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Engaging Families & Working with Resistance
Patrick AyreDepartment of Applied Social Studies
University of Bedfordshire
(Adapted from Calder, M (forthcoming) The carrot or the stick? Towards effective practice with involuntary clients, Lyme Regis: Russell House
Why it matters“In many cases parents were hostile to helping agencies and workers were often frightened to visit family homes. These circumstances could have a paralysing effect on practitioners, hampering their ability to reflect, make judgments, act clearly, and to follow through with referrals, assessments or plans. Apparent or disguised cooperation from parents often prevented or delayed understanding of the severity of harm to the child and cases drifted. Where parents made it difficult for professionals to see children or engineered the focus away from allegations of harm, children went unseen and unheard”.
“Families tended to be ambivalent or hostile towards helping agencies, and staff were often fearful of violent and hostile men. Although parents tended to avoid agencies, agencies also avoided or rebuffed parents by offering a succession of workers, closing the case, losing files or key information, by re-assessing , referring on, or through initiating and then dropping court proceedings”.
Brandon, M, and others (2008) Analysing child deaths and serious injury through abuse and neglect: what can we learn? London: Department for Children, Schools and Families
Engagement
“Engagement is the basic task of a child and families worker but can never be taken for granted and must always be
worked for”
Context
Often ‘hard core’ families so interactions characterised by
guardedness or reluctance to share information
avoidance and a desire to leave the relationship
strong negative feelings such as anxiety, anger, suspicion, guilt or despair.
Context
We need to accept that: The best we may be able to achieve is
honesty rather than positive feelings and a high degree of mutuality
Conflict and disagreement are not something to be avoided, but are realities that must be explored and understood.
Some family centred principles
Working alongside families rather than disempowering them
Raising the self-esteem of parents rather than provoking a defensive or angry response
Promoting family relationships enabling parents to safeguard their children whenever possible
Focusing on the overall developmental needs of children rather than on an overly narrow concentration on the alleged incident of abuse.
(Rose, 1994)
What families want
To be kept fully informed,
To be treated with courtesy
To be involved in all stages of the process
(Cleaver and Freeman, 1995)
What families want
Effort towards developing trust
Transparency
Genuine and even-handed
Direct, yet sensitive
(Shemmings and Shemmings, 2000)
What families want Communication which is open, honest, timely
and informative. Time with someone who
– listens, – gives feedback, information, reassurance and
advice, and – is reliable.
Services which are practical, tailored to particular needs and accessible.
An approach which reinforces rather than undermines their parenting capacity.
(Rose and Aldgate, 2000)
Why many interventions fail
Failure to consider where families are starting from (probably different from the professionals)
Failure to focus on strengths as well as weaknesses
Stages of engagement
Pre-contemplation
Contemplation
Action
Maintenance
Relapse
(Calder, forthcoming)
Pre-contemplation
Not accepting the need for change or considering changing
Characterised by blaming others, denial or lack of awareness (eg depression)
Need information and feedback to raise awareness and acceptance
May need a legal mandate(Calder, forthcoming)
4 categories of pre-contemplator
Reluctant: inertia or lack of knowledge Rebellious: heavy investment in the
behaviour which needs to change or in making their own decisions
Resigned: overwhelmed by problems and has given up hope of changing
Rationalising: will explain away the problem and why no change is required
(DiClemente, 1991)
Contemplation
Open to considering the possibility of change but may be ambivalent
Open to receiving, feedback, observations, information and even confrontation
May respond to ‘consciousness raising’ or to emphasising the gains or giving examples of past successes.
(Calder, forthcoming)
Six stages of contemplation I accept that there is a problem I have some responsibility for the problem I have some discomfort about the problem
and my part in it I believe that things must change I can see that I can be part of the solution I can see the first steps towards change.
(Calder, forthcoming)
Action
Start to work in a structured way on change to which they are committed.
Change is stressful and may fail or feel they have failed
Worker should focus on success and reaffirming client’s decision to change and look out for signs of relapse
(Calder, forthcoming)
Maintenance and relapse
Change becomes established and internalised, not dependent of presence of workers
Relapse is part of the change process, not in conflict with it
Most people relapse gradually after a slip brought on by unusual stresses.
If not helped they may slide back to pre-contemplation, but they can be helped to get back on track.
It can help to emphasise that relapse is common and is not the end.
