SETTING CAPTIVES FREE

HELPING THOSE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTIONS, TRAUMA, & MARITAL CONFLICTS

Isaiah 61:1 - Luke 4:18

“The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me,         Because the LORD has anointed me         To bring good news to the afflicted;He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted,         To set the captives free,

And to open the eyes of the blind.”

Healing the Brokenhearted

In the first workshop we talked about how to help the “Brokenhearted”; those who are grieving and divorced.

The feelings of grief, anger, sadness, and shame are the primary emotions of those who are “Brokenhearted.”

Jesus does heal the brokenhearted, in a way that no secular agent can.

FACT-BASED EMOTIONS

Jesus experienced these fact-based emotions even though He had no distorted thoughts:

GRIEF: An intense longing for a person. ANGER: Justified anger at a wrong. SADNESS: Feeling badly about some

very unfortunate circumstance. DISAPPOINTMENT: Being let down by

someone you trusted or had expected to behave better .

STEPS FOR HEALING GRIEF, ANGER & SADNESS

FIRST STEP:Be completely honest about your

feelings of loss or anger by making a detailed list of what you miss about the lost person or what you resent about them.

SECOND STEP:Tell the Lord what you miss (or resent)

about the person and ask Him to take your feelings from you and carry them for you.

STEPS FOR HEALING SHAME

SHAME is a feeling of false guilt and blame for something that was not your fault or is already forgiven.

STEP ONE: Identify the beliefs underlying the feelings of shame that resulted from a past experience.

STEP TWO: Pray for truth; ask the Lord what He wants you (or the person) to know.

Setting the Captives Free

The simple prayer principles taught in the first workshop are also effective in helping those in bondage to alcohol, drugs, traumatic childhood experiences, and marital problems.

When you help people resolve their GRIEF, ANGER, SADNESS and SHAME issues most of these problems will be significantly improved.

There are other emotions that may need resolution that are not covered in this workshop.

A third workshop will be offered later for those who want to learn how to resolve other emotions.

THE “FATAL FOUR” EMOTIONSGRIEF: Intense feelings of unresolved grief

and loss from childhood and adulthood.

ANGER: Unresolved feelings of anger from childhood and adulthood.

SADNESS: Feelings resulting from unfortunate circumstances.

SHAME: Unresolved feelings of guilt and self-blame.

THE IMPACT OF THE “BIG FOUR”

Conduct Disorders: I was shocked to learn that 65% of these adolescents had unresolved grief, and a lot of anger.

Substance Abuse: Then I collected data and found that 70% of clients in a residential treatment program had unresolved grief, and a lot of anger.

Depression: Then I learned that 87.4% of depression is “bereavement-related.”

Divorce: The vast majority of divorced people have anger, grief, and shame.

OTHER AREAS IMPACTED BY THE “BIG FOUR” EMOTIONS

Other Addictions and Compulsions: Gambling addictions, sexual addictions, and food addictions are the same.

Marital Problems: Grief, anger, sadness, and shame profoundly affect marriages and hinder them.

Traumas: Grief, anger, sadness, and shame profoundly result from childhood abuse and impair a person’s ability to serve God.

WORKSHOP GOAL

My purpose is not to train professional counselors or equip you to handle all types of emotional problems.

The purpose of this workshop is to help you understand how much you can help people by knowing how to help them resolve feelings of grief, anger, sadness, and shame.

If you learn to focus on helping people with these four emotions, you will heal many people.

For those who want to deal with all types of issues, the third workshop will help you with that.

FOUR STEPS TO EMOTIONAL FREEDOM

1. Resolve feelings of grief and loss.

2. Release feelings of anger.3. Remove feelings of sadness.4. Replace feelings of shame.

OTHER BELIEF-BASED EMOTIONS

The major belief-based emotions are: HELPLESSNESS HOPELESSNESS HURT ALONENESS SHAME

FEAR

These emotions will be covered in the Advanced Workshop, for those who want to be able to deal with the full range of emotional issues using this prayer-based approach.

Workshops Available on EHP

Level 1: Basic Training-Healing the Brokenhearted Basic principles of EHP for resolving feelings of

grief, anger, sadness, and shame. Prayer principles that every believer should know.Level 2: Intermediate Training-Setting Captives Free Training in how to use the basic principles of EHP to

help those with Addictions, Abuse Histories, and Marital problems.

