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7/30/2019 MyVision issue Peer Pressure April 2013
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Vupkks ;4
Bprhl 642:Qcluek : Hssuk =
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t`khr lhvks rho`tkcusly'
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Arce t`k Kmhtcr
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_`kgkvkr ycu akkl nkblcus ca scekcgk, heekmhbtklyfkjcek blkrt bgm igcw t`bt t`k Z`bytbg hs tryhgo tcmkstrcy ycur abht`, bgm heekmhbtkly turg tcwbrmsBllbb` bgm t`hgi bfcut @hs jcugtlkss flksshgosupcg ycu' Ebik ycurskla jcgtkgt fy lccihgo bt t`kjcgmhthcg ca t`csk w`c `bvk fkkg fkstcwkm wht`akwkr flksshgos t`bg ycu'
Eby Bllbb` sbvk bll ca us arce fkhgo nkblcus'
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_crms ca Ey Jrkbtcr
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ebri cg t`hs Kbrt`' Arce
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t`k Bgokls bgm t`k Mnhgg hg`bfhtkm
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(BZ whll fk jrkbtkm rce must, must
t`bt hs gkht`kr supkrhcr t`bg lho`t, gcr
frho`tkr cr ecrk spbrilhgo t`bg rk'
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wbs tc fk supkrhcr tc t`k jrkbturks
c lho`t bgm rk' ]us Bllbb` jrkbtkm
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Bgm, _`c pkrkjtkm kvkryt`hgo
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bl%`beb' Bgm w`kg lkt tc mry cr kvkg
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jbllkm ebsgccg' Bgm w`kg t`hs typk c
sbgm hs stkppkm upcg bgm ht ohvks cut
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t`hs rkspcgshfhlhty rce cgk okgkrbthcg
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sbhm t`bt `bvk t`ky fkkg mkjhkgt hg
prbhsk bgm hg t`khr supplhjbthcg tc
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c jrkbthcg, wkrk hg jcgstbgt prbhsk bgm
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bgm t`k Mnhggs'
]`hs supkrhcrhty wbs:'
ohvkg tc Ebg fkjbusk ca
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w`hj` wbs ohvkg tc us fy
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mrbw gkbrkr tc @he'
Ebg strhvks hg kvkry wby='
tc fkjcek supkrhcr tc kbj`
ct`kr, fut w`bt wk eustrkblly strhvk acr hs acr t`k
igcwlkmok ohvkg tc us fy
Bllbb` t`bt whll klkvbtk us
gct cgly cvkr ct`kr ekg,
fut blsc cvkr t`k Bgokls'
]`k rkbl igcwlkmok w`hj`;'
klkvbtkm Ebg cvkr bll ct`kr
jrkbthcgs hs t`k igcwlkmok
ca t`k Vkvklbthcg, w`hj`
Bllbb` rkvkblkm upcg @hs
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]`k purpcsk ca jrkbthgo1'Ebg arce sbgm bgm must hs
tc hgjuljbtk hg `he b skgsk
ca `ueflkgkss, sc t`bt `k
wculm gct fkjcek `buo`ty
bgm brrcobgt'
Cur stbtus bgm prksthok brk?'
kqubl tc t`bt ca must, t`bt
wk wkrk jrkbtkm arce must,
bgm t`bt wk whll rkturg
tc ht'
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s`crtjcehgos, wk eust
heekmhbtkly prbhsk Bllbb`
bgm supplhjbtk tc @he, nust
bs t`k Bgokls prbhskm bgm
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bgm lbji ca igcwlkmok'
@hs Zupkrhcrhty Cvkr t`k Bgokls
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wculm sprkbm euj` trbgsorksshcg bgm
ihllhgos cg Kbrt`' Zc, w`kg t`krk wbs
gc bppbrkgt gkkm cr t`hs gkw jrkbthcg,
bgm t`k kbr c sc euj` j`bcs, w`y
jrkbtk bgm kstbflhs` Ebgihgm cg t`k
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gct igcw' Y6>:4U' Ekbghgo w`btkvkr
ht hs t`bt t`k Bgokls jculm t`hgi c,
t`krk wbs ecrk tc @hs Hgtkgthcg bgm
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c mkecgstrbtk tc t`k Bgokls nust
cgk c t`k ebttkrs c Bllbb`s hgghtk
_hsmce hg t`k jrkbthcg c Ebg, @k
tbuo`t Bmbe (BZ t`k gbeks c bll
cfnkjts t`bt wkrk bt `bgm, bgm @k blsc
obvk `he t`k igcwlkmok bfcut t`csk
cfnkjts' Bllbb` tbuo`t Bmbe (BZ
t`k gbeks c cfnkjts, bs wkll bs t`k
prcpkrthks, purpcsk, bgm ugjthcg'
Bllbb` t`kg put t`k cfnkjts hg
rcgt c t`k Bgokls bgm bsikm
t`ke tc gbek t`ke' ]k
Bgokls jculm gct gbek t`k cfnkjts,
t`ky jculm cgly fut sufeht tc Bllbb`
bgm plkbmkm t`khr hogcrbgjk, bgm t`ky
prbhskm Bllbb`, _`c wbs wht`cut bgy
