Parents in Transition

Parents in Parents in TransitionTransition

Adapted from Britt Andreatta, Ph.D.,Adapted from Britt Andreatta, Ph.D.,Peter Russell, Ph.D., and Jeanne Stanford, Ph.D.Peter Russell, Ph.D., and Jeanne Stanford, Ph.D.

University of California at Santa BarbaraUniversity of California at Santa Barbara

Presented by: Rochelle Ament, Parent Services Coordinator

Parent Program GoalsParent Program Goals Learn about the Universities Learn about the Universities

expectations and resourcesexpectations and resources Become acquainted with parent Become acquainted with parent

resourcesresources Parent Services Web site and E-NewsletterParent Services Web site and E-Newsletter Family AssociationFamily Association Family Weekend Family Weekend

Learn more about student and parent Learn more about student and parent transition transition

Support your studentSupport your student

ExpectationsExpectations

Data PrivacyData Privacy Illegal for an institution of higher education Illegal for an institution of higher education

to release private information of educational to release private information of educational records without written consent of the records without written consent of the student.student.

Develop a system of open Develop a system of open communication with your studentcommunication with your student

Authorization for Release Authorization for Release of Informationof Information Ask your studentAsk your student

Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources

Family Connections E-Family Connections E-NewsletterNewsletter

5 times each year; Sept., Nov., 5 times each year; Sept., Nov., Jan., March, and once in the Jan., March, and once in the summersummer

Sign-up card in Family FolderSign-up card in Family Folder


Family AssociationFamily Association Inaugural year! Inaugural year! Opportunity to stay Opportunity to stay

connected to student connected to student and campusand campus

All families are All families are considered members considered members and there are no fees and there are no fees or dues requiredor dues required

Sign-up card in Family Sign-up card in Family FolderFolder


Online Family Online Family GuidebookGuidebook

Tips for parents and Tips for parents and families regarding their families regarding their student’s academic student’s academic success, academic success, academic policies, residence hall policies, residence hall move-in, various campus move-in, various campus resources, and Mankato resources, and Mankato area lodging and area lodging and restaurant informationrestaurant information


October 17-19October 17-19

College ShowcasesCollege Showcases 5K Fun Run/Walk5K Fun Run/Walk Legacy BreakfastLegacy Breakfast Open Game RoomOpen Game Room Theatre and MoviesTheatre and Movies


Parent Services Web siteParent Services Web site

www.mnsu.edu/fye/parents


Parent Services CoordinatorParent Services Coordinator Available to assist families with Available to assist families with

questions, concerns, and navigating questions, concerns, and navigating MSUMSU

Rochelle AmentRochelle Ament

10 Gage Complex10 Gage Complex

(507) 389-6601(507) 389-6601

[email protected]@mnsu.edu

Students, their Parents and Students, their Parents and the College Transitionthe College Transition

Stage I: AmbivalenceStage I: Ambivalence

Stage II: Cognitive SeparationStage II: Cognitive Separation

Stage III: Emotional SeparationStage III: Emotional Separation

Stage IV: Values ClarificationStage IV: Values Clarification

Stage V: New RelationshipStage V: New Relationship

Stage I: AmbivalenceStage I: Ambivalence

Struggle to maintain relationship as Struggle to maintain relationship as it was or move toward adult-adult it was or move toward adult-adult relationshiprelationship

Inconsistent behaviorInconsistent behavior

Parents try to control behavior with Parents try to control behavior with rulesrules

10 Things I Hate About You

Buena Vista, 1999

Stage II: Cognitive Stage II: Cognitive SeparationSeparation

Rational and unemotional conversationsRational and unemotional conversations

Parents need to intellectually separate Parents need to intellectually separate to let goto let go

Students may be arguing excessively Students may be arguing excessively with parents to develop a sense of selfwith parents to develop a sense of self

Anywhere But Here

Twentieth Century Fox, 2000

Stage III: Emotional Stage III: Emotional SeparationSeparation

Nostalgia, loss, anger, and guilt Nostalgia, loss, anger, and guilt accompany the transitionaccompany the transition

Parents tend to be here prior to Parents tend to be here prior to the student leaving homethe student leaving home

Student typically experiences this Student typically experiences this stage after moved awaystage after moved away

Parents realize the significanceParents realize the significance Parents may question the quality Parents may question the quality

of their parenting and may offer of their parenting and may offer advice or guidanceadvice or guidance

Out-of-Towners

Paramount Pictures, 1999

Out-of-Towners


Out-of-Towners


Stage IV: Values Stage IV: Values ClarificationClarification

Student goes through this stage and parents Student goes through this stage and parents reactreact

Student explores new values, beliefs, and Student explores new values, beliefs, and experiences.experiences.

Patience is key for parentsPatience is key for parents

Student formulates new valuesStudent formulates new values

Son-In-Law

Hollywood Pictures, 1996

Stage V: New RelationshipStage V: New Relationship

Successfully create new adult-Successfully create new adult-adult relationshipadult relationship

Student looks to parent as mentor Student looks to parent as mentor and friendand friend

Father of the Bride

Touchstone Pictures, 1991

Questions?Questions?Thank you for attending Thank you for attending

and supporting your student!and supporting your student!

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Parents in Transition