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Fabulous Self-Love Party Ideas

For Your Self-Love Party 2013

compliments of Christine Arylo & Madly in Love with ME™

Copyright 2012 Christine Arylo All rights reserved. www.madlyinlovewithme.com Materials may not be reproduced without consent. [email protected]

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Hello Super Fabulous YOU! THANK YOU FOR BEING A LOVE AMBASSADOR… A beautiful being bold and brave enough to stand for one of the most powerful things in the world L-O-V-E! I know that you know the self-love secrets… that everything starts with the relationship you have with yourself…. that the more we love ourselves, the more we can love others… and that if everyone truly loved themselves, my oh my what a world it would be. Thank you for stepping forward to share the secret of self-love with the world! I am over the moon excited that YOU! are throwing a self-love celebration this February! And I know… Every woman can use a helping hand when it comes to stepping forward to share the love. Whether you are throwing a soiree’ for your girlfriends, a play day of love for your friends and their children or putting together an event that will rock the house with self-love for your clients or community… this booklet will give you some fun, daring and interactive different ways you create a fabulous and memorable experience that lasts. Use these ideas exactly as they are written or take the core of the idea and add your own personal flair... explore more in the official self-love guidebook, Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend. If you haven’t gotten your copy, do – it will connect to the energy of self-love + give you lots of daring adventures to share. To read the introduction chapter, Imagine a World of Self Love, go here. However you decide to express YOURSELF through this self-love celebration, remember: 1. HAVE FUN!! and 2. WHATEVER YOU DO IS ENOUGH. Already you are making a difference just by saying YES! to love for yourself and to giving others permission to love themselves. With big heart,

Christine Arylo Founder of Madly in Love with ME Best-Selling Author of Madly in Love with ME and Choosing ME before WE


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What’s included in this Self-Love Celebration Guidebook:

♥ YOUR PART AS A LOVE AMBASSADOR – as part of the global self love movement you won’t just be out there on your own! You are connected to a network, a web of people taking a stand for self-love. We will be here to connect with you, and we need you to reach back and connect to us to so we can super power the love.

♥ GETTING STARTED: THINGS TO THINK ABOUT BEFORE YOU BEGIN – I’ve put

together some great tips on how to create magical fantastical energy that keeps people remembering your event for eons PLUS the things to think about to make sure you create an experience you love and that loves you back.

♥ CHOOSE A FORMAT: Choose one of these 3 formats to model your event from

and pour in YOUR self expression to make it yours.

1. A Self-Love Soiree’ – an evening or afternoon for you and your friends 2. A Madly in Love with ME Play Day – for moms and kids 3. A Madly in Love with ME Play Shop - a 3-4 hour ‘workshop’ that you

can use to create a transformational experience for women or girls o COMMUNICATE, INVITE and SHARE TIMELINE: Using the materials on the Self

Love Party Pack website, use this timeline to communicate, share the love – for your event and the bigger self-love movement

o DATES TO REMEMBER – For Love Ambassadors only


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YOUR LOVE AMBASSADOR ROLE: WHAT WE ASK FROM YOU

1. BEFORE YOUR EVENT

♥ SHARE MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME with YOUR COMMUNITY: Like the Madly

in Love with ME Facebook Page + share our posts with your communities to help share the love http://www.facebook.com/pages/Madly-in-Love-with-ME/239910982173

♥ JOIN THE PRIVATE LOVE AMBASSADOR FACEBOOK SITE – where you will

receive special updates, get connected with other Love Ambassadors in your area, get updates and special invitations from Christine and Team Love while they are on the road.

♥ SEND US YOUR PARTY INFO -- For those of you throwing public parties

in February where you want others to know about your party, send us a link to your Facebook invite or website, and we will put it up on our main site with a link. Send the link to Sarah our Team Love Tour Manager [email protected]

♥ TELL PEOPLE ABOUT SELF LOVE DAY + YOUR PARTY -- Send out your email

or mail invitations. Post your event on Facebook. Tweet about it. Don’t be shy – be bold and invite the world to play with yoU!


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2. THE DAY OF YOUR EVENT / AND DAY AFTER

♥ TAKE A GROUP PHOTO: Take a group photo with a sign that has your

city’s name on it with the worlds “MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME! in city name” or “We Choose Self LOVE in city name” “

♥ SEND US THE PHOTO – to Lucie at [email protected] with

your name as the host – so we know who hosted the party. We will be posting these all over our website for our post-self love party all year long!