mkkjts' ]ky sbhm t`bt t`ky cgly igkw
w`bt Bllbb` `bm tbuo`t t`ke' ]kg
Bllbb` bsikm Bmbe (BZ, bgm fy t`k
_hll bgm Tkrehsshcg c Bllbb`, `k
hmkgthkm bll t`k cfnkjts' _`kg t`hs
_hsmce cr t`k jrkbthcg c Ebgihgm
wbs rkvkblkm tc t`k Bgokls, t`ky
rkblhzkm t`k supkrhcrhty c Ebg cvkr
t`ke' Hgmkkm Bllbb` `bs t`k fkst c
_hsmce, @k igcws w`bt hs `hmmkg
rce cur kyks, bgm gc cgk bgm gct`hgo
jbg rkebhg `hmmkg rce @he' @k
igcws bll skjrkts bgm bll t`bt hs vhshflk
bgm hgvhshflk' y
_crms ca Ey Jrkbtcr EyQhshcg Bprhl 642: Tbok ;
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Zcek pkcplk hg t`k scjhkty eby
jcgshmkr ht hg`csphtbflk tc
hgcre bgm skki pkrehsshcg
rce t`khr rklbthvks cr rhkgms fkcrk
vhshthgo t`ke, bgm scek eby nust mrcp
hg, ughgvhtkm' Fut, Bllbb` `bs kgnchgkm
us tc skki pkrehsshcg fkcrk kgtkrhgo
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bsi pkrehsshcg fkcrk vhshthgo
bgycgk' H ht hs gct pcsshflk tc
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fut mcgt kgtkr uglkss ycu `bvk scuo`t
pkrehsshcg' Zkkihgo pkrehsshcg hs gct
t`k sbek bs hgcrehgo, cr kxbeplk,
hgstkbm c sbyhgo H whll jcek bt ;TE, sby, w`bt hs ycur plbg cr t`hs
kvkghgo3' H t`ky sby t`bt t`ky whll fk
`cek, t`kg ycu jbg bsi h ; TE whll
fk b occm thek tc vhsht'
_`kg ycu rkbj` t`khr
prkehsks, w`kt`kr `cek
cr cjk, t`kg rhgo t`k
mccrfkll cr igcji bt t`k mccr' H gc cgk
bgswkrs, ycu jbg rhgo t`k fkll bobhg cr
igcji, fut ycu jbggct kgtkr uglksspkrehsshcg hs ohvkg' Xcu jbg igcji cr
rhgo t`k fkll up tc t`rkk theks' H ycu
fklhkvk t`bt t`krk hs scekcgk hgshmk,
fut hs gct rkspcgmhgo, tbik ht bs b gc
bgm jcek fbji'
Qhshthgo, Zkkihgo
Tkrehsshcg ! @csthgoZ
hehlbrly, h ycu brk surk t`bt
t`krk hs gc cgk hgshmk, ycu sthll
jbggct kgtkr uglkss ycu `bvk
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H
t`k rkspcgsk rce hgshmk bsis
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hgtrcmujk ycurskl fy ycur ull gbek'
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pkrehsshcg rce Bllbb`s Eksskgokr
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ht hs H (t`ksk wcrms lkbm ek tc gc
jcgjlushcg' YZb`h` EuslheU
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w`bt ycu mc' Y6=>60U
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Hslbehj Ebggkrhse
Fy Z`bzhb Vb`he
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t`k cusk cr cjk' Ht hs rkjceekgmkm
tc s`bik t`k `bgm c ycur frct`kr
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gbrrbtkm, H bsikm Bgbs, _bs ht b
justce c t`k jcepbghcgs c t`k
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cgk bgct`kr3 @k sbhm, Xks' YZb`h`
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cg us tc s`cw `csphtblhty cg
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wkll fy skrvhgo t`ke ccm bgm ebihgo
t`khr stby jcecrtbflk' ]k Trcp`kt
(TF[@ sbhm, _`ckvkr fklhkvks
hg Bllbb` bgm t`k Lbst Mby, s`culm
gct `urt `hs gkho`fcr bgm w`ckvkr
fklhkvks hg Bllbb` bgm t`k Lbst Mby,
s`culm skrvk `hs oukst okgkrcusly bgm
w`ckvkr fklhkvks hg Bllbb` bgm t`k
Lbst Mby, s`culm tbli w`bt hs occm cr
ikkp quhkt' YZb`h` Fui`brhU
_`kg scekcgk jceks tc
skk ycu wht` b sehlhgo
bjk, rkjhprcjbtk t`k
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ycurskl, sc bs tc gkvkr lkt ycur vhshtcr
kkl ugwbgtkm'
Fk kspkjhblly jcgshmkrbtk tc bg
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_`ckvkr fklhkvks hg Bllbb` bgm
t`k Lbst Mby, s`culm skrvk `hs oukst
okgkrcusly' ]k ouksts rkwbrm hs> c
prcvhmk `he wht` b supkrhcr typk c
ccm cr b gho`t bgm b mby bgm b oukst
hs tc fk kgtkrtbhgkm wht` ccm cr t`rkk
mbys, bgm w`btkvkr hs ckrkm fkycgmt`bt, hs rkobrmkm bs scekt`hgo ohvkg hg
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tc stby wht` `hs `cst cr suj` b lcgo
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pcshthcg' YZb`h` Fui`brhU
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s`culm gct tbik t`ke bs
b furmkg' ]ky prcvhmk us
bg cppcrtughty tc kbrg rkwbrm rce
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acllcwkm, bgm b pkrscg fkjcehgo
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