Level 3: Advanced Training: Opening Eyes of the Blind

Training in how to help those with other belief-based emotions not covered in Workshops 1 & 2.

NEW WEBSITE AVAILABLE!Site: tradingpain.com Basic Principles of Emotional

Healing Prayer Four Steps to Freedom True Stories of Healing through

Prayer Products Available: Books, DVDs,

CDs can be purchased on-line. Calendar of Training Events Personal Ministry Opportunities Listing of Trained Prayer Ministers

WORKSHOP LEVEL TWO

Session 1. Physical Abuse IssuesPrevalence of AbuseProblematic Emotions

Session 2. Drug Abuse ProblemsThe cause of substance abuseThe underlying emotional issues

Session 3. Marital ProblemsThe basic cause of marital problems.How to help couples.

Session 4. Assessing Emotional IssuesAdverse Childhood Experiences

HELPING THE ABUSED

SESSION ONE.

Anna Caroline Jennings (1960-1994)

Anna Caroline Jennings (1961)

Her Childhood Years

• Born in 1960, the third of five children, a healthy baby with a wonderful disposition.

• Began screaming and crying inconsolably at 2 ½ and became a “difficult to handle” child.

• Age 11-13 witnessed parental conflict and violence.

• Age 13-18: She was given Haldol “to help her sleep.” Over the next five years she was given various medications and diagnoses.

Her Adulthood Years

Age 18-32 was medicated, given various diagnoses, and hospitalized for 12 years in 15 hospitals for suicide attempts & hallucinations.

Fearful, suicidal, homeless, prostituted, self-abusive, shame-ridden, terrorizing nightmares.

DIED AT AGE 32 BY SUICIDE

THE CAUSE OF ANNA’S PROBLEMS “On Being Invisible in the Mental

Health System” (Ann Jennings, 1994) A Better Title: “On Being Mistreated in

an Ineffective Mental Health System.” During one of her hospitalizations at

about age 24 Anna disclosed to her mother that she had been sexually abused from age 2-4 by a male babysitter and was full of shame.

Ann Jennings, Ph.D. afj@gwi.net

PRIMARY EMOTIONS FROM ABUSE INDIVIDUALS

1. ANGER2. SHAME/GUILT3. SADNESS

YOUNG ABUSED MAN One young man came for counseling to deal

with some trauma in his life. He was a very large man, intimidating in

size, with many tatoos. He admitted being sexually abused by a

relative and he never talked about it. He began abusing drugs and getting into trouble after the abuse.

We discussed the abuse and prayed for truth. After praying he said that it was not his fault, he felt sorry for the abuser, he no longer felt embarrassment in talking about the abuse.

YOUNG ABUSED WOMAN - PTSD

She grew up with loving, Christian parents. She was sexually abused at age 9 by a

neighbor. This led to her father withdrawing from her

due to his guilt. She became involved in drugs and abusive

relationships. She released her feelings of shame. She released her grief about losing her

child.

Prevalence of Abuse

“Adverse Childhood Experiences” study:

10.8% of adults reported experiencing physical abuse as a child.

22% of adults reported sexual abuse as a child and 42% of girls are sexually abused before age 18.

Our churches are full of hurting people who are still suffering from early abuse.

ASSESSING THE PRESENCE OF UNRESOLVED TRAUMAS

Many people will not tell you about their history of sexual abuse.

Conduct a thorough “Intake Assessment” of the client’s history from birth till the present.

Ask client to complete a “Social History Questionnaire” (Included with handouts).

Psychological Assessments are not generally helpful.

A SENIOR TRAUMA VICTIM

An older woman came for counseling who brought a copy of a book about her life. She asked me to read chapter 4.

At 10 years of age she was physically and sexually abused by her stepfather for one year.

She made a list of all her resentments toward her mother and her stepfather, then we prayed about them and gave them to the Lord.

Afterwards she said that she felt peaceful and no longer felt angry at them; she felt sorry for them.

She returned two weeks later and reported that she felt much better and no longer needed counseling.

