Marriage Seminar

Session Five:Communication II

How can two different people stay together?

Differences in Gender personality

Needs Love Communication

Gender

Buffalo/butterfly Material/relationship Action/word

Personality

Family of origin (shadow) Complement/supplement ?

Idealize Two sides

What things are you talking all the time?

Hello! Information Opinion Feeling Open and honest

Ephesians 4: 25-35 25 Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you

speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.

26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,

27 and give no opportunity to the devil. 28 Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing

honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.

29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Keys of good communication

Communication with God Mutual openness and honesty Respect and accept Self control – words spoken

1. Communication with God

Spend time together Heart

Real you Whole-hearted

2. Mutual openness and honesty

Open. Honest. Why?

Prevent temptation Build relationship and trust

How? Clarify No Guessing game Be vulnerable – ask for forgiveness Express love explicitly

3. Respect and accept Charitable, forbearing and accepting

spirit. Why?

We are all different We are all sinners

How? Things spouse not want to do Things spouse cannot do Emotional moment. Time to be alone. Respect

4. Self control – Words spoken Why?

Destructive forces of anger Live near a volcano – fear and “pleasing” Hurt

How? Not quick to draw conclusion Avoid negative language Volume and tone Love

Practice Pray and prepare for upcoming conflicts How do I feel? Why? Exercise self-control, and openness and

honest. Clarify the issue. Ask for forgiveness.

On the other hands, find ways to response and express in love.