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Lisa Phillips• Qualified and Certified Life and Business Coach• TV Expert on Channel 7 and 9• NLP Practitioner• Worked in over 20 Countries in Senior Audit and Business
Engagement Positions• Certified Trainer and Facilitator• Keynote Speaker • Qualified Accountant and Internal Auditor• Regularly Featured in TV and Radio• Author of 2 books
Introduction• 1 in 10 Managers are Psychopaths• People with psychopathic tendencies are four times more likely to be found in senior
management.
"Not all psychopaths are in prison -- some are in the boardroom" Dr Robert Hare
Dis-empowerment
When you give away your power to someone else.
•Bad Vibes – it just doesn’t feel right!•It makes you feel bad and resentful •You point the blame finger
Dis-empowerment • When you allow someone to over step your boundaries• When you do not speak up and you swallow your feelings• When you say Yes ( when you really mean no)• When you do or say something that is not really true to how you feel inside • When you allow others to tell you how you should feel or how you should
behave • When you allow people to walk all over you and bully / shout at you.
Dis-empowerment
• When you allow other peoples criticism to put you in a bad mood
• When you blame other people for your situation• When you feel you don’t have a choice• When you gossip about others• When you let other people drive your bus• When you are a people pleaser
Dis-empowerment
Disempowerment comes from inside you.
You can only be a doormat if you allow other people to walk all over you.
Empowerment
Personal empowerment comes within yourself. It results in self-reliance, self
responsibility and self respect.
It takes practise and can be a very personal thingDepending on how we feel inside.
Empowerment
• Standing up for yourself – assertiveness• Having Good Boundaries in Place• Learning to say No• Valuing yourself (and other people)• Respecting yourself (and other people)• Asking for help
Empowerment
• Firm but Kind• Calm and Clear• Not allowing other peoples negativity to get your
down• Not taking on ‘ other peoples’ stuff• Taking Criticisms lightly
Empowered EA’s
• Know your value. Don’t underestimate yourself and be your own advocate. Believe in yourself and your potential.
• Get out of denial when things aren’t working• Be authentic to yourself. Take positive action and use your
voice in empowered ways • Don’t be afraid to put yourself forward.• Don’t be afraid to say NO• Look for a win-win situation
Empowered EA’s
• Be proactive• Take a risk• Take back your power• Take responsibility for your role and your happiness• Be assertive• Don’t be afraid to ask for help • Speak up if things are not working• Respectful of self and others ( watch your energy)
• NOT ONLY DO I Matter but YOU DO TOO”
• ONLY I Matter, you don’t”
• ONLY YOU Matter, I don’t”.
Assertiveness
What Stops us Being Empowered EA’s?
• FEAR, FEAR, FEAR! • Fear of Confrontation and conflict • Lack of Boundaries • FEAR we will hurt someone’s feelings• FEAR of what ‘ May Happen’• FEAR of ‘ Not looking Good or that people
won’t like us’
Question
• Where and to whom you give your power away?
Dealing with Criticism
• Don’t take it too personally• Look at what you can take away from the criticism and what
you choose not to take away• If you find yourself over-reacting – ask yourself what is going
on inside of you?• Ask for further clarification or examples if required• Get honest with yourself –Did I do the best that I could given
the current situation and resources?’
Dealing with the Workplace Bully
• They may never change• You can change the way you react• Be empowered and brave!• They are often cowards and have been getting away with for
too long• Use statements like ‘ I am sorry, this doesn’t work for me
right now’ or ‘ I would love to help however, I have other priorities right now’
Dealing with the Workplace Bully
• ‘I feel’ statements are great• Repeat your message• Turn your body away from them
Free Ebook• For a free eBook from Lisa please download here
http://www.amazingcoaching.com.au/ebookoffer.html• Contact Lisa at [email protected] or 0413 696820• For free newsletter, sign up at www.amazingcoaching.com.au• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AmazingCoaching