TYPES OF TRAUMAS

Childhood Abuse Sexual Abuse Near-death experiences Victims of Violent Crimes Car Accidents Abortions Traumatic Losses Natural Disasters: tornados,

earthquakes

Posttraumatic Stress SyndromeA. The person has been exposed to a

traumatic event in which both of the following were present:(1) the person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others.(2) the person’s response involve intense fear, helplessness or horror.

Effectiveness of PTSD Treatments

Some forms of PTSD are much more difficult to treat.

Treatments of combat PTSD are very poor and VA Hospitals have quit funding it.

The ineffectiveness of treatments are hidden in technical language that lay people cannot understand.

Most therapists do not even attempt to treat it; they just refer to a psychiatrist for medications.

Emotional Components of PTSD

1. ANGER2. GRIEF3. SADNESS4. GUILT/SHAME5. FEAR

People who have experienced a trauma can be helped by identifying these emotions and praying with them for healing.

PTSD from Natural Disasters

Katrina victimsTornado victimsTsunami victimsEarthquake victims

Earthquake Victim

PTSD SYMPTOMS

This young woman was trapped for eight hours in the earthquake rubble with her 8 y.o. nephew underneath her.

She was rescued and had minimal injuries but her 8 y.o. nephew was still in the hospital.

She lost some friends and neighbors. She felt sadness for a pregnant woman in her apartment who died.

She expressed gratitude toward her pastor for giving her a place to stay.

DEALING WITH GRIEF

She stated that she had lost some friends but had already prayed about them and felt peace in her heart. She reported no feelings of grief or loss, and no fear of another earthquake.

She felt sadness about a pregnant woman in her apartment who died.

She felt sadness about her nephew who was trapped under her, who was traumatized by the experience, and who was still in the hospital.

She was also fearful of losing him.

VICTIM VOLUNTEERS FOR PRAYER

DEALING WITH SADNESS

The main emotion she felt was SADNESS.

I asked her what made her sad and then we prayed about this and gave her feelings to the Lord. I prayed and asked the Lord if there was anything He wanted her to know.

After praying with her she said that she was “no longer crying or shaking and she felt peaceful.”

She stated that the thought came to her that God was taking care of her nephew.

PASTOR WITH ANOTHER VICTIM

VICTIMS IN HAITIAN CHURCH

OTHER EARTHQUAKE VICTIMS

I spoke in this pastor’s church in Port au Prince on Sunday morning about how God heals grief through prayer.

Twelve to fifteen people came up afterwards for prayer after the service.

Some of them had lost family members and had grief, survivor guilt, and anger.

Some also had fear (a belief-based emotion) and I prayed for the Lord to give them truth.

DEALING WITH FEAR

A belief-based emotion: Like Shame

Steps in Overcoming Fear:1. Identify the original source of the

fear.2. Identify the person’s feelings as

they recall the original experience.3. Pray for the truth. Ask the Lord

what He wants them to know.

JESUS SETS THE CAPTIVES FREE

Jesus can set the captives free who have been in emotional bondage from physical and sexual abuse and other traumas in their past.

He can release them from their ANGER.

He can release them from the SHAME.

He wants to use you to help people in your church and people that he brings into your life!

Matthew 11:28

“ Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble of heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

HELPING THE ADDICTED

SESSION TWO.

Young Man Completes Treatment A mother told me about her son who

developed a drug/ alcohol problem as a teenager.

He went through treatment and got saved and quit drinking. She was ecstatic!

He began going to church and reading his Bible but gradually slipped back into depression.

His mother was close to him and prayed for him and spoke to him daily.

One day he called the police and told them he was going to kill himself…

Jesus can Release the Addicted Alcohol and drug addictions are widespread

across our country. Many people in your church have been deeply

affected by someone with an addiction. You may have a child, grandchild, or friend in

your church who has been lied to, stolen from, and disappointed repeatedly by someone with an addiction.

You may feel hopeless and angry about this person.

TREATMENT PROGRAMS

Most treatment programs are 12-step, educational programs that focus on persuading the person that they have a problem and need help.

The primary help received is “intellectual” and not “emotional change.”

Many times an individual needs a safe place to stay where there is no access to drugs or alcohol, while they are receiving help.