♥ POST YOUR PHOTO – on the Madly in Love with ME Facebook Page and the Love Ambassador Facebook page.

3. CREATE FROM LOVE – keep everything aligned with the energy of self-love – in how you plan it, do it and offer it. LOVE LOVE LOVE.

WE LOVE TO SEE AND HEAR EVERYTHING YOU ARE UP TO! TOGETHER… WE CAN CREATE A WORLD OF LOVE,

ONE IN WHICH EVERY CHILD BORN, is born connected to love, and stays connected to that love… and we will do it, ONE HEART AT A TIME.


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START FROM THE HEART… what to think about and feel into as you create your event

THE ENERGY OF MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME CELEBRATIONS

When throwing a Madly in Love with ME™ event, the most important thing to remember is the energy behind the experience you create - what the people who will come will experience. When you start here, all other choices become easy and evident. So you spend less time, effort and money and have better results.

Madly in Love with ME™ is all about being, loving and living ourselves, fully and freely. The intention is to touch the hearts & souls of every person who participates simply by connecting them to love in its many forms – compassion, expression, empowerment, care, pleasure, respect and more – for themselves. All 10 branches of the self-love tree. We do this with a lightness of heart and with a sense of play, whimsy and sparkle, which gives every person who participates the permission to connect to the joy and unconditional love that has always lived in our hearts since we were the littlest of beings. As it turns out, we were born knowing how to love, we were born connected to love, and we were born loving ourselves just as we are – no comparison, judgment or unrealistic expectations – just love.

Use the following FIVE questions to assist you in creating a love-filled foundation for your event. We often think that a great party comes from doing and planning, when in reality the best experiences stem from the intention and conscious creation – so begin and create from love – for those you are inviting, and for yourself!


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1. Who Are Your People? Who do you want to come to your party? Create an ‘avatar’ for this fabulous being. This will help you connect to who they are and what they want from the experience you create. I often name my person and then ask these five questions about them:

♥ What’s their life like right now? ♥ What are they looking for? What do they want? ♥ What do they need? ♥ What will be their points of resistance to coming, excuses or barriers they see? ♥ What will get then past those barriers to say ‘yes’ and get them in the room?

2. What’s Your Self-Love Stake? Create a simple, powerful sentence or two that represents what your party centers around. Your stake is the foundation for your event. It helps you make decisions about what to say, what experiences to offer and how to design every piece. It keeps every one that is part of the event focused on the same intention. It becomes your lens to say, “Should we do this? Or how should we do this?” Without a clear stake your event can lose purpose and direction, and it can start to experience ‘event creep’ where you start adding things that don’t really fit. The stake should have energy and power and it should be something that makes you excited. Here are some of our recommended stake(s):

It’s a lollapalooza of self-love.

Sass, soul & wild-self expression – oh yeah!

Just like being little girls again.

I know who I am and I love her.

Giving ourselves permission to be our own best friends.

I am free to be, love and express ME!

Cowgirls rallying for a cosmic ho-down of self-love.

Moms and daughters seeing and accepting each other.

Moms relax, kids have fun and everyone leaves happy and full of love.

I will only be nice to myself – no more Inner Mean Girls!

My happiness matters.


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3. What outcomes do you want each person to walk away with? You give AND receive in self-love land… so be clear at the get-go about what you want your Guests, Yourself, and Your Helpers, to receive.

♥ For the attendees… from their voice, answer the question “After attending this event,:

o I Feel?…. o I Have?.... o I Am committed to…”

♥ For yourself… write down the 3 outcomes you would like to have for you. ♥ If you have helpers, volunteers or partners, know what’s important to them

too.