(Calder, forthcoming)
Potential parental responses
Genuine commitment
Compliance / approval seeking
Tokenism
Dissent / avoidance
(Horwath and Morrison, 2000)
Strategies for enhancing engagement
Before you start, check your mindset (your own biases and assumptions)
Have realistic expectations:– It is reasonable that involuntary clients resent
being forced to participate– Because they are forced to participate, hostility,
silence and non-compliance are common responses that do not reflect my skills as a worker
– Due to the barriers created by the practice situation, clients may have little opportunity to discover if they like me
– Lack of client co-operation is due to the practice situation, not to my specific actions and activities
(Ivanoff et al, 1994 )
During initial contacts
Adopt a non-defensive stance Be clear, honest and direct and
acknowledge the involuntary nature of the relationship
Clarify roles and expectations, including what is required of the client
Explain consequences of non-compliance and the advantages of compliance
(Ivanoff et al, 1994 )
Avoid
Expressions of over-concern
Moralising
Criticising the client
Making false promises
Displaying impatience
Avoid
Ridiculing the client
Blaming the client for his/her failures
Being dogmatic
Rejecting the client’s right to express different values and preferences
(Ivanoff et al, 1994 )
Try to
Invite participation
Understand how the client sees the problem as well as how we see it
Understand what the client wants, as well as what we want
(Ivanoff et al, 1994 )
Identifying resistance, 4 categories
Hostile resistance: anger threats, intimidation, shouting
Passive aggressive: compliance covers antagonism and anger
Passive hopeless: Tearfulness and despair about change
Challenging: Cure me if you can!
How might resistance show itself?
By only being prepared to consider 'safe' or low priority areas for discussion.
By not turning up for appointments By being overly co-operative with
professionals. By being verbally/and or physically
aggressive. By minimising the issues.
(Egan, 1994)
What might we be doing to make it worse?
Becoming impatient and hostile Doing nothing, hoping the resistance
will go away Lowering expectations Blaming the family member Absorbing the family member's anger Allowing the family member to control
the assessment inappropriately
What might we be doing to make it worse?
Becoming unrealistic Believing that family members must
like and trust us before assessment can proceed.
Ignoring the enforcing role of some aspects of child protection work and hence refusing to place any demands on family members.
(Egan, 1994)
Productive approaches
Give practical, emotional support - especially by being available, predictable and consistent
See some resistance and reluctance as normal
Explore our own resistance to change and by examining the quality of our own interventions and communication style
(Egan, 1994)
Productive approaches
Establish a strong and well-articulated relationship by
– clarifying all the rules of sharing records, – inviting people to meetings– sharing with them how and why you have
to make decisions – explaining the complaints procedure
(Egan, 1994)
Productive approaches
Helping family members to identify incentives for moving beyond resistance
Tapping the potential of other people who are respected as partners by the family member
Understanding that reluctance and resistance may be avoidance or a signal that we are not doing our job very well
(Egan, 1994)
Confrontation
In child welfare services, the Children’s Service Worker must be a skilled confronter. Confrontation is, basically, facing the client with the facts in the situation and with the probable consequences of behaviours
(Texas Department of Human Resources)
Confrontation
Client: The doctor is telling lies about me. I didn't hurt Angie, she fell downstairs. She is always having accidents.
Worker: I understand that children have accidents. Angie's injuries could not have been the result of a fall down stairs. There are two partially healed fractures in addition to the new head injury. Angie's buttocks and back are marked with bruises in the shape of a hand.
(Texas Department of Human Resources)
Confrontation
Client: I know we haven't been to counselling in three weeks. Get off my back! My husband and I have other things to do.
Worker: Going to counselling regularly is a part of your agreement with us to regain custody of your children. If the agreement is not followed, we can't recommend that the children come home.
(Texas Department of Human Resources)
Effective work involves
Logical discussion
Focusing
Prioritising
Summarising
Setting realistic limits
Effective work involvesRecognising difference
Accepting
Allowing ventilation
Relating to feelings
Direct intervention in the environment
A scale for assessing motivation
1. Shows concern and has realistic confidence.
2. Shows concern, but lacks confidence.
3. Seems concerned, but impulsive or careless
4. Indifferent or apathetic about problems
5. Rejection of parental role.
Shows concern and has realistic confidence.
Parent is concerned about children’s welfare; wants to meet their physical, social, and emotional needs to the extent he/she understands them.
Parent is determined to act in best interests of children
Has realistic confidence that he/she can overcome problems and is willing to ask for help when needed
Is prepared to make sacrifices for children.
Shows concern, but lacks confidence Parent is concerned about children’s
welfare and wants to meet their needs, but lacks confidence that problems can be overcome
May be unwilling for some reason to ask for help when needed. Feels unsure of own abilities or is embarrassed
But uses good judgement whenever he/she takes some action to solve problems.
Seems concerned, but impulsive or careless Parent seems concerned about children’s
welfare and claims he/she wants to meet their needs, but has problems with carelessness, mistakes and accidents. Professed concern is often not translated into effective action.
May be disorganised, not take enough time, or pays insufficient attention; may misread ‘signals’ from children; may exercise poor judgement.
Does not seem to intentionally violate proper parental role; shows remorse.
Indifferent or apathetic about problems
Parent is not concerned enough about children’s needs to resist ‘temptations’, eg competing demands on time and money. This leads to one or more of the children’s needs not being met.
Parent does not have the right ‘priorities’ when it comes to child care; may take a ‘cavalier’ or indifferent attitude. There may be a lack of interest in the children and in their welfare and development.
Parent does not actively reject the parental role.
Rejection of parental role Parent actively rejects parental role,
taking a hostile attitude toward child care responsibilities.
Believes that child care is an ‘imposition’, and may ask to be relieved of that responsibility. May take the attitude that it isn’t his or her ‘job’.
May seek to give up the responsibility for children
(Magura et al,1987)