If the underlying emotional pain is not healed the person will likely return to their substance abuse.

Meth Addict Finds Healing

Young man came to a clinic looking for some medications. He said this was his last chance…

He was so angry he said he could kill someone.

I asked him what his diagnosis was… He returned and released his anger

toward his ex-wife… then his brother…then his stepfather.

He went through a 30-day program but was feeling so good that he wanted to leave.

Grief and Substance AbuseRecovery Center data collected for six months found that their clients reported the following events occurred prior to their substance abuse:

68% reported a traumatic loss52% reported emotional abuse41% witnessed violence in home36% experienced physical abuse23% experienced sexual abuse4% reported no traumas

Prevalence of Substance Abuse

National Comorbidity Survey Replication Study (2005)

Substance Disorders Lifetime 12 months

Alcohol Abuse 13.2 3.1 Drug Abuse 8.0 1.4 Nicotine Dependence 29.6 11.0

Our churches are full of people who abuse drugs, alcohol, and are dependent upon psychotropic drugs.

The Origins of Addiction

2003, ACE Study by Vincent J. Felitti, MD

“In our detailed study of over 17,000 middle-class American adults of diverse ethnicity, we found that the compulsive use of nicotine, alcohol, and injected street drugs increases proportionally in a strong, graded, dose-response manner that closely parallels the intensity of adverse life experiences during childhood.”

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study(ACE)

Largest study ever done on this subject, based upon an 8-item questionnaire given.

17,000 people involved who were members of an HMO in California.

Looked at the impact of 8 forms of adverse childhood experiences on the individuals’ mental and physical health.

The Eight ACE Questions

1. Experience of recurrent Physical Abuse (11%)2. Experience of recurrent Emotional Abuse (11%)3. Experience of contact Sexual Abuse (22%)4. Living with an incarcerated person (3%)5. Witnessing Violence in home (12%)6. Living with an alcohol and/or drug abuser (25%)7. Living with a chronically depressed, mentally ill,

institutionalized, or suicidal person (12%)8. Absence of a biological parent in childhood

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The Frequency of Adverse Childhood Experiences

Of the 17,000 HMO Members:1 in 4 exposed to 2 categories of

ACEs1 in 16 was exposed to 4 categories.

66% of the women experienced abuse, violence or family strife in childhood.

There was a direct, graded relationship between the number of ACE events and the degree of social and emotional problems.

High ACE Score Correlates Depression Suicide attempts Alcoholism Intravenous Drug Usage Abortions and Unintended Pregnancy Use of Antidepressants Use of Anti-anxiety Medications Use of Antipsychotic Medications Hallucinations Poor life expectancy

Vincent J. Fellitti, MD

“Our findings show that childhood experiences profoundly and causally shape adult life.”

“Unrecognized adverse childhood experiences are a major…determinant of who turns to psychoactive materials and become ‘addicted.’”

Conclusions by Vincent J. Fellitti

“Our findings indicate that the major factor underlying addiction is adverse childhood experiences that have not healed with time.”

“We propose giving up our old mechanistic explanation of addiction in favor of one that explain it in terms of … decisions being made to seek chemical relief from the ongoing effects of old trauma.”

“Addiction is not a brain disease, nor is it caused by chemical imbalance or genetics.”

UNDERLYING CAUSES:

Early-life traumas lead people to feel emotional pain, which then leads them to turn to drugs, alcohol, promiscuity and risk-taking behaviors to numb their feelings.

Churches need to teach people how release or resolve their emotional pain through Biblical principles in order to free them from their destructive behaviors.

Basic Cause of Addictions

Underlying emotional pain that leads individuals to compulsively seek relief through the addictive activity.

“Give strong drink to him who is perishing, and wine to him whose life is bitter.Let him drink and forget his poverty and remember his trouble no more.” Prov. 31:6-7

Most Common Sources of Pain

Sexual abuseAnger

Physical abuseGrief

Emotional abuseShame

Traumatic Losses

Types of Addictions

Alcohol and drug addictionsSexual addictionsGambling addictionsFood addictions

Psycho-social History

Family Relationships: Who raised them, parent’s marriage, relationship with parents, relationship with siblings.