4. What’s environment do you want to create? Pick 4 key words that describe what you want your event to feel like. Here some ideas:

Energetic, upbeat, enthusiastic, playful Deep, moving, soulful

Passionate, alive, powerful AND fun

5. What is the post experience you want attendees to have? Get clear on what happens after they leave, even before the event starts.

o In your Guests words, write a statement that reflects what your Guests would say after attending your event. “I had such a blast!” or “I am so going to be my own best friend” or “I can’t wait to hang up my ME Portrait and see how awesome I am all year long.”

o And then write down 3 love based actions that you will take after the event to keep the love flowing – (ie post pictures on Facebook, send out an email)

o Take a daring act of self-love and ask three different people to help you with your three post-event love actions


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Celebration #1- Self-Love Soiree’ Snapshot

The one common occurrence at self-love soirees is each person takes a self-love promise that they keep for the entire year. This process takes less than 20-30 minutes and it will be the one thing that will keep the

people you love choosing self-love every day for the rest of 2013.

We encourage you to build this self-love promise ceremony into your celebration and then use any of the 7 daring adventures of love that follow solo or in combination to create an event that will rock with BIG LOVE! Some of these adventures are teen and children friendly as and

we’ve indicated those with a **.

TAKE A SELF LOVE PROMISE For the full explanation see the Chapter 3 and Chapter 14 in Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend. And simply here is how it works:

1. Take a trip around the self-love tree. Use the taped meditation provided by us, the print outs of the self-love tree, page 55 in the Madly in Love with ME book to show people all the 10 branches of self-love so they can see where they are loving themselves well and where they need to grow their self love.

2. Pick one branch of self-love to grow in 2013- sure we can all grow multiple branches, but we only need pick one this year, the one our heart wants not the one we think we should. Ask people to trust their instinct and not overthink.

3. Take a self-love promise that will help them keep connected to and keep choosing this branch. See Chapter 14 which includes self-love promise examples.

4. Write the branch + the promise on a card – a love letter – so they can see the words

5. Lead a self love promise ceremony –ask everyone to share and be witnessed. Ask them to share in a circle so everyone is witnessed. Or ask them to share with a partner. Whatever feels right for your group.


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1. Express Yourself Tell your guests to come dressed as their most unique, magnificent, brilliant self… the person they are deep inside that they don’t let anyone ever see. By day they may have fallen out of Banana Republic catalog, or they could be a poster child for Urban Outfitters; but today, they make their own style by expressing their inside on the outside. Dare them to show a side of themselves that they normally don’t, maybe not even to themselves. Dare them to fully express parts of themselves they might have been too shy or humble to before. Invite them to be bold, to be real and to be themselves. Ask each person at the party to talk about how her outside is expressing her inside today. Tip: Make this part of your invitation and give your guests the tip to think of 3-4 words that really describe them, and then pick their dress from that place. Daring Act of Love: Have name tags at the door for people and instead of writing their names down, ask them to write the 3-4 words – the essences that describe them. For more on essences, see the Self Expression chapter in Madly in Love with ME.

2. Make ME Prints: Everyone Comes Out of the Closet to Shine! ** It’s time to play! Each person makes a full body collage of themselves – a.k.a. her ME Print -- using, of course, her very own body… and then after you are all done, you’ll put the silhouettes on the walls, walk around, and tell each other what you see. Here’s how it works.

1. Get lots of magazines, scissors, markers and stickers. Then per person, get one glue stick and one large piece (about 5 ½ feet tall) of white or brown butcher paper. You can also do waist up if you don't want to do the whole body, but the whole body is the best.

2. Pair the people up, and have them trace each other’s silhouettes on the paper, making whatever body form they want. 3. Give everyone at least 6 magazines and spend about 45 minutes to 1 hour ripping out pictures and words from magazines that fit who they really are (and are growing into). The challenge here is not to think, not to do it perfectly, but to follow your intuition on what images to pull and where to put them. As people cut the pictures out, they use the glue sticks to paste the images inside the silhouette, wherever they feel like it should be placed. Again, no linear thinking allowed. Just go with the flow. Note – people get really into this so you will have to literally tear some people away when its time. Best to give people cues like “You should be pasting now” or “About 15


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minutes left.” Some people will finish early so for those more meticulous people, as you get close to ending ask “Who needs help?” and have people help each other. 4. Ask the women to cut their silhouettes out and tape them to the wall (masking tape please). After the hour is up, some may have a fully covered piece of paper, others may not, and that is okay. 5. Do a gallery walk and look at all the silhouettes. Just take them each in. 6. Play I SEE IN YOU… Gather in one big circle or break up into small groups, and one by one, each person takes a turn standing in the middle with her ME PRINT. The person in the center then says to the group “WHAT IS SEE IN ME IS…” and tells them what they see from this ME PRINT about themselves. Then for 3-5 minutes they RECEIVE from the group as they tell them what they see in them using the words, “WHAT I SEE IN YOU IS…” that is, what you see when you see their silhouette (this is a real gift to each other, don't skip it!) Tip: This is a super powerful and fun experience and to do it really well, you want to plan on 90 minutes minimum – 120 minutes is the best. For more inspiration on this, see the Self-Expression chapter in Madly in Love with ME.

