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Vermont Bar Association
Seminar Materials
Family Law Day 2016
Divorce Mediation: Skill Building for
Mediators & Mediation Advocates
May 26, 2016
DoubleTree, S. Burlington, VT
Faculty:
Patricia Benelli, Esq.
Emily Gould, Esq.
Susan Feldman Fay
Althea Lloyd, Esq.
Lori Lustberg, Esq.
STATE OF VERMONT
SUPERIOR COURT FAMILY DIVISION WINDHAM UNIT DOCKET NO. v.
MEDIATION ORDER
In this case, the parties have requested that final divorce hearing be set. The Court has determined that this case is appropriate for mediation pursuant to V.R.F.P. 18(b)-(c). The Court hereby orders the parties to participate in mediation, as directed by V.R.F.P. 18(d) within 45 days. If any party knows of good cause why this order should not be made, he or she shall notify the Court in writing within 10 days of the issuance of this order. Dated: February 8, 2016 ______________________________________ Karen R. Carroll Superior Court Judge
STATE OF VERMONT
SUPERIOR COURT FAMILY DIVISION Windham Unit Docket No. Plaintiff Defendant Name
Phyllis Crawford
v.
Name
Todd Crawford
ORDER TO MEDIATION
It is hereby ORDERED:
1. Within 21 days of the date of this order, the parties shall agree upon a court-approved
mediator to assist them in resolving the following issues:
parental rights and responsibilities, legal and/or physical
parent/child contact schedule and/or conditions
determination of parent income and/or child support obligation
divisions of personal property of the parties
division of property and financial interest of the parties
(other)
2. In the event that the mediator determines that mediation is an appropriate process,
the parties shall attend a minimum of two mediation sessions. Mediation shall
continue beyond two sessions, if the parties mutually agree.
3. If at any time the parties reach an agreement, a written agreement shall be prepared
and filed with the court.
March 22, 2016 signature
First M. Last Superior Court Judge signature
First M. Last Assistant Judge signature
First M. Last Assistant Judge
132 Main Street Montpelier, VT 05602 p: 802-223-1735 f: 1-800-894-1189 www.emilygould.com [email protected]
September 9, 2013
CONFIDENTIAL MEDIATION INTAKE FORM Date___________________ Your Name_____________________________________
Address_____________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Telephone______________________ Cell______________________________________
Email________________________________________________________________________
Attorney, Advocate, Support______________________________________________________
Attorney/Advocate Phone______________________ Email________________________
Nature of the Dispute___________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
People (Including Children/Ages) Involved__________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________
Please provide a brief history: ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
What are the issues that you want to discuss in mediation?
Issue Why is this important to you?
1.__________________________ _________________________________________ _____
_______________________________________________
2.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
3.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
4.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
132 Main Street Montpelier, VT 05602 p: 802-223-1735 f: 1-800-894-1189 www.emilygould.com [email protected]
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What do you think the other person regards as the most important issues to discuss in
mediation and what are the reasons why these issues are important to the other person?
Issue Why is this important to them?
1.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
2.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
3.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
4.__________________________ _______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Do you have any concerns about mediation? ________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________
What do you consider to be the greatest obstacle to reaching a resolution?
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
What are your negotiation strengths? ______________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Say one good thing about the other party___________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Does anyone have disabilities or issues with drugs or alcohol? __________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Do you have any concerns about expressing disagreement at mediation?__________________
____________________________________________________________________________
How have you and the other party handled conflict in the past?__________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Anything else you think I should know______________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
132 Main Street Montpelier, VT 05602 p: 802-223-1735 f: 1-800-894-1189 www.emilygould.com [email protected]
September 9, 2013
MEDIATION PREPARATION QUESTIONS
1. As you reflect on the issues, what is at the heart of the matter for you?
2. What would you most like to talk about during this mediation? What do you imagine that the other person would most like to talk about?
3. In this session, how important is it to you to have your point of view understood by the other person?
How do you imagine that you might speak in ways that allow you to be heard and understood?
When and how have you been able to accomplish that with the other person in the past?
How will you know that the other is listening in the way you wish him to?
4. What do you want the other to do or refrain from doing in order for you to be able to really listen to him? What have you done in the past that's enabled you to listen in difficult situations?