School: Grades, behavior & peer relationships in grade school, middle school, and high school,adjustment problems, childhood traumas.

Adolescence: Drug & alcohol use, school problems, legal problems.

Adulthood: Arrests, Substance abuse, marital problems, children.

Note: Look for traumas and the onset of problems.

Most Common Negative Emotions

ANGER: At parents, siblings, bullies, abusive people, etc…

GRIEF: Over loss of parents, siblings, close friends, etc…

SHAME: Over sexual abuse or blaming self for negative feelings of parents.

DEALING WITH GRIEF

A middle-aged woman abused alcohol for 25 years after her husband divorced her.

She entered several programs and went to AA but continued drinking.

She prayed about her grief over the loss of her husband and was able to quit drinking.

She received Jesus as her Savior after seeing how the Lord had released her of her painful loss.

DEALING WITH SHAME

A young man with an alcohol and drug addiction spoke about the anger and shame he felt from being sexually abused by a man.

He went to the man’s house intending to kill him but when he saw how old and feeble he was he pretended to not know him.

He was able to pray about his feelings of shame and the Lord gave him peace so that he could talk about it without any embarrassment.

JESUS SETS THE CAPTIVES FREE Many people in our society are held

captive to alcohol and drugs, which they use as a way to numb their feelings or to feel better momentarily.

Jesus is able to take away the emotional pain, and then it is easy to stay sober and clean.

When you feel good inside, you don’t like to get drunk or use drugs.

“With God all things are possible.”

Galatians 5:23

“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”

HELPING THE ALIENATED COUPLE

SESSION THREE.

MARITAL COUNSELING BEFORE 2002

One of the most difficult types of counseling that I have ever done is Marital Counseling.

The first couple I ever tried to help was an older man who was an alcoholic and his wife was an attractive, sophisticated woman.

I tried to help them communicate better, but the husband got angry easily and became loud and threatening to her.

When she tried to get him to give her some distance, he could not make himself do this.

MARITAL COUNSELING AFTER 2002

A middle-aged man and his wife came for counseling after he had an affair.

He was very repentant about the affair but she was very angry still.

We prayed about the emotional issues that led to his infidelity and his wife observed as he received healing.

She then was willing to release her anger and their marriage flourished and they began ministering to other couples.

PREVALENCE OF MARITAL PROBLEMS

The 2008 Barna Group Study: 3792 subjects

Have experienced at least one divorce:

Adults who have been married 33%

All non born again Christians 33%

Catholic 28%

Evangelical Christians 26%

Asian 20%

MARITAL PROBLEMS

2008 Barna Report: Among married adults in the U.S., 33% have

experienced at least one divorce. Born again Christians who are NOT

evangelical were indistinguishable from the national average on the matter of divorce.

2000 Barna Report: Nondenominational Churches had the

highest divorce rates (34%), then the Baptists (29), Episcopalians & Pentecostals (28%), Methodists & Presbyterians (23%), Catholics & Lutherans (21%).

HELPING ALIENATED COUPLES

Marital counseling is very difficult. Most counseling programs provide

very little marriage counseling training.

Most seminaries and Bible Institutes provide very little marriage counseling training.

Marriage counseling is not very effective, overall.

BASIC CAUSES OF CONFLICTS

Couples get “triggered off” by each other so that they overreact to one another and the conflicts escalate.

“Overreactions” are caused by unresolved emotional issues from their pasts.

Once they resolve their underlying emotional issues, they are able to manage their conflicts and to communicate with one another.

WOMAN GOES TO A COUNSELOR A woman went to a Christian counselor and

complained that her husband was retired and always played golf.

The counselor asked her how long she had felt this way…

He asked if she had felt this way as a child…

She began crying; her father had left her as a child and she always felt alone.

The husband needed help also, but the woman could not talk with him about the problem until she resolved her issues.

Underlying Emotional Issues

ANGER: The single most common emotional issue seen among alienated couples is anger.

GRIEF: Unresolved grief is very common andoften leads to depression and irritability or anger.

SADNESS: Sadness is often connected to grief and depression, which damages marriages.

SHAME: Many marriages are affected by early, childhood physical or sexual abuse, which leads to feelings of shame and self-blame.