3. Love Letters to Ourselves Ask your guests to write a love letter to themselves, one of these three ways: Remember yourself as your younger you. Pick an age like 10 or 15, 20 at the latest and write a letter to them, the person you were at that age. Tell them about your life today… about what you’ve learned over the years and the wisdom you now have… tell them what you would have wanted them to know. Reflect back to them all the incarnations of the being you have been since that time, how you have grown, and evolved (noting that it may help in your writing to remember who you were in your life in incrementsof 5-10 years.) Tell them about the hopes and dreams you still have, some of which they may have had to. Make a promise to always care for them. Let them know they are loved. Imagine yourself as your older, wiser you. Pick an age at least 20 years older than you are today. Write a love letter to that person, telling them all the things you love and admire about them. Remind them why they are wise… remind them of all that they have done and seen in their life… remind them of the person they have chosen to be in this lifetime. Tell them about the impact they have made on your life, on the life of others and the world. Express your love, and your devotion to their heart, spirit and body. Feel their strength and remind them that they are beautiful and loved because of who they are at the core of their soul. After you read the letter back to yourself a few times, seal the letter and open it in 20 years.


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Imagine yourself as your own best friend. Write the letter to yourself as if your best friend was writing it to you. If you were your very own best friend, what would they want you to know… what do they know you need to hear… what do they want you to remember no matter what… and what do they think is just the coolest about you? Read your letters to each other. Share what you learned. Share what it was like to write back to your younger selves, older selves or to your own best friend. Have one person scribe while the people share, gathering all the collective wisdom and then writing up or creating something after the event that reflects that love and wisdom. Send it out to everyone who attended and ask them to share it with their friends. Tip: You can have your guests write these letters before they come or at your party. At the party, be prepared with good love letter writing music, and nice paper, even if its just colored paper. Also you can share all three ways to write the love letter and let each guest share how they want to write it.

4. Let’s Get Sensual! This is an experiment that can bring you closer to your senses and to each other. Sensuality is all about being totally in tune with our senses, all of them – seeing, feeling, hearing, touching, tasting. Usually we are so busy doing life that we don't really experience it. The way it works is that you split into pairs, with one person blindfolded and the other tantalizing their senses. Whether it’s putting a strawberry in their mouth, ringing a chime near their ear, tickling them with a feather, or putting a piece of fruit under their nose. Each person is given at least 10 minutes to fully experience their senses blindfolded. It’s amazing what you will see and feel if you really sink into this one. Plus it is so fun to give to the other person. As the hostess, it’s up to you to make a tray of things for each pair or ask people to bring stuff that will stimulate the senses and up their sensuality. Remember all the senses (except see, although you will see stuff just not with your eyes.) You’ll need one person to keep time. Afterwards, share what your experiences were like. Some ideas: TOUCH: fabric, marbles, beads HEAR: bells, chopsticks, bag full of something TASTE: fruit, soft chocolate, cake SMELL: spices, flower essences, fruit) Tip: Have low lighting, fuzzy blankets to sit on and sultry or soulful music. And have fun! For more on senses, see the Self-Pleasure chapter in Madly in Love with ME/

5. You are Your Dancing Queen ** Loosen up, lighten up and let your freaky full selves fly free!


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Your job as the hostess is to create a space where your guests can come and move themselves to the music without having to worry about whether they do it right or wrong, and instead can totally surrender to the sound and to themselves. This can be hard for some, so set the parameters up front – you’re going to dance for XX time together, it’s all about you just being you. If you want to dance, dance; if not, take a break. Let them know it’s all about moving to get to know themselves. So as the DJ, you’ll want to pick the music before and get it all loaded up on your iPod. Think about creating an arc, one that starts out slower and gets faster and then ends slower again. Here’s some ideas to get you started: Get it Started: slow moving but uplifting Banana Boat, Harry Belafonte Gotta Be Bold, Mary J Blige Beauty in the World: Macy Gray