5. What kinds of agreements or ground rules for this conversation might best help you to experience this as a worthwhile investment of your time?
6. What concerns do you have about how things might go wrong in this session? What ideas do you have about how to prevent that from happening?
7. What advantages and disadvantages might there be to creating an Agreement in this session?
8. What factors beyond your control have contributed to the current situation?
9. What might you have done differently if you had the opportunity to go back and relive the relevant events?
10. If, by some miracle, you woke up tomorrow and everything was resolved to your satisfaction, what would be different?
How would your behavior toward the other person be different?
In what ways would his/her behavior toward you change?
How would the situation have been resolved?
Mediation screening Qs. for domestic violence at intake 1. Mediation often occurs with both parties in the same room together. Do you
have any concerns about mediation in the same room with the other party? assesses a party’s general reluctance to participate in the mediation process —
invites the party to share possible concerns
2. Are you fearful of the other person for any reason ? invites discuss of various types of fear associated with mediation- fear of losing one’s child to the other; fear of humiliation, etc.
3. Has the other party ever threatened to hurt you in any way?
this question invites a broad opening for the person to discuss various forms of perceived and/or experienced threat
4. Has the other person ever hit you, or used any other type of physical force? asking directly about physical abuse but avoids the term “abuse” since often
individuals do not consider themselves abused, they will admit being hit 5. Have you ever called the police, requested an order of protection (RFA) or
sought help for yourself, or your children,as a result of abuse by the other person? assesses the severity of the threats and if yes, ask when the help was sought
6. Are you currently afraid that you will be harmed by the other person? follow up to Q. 2
7. Mediation is a process in which individuals work together with a neutral 3d
person to negotiate details of their divorce/parenting plan. Do you believe that you would be able to communicate with the other party on an equal basis?
inquiry about the person’s subjective perception of their ability to mediate 8. Has your partner every threatened to deny you access to your children?
9. Do you have any concerns about the children’s emotional or physical safety with
you or the other person? 10. Has DCF every been involved with your family ?
How many of these questions are appropriate depends on each case and
the answers to the first several questions. Tollman Model
V.R.F.P. Rule 18
VERMONT COURT RULES ANNOTATED
Copyright 2016 LEGISLATIVE COUNCIL OF THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY
FOR THE STATE OF VERMONT
*** Rules current as amended through April 28, 2016 ***
RULES FOR FAMILY PROCEEDINGS V.R.F.P. Rule 18 (2016)
Rule 18. Mediation
(a) Applicability. -- This rule applies to all actions and proceedings
under V.R.F.P. 4(a)-(q) and V.R.F.P. 8.
(b) Order to Mediate. -- Except as provided in subdivision (c), the
court, on its own motion or the motion of a party, at any time after the
commencement of an action or proceeding to which this rule applies may order the parties to participate in mediation of any issue or issues
involved in the action or proceeding if the court determines that the
issue or issues could be resolved or clarified through mediation and that the interest of the parties and the court in a fair, economical, and
efficient resolution of the issues would be served thereby.
(c) Exceptions. -- The court will not order mediation if
(1) at the commencement of the action or proceeding, the parties jointly certify that they have in good faith voluntarily engaged in
mediation with a neutral of their choice regarding the issue or issues
that would have been the subject of the court's order and file with the court a report of the neutral describing the process employed and the
results;
(2) at, or at any time after, the commencement of the action or
proceeding, the parties jointly agree on the record that they will voluntarily participate in mediation regarding the issue or issues that
would have been the subject of the court's order and will file the
neutral's report of the process and results by a specific date;
(3) a relief-from-abuse action is pending between the parties, or a
final order issued in such an action between the parties is in effect;
(4) a final order issued in a relief-from-abuse action between the
parties is no longer in effect; provided that the court may order mediation in such a case if the court specifically finds good cause to
believe that mediation would be appropriate in the circumstances; or
(5) the court determines that mediation would not be appropriate
due to allegations of abuse, the possibility of undue hardship, or for
other reasons.