Identifying Underlying Emotions

Ask the about their relationship history.

Inquire about the frequency of fights & conflicts.

Inquire about separations, arrests, and any violence in the relationship.

Ask each spouse to identify the problem issues.

Ask each spouse to complete a “Psycho-Social History” form before the next session.

DEALING WITH UNDERLYING SHAME

Young woman became unfaithful to her new husband. She had been sexually abused as a child and then was physically abused as an adult.

Feelings of grief, anger, and shame were addressed.

She talked about her shame at being abused by a neighbor man and was able to release these feelings.

After releasing her grief at losing her children she was able to get along well with her husband and remain faithful to him.

MARITAL COUNSELING EXPERIENCE

Marital counseling was always very difficult and unsuccessful.

Teaching communication skills is ineffective when the spouses have underlying issues of anger, grief, sadness, and shame.

Once I began identifying the unresolved emotional issues behind the marital conflicts I began to see great results.

Wife seeks Help for Marriage

She grew up with a loving mother but her father was physically and sexually abusive.

She lived in the same town where she had been abused by her father and a boyfriend.

Husband never came for counseling. She was able to release some anger,

resolve some grief, and replace some shame.

Her husband asked, “Are you on some kind of drugs?”

COUPLE GETS MARITAL COUNSELING

Husband and wife had been arguing a lot. Wife was depressed and emotionally flat

when first seen. They were seen separately after that.

Wife released feelings of anger, grief, and shame during sessions.

Although they still had some arguing, she no longer reacted so strongly to him.

When last seen she was smiling and feeling good at the last session. She said that getting rid of those feelings “felt like a ton of bricks has been lifted.”

UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND Husband was arrested for possession of drugs

and was involved with another woman… Second session: “My wife is a wonderful

woman.” He had a good family but had two major

losses that depressed him: loss of his sports career, and loss of his musical dreams.

After resolving his grief he began reading the Bible and praying.

His wife said she cried the first time she heard him pray with her and their children.

Churches and Marital Problems

Churches have many couples with marital problems who need help.

Marital counseling is very difficult, but you have the ability to help many couples resolve their problems through prayer.

Imagine what will happen when the news gets out that your church is able to rescue failing marriages!

The Challenge

You have the ability and knowledge to significantly help others with: Grief, Anger, Sadness, Shame, Sexual abuse, Physical Abuse, Substance Abuse, and Marital Problems!

You may feel that you can’t help others because you aren’t a counselor. All you have to do is be willing to listen, share the two steps, and pray. Let Jesus do the counseling.

Jesus is the “Wonderful Counselor”!

Elijah Challenges the Gods 1 Kings 18:20-40 King Ahab and Queen Jezebel were wicked. Elijah prayed and the Lord withheld rain in

the land of Judah for 7 years. He met with Ahab and the prophets of Baal

at Mount Carmel and challenged them. When Elijah prayed the Lord sent fire from

heaven which consumed not only the sacrifice but the water, the altar, and the stones.

1 Kings 18:37-39

Elijah prayed: ”Answer me, O Lord, answer me, that

this people may know that Thou, O Lord, art God…then the fire of the Lord fell, and consumed the burnt offering and the wood and the stones and the dust, and licked up the water in the trench.”

“And when all the people saw it, they fell on their faces; and they said, ‘The Lord, he is God. The Lord, He is God!’”

THE FINAL CHALLENGE

We worship the same God who showed his power through the prayers of Elijah who was a man like us.

James 5:17, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.”

God has given us the powerful privilege of prayer to show the world that He is powerful and He is God!

He wants to use you and me to show his power so that others will be drawn to Jesus and to our churches when they see what a mighty God we serve and that Jesus is relevant to their need!

HOW TO SPREAD THE WORD Make it one of your church’s goals so that

everyone in your church would know how to release their anger and grief.

Preach about the power of prayer to bring healing.

Share this website with others: tradingpain.com Order a copy of this workshop DVD to show to

your church, or invite me to share with your church.

Train key leaders in your church how to help those with unresolved grief or anger.

