are some examples When a friend, teacher, or loved one When a friend, teacher, or loved one

takes the time to say ‘You look nice’ takes the time to say ‘You look nice’ or ‘Great job’.or ‘Great job’.

My friends made me a banner on my My friends made me a banner on my birthday.birthday.

When I have made mistakes, they When I have made mistakes, they forgive, forget, and help and love.forgive, forget, and help and love.

Some suggestionsSome suggestions

RBA Deposits RBA Withdrawals

Keep promises Break promises

Do small acts of kindness Keep to yourself

Be loyalGossip and break confidences

Listen Don’t listen

Say you’re sorry Be arrogant

Set clear expectations Set false expectations

Keeping PromisesKeeping Promises Dad, can I play computer game Dad, can I play computer game

tonight? I have finished all my work.tonight? I have finished all my work. YES, BUT CAN YOU GO TO BED BY YES, BUT CAN YOU GO TO BED BY

10:30?10:30? Okay, I promise.Okay, I promise. …… BOY, IT IS 10:45 NOW. HOW COME BOY, IT IS 10:45 NOW. HOW COME

YOU ARE STILL PLAYING?YOU ARE STILL PLAYING? I have to complete the game!I have to complete the game!

Hint to youHint to you

If your RBA with your parents is low, If your RBA with your parents is low, try building it by keeping your try building it by keeping your commitments, because when your commitments, because when your parents trust you, everything goes so parents trust you, everything goes so much better.much better.

Do Small Acts of KindnessDo Small Acts of Kindness

One kind word can warm three One kind word can warm three winter months!winter months! Japanese Japanese SayingSaying

A hello, A kind note, A smile, A A hello, A kind note, A smile, A compliment, A hug – can make a big compliment, A hug – can make a big difference.difference.

Spread the Love of GodSpread the Love of God

Do Small Acts of KindnessDo Small Acts of Kindness

Don’t wait until people are dead to Don’t wait until people are dead to give them flowers!give them flowers!

Be LoyalBe Loyal

One of the biggest RBA deposits you One of the biggest RBA deposits you can make is to be loyal to other people.can make is to be loyal to other people.

Loyal people keep secretsLoyal people keep secrets Loyal people avoid gossipLoyal people avoid gossip Loyal people stand for relationshipLoyal people stand for relationship

Be LoyalBe Loyal

People need to feel safe and secure People need to feel safe and secure in relationshipsin relationships

ListenListen

Listening to someone can be one of Listening to someone can be one of the simple but great deposits into the simple but great deposits into another’s RBA; … because people another’s RBA; … because people don’t listen usually.don’t listen usually.

You have knowledge of this, dear You have knowledge of this, dear brothers. But let every man be quick brothers. But let every man be quick in hearing, slow in words, slow to get in hearing, slow in words, slow to get angry.angry. James 1:19James 1:19

Say You are SorrySay You are Sorry

A yell, A bang to the door, Overreact, A yell, A bang to the door, Overreact, Make stupid mistake – will make a Make stupid mistake – will make a RBA overdrawnRBA overdrawn

But by saying ‘I was wrong’, ‘I But by saying ‘I was wrong’, ‘I apologize’, ‘I am sorry’ – can restore apologize’, ‘I am sorry’ – can restore the overdrawn bank accountthe overdrawn bank account

Why is it so difficult?Why is it so difficult?

PridePride A lack of courageA lack of courage Defense mechanismDefense mechanism

Apologies disarm peopleApologies disarm people

Over AgainOver Again

I know that I have hurt youI know that I have hurt youand wish I could take it back.and wish I could take it back.I wish I could turn back the hoursI wish I could turn back the hoursand do it all over again.and do it all over again.But we know that can’t happenBut we know that can’t happenthat it just isn’t possible.that it just isn’t possible.But I can say that I’m sorryBut I can say that I’m sorryand ask for your forgiveness.and ask for your forgiveness.

Set Clear ExpectationsSet Clear Expectations

To develop trust we need to avoid To develop trust we need to avoid sending vague messages or implying sending vague messages or implying something that is not true or not something that is not true or not likely to happenlikely to happen

ReflectionReflection

Think of a relationship that is Think of a relationship that is damaged; propose the way to rebuild damaged; propose the way to rebuild it.it.