BULLIES, BYSTANDERS & TARGETS…..

AMS Counseling Department

•Define bullying•Learn coping skills/strategies to create resilience•Learn the difference between “Snitching” & Helping•Learn AMS protocol regarding bullying behavior

Humble ISD: The Texas Education Code defines bullying as engaging in written or verbal

expression, expression through electronic means, or physical conduct

(1) Has the effect or will have the effect of physically harming a student, damaging a student's property, or placing a student in reasonable fear of harm to the student's person or of damage to the student's property; or

 (1) Is sufficiently severe, persistent and pervasive enough that the action or threat creates an

intimidating, threatening or abusive educational environment for a student. [Act of June 17, 2011, 82th Leg., R.S., H.B. 1942, § 7 (to be codified at Texas Education Code § 37.0832)]   Conduct is considered bullying if it:  (1) exploits an imbalance of power between the student perpetrator and the student victim

through written or verbal expression or physical conduct; and interferes with a student's education or substantially disrupts the operation of a school.

[Act of June 17, 2011, 82th Leg., R.S., H.B. 1942, § 7 (to be codified at Texas Education Code § 37.0832)]  

The Humble Independent School District prohibits bullying as defined by state law. The District also prohibits retaliation against anyone who makes a bullying complaint.

What does that mean? Bullying is---- One or more individuals inflicting

physicalphysical, verbalverbal or emotionalemotional abuse on another. It is more than just teasing…it always hurts hurts or intendsintends to harmharm.

Types of bullying

Physical---intimidation or physical contact

Verbal—through use of words, gossiping, rumors

Emotional—exclusion, eye-rolling, alienation, non-verbal expression

Cyber—through electronic devices including trolling on internet sites and video games

Who is a bystander:

Bystander --- anyone who is present but not really taking part in a situation or event; a spectator or witness

Bystanders can become rescuers when they take steps to help someone who is being bullied

Can you identify the roles?

Who is the victim/target?

Who is the bully?

Who is the bystander?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK-b1CtIATw

What do bullies want? Reaction of fear or anger Make you feel madmad, sadsad or badbad

Why? Make themselves feel better Cover up their own problems/insecurities Attempt to create sense of power, control

Or status

What can you do?

1. Personal PowerPersonal Power Don’t let someone make you feel mad, sad or

bad…use your personal power Calm Confident In Control

“That’s enough” “I don’t know what you are talking about” “So” “That’s your opinion” “Whatever”

What can you do?

Weekly check-in, parent contact, discipline

Bi-weekly counselor meetings

Referred to A.P. Office for discipline

Conference with Parent, A.P., Counselor

Conference with counselor

Humble ISD / AMS Protocol:

Bullies Prefer Isolated Targets…

2. Create a Support NetworkCreate a Support Network Friends, Family, Teachers, Coaches, etc. Get involved in school/outside of school Volunteer

How can this help? What about bystanders?

What can you do as a bystander?

Remove victim/bully (not force or fighting)

Encourage victim/target

Say something

Tell someone/Get help

Snitching? or Helping? What is the difference?

What Would You Do???Scenario 1:

A student shows you a gun in his backpack.

What would you do?

What Would You Do? Scenario 2:

You overhear Felicia joking that the teacher is a big frog face.

What would you do?

What Would You Do?

Scenario 3:

You see a student listening to her iPod and then texting during a reading assignment in class.

What would you do?

What Would You Do?

Scenario 4:

You hear that Big Dave is going to beat up Justin after school. Big

Dave is 5’10”/180 lbs. and Justin is 4’ 10”/ 85 lbs.

What would you do?

What Would You Do?

Scenario 5:

Two girls trip and push Susan everyday in the hall. You hear

Susan say that she hates coming to school and hates her life.

What would you do?

Snitching vs. Helping Telling is not always snitching…..Ask yourself

these questions to decide…. Will it help someone if I report? Will it prevent harm from

happening? Will it prevent damage? Will it resolve a problem? Could I save a life?

Explore your options…..

3. Tell someone—get help There is no one simple fix for every situation…so

you will need to try different things…which might include getting help.

Go to a Teacher / Coach

Go to a Counselor

Go to a Principal

Go to Parent/Youth Leader

Coping Skills/Strategies1. Personal Power 2. Create a Support Network3. Tell Someone/Get Help4. AMS wants to help you

Build Resiliency(ability to recover or adjust to

bad situations)

Personal PowerSupport NetworkGet HelpAvoid problem areasPositive Self-Talk

We are all in this together...

Find common ground and build each other up

AMS Expectation….

Be Kind To Each Other

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