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Engaging the disengaged
A presentation by Peter Slatteryto the ICAN conference Adelaide
16th August 2006
Today Remind you of some important ideas Some strategies What to do BEFORE you start… What to do when it goes ‘pear-
shaped’ Qualities young people value in us Look at connections with strengths
based approaches, to motivation and to resilience
Engagement
Catching a person’s attention in a MEANINGFUL way
Forming connections with: What How Who
Before we even start, ask:
What are we here for? Where are we? Who is involved? How much time do we have? What am I trying to do with this
topic, in this place, with this time, with this group?
Disengaged This person has not flourished in
the mainstream system This person has probably not
enjoyed the mainstream system If we do the same as what they
have experienced before, we will get the same result
So we must do something different
Engagement means creating:
A relationship… A conversation… A process… So we can do what we are here for
So this means asking:
What ‘feel’, what process do we need so we can achieve this?
What affects this process?
The space You The individual or group The topic The methods you use Each person’s ‘state of mind’ on
the day
The space
How does it ‘feel’? What does it invite? What ‘feel’ do we need? How can we create this?
You, me, us
Draw…
You, me, us
You like what? You don’t like? Really care about…? Tend to get angry when…? Tend to get excited/enthusiastic
about…? What brings out the best in you?
Styles
Visual, aural, tactile… As true as these are, there are
other equally important aspects
Styles
Physical Not so physical
Word stuff
Verbal Not so verbal
Key aspects of this approach
Privacy Choice
The topic
Important does not = interesting The less interesting a topic is the
more interesting the process needs to be
Again: what do I want this person/s to take away from this moment?
A person’s state of mind
What do we need to know about what has happened for this young person today?
Their overall health? Their emotional state?
Hope and imagination
Having hope means looking towards something
This requires imagination
Methods Playful, meaningful question and
answer Blind draw of self Scales Drawing Story telling Questions. Often built in Conversation
Characteristics of the process Choice Privacy Invites all styles
Physical, less physical Verbal, less verbal
The same topic can be approached in any number of ways
The asking of questions
The process
Interesting Co-operative and supportive Challenging Inspirational! Motivational!
Along the way… Notice what we are noticing Develop good eyes Language Rather than say what we don’t want,
say what we do want, say what we are aiming for
Be truthful And, judiciously do use potentially
disturbing truths
Before we start, ask…
How will I know if you get: Bored? Hurt? Confused? Frustrated? Sad? Angry?
What do you want me to do? What do you want others to
do? And what can you yourself do
at those times?
And…
How do we make sure we are having fun…
How do we make sure it is interesting?
Challenging? What is my job? What is your’s?
When something goes wrong Stop and breath Decide what you want to have happen Ask yourself how you can get this to
happen Actions do have consequences A useful response includes:
Being supportive. Let’s find a solution Working out what to do for next time
Again, say what you want, and what needs to happen for this to come about
What do young people value in ‘useful adults’?
‘Someone who is fun’ ‘Someone who helps me learn’ ‘Someone who doesn’t let me
muck up’
The importance of relationship
It is the strength and quality of the relationship between 2 people that is the single most decisive factor in bringing about growth…change
A relationship means we can:
Find out what interests a person, or concerns them, or excites them
Find out about their talents, what holds them back; their fears, hopes and dreams
And together, we can work on these things
Have fun..see yas next timePeter SlatteryPO Box 153 Dulwich Hill NSW [email protected]