Upbeat: On the upswing and crescendo India Arie (all her albums, and particularly the songs Strength, Courage, Wisdom; I Choose; Private Party; There’s Hope)… in fact these songs are so good, you have to have them!) Jill Scott: Golden Natasha Benefield: Unwritten Slow and Winding Down: Bringing guests into themselves with beauty Van Morrison, Into the Mystic Jennifer Berezan, Returning (It was recorded in ancient caves and is beautiful) So Much Magnificence, Miten with Deval Tip: Check out the Self Expression chapter in the Madly in Love with ME book which talks all about why we have a hard time letting ourselves be loose and express through dance. And then get inspired to get your friends to let loose and open to love and laughter!


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6. Choosing ME before WE Girltalk…Get Real About your LOVE LIFE Our weight and our love lives are the two things we complain, obsess and suffer about the most. What if THIS self-love day, you took a stand to say NO MORE to suffering, complaining and obsessing about at least one of those topics and had some real honest to goodness girl friend talk and laughter? One of the BEST and most self loving things we can do is to be honest with the other women/girls in our lives… especially when it comes to our love lives! Most women and girls did not get the handbook on how to have loving, respectful relationships, so I wrote the handbook and it’s called Choosing ME Before WE. Women LOVE talking to each other after reading this book – smiles, tears, hugs, empowerment, sisterhood… it all happens when women come together and share the stories this book gives them permission to share… and then go beyond the old story to create a NEW STORY, one of self-love! For more information, including a great list of questions you can use to create a powerful, loving and fun conversation with the girls and women you love, go to www.mebeforewe.com

7. Self-Love Movie Night ** When women come together, shift happens. A woman’s power comes from sitting together with other women sharing from their hearts, witnessing the stories of other women and realizing that she is not alone -- that we ALL feel so many of the same ways. For many women and girls having that kind of intimate conversation can be a little intimidating... and even for those who have learned to love being in circles with women sharing from the heart, without a solid stake to tie into, the conversation can go all over the place. In 2010, I attended Marianne Williamson’s Sister Giant event and experienced the power of sitting in a room of 500 women watching powerful images and stories of women on screen, and then having what I call “real and wise girltalk” afterwards. I’ve also experienced this same power with 5 women in the room, especially when there are different generations present. So no matter how big or small, gather the girls! Suggested movies, and of course as a parent, watch them first for age appropriateness. ♥ Self Awareness, Self Respect and Self Honor - Knowing Yourself, Our Common Herstory:

“Iron-Jawed Angels” with Hilary Swank ♥ Self Empowerment, Self-Respect, Self Honor – Sovereignty : “Elizabeth” with Cate

Blanchett ♥ Loving Your Body Temple: “The Inner Weigh” ♥ Self Compassion and Self Empowerment: “Miss Representation” ♥ Self Care, Self Empowerment and Self-Sustainability: “Killing Us Softly” and “Race to

Nowhere ♥ Sisterhood & Self Honesty The Ya Ya Sisterhood


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Bonus: It’s a Sleepover Well, why not? This time it doesn't have to be like in the third grade where you put toothpaste on the girl who fell asleep first (…or it could still be!). Invite your friends over to spend the night, try some of the activities above, share what you love about each other and about yourselves. Just spend some time connecting, hanging out and having fun. Make dinner together, have breakfast in the morning. Do whatever helps you appreciate just how much you have to love about yourself and your life.

For more ideas, see Chapter 14-16 in Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend

www.TheSelfLoveBook.com


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Celebration #2: The Play Day – For Moms & Kids Create a day or afternoon for moms and their kids that have both

feeling full of love and more able to express their true, full selves Take any of these three ideas from the Self Love Soiree ideas with some of these suggestions and make them kid and mom friendly – and of course this will depend on the age of your children.

♥ Making ME Prints

♥ Smaller pieces, collective art. Make a collective collage together where you make one big person collage and then cut the collage into pieces – an arm, a leg, a torso – and have each child take one piece and create a ME Print out of that piece. Then tape all the pieces together to recreate the one silhoutte – so you have a collective piece of art.