WHAT A MIGHTY GOD WE SERVE

What a mighty God we serve,What a mighty God we serve.Angels bow before Him, Heaven and earth adore Him.What a mighty God we serve!

ASSESSING EMOTIONAL NEEDS

SESSION FOUR.

How would you help this woman?

A woman called for help. She said she was depressed,

grieving, and overwhelmed with guilt about her children.

She had been taking antidepressants for over 20 years.

She had suicidal thoughts but said she would never act on them.

She wants to fly to Oklahoma to see you for a week.

Taking a Psycho-Social History

I met her at one of my workshops in another state.

I suggested that she complete the Psycho-Social History and Email it to me so we could talk over the phone.

With the Psycho-Social History form in my hand I quickly reviewed her history and called her. Here is what I learned about her…

PARENTAL INFLUENCES

Who raised you? Parents until their divorce.

How did their divorce affect you? I was relieved at first but later became depressed.

Did either parent have a drinking problem? Both were alcoholics; dad was a maniac when he drank.

How did they get along? Dad was verbally abusive to mom and sister.

How did you get along with them? I was closest to dad and resented mom for “not caring for me.” Now I am closest to mom and seldom see dad.

SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS

How many siblings did you have and how did you get along with each of them? Three siblings; resented the oldest and was jealous of the youngest.

Were any of your siblings abusive to you or were you abusive to them? Was mean to the youngest.

Were any of your siblings shown favoritism, or were you shown favoritism? The youngest was spoiled.

ELEMENTARY SCHOOL How did you do in school academically?

Very well. Did you ever have any learning problems?

No Were you ever held back in school? No Did you behave well in school? Yes. Did you have plenty of friends? No, we

moved a lot. Did you ever get into trouble at school?

No Did you experience any traumas during

these years? I was verbally abused by dad; sister was

abused.

MIDDLE SCHOOL

How did you do in school academically? Very well. Did you ever have any learning problems? No Were you ever held back in school? No Did you behave well in school? Yes; low self-

esteem Did you have plenty of friends? Hard to make

them Did you ever get into trouble at school? No Did you experiment with drugs or alcohol? No Did you experience any traumas during these

years?No.

HIGH SCHOOL

How did you do in school academically? Well Did you ever have any learning problems? No Were you ever held back in school? No Did you behave well in school? Yes Did you have plenty of friends? Had many

friends. Did you ever get into trouble at school? No Did you experiment with drugs or alcohol? No Did you experience any traumas during these

years? No, but was addicted to male approval.

SUBSTANCE ABUSE HISTORY

Did you ever use drugs or alcohol regularly? Yes

When did you begin? In college. Did you get drunk or high regularly? In

college. Were you ever arrested for DUI, DWI, Public

intoxication, or possession of drugs or alcohol? No

Have you ever entered an inpatient alcohol/drug treatment program? No

Have you ever been dependent upon drugs or alcohol? In college.

ARREST HISTORY/HOSPITALIZATIONS

Have you ever been arrested? No. If so, how many times and for what reasons?

Have you ever been hospitalized psychiatrically? One suicide attempt in college and one after a divorce.

Have you ever taken psychiatric drugs for any reason? If so, what drugs, and for what reason? Medications for depression; still taking meds.

TRAUMATIC LOSSES

Make a list of all significant losses. Grandfather, parent’s divorce, loss of custody of children.

When you think about any of these people, does it still make you sad or feel badly? Yes.

Were any of these losses difficult for you to handle at the time? Yes, all of them.

MARRIAGES/CHILDREN

How many marriages have you had? 2

List your marriages and the dates of each marriage. Abused by ex-husband.

Were the divorces emotionally difficult? Attempted suicide after a divorce.

How many children do you have and how do you get along with them? 2 children and both of them abuse alcohol.

EMPLOYMENT HISTORY Have you had a stable work history and

worked most of your adult life? Always worked.

Have you lost many jobs? None. If so, why?

When did you last work? Still working. If you are disabled, what type of disability do

you have? NA Were you ever in the military? If so, did you

have any difficulty in the military? NA Did you experience any trauma while in the

military? NA

The Phone Session

She reported feeling extremely guilty about her daughters problems; angry at her dad; depressed (rating of 9 on 10-point scale).

