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Slide 2 MYTH Because people learn from their bad experiences, second marriages tend to be more successful than first. MYTHBUSTER Although many people who divorce have successful subsequent marriages, the divorce rate of remarriages is in fact higher than that of first marriages. Slide 3 MYTH Because they are more cautious about getting married and want to avoid divorce, children from divorced families tend to have as much success in their own marriages as those from intact homes. MYTHBUSTER Marriages of children of divorce actually have higher rates of divorce than children from intact families. Slide 4 MYTH Following divorce, the children involved are better off in step- families than in single-parent families. MYTHBUSTER Step-families tend to have their own set of problems, including interpersonal conflicts and higher risk of family breakup. Slide 5 MYTH Divorce may cause problems for many of the children who are affected by it, but these problems are not long-lasting and children recover quickly. MYTHBUSTER Divorce increases the risk of interpersonal problems and may become worse in adulthood. Slide 6 MYTH Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing. MYTHBUSTER Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a considerably higher chance of eventually divorcing. Slide 7 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAtKB wJJmlQ Slide 8 Lower grade point averages Call, Beer and Beer (1994), Cherian (1989) 86% of children of divorce experienced a fall in academic achievement Oppawsky (1991) Perform more poorly in reading, spelling, and math* Repeated a grade more frequently Fagan & Rector (2000) Slide 9 Increased absenteeism and tardiness Hetherington (1989) Increased drop out rate, decreased college enrollment, increased unemployment, and enter adulthood with fewer financial resources Amato (2001) Boys have a more difficult time adjusting to divorce than girls Neilson (1999) Slide 10 Major reason for divorce in first place Women who divorce experience a 27% loss of income Popenoe (2011) Standard of living after divorce lowered Divorce Lower Income Greater Financial Hardships Inadequat e Living Conditions Slide 11 Slide 12 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fqpXW0ALk4 Slide 13 HERO PEOPLE PLEASER Unwilling to ask for help Fear of mistakes Severe need to be in control Difficulty listening Inability to relax/inflexible Highly organized Self-disciplined Leadership skills Initiator Highly fearful Anxious False guilt Strong fear of conflict Denies personal needs Sensitive to others Empathetic Good listener Compassionate Chosen Child Slide 14 SCAPEGOAT LOST CHILD MASCOT Self-destructive Irresponsible Underachiever Defiant Inappropriate expression of behavior Creative Ability to lead Sense of humor Less denial, greater honesty Follows without questioning Fearful of making decisions Ignored or forgotten Unable to initiate Withdraws Independent Easy-going attitude Ability to follow Flexible Attention seeker Distracting Immature Difficulty focusing Poor decision making Able to relieve stress and pain Sense of humor Flexible Slide 15 Listen and closely observe behavior Help students endure uncomfortable feelings Help students attribute their successes to themselves Teach students to seek support from trusted friends and adults Develop alternate ways to express feelings Teach relationship skills Slide 16 LOCAL DIVORCE SUPPORT GROUPS Christian Celebration Center (Midland) 989-631-1300 St. Pauls Baptist Church (Saginaw) 989-752-5023 CHILDREN OF DIVORCE SUPPORT GROUPS Malachi Global Foundation (Midland) 989-698-0468 Foundational Truth Services (Saginaw) 989-280-3685 www.divorcesupport.com Slide 17 " 10 Avoidable Mistakes for Divorced Parents & Children-Channel 13 - YouTube." 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