♥ ME Paintings – get acrylic paints and canvases or watercolors or canvases. Mom and child each create a ME Print canvas in these three steps. 1. Paint background however they want to express themselves – play music and ask them to think of themselves 2. Put their hands in paint and put their handprint in the middle and paint their name above it. 3. Find words and pictures in magazines that reflect them and cut them out and then glue them to the canvas or watercolor paper.

♥ Self Love Movies ♥ Brave – use this movie to talk about Self Empowerment and Self Expression

and going for your own dreams, and how you will be different than each other. Open up the talk to do a Daring Act of Love – mom and children write down 10 of their dreams and share them with each other.

♥ Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants – use this movie to talk about friendships, changing from being little girls to older girls, and share stories of treating yourselves sacred. Use this movie to get across the idea of being sacred and good enough exactly who you are – which sometimes is different than your friends.

♥ Dancing Fashion Kings and Queens ♥ Wear Yourself and Dance Yourself – let your kids wear whatever they want to

the party – ask them to pick out whatever reflects the mood they are in or whatever makes them happy – and then you do the same, and shock them a little – like bring a piece of yourself out they never knew. Then at the party, make sure to have some solid gold dancing time where you and your child get to do a fun dance show together. Pick some music you both want to dance to and be your freaky wild selves!


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Celebration #3: The Playshop – For Adults or Teens

For those wanting to create a start to finish experience. Great for workshops and half-day events

The structure for this event was created by Christine Arylo and has been tested in living rooms around America by Christine and other groups who have dared to play big! We are sure they will work to create transformational events and are create for coaches, teachers, advisors and parents who dare to create experiences that have the power to give permission to people to be, love and live themselves. If you use any parts of this structure in part or in entirety, we just ask that you give credit to where it originated, with Christine Arylo and the Madly in Love with ME Movement. Number of attendees: Great for groups of 5 to 50 Length: 3-6 hour afternoon experience Focus: Self-discovery and self commitment Location: A woman’s home or a private rental space. If held at a woman’s home, ask her to play the role of hostess so that you can focus on leading. Leadership: Recommend co-leaders with an assistant/hostess, although one woman with an assistant can work too. Add ons: After the Playshop, you can transition the event into an intimate evening soiree’ where women can eat, drink and connect. Summary: In this intimate space, you have the ability to easily create an experience that will lead to deeper connection among the women attending and powerful breakthroughs for each of the individual participants. The flow of this experience was designed to take the group through an experience together, with individuals also having experiences of going deeper within themselves, and of being seen for their beautiful, powerful and true selves. Also designed into Playshop is time for group processing, which is essential to letting the experience sink in. You can also add on some kind of soiree’ to the end of the experience where women get to commune over food and bubbly, it really adds to the girlfriend connection time – something paramount to self-love!


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Suggested Event Flow

Activity Goal Welcome and Self Love Power Opening

Host and leader set the tone for the event: • Welcoming women • Set the stake for the day, • Deliver a powerful personal and vulnerable

opening – why you decided to create this event

Generate energy and demonstrate vulnerability

Connect the Circle Going around the circle counterclockwise, each woman tells: • Her name • Why she came • One woman she really loves and why

Connect the group. Lowers defenses. Women are seen.

Setting the Course Share the flow of the day with people. Handle logistics. Answer questions.

Ground people in the day.

Madly in Love with ME & Self Love

Deliver passionate talk about self-love. What it is, what it isn’t, how its shown up in your life. Use the self-love guidebook from www.ChooseSelflove.com to inspire and inform you. Or use the introduction and Chapter 1 from Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend. www.SelfLoveBook.com

Connect dots for how they are & aren’t loving me.

ME Prints Visualization Creation Collage Walk (allow at least 1.5 hours for entire process with visualization and clean up – includes break time)

Women create a self-collage using a full-sized silhouette of their body. Full description in the appendix. General flow is: • Visualization to connect them to themselves • In pairs, lay on big piece of butcher paper, get

their silhouette traced by another woman • Take paper, go get magazines, scissors, glue stick

and find a space on the floor. • Rip out pictures and words that resonate, remind

them of the woman they truly are • Paste pictures and words on silhouette • Clean Up • Put final silhouette up on the wall • Women walk around and view collages

Intimately connect women with themselves, who they uniquely are

I See ME. I See You. Me Print group exercise.

