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Building a Building a Better Better
MarriageMarriageAt Jesus’ FeetAt Jesus’ Feet
Fate of MarriagesFate of Marriages1.1. End in legal divorceEnd in legal divorce2.2. Settle for emotional divorceSettle for emotional divorce3.3. Grow in love for a lifetimeGrow in love for a lifetime
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus– John 15:4-5John 15:4-5–““Fruit” = supernaturally good words & Fruit” = supernaturally good words &
actions (‘fruit of the Spirit’ in Gal 5) actions (‘fruit of the Spirit’ in Gal 5) –Assumes a Assumes a relationshiprelationship with Jesus with Jesus–Requires Requires timetime & & obedienceobedience
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness–Philippians 2:3-8Philippians 2:3-8–A great marriage requires me to sacrifice A great marriage requires me to sacrifice
my rights & desires, time & possessionsmy rights & desires, time & possessions
Either I sacrifice myself, or I sacrifice my Either I sacrifice myself, or I sacrifice my marriage!marriage!
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in LoveRomans 15:7Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God.
Unconditional Unconditional Acceptance…Acceptance…
Does not:Does not:• ask “did I marry the ask “did I marry the
wrong person?”wrong person?”
• rehearse a list of rehearse a list of things you don’t likethings you don’t like
• try to change your try to change your spousespouse
• threaten to leavethreaten to leave
Does:Does:• trust in the sovereignty trust in the sovereignty
of Godof God
• verbalize unconditional verbalize unconditional commitmentcommitment
• practice thankfulnesspractice thankfulness
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy– the ability to identify with and understand the ability to identify with and understand
somebody else's feelings or difficultiessomebody else's feelings or difficulties
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy– Discover your spouse’s love languageDiscover your spouse’s love language
Words of affirmationWords of affirmation Acts of serviceActs of serviceQuality timeQuality time Physical touchPhysical touchReceiving giftsReceiving gifts
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy– Discover your spouse’s love languageDiscover your spouse’s love language– Practice walking in your spouse’s shoesPractice walking in your spouse’s shoes
1 Peter 3:7Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way…
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy• Edify with their WordsEdify with their Words
Proverbs 18:21Death and life are in the power of the tongue…
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy• Edify with their WordsEdify with their Words
Proverbs 12:18There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Become a Great Become a Great CommunicatorCommunicator
Avoid:Avoid:• sarcasmsarcasm
• public critique or public critique or correction of spousecorrection of spouse
• absolute language absolute language (“you never… you (“you never… you always…”)always…”)
• withdrawalwithdrawal
Practice:Practice:• listen before you speaklisten before you speak
• praise your spouse in praise your spouse in private & in publicprivate & in public
• speak truth in lovespeak truth in love (truth surrounded by (truth surrounded by encouragement)encouragement)
People who Build Great People who Build Great Marriages…Marriages…
• Abide in JesusAbide in Jesus• Practice SelflessnessPractice Selflessness• Accept Others in LoveAccept Others in Love• Practice EmpathyPractice Empathy• Edify with their WordsEdify with their Words
ApplicationApplication• Review sermon slides w/ spouseReview sermon slides w/ spouse• Read a book together this summerRead a book together this summer– A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to
Fighting for Your Marriage Fighting for Your Marriage Stanley, Trathen, Stanley, Trathen, McCain, and BryanMcCain, and Bryan– The Five Love Languages The Five Love Languages Gary ChapmanGary Chapman– Building your Mates Self-Esteem Building your Mates Self-Esteem Dennis and Dennis and
Barbara RaineyBarbara Rainey
• Don’t be afraid to get helpDon’t be afraid to get help