(d) Conduct of Mediation. -- In a mediation ordered under subdivision
(b),
(1) The mediation will be conducted by an individual mediator from
the Family Division Mediation Program's list of mediators, acceptable to the court and the parties. If no mediator on the Mediation Program's
list who is acceptable to the court and the parties is available to
conduct the mediation, the court, with the agreement of the parties, may designate another mediator with credentials comparable to the
minimum requirements for inclusion on the list.
(2) The mediation will be carried out on a schedule prepared by the
parties in consultation with the mediator and approved by the court
unless the court subsequently, on the request of the parties and mediator, approves a modification.
(3) The mediator will meet with each party separately prior to the mediation and may meet with any party separately at any time during
the mediation.
(4) The parties are expected to attend all mediation sessions and to
mediate in good faith. Attorneys may attend mediation sessions with
their clients.
(5) If at any time the mediator determines that the issues are not suitable for mediation, the mediator may refer the matter back to the
court to be determined in further proceedings as ordered by the court.
(6) The mediator has no authority to make a decision or impose a
settlement upon the parties. Any settlement must be voluntary. The
parties may reach a partial settlement of the issues and preserve the
right to litigate remaining issues. In the absence of settlement, the
parties retain their rights to a resolution of all issues through litigation.
(7) Any agreement reached by the parties through the mediation
process on all or some of the disputed issues must be reduced to writing, signed by each party and the mediator, and filed with the
court by the parties within ten days after the date of the last
signature.
(8) If no settlement is reached by the date specified in the schedule
approved or modified under paragraph (2), the parties must notify the
court in writing. The matter will then be determined by the court as
provided in any agreement reached in the mediation and approved by
the court or, in the absence of agreement, as ordered by the court.
(e) Sanctions. -- If a party, lawyer, or other person who is required to
participate in mediation under this rule does not appear at the mediation, or does not comply with any other requirement of this rule
or any order made under it, unless that person shows good cause for
not appearing or not complying, the court will impose one or more of the following sanctions:
(1) The court will require the party or lawyer, or both, to pay the reasonable expenses, including attorney fees, of the opposing party,
and any fees and expenses of the mediator, incurred by reason of the
nonappearance, unless the court finds that such an award would be unjust in the circumstances.
(2) In addition, the court may upon motion of a party, or upon its own motion, order the parties to submit to mediation, dismiss the
action or any part of the action, render a decision or judgment by
default, or impose any other sanction that is just and appropriate in
the circumstances.
HISTORY: Added July 20, 2015, eff. Sept. 21, 2015.
MEDIATION AGREEMENT
We, the undersigned parties, sincerely intend to resolve through mediation with Thea Lloyd the issues
arising out of our divorce. Therefore, we agree to the following:
1. Good Faith Effort
Parties in the mediation process agree to make a good faith effort to resolve their conflict, which means to
make an honest endeavor to participate in communications or conferences with the other party with the
purpose of reaching a mutually acceptable settlement. Parties understand that mediation is an agreement-
reaching process in which the mediator assists parties to reach agreement in a collaborative, consensual
and informed manner. It is understood that the mediator has no power to decide disputed issues.
2. Confidentiality
Unless otherwise agreed upon, it is understood between the parties and the mediator that the mediation
will be strictly confidential. The parties and the mediator consider the mediation ‘settlement negotia-
tions’. The parties may request that the mediator send written mediation summaries or draft agreements
to attorneys, however, the mediator may not release these documents to counsel without permission from
both parties. Each party may individually provide his/her attorney with copies of mediation notes/docu-
ments gathered in mediation/settlement proposals without the consent of the other party.
The parties may request that other persons attend the mediation session(s) only by agreement of both par-
ties in advance of the mediation; this includes attorneys, therapists, financial advisors, and support per-
sons.
The parties agree not to introduce mediation discussions, written and oral communications, any draft reso-
lutions, and any unsigned mediated agreements in any court proceeding. While it is expected that media-
tion will resolve the parties’ dispute with a signed agreement, which may be filed by the parties in a court
action, the mediator has no authority to submit documents to the court, nor to take any action in the par-
ties’ court proceedings.
The parties further agree to not call the mediator to testify concerning the mediation or to provide any ma-
terials from the mediation in any court proceeding between the parties. The parties understand the media-
tor has an ethical responsibility to break confidentiality if s/he suspects another person may be in danger
of harm.