Group discussion that gives women the chance to share themselves and let us reflect back to them what we see. It works like this: • Woman gets her collage and stands at front of

room • Says “I see in me …” and says what she sees • Group reflects back “I see in you …” and says free

flow out loud what they see • About 3-5 minutes a person • Have 5-10 minute group discussion at the end

asking, ‘What did you learn? What was it like to be

Every woman is deeply seen for who she truly is… powerful!!


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deeply seen?’ Depending on your timing and the number of people, you may need to break people into groups of 3 or 4 to do this and then come back to the group for processing.

BREAK The “I see me, I see you” exercise is potent so taking a break to let the energy dissipate is important.

Madly in Love with ME - Collective Art Piece via Self Love Brainstorm Using the Tree of Self Love

Lead the group through a heartsharing and heartstorming session using the Tree of Self Love – for your event you may print out copies of the self love tree as long as they include the copyright and the website www.ChooseSelfLove.com with credit to Christine Arylo as the creator of the Self Love Tree. Share the tree and play the taped meditation taking women through the self love tree. After complete with meditation, take women in to a conversation about three questions --

1. How they DO love themselves – which branches of self love are they really prospering in?

2. How they DON’T – which branches are withering and in need of attention.

3. The truth of what keeps them from choosing self love in these way?

Then to take this to an actionable place, ask the women…

4. What would a Best Friend tell them that will allow them to give themselves permission to choose self love in these ways? And have them say the actual statements out loud. At the front of the room, you then create a mural of ideas on a sheet of butcher paper that captures these ideas so the group is co-creating a visual representation they can see. What you end up with is a bunch of statements – Best Friend Love Mantras - that empower women to love themselves – super cool and empowering!

Make self love real.

Self Love Commitment: CHOOSE one branch of self love for 2013 + make a self love promise for the year

Ask women to write a love letter to themselves including:

1. The ONE self love branch they will grow this year 2. The ONE SELF LOVE PROMISE they will take this

Give tools to succeed after they leave


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Self Love Support: Oracle Cards

year to keep growing that branch. 3. What BEST FRIEND LOVE MANTRA – may be from

the list you created together – do they need to keep in their back pocket to give themselves permission to keep this promise.

For more on self love promises, see chapter 14 in Madly in Love with ME and more on Love Mantras, see page 15. Do some coaching/explaining that self love vows are always loving, do not include #s or the word every day or every any time period. They are not goals. Or things to use to berate yourself later. They love you forward. Support each woman to pick the best words. When they turn in the letter (which you will mail to them 30 days later) have a deck of oracle cards they can pick from – could be Fairy, Native American, Goddess, Angel, Superheroine, cards – with the question, “ What will support me to stay connected to this self love promise.

End: Self-Love Ceremony Form a circle with all the women, Each woman shares her self love promise. Saying out loud, “I promise ….INSERT PROMISE… I CHOOSE SELF LOVE!”

Seal the deal and give support.


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FROM START TO FINISH – TIMELINE TO KEEP YOU ON TRACK

Action Time From

Party Your Date

Pick Date Now Send Invitations – email, mail or social networks

20-30 days

Create your team – this is not about you doing it alone!

20 days

Create the flow for your day 15 days Get Inspired – Attend the Love Launch call and Buzz calls (or listen to recordings) and Self Love Concert

Jan 12th Jan 30th Feb 6th Feb 13th

Send reminder 10 to 7 days Get your supplies – art supplies, party favors, Madly in Love with ME super party pack

7 days

Get your food 2 days Send Reminder Day Before – looking forward to seeing you

1 day

Relax and Replenish The night and day before – i mean it!

PARTY TIME Replenish Day After –

ME DAY!

Post Communications 2-7 days after event

Mail Love Letters or send follow up inspirational communication

30 days


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To all of you out there saying “YES” to falling in love with your magical, beautiful selves in all of her forms,

however she shows up, with or without makeup, with or without having it all

together, with or without knowing where the heck she is going, thank you for daring to be you.

Remember...

there is nothing more beautiful

more free or

more powerful than a person

who truly loves themselves.

with great heart and gratitude,

christine arylo founder of madly in love with ME

author of Choosing ME Before We & Madly in Love with ME

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