Depression since age 12 when dad left; suicide attempt age 17, antidepressants since age 25.

I suggested that she pray about her resentments toward her dad and then call me the following week.

This was a short 30-minute session; she was willing to do the praying on her own.

The Follow-up

A week later she said she was doing well and had no depression.

She had prayed about dad, to release her anger, and now she felt “neutral” toward him.

She also prayed about her resentments to mom, and now she felt “sad, pity” for her.

She apologized to her child and cried, and her child forgave her. She said she feels “peaceful.”

We discussed how to get rid of feelings of shame and her grief over loss of her grandfather.

Next Contact

Several weeks later she wrote to say she was still doing very well. (She did this all on her own).

She helped a troubled teenage boy who was very angry and disruptive at school.

He was expelled from school and she asked him if he would like to get rid of his anger…

He “held up his anger to God and gave it to him,” then asked to return to school.

His attitude changed so dramatically that the school staff were amazed!

The World’s Solution

The National Institute of Mental Health funded a $20 million dollar study in order to determine the mental health needs in our nation.

The National Comorbidity Survey Replication study (NCSR)-2005

University of Michigan researchers randomly interviewed 9,000 people in 34 states.

Conclusions of the NCSR

Approximately 50% of all Americans will experience some form of mental disorder during their lifetime.

Half of all disorders will occur by age 14, and ¾ of all disorders will occur by age 24.

About a third of the people rely on nonprofessional sources such as spiritual advisers.

Thomas Insel, MD

The Director of NIMH who funded NCS-R said: “The nation needs to recognize that mental illness is a chronic condition that requires expert medical attention.”

He was disappointed to learn from the survey that despite the availability of “effective treatments” for many mental illnesses, about a third of the people rely on nonprofessional sources such as spiritual advisers.

Thomas Insel, MD

“You wouldn’t rely on your priest for treatment if you had breast cancer. Why would you go to your priest for a major depressive disorder? These are real medical and brain disorders, and they need to be treated that way.”

Some experts believe the survey was done to increase the sales of medications.

Peter Breggin, M.D.

Author of “Brain-disabling Treatments for Mental Disorders” (2008) & “Medication Madness” (2008)

“You have a biochemical imbalance” and “Mental disorders are like diabetes” –- “In reality, these are not scientific observations—they are promotional slogans, so adamantly repeated in the media and by individual psychiatrists that people assume them to be true.”

“ The pharmaceutical complex fosters these falsehoods in order to promote the widespread use of their products.”

Vincent J. Fellitti, MD

“Our findings show that childhood experiences profoundly and causally shape adult life.”

“Unrecognized adverse childhood experiences are a major…determinant of who turns to psychoactive materials and becomes addicted.’”

Chronic Depression and ACE Scores

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RESEARCH CONCLUSIONS

There are genetic factors that contribute to mental disorders, but there is no scientific proof that any single mental health problem is genetically caused.

The evidence from the ACE study and other recent studies is that mental health problems are the result of traumatic childhood experiences and losses that create long-lasting feelings of grief, anger, sadness and shame.

Medications do not cure problems; they numb feelings and disable the brain and are at high risk of permanently damaging it.

Jesus is the Wonderful Counselor

Jesus does indeed heal the brokenhearted and He wants to set the emotionally damaged free.

He wants to use you and me to spread this message to our churches and communities so that others will be drawn to Him.

THE ROLE OF THE CHURCH

Using the simple two-step prayer process of EHP Christians can effectively and quickly relieve people of anger, grief, and sadness.

Jesus can do for us what no counselor, psychologist, doctor or medication can do!

It is our privilege and responsibility to demonstrate to the world the power of God to set captives free!

Final Challenge

If you forget everything else, remember to do this:

1. Purpose to take yourself through the two simple steps to remove ALL anger and grief that you may have. Do it this weekend.

2. Commit yourself to becoming a “Peacemaker” by using every opportunity to tell others how you got rid of your anger and grief and tell them how they can find peace by getting rid of their anger and grief.

Vision for Our Churches

That each church represented here today will become a living testimony to the power of God to change lives through prayer, so that people in your community will be drawn to your church, and so that God will be glorified.”

Matthew 5:9

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”

Jesus