3. Role of the Mediator
The mediator may conduct joint and separate meetings with the parties and may suggest resolutions to the
conflict, but does not have authority to impose a settlement.
4. Courtesy
The parties agree to be courteous throughout the mediation process by respecting the opinions, percep-
tions, and feelings of the other parties and by refraining from personal attacks, intimidation, threats, and
verbal or physical abuse.
5. Full Disclosure
We will be expected to fully disclose any and all information, including financial information requested
by the mediator, and all information requested by the other party if the mediator finds that the disclosure
may aid in the mediation process. Note: Subsequent findings of nondisclosure of appropriate infor-
mation may constitute grounds for nullifying an agreement.
6. Legal and Other Counsel
We realize that although Thea Lloyd is an attorney, she cannot provide legal or other counsel, but is ac-
tion in her capacity only as a mediator. It is expected therefore, that we may consult with legal counsel
early in the mediation process in order to make informed choices. We can provide our attorneys with in-
formation concerning the case and can inform our attorneys of decisions in progress. The mediator can
also make it clear verbally or in writing the mediator’s expectations of the attorneys’ role regarding the
mediation process. We agree that we will direct our attorneys not to proceed with discovery or any other
court action without prior discussion in mediation. If an agreement is reached and formalized by the me-
diator, each party is strongly advised to have it reviewed by their attorney prior to signing. We under-
stand that consultation with financial, tax or other professionals may be useful if a particular situation
warrants this.
7. Cost of Mediation
The hourly fee as discussed with the mediator will be applied to the actual time spent in mediation ses-
sions as well as work done outside the session. Travel time, if any, is billed at one-half the hourly rate.
We agree to pay our individual hourly rate at the end of each session for all costs incurred prior to and in-
cluding the date of mediation, and a one hour charge for the summary notes to be sent out after each ses-
sion. Time spent on drafting agreements, if any, will be billed in advance.
8. Final and Interim Agreements
We understand that agreement made during our mediation sessions are not binding until a final agreement
is generated and both parties have signed the document. However, prior to a final, signed agreement we
may make interim or informal oral agreements in order to facilitate the process. We agree to honor in
good faith any such oral agreement reached on this interim basis.
9. Termination of Mediation
The mediation process is terminated when (a) the parties reach a settlement
agreement; (b) the mediator determines that further efforts at mediation are no longer likely to achieve a
settlement; (c) either or both parties withdraw from the mediation proceedings.
___________________________________ ________________________________
Date Date
It is the mediator’s practice to destroy files after they have been closed for 5 years. I will assume you have no objection to this
practice unless you notify me in writing within 5 years of the date of this agreement that you wish to take possession of your file.
Additionally, you must keep me informed of any address change.
Vermont Bar Association
Family Law Day 2016
May 26, 2016
Additional resources
Link to Vermont Judiciary’s mediation program:
https://www.vermontjudiciary.org/GTC/Family/mediation.aspx
ROLEPLAY
Brad and Demi Tasse are getting divorced. Brad has just moved out and is living with his new love, Jane
Twentysomething in her home. Brad and Demi have two children: Ali is 12 and Nate is 6. Jane also has a
six year old son, Skipper who is in the grade just above Nate, since the boys have different birthdays, but
they are in the same ski club and are good friends. Brad, Demi and Jane all know each other from ski
club.
Brad and Demi own a home worth that is appraised by the town at $350,000 with a mortgage of
$250,000. Brad earns $85,000 per year in marketing at a local coffee distributor and Jane earns $35k per
year as a school counselor.
It is the second week in November and Brad thinks it would be great to continue the family tradition of
Thanksgiving at his parents house, only this year he would like to bring Jane and her son.
Brad is eager to “get this thing done,” but is reluctant to spend a lot of money on legal fees. He is
concerned that Demi is off the rails, and thinks the less the kids have to deal with her the better. He
knows that Nate would be thrilled to live with Skipper but doesn’t want to separate the kids.
Demi believes that Brad has “lost it” and as angry as she is, believes that ultimately, this will blow over
and that her marriage can be saved. She’s hoping he’ll get into family counseling and remember who he
is.