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Ch 10. Listening. Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. Joyce Brothers. Listening and Communication. Purposes and Payoffs of Listening Learning Relating Influencing Playing Helping. For discussion. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Ch 10Ch 10
ListeningListening
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.form of flattery.
Joyce BrothersJoyce Brothers
Listening and CommunicationListening and Communication
Purposes and Payoffs of ListeningPurposes and Payoffs of Listening
LearningLearning
RelatingRelating
InfluencingInfluencing
PlayingPlaying
HelpingHelping
For discussionFor discussion
Listening is so simple, it is hard. Do you Listening is so simple, it is hard. Do you agree with this statement? Why or why agree with this statement? Why or why not? not?
Stages of Listening ProcessStages of Listening Process
ReceivingReceiving
UnderstandingUnderstanding
RememberingRemembering
EvaluatingEvaluating
RespondingResponding
Stages of Listening—Stages of Listening—ReceivingReceiving
Focus Attention on Speaker’s V & NVFocus Attention on Speaker’s V & NV
Avoid DistractionsAvoid Distractions
Focus on Speaker, Not What You’ll Say NextFocus on Speaker, Not What You’ll Say Next
Avoid InterruptingAvoid Interrupting
Stages of Listening—Stages of Listening—UnderstandingUnderstanding
Relate New Information to What You KnowRelate New Information to What You Know
See Speaker’s Point of ViewSee Speaker’s Point of View
Ask Questions for ClarificationAsk Questions for Clarification
Paraphrase Speaker’s IdeasParaphrase Speaker’s Ideas
Stages of Listening—Stages of Listening—RememberingRemembering
Take NotesTake Notes
Tape MessagesTape Messages
Memory is not ReproductiveMemory is not Reproductive
Memory is ReconstructedMemory is Reconstructed
Stages of Listening—Stages of Listening—EvaluatingEvaluating
Resist Premature EvaluationResist Premature Evaluation
Give Speaker Benefit of the DoubtGive Speaker Benefit of the Doubt
Distinguish Facts from InferencesDistinguish Facts from Inferences
Identify Speaker’s Biases and/or PrejudicesIdentify Speaker’s Biases and/or Prejudices
Stages of Listening—Stages of Listening—RespondingResponding
Support the Speaker with Back-ChannelingSupport the Speaker with Back-Channeling
Express Support for SpeakerExpress Support for Speaker
Respond Honestly Even in DisagreementRespond Honestly Even in Disagreement
Own Your ResponsesOwn Your Responses
Provide a Supportive AtmosphereProvide a Supportive Atmosphere
Problem-Causing ListeningProblem-Causing Listening
The Static ListenerThe Static Listener
The Monotonous Feedback GiverThe Monotonous Feedback Giver
The Overly Expressive ListenerThe Overly Expressive Listener
The Reader/WriterThe Reader/Writer
For discussionFor discussion
Do you routinely multitask? What do you Do you routinely multitask? What do you think of the information in the text that we think of the information in the text that we never really multitask, just do two things never really multitask, just do two things ineffectively?ineffectively?
Styles of ListeningStyles of Listening
Empathic and ObjectiveEmpathic and Objective
Punctuate from Speaker’s Point of ViewPunctuate from Speaker’s Point of View
Engage in Equal, Two-Way ConversationsEngage in Equal, Two-Way Conversations
Seek to Understand Thoughts and FeelingsSeek to Understand Thoughts and Feelings
Avoid “Offensive Listening”Avoid “Offensive Listening”
Styles of Listening—Styles of Listening—Nonjudgmental and Nonjudgmental and
CriticalCritical
Keep Open MindKeep Open Mind
Avoid Filtering or OversimplifyingAvoid Filtering or Oversimplifying
Recognize Own BiasesRecognize Own Biases
Avoid Uncritical ListeningAvoid Uncritical Listening
Note the different requirements in the Note the different requirements in the following situations:following situations:
You’re lost, and you ask a stranger for You’re lost, and you ask a stranger for directions. Your child comes to you crying. directions. Your child comes to you crying. You are in trouble and someone offers to You are in trouble and someone offers to help. Your spouse is being affectionate help. Your spouse is being affectionate and playful. Opposing council is cross-and playful. Opposing council is cross-examining you in court.examining you in court.
Styles of ListeningStyles of Listening
Surface and DepthSurface and Depth
Focus on Verbal and NonverbalFocus on Verbal and Nonverbal
Listen for Content and Relational MessagesListen for Content and Relational Messages
Note Statements that Refer Back to SpeakerNote Statements that Refer Back to Speaker
Don’t Disregard Literal MeaningsDon’t Disregard Literal Meanings
Styles of ListeningStyles of Listening
Active and InactiveActive and Inactive
Paraphrase Speaker’s MeaningParaphrase Speaker’s Meaning
Express Understanding of Speaker’s FeelingsExpress Understanding of Speaker’s Feelings
Ask QuestionsAsk Questions
For discussionFor discussion
Reviewing the personal listening Reviewing the personal listening preferences in the text, which do you use preferences in the text, which do you use most often? With which do you feel the most often? With which do you feel the most comfortable? Least comfortable? Are most comfortable? Least comfortable? Are you able to adopt different styles to you able to adopt different styles to different situations? different situations?
TQLRTQLR TT -- Tune in -- Tune in
(The listener must tune in to the speaker and the subject, mentally (The listener must tune in to the speaker and the subject, mentally calling up everything known about the subject and shutting out all calling up everything known about the subject and shutting out all distractions.) distractions.)
QQ -- Question -- Question (The listener should mentally formulate questions. What will this (The listener should mentally formulate questions. What will this speaker say about this topic? What is the speaker's background? I speaker say about this topic? What is the speaker's background? I wonder if the speaker will talk about...?) wonder if the speaker will talk about...?)
LL -- Listen -- Listen (The listener should organize the information as it is received, (The listener should organize the information as it is received, anticipating what the speaker will say next and reacting mentally to anticipating what the speaker will say next and reacting mentally to everything heard.) everything heard.)
RR -- Review -- Review (The listener should go over what has been said, summarize, and (The listener should go over what has been said, summarize, and evaluate constantly. Main ideas should be separated from evaluate constantly. Main ideas should be separated from subordinate ones.) subordinate ones.)
ActivityActivity
Listening to the sounds in your Listening to the sounds in your environment. What do you hear?environment. What do you hear?